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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
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Just say Yes.
There is nothing he can do about your past. Do not pretend that you don't know anything. If he asks you where your learned how to do stuff, just say, "I read a lot".
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Me = 17/m
Her = 16/f
Dating = 3 yrs
I want to tell my girlfriend the truth about me cheating on her recently. There was this girl I knew all through school and she texted me one day and asked if I wanted to hang out. I feel so guilty because I was attracted to the girl for a long time but never acted on it before. I did meet up with her and lied to my gf about it, telling her I was going to go down the road and look for a job. I met up with the girl and I told her upfront I had a girl already. Things still happened and I KNOW I am to blame for this because I couldn't be a man and control myself right. We didn't have full sex but it was pretty close at one point before I was like "Hey, I can't do this" and all.
How do I come clean with my girl? I don't want to just be like "Hey, I cheated on you" because I really am hoping she'd forgive me and give me another shot at this. What do I say? How do I tell her I cheated? (link)
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I cannot tell you what to do.
But I will tell you that you are full of guilt right now. And the reason why you want to tell her is because you want to rid yourself of that guilt. But then when you tell her that you cheated, what do you think she will feel? Relieved? No. She will feel nothing else but cheated on. That is you transferring your guilt to her. Only now it's called betrayal. And there is nothing else more painful and devastating in this world than that.
So think about it.
You tell her and you relieve yourself of that guilt but she might leave you. Or do not tell her, she'll be with you but you will always feel guilty. Either way I think you are screwed.
You would just have to learn to deal with it.
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So this guy and I broke up and I still wanted him, but I guess he decided to just make me feel like he still wanted me instead of actually getting back together. I’ve been talking to him still and he’ll say things like “I’m waiting for you to be ready” and “I don’t want anybody but you” blah blah blah and calling and texting me saying he wants to see me. Well come to find out, he’s had a girlfriend this whole time. I found out from myspace, and I haven’t been on myspace in so long it’s so random that’s how I found out. I went to his profile and he had pictures of her everywhere. I almost threw up; I got that sick feeling you get when you realize you’ve just been deceived. Possibly even cheated on while you were with the person, but you don’t know for sure. And I couldn’t believe it. I just sat there with a stupid look on my face like how did I fall for that and why did I fall for him out of all people, I’m so stupid. The initial feeling was shock, which turned to a little bit of jealousy, and then it turned into hurt, pain and anguish. I held it in for as long as I could and I couldn’t help it anymore. I broke down and wept. My thoughts went back to everything I’d ever told him. I said I loved him, and I’ve never said that to a guy so it meant something to me. I told him I wanted him back. I said I wanted to see him too when he’d call me. He said he wouldn’t ever hurt me. I have horrible trust issues, but I let my guard down with him because I believed him. Coming to the realization that our relationship was nothing is extremely difficult. Cheating, lying and deception are pretty much among the worst things you can do to someone. It’s SO painful. Especially when the feelings are real. I’ve never been so hurt by a guy before. How do you move on? Do I just take it day by day? Everyone says to just get over it, but it’s hard. It’s way easier said than done. The logical side of me says it’ll get better with time and I’ll meet someone new and everything will eventually be okay. But the emotional side of me is stuck on it because I’m so hurt. I ended up confronting him about it, and he texted me this morning telling me I’m like everyone else on this planet and that I don’t get him at all. Just talking shit. And I told him I wasn’t mad because he has a new girlfriend (I mean, yeah, I’m jealous), I said I was pissed because he’s been leading me on this whole time he’s been with her. If he would’ve said “hey, I’ve moved on” etc., then it still would’ve hurt, but at least he would’ve been honest about it and I would’ve understood. And I stopped texting him so he said “I can’t love you if I don’t love myself”….. tell me if I’m wrong, but, isn’t that a copout? Like he’s trying to excuse what he did, maybe? I don’t know. But I would really appreciate any insight to my situation. How do I let him go? I’m so heartbroken from this, how do I recover? (link)
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He is an immature person. Brace yourself. Because what you are feeling will not go away easily. Do not pressure yourself into letting go. Sometimes when we just let things be then we realize what to do. This guy cheated on you and believe me when I say this, you will realize all of a sudden that he is a dumb jackass. There is no 'how' on falling for people. It just happens. And unfortunately, it so happened that you loved an immature person.
All throughout your life you will meet different kinds of guys. You will know from this experience on how you will deal with all the future guys you will meet. And then after you meet someone who can give you the love you deserve, you will look back on this time of your life and vaguely remember this stupid, immature boy.
And you will ask yourself,"Who was he again?"
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I'm 21/F and have had several sexual partners. Right now, I'm in a serious relationship, so my boyfriend and I have sex quite often. The problem is, it just never feels THAT great. There's definitely no orgasm because everyone I know says when you have one, there's no mistake about it. This has got me to realize I don't think I've ever had an orgasm and it scares me. Sex has been pleasurable, just not mind blowing. We do try a few positions, but I'm not sure what to do next. Even when I try by myself, I don't get off. I just want to be able to have an orgasm! What can I (or he) do? (link)
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Honestly, you are not alone. Not every woman can have an orgasm. I think you are putting too much belief in the mind blowing sex. You said you tried many positions. But maybe what you need is to go back to the most basic ones. Do not feel scared if you don't have an orgasm. Sometimes we go through periods where we just can't get any pleasure at all. Do you exercise regularly? Because exercise can help too. It relaxes your body, calms your mind and just makes you better. You might want to try that. Don't worry. Just enjoy the sex. Orgasm or no orgasm, you're with a guy who loves you and that is the most important feeling of all.
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So my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost a year know and before now she had hung out with me a ton like almost everyday possible. I'm not saying thats all we did, we definately had some free time and hung out with our bros or girls. but just now she didn't hang out with me this whole week and like was like i'm just out don't worry. Then she called me and told me that she was hanging with these dudes who have been like wanting to hookup with her for like ever.. and i was like its whatever and she was like "well i mean i didn't want you to get upset cause i know you know that they think i'm really hott and stuff.. it was just so much fun like i felt so special cause they like just talked about how attractive i was and how they were obsessed with me! i know it sounds weird but i wanna hang with them a lot more i'm sorry if it interferes with us but like they make me feel so wanted.." like i feel like scared and what not like i dunnoo.. am i overreactinggg i feel like they are going to like take her and stuff... There has been other situations too but this is enough for now.
idk but it's been worrysome.. Thank you
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Talk to her seriously. Call her up and go someplace private and just talk things over. You might not like the answer but it's better than hanging around waiting for her. Or she might tell you what she really feels and that she only wants your attention. You don't have to begin the conversation by saying, "Let's break up". You can ask her calmly what seems to be the problem. It's not about blame or who's at fault. It's about dealing with whatever is going on and continuing from there. Good luck. I hope it all works out for you.
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If I feel uncomfortable and irritated down in my genital area, sorta like a a rash feeling.. what should I put on it?
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Did you have unprotected sex? If no, just let it be. If yes, you can take 1 clove of garlic 3 times a day until the rash disappears. Usually takes 3-5 days. It boosts your immune system and it works in making that rash disappear. Disadvantages include: bad breath ( make sure you take it hours before you go out of the house. Drink lots of liquid), stomachache (it's tolerable) and feeling of discomfort (not too much). For me, the good effects is worth it. It has been known that garlic is a great natural antibiotic.
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My boyfriend has herpes. He told me before we ever did anything and I accepted him for who he is and this disease he has had to deal with. He hasn't had any sores or anything since we been together but we only been together for like 3 months and he says he usually gets sores like 1 time a year or maybe 2 if it's really bad. We always took precaution to make sure he wasn't going to infect me. I looked over his penis and we made sure we were both freshly cleaned and he always ALWAYS used a condom. So 4 days ago I was feeling weird on my vagina and BOOM theres a freaking sore. I freaked out and went to the clinic and they tested me and it came back positive for herpes. I know I got to deal with it and stuff but...How did that happen? (link)
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Condoms can't cover everything. Take 1 clove of raw garlic and chop it to little pieces and take it as if you were taking a tablet. It might feel uncomfortable in your stomach but it will help you a lot. If you do this, 3 or 4 times a day it will makes the sores go away and keep it from coming back. You might have bad breath while you're taking it but tell your boyfriend to just shut up when he compains about it and take it himself too.
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I'm 15 and my mom said she wants to buy me a cell phone so if I'm out with my friends and something happens I can call for her or somebody for help. She has great points because of where we live isn't the best place. Anyway, she told me I needed to do a little research online and figure out what a good phone teens have now a days that is reliable and does all these stuff it needs to do. In YOUR opinion what do you think a good cell phone is? (link)
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A cell phone that never loses a signal.
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I met this girl this year and we're becoming decent friends. She's black and I'm not which is no big deal. I just have a question. I never thought of it but I know black people usually have like tight curly hair. How do black people get their hair straight? Because she has straight hair. I dont want to offend her and ask her. I know its none my business but I'm curious. Really curious. How do they do it? (link)
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She probably uses s heavy-duty hair flat iron or if hse has the money, hair weave. Thay braid the hair very tight, close to the head and attach real human hair in a net to the head. Either way do not pull her hair ever or you're gonna get it.
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I really want to get pregnant. Its not that I want to have a baby as much as just have that feeling of being pregnant. All pregnancy women are so pretty with that pregnancy glow about them and everybody is always rubbing their bellies and so excited about them having a brand new baby. I talked to my bf and said i really wanted him to get me pregnant and he was like kind of unsure but said he would think about it. I was thinking of going on and throwing away the box of condoms i have here so he'd like HAVE to do it with me without them? But then I'm just kind of unsure. I mean a baby is pretty time consuming and I don't want people to think I'm evil if I give it up for adoption. Being pregnant really is so cute though. Advice? (link)
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Do yourself and your non-existent baby a favor, Don't get pregnant. Get a puppy then you willknow what it feels like to take care of a living thing. If you want to be cute or have a glow, put on some make-up girl.
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im 17 i have had my period when i was 11 so it should be regular. im on birth control i missed just one day and took two pills later then usual thiss week. so on sunday i had some brwon discharge blood. happend to me before like during my period or after now its like days before my period and i googled it and it could be a pregnancy sighn which is possible i do have sex. but its soooo annoying i hate having this brown blood coming out and im supposed to have my period next week or sometime thiss week. im over it and want to know what i should do. does anyone go through this? should i get off the pill? missing one day seriously messes my period up like that it does this when i miss a couple days and when im supposed to get my period it lasts forever! i dont know what to do and if i tell my mom shell just think im pregnant. (link)
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Your pill pack should have the answers about how to take a pill when you missed a day or so. I don't think you're pregnant. You can be late for up to 2 weeks. DON"T stop taking the pill. The brown blood is called spotting. It just means you're body got confused because you took two pills at the same time. Don't worry about it. Your period will come. Tell me what happens ok?
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Should I go to the school homecoming dance? I am a senior(12th grade) and I don't know if I should go to the schools homecoming dance. All of my friends are going and I didn't by a homecoming ticket, which was about $15. If I go, they will charge me $20 for entrance. Also, the majority of my friends have girlfriends and they will be dancing with them and all of my girl friends have boyfriends which they'll be dancing with them. I don't know how to dance, I don't have a girlfriend and I'm going to be lonely bored and left out because I have no one to hang with. (link)
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This is the one event in your life that you will look back and remember no matter how it plays out. Ask your mom to teach you the basics of dancing. Don't be shy. Better your mom teaches you than you stepping on your date's toes. You will not be left out. There will be a girl in that prom who is not dancing with someone else. Look your best, feel your best and remember this is just a dance. Something to reminisce in your later years.
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16/female here!
My boyfriend(also 16) and I have our 200th day in the next 2 weeks and I'm very confused on what to do!
On our 100th day, I did the simple making cookies but I also added in my home-made stuffed bunny that I made him.. he LOVES it! XD hahaa I know it's kiddish but I knew that he'd like it because guys are little softies inside~ X3 and sooo i was just curious of what to get/give/make him this time~ :) Please help me~ :]
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Think of the things that make him happy like maybe he likes this kind of shirt, or this kind of computer game. When you do, buy or make two of the things he likes and you're good to go.. By the way, what did he get for you?
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So theres this guy I really like. He has a girlfriend though, but i cant just give up on him. We're friends but not really good ones. I like him a lot and he doesnt like me back. What should I do? What should I do to get him to like me? And by the way, he already knows I like him. (link)
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This is one situation you don't want to get into. He seems like he is happy with his girlfriend. There are other guys out there. Guys who would give you what you want. Guys who are single.
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Hello, I'm a VERY scared senior. I REALLY want to go to UCF,but I've been so very concerned that I may not get in. All of my friends,family members, guidance counselors and other adults are telling me that I'll most likely get in but I'm still nervous. My gpa is a 3.25 but weighted out it's probably around a 3.45 or 3.5 but my ACT scores are the issue. My ACT composite was only a 21,i retook the test and again got a 21, improving in some areas but staying the same or going down in others.I applied for the SUMMER 2011 session though and I already turned in my application. I have taken many honors courses, 1 AP course last year ( and passed the AP exam),and this year I'm taking AP Gov, AP economics, and AP enviro, Anatomy Physiology Honors,English IV honors, Marine Biology Honors,and Advanced Algebra w/ Financial Applications. SO i want that to look good. I've had mostly B's, many A's and a few C's on my transcript. But I took a few regular classes as well. I"m wondering whether I have a good chance of being accepted for the Summer session. Please help! i'm freaking out all day ,everyday about whether or not I'll be accepted or not. I turned in my application about 3 days ago! My best friend has a lower gpa then me ,yet has more Ap and honors classes but around the same weighted gpa as me and applied for Fall 2011 and got accepted (but she also got a 1200 on SAT) so I'm very worried about myself! Please help me relieve my stress! (link)
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You have done everything you can to pass. Sometimes all it takes is hardwork and you certainly have done that. Relax. We might not have any hold on what will happen but what's important is how we will handle whatever is going to happen. I think you are a very hardworking, smart, patient student. I have a feeling that no matter what you will be successful wherever you are. So sit down and just let it be. You did everything you can and what you're supposed to. Be proud of yourself. Have a root beer float.
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I think I may have blown things with this guy. We dated for about 3 months and he lives in a different town anywhere from 20 to 30 minutes away, depending on traffic. It made it difficult to have a relationship since we couldn’t see each other, so I ended up breaking up with him. He had broken up with me once before, but only for like 3 days; he ended up driving his broken-ass car to come get me because he wanted me back. After that, the stress on our relationship continued anyway. He never really talked to me. I’m not clingy or possessive, so I’d never bother him like a crazy bitch, but it secretly drove me crazy that I’d go several days without hearing from him. Him not talking to me on a regular basis is why I ultimately decided to break up with him. I made several attempts to ask why, and what I could do to fix whatever I was doing “wrong”. It never went anywhere. After I broke up with him, I told him I still wanted to keep in touch so that maybe later on things would work out between us. I have insanely strong feelings for him. I’ve known him for about 3 years now, and I’ve always liked him and he’s always liked me too. So now that we’ve dated, my feelings have sky-rocketed pretty much. We’ve continued to talk, but I ended up wanting him back, and I told him a few days ago that I did. I did the whole throw-yourself-out-there technique that most movies portray, and it totally DID NOT work. All it did was push him away, and I even think it made me look a little “psycho”, if you know what I mean by that. I just wanted to tell him exactly how I felt in hopes that he’d be absolutely honest with me about what he thought about it. He said “you’re so dramatic”. It was just my way of revealing myself completely, and opening up because I’ve never felt like this about a guy and I’m so afraid of losing it. I feel like I’ll never find this feeling again. My past relationships have been so bad I’m trying to protect myself from things repeating. Maybe that’s a factor in the way I’ve been acting. So I waited a day or two after that to give him a break from me, and I apologized. I was totally genuine in what I said, I really meant it. I said “Can we start over? I’m really sorry for forcing my past experiences onto you. The way I’ve been acting lately isn’t like me at all, I just want a fresh new start” and he said “Let me think about it”. So I’m not going to talk to him at all. I don’t want to do anything to ruin my chances; I’m giving him all the space he needs to think about it and wait until, or IF, he talks to me. I wish he’d just tell me what’s going on in his head instead of one-word, or one-sentence answers; I hate that.
But be honest, from the information I’ve given have I blown it? Is he at least thinking about me, or considering my apology to some extent? I’m open in fixing in myself whatever need be fixed. I won’t change myself, but I want to better myself. If there’s anything I can do to change for the better and lose old baggage from past relationships so things can work with him, I’ll do it. No hesitation. I’m even okay with just being friends for now. I did say “start over” and I mean just that.
The suspense is driving me insane, please ease my suffering if you can.
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You said you want to be a better you. Letting him go and moving on is one way of making yourself better. He has baggage on his own and it seems that it would be better for you if you let him be. A guy did something for me too that made me think that he truly loves me. And yet he went on cheating on me. I think people, not just guys, do this momentary kindness because it makes them feel good about themselves. I admit I was like that too once. This guy if he truly wanted to be with you, he will do all he can to work it out with you. Im sorry to say this but it's the truth. You're not alone. You have friends and family. One of the things you can do is put on your best make up, your best clothes, go to the mall and just treat yourself. You deserve it. It might not seem possible right now, but you can be in love again. With someone who can love you and will cherish you. Good luck.
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im having cramps like two weeks or more before i have my period im on the pill so i know when im supposed to get it and its now not for another week but i keep getting wikid bad cramps but no other simptoms of having my period like my boobs hurting bad! Also im really gassy now maybe cuz i eat certain things but i dont eat anything to different then i usually do and im just noticing that its been a lot more than usual. why am i having cramps like this? and farting to much lol? (link)
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Right now try not to think about it. These can be symptoms of your pending period. Just wait and see. That's all you can do for now. Tell me what happens and we can move from there.
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I have got 40 paracetamol and a half bottle of vodka in front of me. I am going to take them , please dont talk me out of it (link)
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Sometimes it feels like the world is crowding you and every one is against you. But this is only brought by bad events in our lives. Events change. So do we. If you kill yourself, you will not be doing justice to you. Do not deny yourself the chance of a good life. I know you can do it. You're posting here is proof to me that you are looking for a chance to survive. Humans are built to survive. We have skills that enable us to get up-alive- each and every morning of our lives. Use your skills. Do everything you can to survive.
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20F.
So I've been to the gyno about four times the past couple months and she asked the first time if i was sexually active .. i said no. then after that she would just say you're not sexually active right? I said right.
Well i had sex for the first time about a month ago and I'm going back to the gyno on monday. If she asks if I'm sexually active I say yes right? Even if I've only had sex once? (link)
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Does it bother you that your Gyno knows that you are sexually active? It does not have to if your answer is yes. First they have seen every person there is who has had sex, married or not. Second, if you are worried she might tell someone, you don't have to. There is a law that prevents her form doing that. As for your original question, you are considered secual active even if you had sex only once.
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16/f
So I like this guy. He's two years older than me. I'm a junior he graduated high school and will leave for college in a few months. We're pretty much best friends and pretty close. I usually see him about twice a week and I'm also best friends with his sister so I'm around him alot. He's into me also but we both know nothing could happen because of the age difference. I mean I know age is just a number but he's leaving so it's kinda a problem. So yeah, we have each others numbers and text every once in awhile and facebook. He starts the conversations most of the time. I do every once in awhile.
The thing is, I try to play it cool. He doesn't know I like him but I'm pretty sure he could tell I'm into him. He tells me I'm pretty, cute, good looking, ect alot and tries to boost my self esteem so he's a good friend and he's into me.
Well what I'm saying is I don't want to come off as clingy and all that. I want him to want to talk to me. I always want to talk to him, obviously, cause I like him, I mean I get he's not gonna be totally obsessive over me I just want to be somebody he wants to talk to, you know? So what are some things I can do and what I shouldn't do?
Also when are good times to talk to him and things to say? This guy is pretty protective over me, like a brother, so he always wants to know who I like and he talks about my ex alot. So that usually comes up in our convos. Sometimes he says he's jealous but you know. I just don't always want to talk to him whenever he's online. I want to know good times and you know like every other day or so?
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I guess it is needless to say you like him more than you can admit to yourself. And I get that you want him to like you more too. As friends, you can always talk to him through facebook and texts even if he's gone off to college. But beyond that nobody knows but time. People give too much importance of knowing what to say or not. You said you like him, then what you are doing is perfect. You are being his friend. It might turn out that he would like you more than just a friend but until he admits it to you, the best thing you can do is be there for him and show him that you have his best interests at heart. I've noticed as I have grown older, being true is the most important thing. There are times that honesty will bring you heartache. So what if it does? If the person you showed your true feelings did not know how to appreciate it, then maybe that person is not worthy of you. My best advice to you is continue being his friend. Kindness goes a long way. Be careful and take care of yourself too. Do not forget that just because you are nice to him, it does not give him right to take advantage of you. Best of luck to you.
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