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How to say no
17/f
Hi- this is kind of the opposite of a normal relationship question. Basically, there's this guy who likes me at school. He gets sort of tongue tied when I'm around and my friends say he likes me, and that he'll try to ask me out soon. The problem is, I'm actually not interested in dating. This guy is great in a lot of ways but I've never been on a date and I'm just not interested atm. how do I say no if he asks me out, without hurting his feelings?
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Just be honest with him and tell him the truth. Avoid lying. If you make up an excuse, then later he finds out you pushed him aside for whatever reason, his feelings will probably end up hurt. When he pops the question, say something like, please don't take it personally, but I'm just not interested in having a relationship with anyone right now. (And if you like him back or have plans on maybe starting something with him later on, tell him that you'll consider a relationship when you're ready.) :)
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If he does ask, just tell him you don't want to date anyone at the moment. He's gonna be disappointed either way but saying you don't want to date anyone will help a little and won't hurt him too bad. You'll be fine :)
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Very simple you say it in the nicest way possible and that you think he is great in a lot of ways and be completely honest with him and say you've never been on a date. Don't say your not interested in him or else he will get hurt. Don't say just no either. You have to compliment him and say he's really great guy but you are just going to have to pass. He should accept that. Be nice about it. He will feel better if he knows the truth. Trust me everyone wants to hear the truth. But you have to be nice about saying no thats all it is :) Hope it goes well!
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Exactly how you asked this question! That he is a really great guy, but that you're not interested in dating at the moment. Try to elaborate if possible. You can also say things like (if they're true) that you're trying to focus on school/family/work etc. And also say that you don't mind just hanging out as friends if he doesn't mind either. There's no easy way to say no, but I think this is the easiest. It's not like you're completley shutting him out so I think he will take it well. Good luck.
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