Hey!!
I'm Lollipop. I'm 15, but I know more than you would think. I've had my share of crap, and now I'm here to answer questions. I orginally joined this site to GET advice, but I've found that I answer more questions than I ask. I have also found that I relate to almost every love life question. Let's just say I had a tough year... So, that's my area of expertise. The one thing that bugs me the most on this site are when people say you're too young to feel what you feel. Screw that. I don't think it matters if you're 15 or 51, you know what you feel. I don't know much about sex because I believe in waiting until marriage, but I know what it's like to be pressured. Ask me something, and I will give you an answer.
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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I was with this guy for about 6 years. We met when we were still kids, just 16 so of course it was all really intense - first love and all that. I thought it was like a fairy tale. We were completely obsessed with each other. It was a long-distance relationship so of course it's no surprise it didn't last. Anyway, he suddenly totally changed and broke up with me out of the blue, completely wrecking my heart and getting together with my ex-best friend just a few weeks later. Though they broke up a few months later, it was the worst thing ever I ever had to go through.
It took me about 1.5 years but now I felt like a different person and like I got over it.
A little while ago he suddenly messages me and asks me how I am, I tell him how terrible everything was but how I feel like I'm a stronger person now and I hope someday he'll become a better man. I thought it would end there but we started talking again. One thing lead to another and we video-chatted which lead to flirting. We both confessed we still think about each other in a sexual way and we've carried on that way ever since. It's been going on like this for a few weeks now.
I hate myself for it because I just have no idea what's going on anymore. All my family and friends hate him because of all the pain he caused me yet I don't seem to. I don't understand myself and I feel like I'm going nuts. I shouldn't still want him after what he did to me, should I? I feel like an idiot and a really weak person, like I haven't changed at all.
I don't even know whether I still love him, I don't think I do. Then why is this all happening? Do I still have feelings for him? Are we just falling back into a comfortable pattern because we don't have anyone else at the moment? I'm scared that it'll lead to me getting hurt again. Is there something wrong with me?
Please help, I can't talk about this with any of my family or friends, because I'm afraid they'll judge me and be really disappointed in me. (link)
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Hey there!
I think what you are feeling isn't so much love.
When he broke your heart, somewhere inside of you, you didn't feel good enough am I right? What I believe is happening is that now that he is interested again, you subconsciously want to prove that you CAN be good enough, that you CAN hold him. Of course, obviously, you were extremely close to this man for a long time, I know you feel for him. But what is really holding you back from moving on is that challenge, that "can I do it" nagging at you.
And honestly, the best way to beat it, is to leave. This time it's YOUR decision. You can take back that control after he left you feeling so powerless years ago.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPop
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Hi! I have this under stair room that can be accessed by a small opening in a closet. Any Ideas? Besides storage? I kinda want it to be a little hideout, and the ceilings about 4 ft high, but i think it'll be cozy. (link)
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Put Harry Potter in it:)
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what does it called when having sex whith 5 people (link)
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An orgy
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This is kinda long.... But I'm currently in a relationship, but for some reason, my ex always gets to me.
Our relationship was very strong, with an open trust and intense compatibility. We had such a good chemistry, and everything was going great. He was helping me with my depression issues and making my life better. Until we broke up. He didn't have the courage to tell me that he was breaking up with me because of my flaws, and instead told me he didn't want drama when his dad came to town. I ended up waiting for his decision to get back together for a week, but in the end he dumped me. He still wanted to be friends, but I refused in fear of becoming attached to him again, and I take a long time to get over breakups. A few days later, he asked if I wanted to get back together. I told him to wait. But being a big baby, he said no. I waited for him, and he didn't wait for me. That was when I knew he wasn't worth it.
We remained friends for a while, until he was being a jerk. He'd pick on me and taunt me, when he knows I am sensitive, and when I confronted him, he went to being a big baby. He told me he didn't care about me and that I had issues. I didn't let it bring me down. We tried being friends once more, and then I learned just yesterday he was writing dirty, hurtful, hateful things about me, and drawing pictures of me doing very graphic, slutty things, because he knows I am not a virgin. I ignored him and now we don't talk.
I can't fix something that has been broken so many times after so many attempts. I don't want him in my life anymore. I'm through. Still, whenever I am around him, I feel sick, upset, and angry. I drown in emotions. For instance, today, I ran into him by accident at lunch and he pushed past me. Afterwards I felt like throwing up. I let him effect me so much and I am sick of it. Why do I have such an emotional attachment to him? I need help. (link)
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Well,
I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL! Haha, okay maybe not exactly but, I have had a very, very similar experience. Here, I'll share:)
Like you, our relationship was lovely. He was also a coward when it came to breaking up cause he did it in a text. Four days after he begged/guilted me into giving him head but THATS a whole nother story. Anyway... He also tugged me around a bit after. Asked for me back and I said well lemme think for a sec, cause you kinda just broke my heart (which is probs what you were thinking in your situation as well which, my friend, we are not crazy, thats NORMAL) and he was like eh, nah, Ima go get with some other girls. He wanted to be friends and I, also like you, was hesitant cause ooobvi we still liked the stupid boys, why torture ourselves? and basically everytime we tried to be friends, one of us would start a fight and it was horible. He would start fights with me, call me all kinds of terrible names, lead me on some more (but that was only cause he wanted some action, don't worry, heaven forbid he ever actually apologize for any previous actions). THENNNN this is also where our stories get crazy similar. He told all his buddys the stuff we did together (like how far we went). He ALSO decided to make some stuff up. He told them we "fucked" and that I "let him do whatever he wanted in bed" and that when he was on top he was "scared he was gonna break" me cause I'm "so tiny". Which, hey, that's cool. I like making up stories and telling the whole school too. Lets break my heart somemore please.
NOW. After all that would you believe that kid still affects me?? Yep. Everytime I see him I can feel my body preparing itself for a break down. It's like it still kills me to see him with any other girl. It's like I want to kill him and then bring him back to life so I can make him explain himself to me. And THATs the problem my dear. What you and I both suffer from is "lack of closure". These guys... they did soooo much shitty stuff to us. And we never got to find out why. And let me tell you sweetheart, you didn't deserve anything he did to you. It sounds like he tried to justify it all by saying he didn't care about you and that you had issues but the truth is, he's the one that's messed up. He's the one that can't handle his emotions in any other way than to hurt you and sperad rumors and draw stupid pictures. The sad part is, he's never going to admit that. He's never going to give you the closure you need, and the satisifaction of an apology. What's making all of this so hard is you have to do that all for yourself. And it sucks, so much, I know. This boy did horrible things to you and you're never going to be able to know why. You still have an emotional attachment because he literally took a piece of you with him, and he's not going to give it back. When someone, anyone, hurts you like this boy did, it's impossible to forgive and forget when he's given nothing for you to forgive. He's immature and stupid and he's left you with a big job. Recovering.
Don't worry, you can do it. You gotta tellyourself everysingle day that you didn't deserve what he did to you. That he's a scum bag and not worth your time. He's not going to tell you what he did was wrong, but it was. You are clinging to him emotionally becaause you are waiting for some kind fo reassurance that you're better than the way he treated you. If you want anymore advice on this part of the moving on, I will be happy to help, inbox me, and I will continue.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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16/f
white
my favorite book is perfect chemisty by simone elkeles. its about this white girl who seems like she has a perfect life, falls in love with this latino bad@** who acts like he can't be hurt. its a cute book.
i love latino guys and i want to know what are other books that are of a latino and white love story (link)
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There's actually a sequel to that book!! About the boys little brother! I think its called, "Chain Reaction". There is also a book called "Leaving Paradise" by the same author, and it's really good. It's got the whole bad boy/good girl thing going on, and I personally love it.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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My boyfriend and i make out a lot, and when hes on top of me i feel his boner. were really close but i dont want to ask him about it, i think hes uncomfortable about talking about it but how do i know if he likes it or not? (link)
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Rule #1 of erections: do not talk about a guy's boner unless you plan on doing something with it.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17. Were both still in high school and in love. I know we're young, but we've been together for 13 months now and i honestly do love the kid to death. Unfortunately, I'm not too pleased right now :( He's an assshole. He smokes weed a lot, and cigs. When he does smoke, he never texts me back. It gets annoying. He never calls me, even when i ask. Well here's the problem.
He has a friend, who is a girl my age. They sit next to each other in a class and they talk a lot. She used to text him all the time with " ;)" or " ;p" They seem to flirt a lot. When i ask him about her, he'll say that he loves me and only wants me.. blah blah blah. In the halls during school we'll be walking and he'll talk to her in front of me when he knows it makes me really mad. She told me she doesn't like him but it seems like they do have something.... When we fight, talking it out gets rid of the problem but he never changes for the better. BTW, he always asks for sex or head. But i don't think he's using me considering he does spend a lot of money on me and can be such a sweet heart at times. Plus his friends tell me good things. Except they call me his bitch ? Not good! I need advice before i lose my head /:
Am i just jealous? Am I just over exaggerating? Do you think they like each other? Should i leave him or stay together? (link)
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Wow. I was in EXACTLY the same situation, and here's how. He was a jerk. Drank a lot. Told me he loved me, made me look him in the eye when he said it. Had a flirty relationship with a girl in his class. Everyone told me he had me whipped. Asked for head and sex. A lot. And heres what happened. I stayed with him. I loved him. I mever thought he would hurt me. I eventually caved and gave him head. He broke up with me four days later. Told me he only stayed in our 8 month relationship because he was waiting for that. Told me he only liked me when we were hooking up. I found out he told everyone how far we went and how he "had me on a leash" oh and the best part? Hooked up with the girl a day after. Could I have saved myself a lot of this hurt? Yeah. Could you? You decide.
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ok so me and my crush michael have been nonstop flirting with each other since last year (11th grade) and i always though he would ask me to prom. then he asked this other girl in my grade paula. i was a bit upset but i got over it. then they decided they didnt want to go with each other anymore...believe me, i wasnt too sad about that. then i thought he would ask me but a month went by and nothing happened. so when this pretty nerdy kid in my grade, moe, asked me to prom i figured no one else would ever ask me so i said yes. then michael asked this girl rebecca who only said yes to him because i told her i like him and shes a home wrecker. ok so now i spoke to michael and he said he was going to ask me and he wants to go with me now but moe is so excited to go to prom with me and i dont want to to hurt him but i really want to go with michael! what should i do?? (link)
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Go with the guy who had you as his first choice? Or go with the guy who had you as his third choice?... Yeah. Hey just cause you go to prom with someone you don't have to date them... You don't even have to dance with him the whole time. Ask micheal to be in your group and there ya go you'll still spend the evening with him.
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What does wake and bake mean?? This guy allways says it( not to me) but just aloud it's really annoying whatever itmeans please tell me (link)
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It means waking up and getting baked. High. Smoking weed. Marijuana. As soon as he wakes up he smokes a joint.
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of being liked?
Strange I know, but does it? I've heard that guys don't like "baggage". (Which is ridiculous because EVERYONE has issues). Anyway when I met someone I'm kinda interested in, I wasn't really crying per say, (I'd actually just gotten done,) so I still looked upset even though I wasn't.
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Hmm. Considering I met my current boyfriend sobbing about my ex I would say that it can prolly work out:)
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I have a childhood friend of 17 years that dated this girl for 2 years. She became close to his family and friends. After they broke up, she was heartbroken and started clinging to me. One day talking, she began to cry and told me thank you. The thank you was for still staying friends with her despite the break up with my friend. She then said that everyone stopped talking to her and I was the only that stuck with her. The thing is I didn't stick with her, she just clinged to me and I didn't want to be rude. She has now become annoying. She didn't hear from me for a week and she began to panic, thinking I was mad at her and I didn't want to be friends with her. I was just busy. She gets mad if I don't invite her to hang out with me. She gets an attitude if I can't make it to hang out with her. She has become rude and unbearable. I'm starting to think she is not over my friend and is clinging to me because of that. I don't know how to tell her, she's driving me crazy and I don't want to be friends with her. (link)
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Hello!
Oh gosh this brings me back... Okay I dated this guy for a year. His sister became my bestfriend, his mother was more of a mother to me than my own and his bestfriend and I became good friends too. She is obviously heartbroken. And hurting. I've been there. When that much of your life is invested and intertwined into someone else's and suddenly all of it is taken away...? It sucks. You can't even imagine. She is clinging. She is clinging to the only thing thats still what she knows her life to be. Maybe she's even trying to stay connected with her ex. No matter what, trust me, she's going through a really rough time. And she might really need you. So I suggest you talk to her but please, I know what she's feeling even if you don't, she needs you. Maybe tell her you still want to be friends but you don't think making you her life is a health way to cope with her break up. Make sure you tell her you'll still be there for her and youre not abandoning her but that you need just a little space. Please be as gentle as possible!
Goodluck!
Xoxo
LoLL-i-PoP
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Welll junior prom is coming up soon and im going with my boyfriend but the problem is were the SAME height and i dont wannt to be taller than him at prom :( but i HAVE to wear heals what do i do?! (i look really gay in ballet flats) (link)
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find a cute pair of ribbon-y gladiator sandals like these:
http://vivianism.files.wordpress.com/2009/12/sandals.jpg
good luck!!
xoxo
LOLLiPoP
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So this guy and I broke up and I still wanted him, but I guess he decided to just make me feel like he still wanted me instead of actually getting back together. I’ve been talking to him still and he’ll say things like “I’m waiting for you to be ready” and “I don’t want anybody but you” blah blah blah and calling and texting me saying he wants to see me. Well come to find out, he’s had a girlfriend this whole time. I found out from myspace, and I haven’t been on myspace in so long it’s so random that’s how I found out. I went to his profile and he had pictures of her everywhere. I almost threw up; I got that sick feeling you get when you realize you’ve just been deceived. Possibly even cheated on while you were with the person, but you don’t know for sure. And I couldn’t believe it. I just sat there with a stupid look on my face like how did I fall for that and why did I fall for him out of all people, I’m so stupid. The initial feeling was shock, which turned to a little bit of jealousy, and then it turned into hurt, pain and anguish. I held it in for as long as I could and I couldn’t help it anymore. I broke down and wept. My thoughts went back to everything I’d ever told him. I said I loved him, and I’ve never said that to a guy so it meant something to me. I told him I wanted him back. I said I wanted to see him too when he’d call me. He said he wouldn’t ever hurt me. I have horrible trust issues, but I let my guard down with him because I believed him. Coming to the realization that our relationship was nothing is extremely difficult. Cheating, lying and deception are pretty much among the worst things you can do to someone. It’s SO painful. Especially when the feelings are real. I’ve never been so hurt by a guy before. How do you move on? Do I just take it day by day? Everyone says to just get over it, but it’s hard. It’s way easier said than done. The logical side of me says it’ll get better with time and I’ll meet someone new and everything will eventually be okay. But the emotional side of me is stuck on it because I’m so hurt. I ended up confronting him about it, and he texted me this morning telling me I’m like everyone else on this planet and that I don’t get him at all. Just talking shit. And I told him I wasn’t mad because he has a new girlfriend (I mean, yeah, I’m jealous), I said I was pissed because he’s been leading me on this whole time he’s been with her. If he would’ve said “hey, I’ve moved on” etc., then it still would’ve hurt, but at least he would’ve been honest about it and I would’ve understood. And I stopped texting him so he said “I can’t love you if I don’t love myself”….. tell me if I’m wrong, but, isn’t that a copout? Like he’s trying to excuse what he did, maybe? I don’t know. But I would really appreciate any insight to my situation. How do I let him go? I’m so heartbroken from this, how do I recover? (link)
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Dear "Am I the one that's "crazy" in this?",
Aww sweetheart no! He played you like a pro and he's STILL trying to play you. I'm sooo sorry that that happened to you. No one deserves that. Break ups basically suck. You do have to take it day by day. For now what I would do is just distance yourself completely from him. Eventually he will probably come around and try to apologize and you guys can be friends but until then don't be involved with him because admit it, you do still have feelings for him but you know it's not right. It's gonna be hard, and it's gonna suck, and you'll think you're over it one day and be sobbing the next. But don't give up hope. On yourself, on boys, on humanity. You might not see the light at the end of the tunnel but take it from someone who's gone through cheating, lying and more... everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay then it's not the end. And it WILL end. I promise :) and please please please don't feel pathetic if it takes a long time. Because it SHOULD take a long time. In the end, you'll come out of this as a stronger better person. You can do it :)
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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I really want to get pregnant. Its not that I want to have a baby as much as just have that feeling of being pregnant. All pregnancy women are so pretty with that pregnancy glow about them and everybody is always rubbing their bellies and so excited about them having a brand new baby. I talked to my bf and said i really wanted him to get me pregnant and he was like kind of unsure but said he would think about it. I was thinking of going on and throwing away the box of condoms i have here so he'd like HAVE to do it with me without them? But then I'm just kind of unsure. I mean a baby is pretty time consuming and I don't want people to think I'm evil if I give it up for adoption. Being pregnant really is so cute though. Advice? (link)
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This question has to be fake.
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17/f
So i stayed at my friend's house this weekend with a few other friends. There were 5 girls and 3 guys. After everyone went to bed, this one guy came and asked me to go with him somwhere. Then we went into another room and we kind of hooked up. Like, we "put our hands in eachother's pants" to put it nicely. That wouldn't have been so bad, but i never even met him until that night. So i knew this guy for like, 5 hours and i let him do that. It's weird, because i don't regret it at all. But i told my friend about it and she said it was kind of wrong. I feel a little weird about it myself. I'm usually really prude and that was SO unlike me. I've never done that with anyone, idk what it was. Does that mean im like, easy? Is this normal, or am i just a hoe? (link)
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hahahaha I'm sorry but no youre only a hoe if everyone finds out, and its not like you has sex... Youre seventeen! Live a little! And the person below me is probably a parent or at least an adult and they don't know the definition of slut in todays world. And if they're reading this right now: sorry to break it to you but boy girl skeepovers are common... Its safer than driving home wasted wouldnt you agree? Parents probably didnt know and yeah I'm not saying its right but it's not a huge deal. I had one last weekend... No one had sex and no ones hurt.. Don't worry so much :) you're fine.
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13/f my bf and i have been making out and i want to go farther. hes cool with it and said hed even go all the way with me but i dont want to go all the way yet. i want to go to like second base. how do you do second base with your bf? i mean wat IS second base really so i know what to do? (link)
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"How to do second base"
Look here. I'm going to tell you something personal but it's all to get you to see that you need to think about this just a little more and maybe reconsider.
I dated a guy last year, I was fourteen. He was sixteen so he always wanted to be going further. I trusted him and we went to second base (which includes fingering and handjobs) at the time I thought everything was fine and dandy. Then he pressured me into third base (blowjob) you said your boyfriend wants to go all the way and you don't. Be careful. It is so much easier than you think to be talked into something. And when you think you love someone and you think you can trust them you might make mistakes.
I regret the handjob, fingering, blowjob, everything. See the trust and physical connection involved in those things make the break about a million times harder. And the younger you are, the harder it is to deal with. I'm still getting over what happened and you know what?? He told just about my entire shcool how far we went. People still talk about it. Doing things with a guy should be a lot bigger decision than most girls make it. To trust someone and be comfortable enough to do those things and then have it blow up in your face?? It hurts more than you can imagine. I don't think any girl should have to go through it.
So what I'm saying is if you really want to go to second base, go to second base. But I'm asking you to think about it just a little bit more and decide if it's really worth it. It wasn't for me.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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yeh, im 12 aand i was supposed tog et my period 5 days ago and i didnt get it yet i havnt had sex or anything else thats like that, what should i do, :/ (link)
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Dear "my period didn't come"
Hey, stop stressing! It's okay, when you're younger your period is going to be really irregular, especially if you're involved in lots of physical activity. Now, if you don't get it for a few months, thennn I'd talk to a doctor. But until then, no worries chica ")
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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15/m im about to have sex for the first time this sarurday what should i do not to embarrass myself :/ (link)
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Dear "first time"
Honestly... I think some of the people answering this aren't being very logical. I mean, you can stay a virgin your entire life, and then on the night of your honeymoon, when you're twenty three, and you're madly in love with you new wife, are you going to be nervous?? Yes. No matter what age, you're gonna be nervous your first time. Just take a deep breath, and remember she's probably just as nervous as you. MAKE SURE you use proper birth control methods. And make sure she's the right one to lose your v card to. You don't want to do this before you're ready, trust me.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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My boyfriend and I were going through a rough period. He started talking to my best friend on msn and they had a very very flirtatious conversation including them discussing having sex, him telling her her naked body would turn him on, her dancing naked would be hot etc. He asked her intimate and leading questions. He hid this from me and she told me, I confronted him and he'd deleted the chat log, but I made him recover it and it's disgusting. Is this cheating? (link)
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Dear "Is this cheating?"
Personally, it doesn't matter if it's cheating or not. He's a complete douche bag. Dump his sorry bum right now... Not even kidding. If he doesn't respect you enough (just as a person) to talk to your BEST FRIEND like that, well, then it doesn't matter if you were in a rough patch or not. He pulled a dick move and you don't want someone like that. Do yourself a favor, you can find so much better in a boyfriend. And you might want to consider a new best friend... they sound just about perfect for eachother. A skank and a douche. I'm so sorry that happened to you :(
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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What bra size do u think I wear? Just wondering. Here are some pictures.
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Please delete this question before someone you know finds this and really embarrasses you... I'm trying to look out for you here
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