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How to tell your girlfriend you're cheating on her
Me = 17/m
Her = 16/f
Dating = 3 yrs
I want to tell my girlfriend the truth about me cheating on her recently. There was this girl I knew all through school and she texted me one day and asked if I wanted to hang out. I feel so guilty because I was attracted to the girl for a long time but never acted on it before. I did meet up with her and lied to my gf about it, telling her I was going to go down the road and look for a job. I met up with the girl and I told her upfront I had a girl already. Things still happened and I KNOW I am to blame for this because I couldn't be a man and control myself right. We didn't have full sex but it was pretty close at one point before I was like "Hey, I can't do this" and all.
How do I come clean with my girl? I don't want to just be like "Hey, I cheated on you" because I really am hoping she'd forgive me and give me another shot at this. What do I say? How do I tell her I cheated?
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Don't hide this from her. The worst you can do is go on with her with this on your shoulders. Sit her down, tell her how you feel about it. Nothing's better than the truth, even if it's the hardest thing to say.
If she decides to give you another chance, then control yourself next time something like this presents to you. Just remember to pour your heart out. That's the best thing you can say to her. This lets her know, hey, I didn't think he would have the guts to tell me this, and it shows that he really wants to be straight with me.
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i have a boyfriend of 2 years and we are both 17 and i can tell you now that if he cheated on me dont think i would want to ever look him in the face again or for a while condidering the situations we are in. but i could also say that i would be glad in a way that he told me and was honost about it. shel never forget it and youll loose some trust from her and dont get mad if shes constantly asking wher are you who you with you need to really talk this out and tell her why you did is it because you were fighting lately does she not give you enough satisfaction shes going to think these things shes gonna think that shes no longer good enough for you. i would for a little bit shell be angry but she will get over it i think i would take my boyfriend back despite the fact he cheated if he did have sex with her i wouldnt but as i said it would take some time.
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Guys these days!
Well the guy i was in love with NEVER admitted he cheated on me!
i knew he did though!
So your best hope is to tell like maybe call her, I know it may sound stupid to like use the phone to tell her when you should be a man and tell her in person but it just makes it a lot easier for you and her! So call her and tell her you need to tell her something, then tell her what you did and with who. Theres a 50 50 chance she'll forgive you and won't.
But MAYBE she'll have respect for you because you told her, i know i would have had a lott more respect for my ex if he would have told me, instead of hiding it. Hope i helped.
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I cannot tell you what to do.
But I will tell you that you are full of guilt right now. And the reason why you want to tell her is because you want to rid yourself of that guilt. But then when you tell her that you cheated, what do you think she will feel? Relieved? No. She will feel nothing else but cheated on. That is you transferring your guilt to her. Only now it's called betrayal. And there is nothing else more painful and devastating in this world than that.
So think about it.
You tell her and you relieve yourself of that guilt but she might leave you. Or do not tell her, she'll be with you but you will always feel guilty. Either way I think you are screwed.
You would just have to learn to deal with it.
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the direct approach is the best. just sit her down, make sure you two are fully alone and will be for a while (there could be sparks flying), and just say "baby (unless you guys don't use petnames, then just call her by her name or whatever) i made a mistake, i'm not proud of it, and i'm sooooooo sorry" don't go into detail, trust me she won't wanna know. just come out and say you cheated. if you're lucky, she'll show you grace. just to let you know, the textbook definition of "grace" is getting something good you DO NOT deserve. so if she does, in fact, take you back, just know that she did it out of the goodness of her heart. by NO MEANS whatsoever do you deserve her back, but you seem like a good guy. maybe you guys are strong and will continue to be strong, throughout this entire ordeal. it may take time for some emotional scars to heal, who knows? maybe they won't. but if this is the first time you've fucked up in 3 years, she'll probably be willing to give you a second chance.
good luck
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Honesty is the best policy, yes it will hurt her and she is probably going to be REALLY pissed, BUT its better for her to hear it from you then from someone else. She is more likely to give you another chance if you come clean then if you keep it from her and she finds out from someone else. Just sit her down and be like "Listen, I care about you alot, but I made a mistake. I met up with another girl and some things happened. I realize now it was a mistake, but I want to be honest with you and hope that you can forgive me and give me another chance. I understand if you need sometime to think, just let me know when you are ready to talk." Something along those lines, and tell her in PERSON, not through a txt or over the phone, thats just rude. Don't turn it into a screaming match either, if she yells let her, she just found out her long time bf cheated its tough. But be honest with her and hopefully things will work out for the best.
Hope I Helped. :)
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