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what does my boyfriend mean by this?
hi guys, please explain this, my one and a half year of boyfreind says, i think we should split up, don't you?' he says he loves me but it's not working...what does he mean, guys? i love him to death and he loves me as well and he sometimes also says his son comes fisrt. well, he has a son with his ex girlfriend. i just feel so damn broken. we haven't split up but he just seems to want to, i guess. thankyou guys.
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I know it's hard to hear something like that coming out of someone you've been with for one and a half years, but you have to be strong enough to let go.
There is a saying: If you love someone, let him go, and he will return without being called.
Try not to show too much devastation in front of him, you don't want to show him you're broken. I'm not saying you should hide your feelings, because it's ok to talk about them, but don't cry a river in front of him.
It seems like he is either trying to set up a family with his son, or he feels you guys should see other people. There must be some reason why he wants to split up.
Yes, he will always say his son comes first because it's his son, a parent does anything for their baby. Think about it; would you put your son/daughter first?
Once you both mutually agree to split, do NOT keep in touch with him, this will make the healing process painful. Try to hang out with some good friends, or get out. Do something to keep your mind off the break-up. Once you feel you can talk to him without reminiscing in the past, then you can possibly talk to him casually. But in the meantime, get busy with other things. You're strong enough :)
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Well, I'm a girl but hopefully being an outsider on your relationship I can figure out whats going on here. Regarding the line "My son comes first" He could be feeling guilty about spending time with you and not his son and feels like the only way to do that would be to break up as the temptation to see you wouldn't be there. If he says he loves you but its not working it could just mean that he needs a break from the relationship to refresh the relationship and see if he's making the right decision going out with you as right now you seem to be in a long term relationship and he could possibly feel that it's not fair on you to be in a relationship if he has doubts. I think what you guys should do is sit down and talk it out. Ask him why he doesn't think the relationship is working. Just get all your problems out in the open and make compromises for each other. Hope this helps, good luck xx
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His son should be his main priority, Anyone's children should be. Sorry to break it too you but it would be selfish on your behalf to expect him or anyone to put you before their own child.
Splitting up means breaking off the relationship, It sounds to me that your boyfriend is not happy and wants to go separate ways. This isn't the end of the world, It just means you need to move on and meet someone else.
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