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Ello ^^; Name's Maria. I love giving people my opinion about their situations to try and help them see things from different angles and finally helping them come up with the best possible solutions. I am willing to answer a question from any category to the best of my knowledge. I've been through quite a bit myself, who hasn't? In some of my answers, I'll give examples of situations in my life in which I can relate to. It all depends on the type of question I am asked and how it is asked. I like to read things that make sense, but if you have trouble explaining your situation, I won't give up on you for a mix up on words or terrible grammar; you're only human ^-^. Overall, I hope I can help as much as possible with my advice. I will always try to say things in the nicest way possible so as not to hurt anyone's feelings; nonetheless, I'll be fairly honest with you. If you've read this far into my description, thank you for your time, and hopefully your life is running smoothly at the moment. If you're worried about something and you are confused on what to do about the situation, feel free to ask away! I'm glad to help. :)
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Hey im a 15 year old male and have been texting this girl for about 4 months.we've gone for walks and kissed 3 times but arent officially going out.i really really like her and she says she likes me too,but shes going away for 2 months now and i dont know what to do.i feel like theres nothing for me when shes not here and i need her company because it makes me so happy.i honestly dont think i can last 2 months without her.please help me is there anything i can do?
It sounds like you sort of depend on her to feel complete. You don't want to make someone your everything if you are not even in an official relationship. You may not be sure of what will happen to the situation. Also how long have you known or hung out with her? Four months? You have so much time ahead.
You can definitely have a life when she's not around. It seems like this relationship is barely a sprout. Don't depend on someone else so early on like this, you are not committed to anything, and you are very young. If one day she decided to change things up, as in, get with someone new, what are you going to do? Dig your head into a pillow and sob? Remember that you are important too. This thing you have going involves two: her and YOU. So care about YOU.
If you drown yourself into this one girl, you may just forget what it's like to care about YOU. I can't stress enough how important it is to not forget about yourself. She chimed in, and now you're attached. Crazy things can happen, people turn 180 degrees, but when you look in the mirror, who is left? (YOU) You're not going to know how she feels later on. Don't sweat it. If you get going doing things with friends, having fun, doing other stuff that distract you, you will get home at the end of the day and see her as A POSSIBILITY, NOT A NECESSITY!!!!
I emailed a guy and told him how I felt about him. He wrote back a few days later. Saying that he apologizes if he doesn't respond back in a timely manner. I then replied back telling him not to rush. Whenever you get the chance to get online again you could reply back then.
Sometime after I sent that email to him. He's been online and active but has yet to reply back to my email. What could be the reason as to why he hasn't replied yet? I'm a 26 yr old Leo female. Emailing an 26 yr old Virgo male. I sent him the email on September 15th 2011 now it's September 26th 2011. I hope I'm not reading too much into it.
Just Curious: Do you think your zodiac sign, along with his, has anything to do with it?
Be patient, but don't get your hopes up. You have no idea how he took that email you sent him, maybe it affected him, maybe it didn't. How long have you known this guy? Are you good friends with him?
Maybe those factors are relevant.
Try not to read much into it, for all you know, he probably doesn't know how to respond to it. Just be chill. :)
On a side note, I do know that Virgos & Leos are next to eachother on the zodiac sign. Leo's are life's of the party, and virgo's are more of the intellectual, practical, and diplomatic (calm) type.
Patience my dear.
I guess im asking this cuz im looking for comfort because i just got rejected by a guy i like he didnt say he did not like me just that he had a girlfriend so now im sad but things could change right?
Things always change, for better or for worse :)
Don't feel sad because he rejected you, keep your cool, and life rolls on. If he has a girlfriend, be there for him as a friend. You don't know what exactly the guy thinks of you, so don't tear yourself up. Who knows what may happen. Keep your chin up! Get busy doing things to get your mind off of this, let's call it, an oopsie; afterall, you didn't know he was taken right? ;)Good luck!
hi guys, please explain this, my one and a half year of boyfreind says, i think we should split up, don't you?' he says he loves me but it's not working...what does he mean, guys? i love him to death and he loves me as well and he sometimes also says his son comes fisrt. well, he has a son with his ex girlfriend. i just feel so damn broken. we haven't split up but he just seems to want to, i guess. thankyou guys.
I know it's hard to hear something like that coming out of someone you've been with for one and a half years, but you have to be strong enough to let go.
There is a saying: If you love someone, let him go, and he will return without being called.
Try not to show too much devastation in front of him, you don't want to show him you're broken. I'm not saying you should hide your feelings, because it's ok to talk about them, but don't cry a river in front of him.
It seems like he is either trying to set up a family with his son, or he feels you guys should see other people. There must be some reason why he wants to split up.
Yes, he will always say his son comes first because it's his son, a parent does anything for their baby. Think about it; would you put your son/daughter first?
Once you both mutually agree to split, do NOT keep in touch with him, this will make the healing process painful. Try to hang out with some good friends, or get out. Do something to keep your mind off the break-up. Once you feel you can talk to him without reminiscing in the past, then you can possibly talk to him casually. But in the meantime, get busy with other things. You're strong enough :)
I have so much anger && depression in me.
For the past month or two . My life has been taking completly changing and its not the first time , its like this time its really hurting me. I cry myself to sleep everyday, and with no on to even talk i mean no one . When Im around people im fine but hahaa when iget home it just comes . Ive mistreated way to long . But you guys are giving advice like its so easy its not really i dont know to deal with this at all .
I'd like to know more about what is bothering you specifically. I can tell you what to do to help overcome these things. What is making you feel this way? I don't mind being a personal psychologist, lol. You can add me on windows messenger: idamaria1@live.com.
i don;t know what is wrong with me but i feel so lonely and i want a boyfriend soo badly :S
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does anyone have any tips on how i can find people or go out and date? anything on the subject would be great. or any experiences you have gone through thanks ..:)
There's nothing wrong with you. It would help if you added some info to your question as to how you act around guys, maybe I can tell you if you're doing something that affects this.
The key to finding someone, is something you already have. Just be yourself. If you're not, you might end up with someone you cannot relate to at all because the 'real' you, was not displayed by YOU.
There's a saying that I always say to my friend, and she's in a situation very similar to yours. She's always thinking about when she's gonna get a bf, and she's always wondering why she doesn't have one, and questioning what's wrong with her & what she can do to change it. The only thing there is to change, is her mentality. She needs to STOP wondering about guys and let the guys wonder about her; as do you. Bottom line, be yourself, and don't be wondering about them too much, let the guys wonder about you; enough said :)
Helllo there! So I bought my prom dress, but I'm reallllly bad at matching it with accessories, help please! here's my dress: http://www.debshops.com/product/index.jsp?productId=10934429&cp=10992367.3765772
looking for any jewelry and shoes to match, Deb stuff works :)
http://www.google.com/images?hl=en&biw=1366&bih=667&gbv=2&tbs=isch%3A1&sa=1&q=sapphire+jewelry&aq=f&aqi=&aql=&oq=
Find some cute earrings with a ring and necklace, similar to the link above; sapphire is the ideal color you wanna go for.
I'm a fourteen year old girl who is almost a sophmore. I'm a little lost on all the technical stuff about college. I want to become a doctor, a pediatric oncologist specifically, and I dont know how to even start the progress. I'm very confused. Help?
Keep good attendance and grades at school; be a good student. If there are programs in your school about college, get involved. They help a lot. You still have much time before you have to decide what you want to be. The "progress" or "process" of becoming a doctor is a long one.
You need to have passing/acceptable grades at school, so come senior year, you will have many college options. When it's time to choose a college, I suggest you look for a college with good programs that lead to the career of your choice. Just remember that it will take much time and effort. But for now, worry about giving your best at school, right now. Trust me you have a lot of time :) Good Luck
18/f.
Okay, so there's this girl Sara that my boyfriend used to have a RIDICULOUS crush on a couple years back. It didn't work out for him; they have been and are still just friends. He claims he's over her and stuff, but who knows. That's not what bothers me, though.
Apparently one day, he and Sara were hanging out and she was wrong abotu something/lost a bet/ etc. and now owes him a blowjob. Note that this (apparently) isn't something she agreed to; he just declared it. And now, every so often, he brings it up and nags her that she "promised".
How do I know about this? Obviously he never mentions this to me; I once saw him say it to her on Facebook on my news feed, and another time I read a VERY lengthy aim convo about it (I was bored, on his computer, and creeped on his conversations). I know the AIM thing was an invasion of privacy on my part, but I was bored. I didn't read it out of suspicion or anything.
My problem is that I feel EXTREMELY jealous and hurt. But I don't know if I have the right to. First of all, Sara's my friend, too (we're not good friends, we haven't talked in a while, but we're friends nonetheless). I know for a fact she wouldn't ACTUALLY agree to it for that reason (and also because she never saw him as more than a friend). And my boyfriend's the type of person who jokes about sex 24/7. But there's just something different about telling your best guy friend "don't worry about it. you'll just suck my dick later" vs. sayign to a girl you've had a huge crush on for over a year that you want a blowjob from her. No?
Anyway, what do I do? Should I do anything at all? I feel like I should tell him how uncomfortable this makes me, but how can I even bring it up without admitting to reading his messages? I feel like the second I bring up my problem he's going to turn the privacy thing around and make me the bad guy.
I suggest you leave him. You don't need this. He's messing around behind your back. The way that he's so open about this little "bet" on his facebook account shows how important his relationship with you is to him. He obviously doesn't respect the relationship.
16/f
i had a dream i was in this big closet and there was a dresser with a mirror full of pictures. i got a bad and started cleaning out the dresser. i found a little kind of like makeup bag with a zipper. i opened it and inside read "hey mija, this is your aunt ____" i forgot the name but i remember thinking "how can she write me if she's dead?" (i'm not very close to most of my family)
then i remember closing it and putting it in the dresser.
i looked up at the mirror and their was a bunch of pictures of my mom(she passed away a few years ago). i was looking through all of them and then i saw a letter so i put the picture down and opened the letter which was very faded but i was able to read a few sentences.
(my aunt and grandma do not like my dad because he moved away a couple years after my mom passed away)
the note said something about my dad smoking weed(i used to smoke but i quit, if that changes anything) in front of me and my sisters and how he shouldn't be allowed to see us anymore.
while reading the letter i pictured stairs for some reason.
the note was from my aunt and grandma.
my dream was very detailed.
the dresser was made of a dark brown wood if that changes anything. thanks in advance
Wow, I think your loved ones are trying to communicate with you from their afterlife... Save this description of the dream, you might have another dream connected to that. Maybe it's trying to tell you something.
Well first off, I broke up with this guy that was a 100% my type and I was really falling far him. My type of guy is the one thats athletic, preppy, talkative, respectful, pretty boy kind of guy. Everything about him was perfect and our families got along perfectly, but he lived an hour away. Then I always see girls on his facebook and he would get tagged in photos of him with other girls. So I ended, but I still think about him constantly.. Then another thing there's this guy named Dylan his the total opposite of all the things i'm use to in a guy. His rock style, listens to screamo, just total opposite of what i'm use too. I take a lot of classes with him, and I tell him everything about what goes on with me because I feel like I can trust him. We recently just started getting super close, I call him my partner in crime in classes because we always laugh and cut up in classes that teachers have to move us. He smokes weed then the other night I was on webcam with him and I told him how I really care about him and know that his smart enough not to do that. He liked smiled and got real quite whenever I told him I care about him. He also told me how he really likes me and he doesn't want to lose me. I'm really starting to get that feeling everytime I talk to him too, I just don't know how it would work out though because I know that his far from what i'm use to dating.. We don't even hang out with the same people, and I know my dad wouldn't approve my mom thinks his really cute though. I'm just so confused because of how much I really liked my ex and my dad really liked him which I have to have my dads approval on a guy and thats the kind of guy everyone in my family is like and Dylan just the total opposite so I have no idea on what to do..
Try something new. Everyone is different. Maybe you'll love this new experience. I say you give it a chance :) You only have one life to live so go for it!
how do i trust my boyfrienda around other grils i really love him and i dont wont to lost him
TIME. If he messes up, he'll be the one losing YOU.
im about to turn 14 years old and enter into high school. i want to enter high school as a "popular" person. but it seems that only really good looking people are popular. I have big eye lashes blonde medium size hair and a flawless face and I'm a cheerleader . but im short and people dont take me serious. and I guessed by being prettier than them I would be more liked. I need tips on how to do my make up like a pretty cheerleader!
Looks aren't everything, trust me. Just be who you are. Beauty takes you only so far, but it's personality that makes you stay in people's lives.
i m ma gf induldge in oral sex on 14th feb,after dat she had nt get her periods yet,her date was 25 i m woried it 1st nw can she b pregrnant????????wht could b d reason of her nt geting periods if she is nt pregrnat????????
A woman can't get pregnant through oral sex, relax.
i'm 17/f and he's 19/m
so the other night i hooked up with a guy i've kinda been crushing on for like years. he goes to school an hour and a half away so i kinda rushed things more than i would if he was to live closer to me. we did everything except sex, which i'm glad we didn't. but i'm just wondering if i ruined my chances with him. he's a really nice guy and after we hooked up he told me to text him when i got home to make sure i got home safe and he held my hand while i was..ya know haha. we text a bit but i feel like i'm always the first one to text him but he shows signs of interest for me and sends me alot of smileys and winky faces haha. so my questions are, what goes through a guy's mind after a hookup? what are the chances of him coming back?
If you feel like you're always the first one to text him, then your doubts are correct. Let him text YOU!!! If he doesn't text you as much as you text him, then there can be multiple reasons why. Moreover, you don't want him to think you're on your toes for him, making sure to make a conversation with him, etc. Remember, you want to be desired you don't want to desire :) Try not texting him for some time, and see if he wants to communicate with you. Let him grow interest. Although I must say it seems like you guys rushed things a little. Just slow down and don't live too fast next time you meet a guy you really like. After all, he's not the only fish in the sea :)
what happens if yu get an eyelash in your eye?
My neighbor was like another granny to me and she always told me this: Never rub your eye if you have not washed your hands.
What you want to do is wash your hands, then get to a sink and flush your eye out until you can't feel the irritation. Be careful with your eyes, they are very sensitive to bacteria and such.
17/f
Hi- this is kind of the opposite of a normal relationship question. Basically, there's this guy who likes me at school. He gets sort of tongue tied when I'm around and my friends say he likes me, and that he'll try to ask me out soon. The problem is, I'm actually not interested in dating. This guy is great in a lot of ways but I've never been on a date and I'm just not interested atm. how do I say no if he asks me out, without hurting his feelings?
Just be honest with him and tell him the truth. Avoid lying. If you make up an excuse, then later he finds out you pushed him aside for whatever reason, his feelings will probably end up hurt. When he pops the question, say something like, please don't take it personally, but I'm just not interested in having a relationship with anyone right now. (And if you like him back or have plans on maybe starting something with him later on, tell him that you'll consider a relationship when you're ready.) :)
There is this guy "Z"... We have been friends since the begining of school and hes a really sweet guy. He has had a gf for almost 2 years now. So i never even looked at him that way. well they broke up about a month ago and he started talking to me more and more. I fell for him so fast. He can be a "flirt" with alot of girls and im well aware of a few girls that he "like(d)(s)"... We started hanging out every weekend, going to church togeather, youth group, ect. we were togeather most days. He kissed me (my first kiss) and i was so happy, and yet so sad because he wasnt my boyfried. well this went on for like 2 more weeks. Now he's back with his ex Girlfriend......... We still hang out every weekend, and still flirt, and this weekend he kept 'snuggling' with me. I dont understand what he wantss. Ive talked to him about it before he says hes never alowed to see his gf, so my thought is well whats the point then?! he says he doesnt know. We talk all the time, flirt, snggle, talk on the phone for hours and hours. It is the one thing in my life that makes me really happy. and yet every time we hang up, or he leaves, i feel so sad. i feel like im a bad person because he has a gf, i feel like im setting myself up to be hurt but i cant stop my self...... I dont really have a question. but i need some advise. I hate feeling like im being stupid, but getting over him doesnt seem like an option.
One very very important rule to remember is: Never make someone your priority when they only make you their option.
Yes, you may really like this guy, but it seems like he isn't sure of what he wants. If you want to be his girlfriend, main squeeze, etc., you need to stop being the bread plate to the left. In order to do that, you need to figure out what he wants.
Don't let him snuggle with you if he's taken. Give yourself some value, per say. If he sees that you're not giving in to him because you guys aren't officially together, he'll want to make it happen :) You're right about setting yourself up to get hurt. You could be doing that, so you need to take some control of the situation. If he wants to keep you as a friend, the snuggling and cuddling and stuff needs to diminish immediately. On the other hand, if he realizes he wants to be with you, then he must decide to leave the other one and get with you. Bottom line, NEVER be an option.
I sent my girlfriend a text message. In the text message, I asked "Are we
still boyfriend and girlfriend." A couple of minutes later, I didn't get a
response, so I sent another message saying "I would really appreciate a
response." She sent this reply " yes David..... I have to say its kind of
getting old having to tell you over and over again.. I m not sure why you
worry so much.. I have a class now..so I'll talk to you later "
Question: She used excessive periods after saying “yes david”. She used
five periods after that sentence. She only used two periods in her other
sentences. She put extra space between "yes david....." and the next
sentence. When I copy and pasted the exchange of texts into advicenators,
the extra space didn’t show up, but it was there in the original message.
You can’t see the extra space here, but it was in the original message.
She didn't use this extra space between her other sentences. What do the
five dots in "Yes David....." mean? I understand they mean she is annoyed,
but do they directly express annoyance or do they mean that something was
unwritten and it is up to the reader to assume what was supposed to be
written?
Looks like you pay a little too much attention to detail I must say. Don't worry about how many periods or spaces she has used in the message, rather focus on what she said.
I'm assuming you've asked her this a number of times before. Is there a particular reason why you keep asking her this? If there is, then just talk it out. If she said what she said in that way, it's easy to see that she is annoyed of repeating herself.
Just chill out. Unless she's made it clear to you that you and her are not together, then don't sweat it.
hi there...
22/f
i am stuck in a really crappy situation...
i had a bad bad experience last year. first there was a guy who totally used me (i should have seen that one coming but as it "could never happen to me" given that it was my first relationship" i didn't know how to say no cause i wasn't sure of anything... anywayyy...) school pressure, prof truing to make a move on me, parents pressuring me, money...etc. i ended up seeking an escape by getting involved with a bunch of people who are not exactly innocent...
i mean every one has fun, but these guys are on things every weekend if not drunk or partying or hooking up or getting people to hook up after fucking them up... they're an average of 3 years older than me, and much much much more experienced than i am...
i thought after that first fling with a guy that else could be out there that's wilder than that? and that is what i want to do since i am no longer naive so that sorta got me initiated into their group...because i had "potential to get corrupted" i don't judge people which is why i have so many friends with different views and lifestyles... i am okay with what they do but i can't handle these new friends without my life crumbling down...
but i can't seem to say no (as usual) and i keep getting sucked into it!!! how do i get my life back!!! how do i sever them out of it if need be without repercussions... i am not comfortable doing what they do at all... and i've got to get my act together cause i am beginning to flunk school!!!! HELP
oh and one of the girls in particular is super manipulative and she is almost psychopathic and is dressing like me talking like me always trying to find commonalities between us... sometimes i feel i am turning into her puppet. or doll she is very very dominant and i can never say no without indirectly getting the sense that i am threatened and that i will regret it...
i got sucked into it deep to the point where plans are already made for me, and if one thing isn't in common i am expendable and that i will be ruined....
what do i do??? i can't let my family or friends find out since i am pretending to have my act together!!
I can relate to this indubitably. My advice can be summed up in three simple words:
STAND. YOUR. GROUND.
Don't be afraid to be different from these people. Remember who you are and what YOU want. If you want acceptance, you don't need it from these people because they apparently affect you in a negative way.
Let me address that guy who didn't have anything better to do than to play you. His disgrace will now serve to you as an example. You were an innocent creature who was seized by some senseless asshole. Now you are much more aware of certain signs you couldn't see in a person before. Just don't assume every guy will try to mess with you that way again; yet be more observant.
If you see that these people are making you drift away from your aspirations, you need to drift away from THEM. You're stronger than that, don't freak out.
That girl that is your puppet, she needs to find herself. Be 100% honest with her, and don't give a rat's ass what she will say to you. Focus on what you want to say to her. I think you should tell her how you feel about her in a nice way so she won't take things too harshly. If this fails, you go about your business, you don't need to explain yourself to anyone unless you want to. Bottom line, you seem like you care about yourself and school. Don't let people bring you down in these ways. Stand your ground.