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My friend's DISTANT relative died...and she's been throwing a pity party for weeks.
At first I was okay with it because I know how people react when others die, but it's been about a month and she's still at it.
I'm not being cold, but when someone keeps bringing down the mood randomly (for something not that serious since everyone has to die sometime) it really bugs everyone. I felt like I shouldn't say anything at the beginning because everyone grieves (although they were definitely not close) but now I'm pretty sure I should say something. It makes her look like she wants attention (and this is probably the reason) but what can i say that doesn't sound too harsh to let her know how it's affecting all her friends? (link)
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I guess the best thing to say, that's less harsh, would be along the lines of: "Hey, I know it's tough, but sometimes you just gotta let go and move on. You can't be depressed all the time, it's going to hurt everyone, not just yourself."
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After watching some really creepy stuff on YouTube I'm really creeped out and can't get it out of my head. I feel paranoid especially at night. I can't take it anymore, what do I do!? Thank you (link)
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Oh yikes! I did that same thing not too long ago, but just keep telling yourself it's not gonna happen. Do things that you like to do and make yourself forget it. If you watched any ghost-y videos on youtube, they're probably fake without a doubt. I've made fake ghost videos before, haha. And if they're people getting hurt videos, they're probably fake too or some sadist taking the video. Let's hope it's the first one! But don't worry, I'm sure you'll be fine... And I advise you to stay away from creepy youtube videos :D
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no love for me ever. heartbroken too many times. you told similar man to take 10 beers 40 percoset and 100 xanax. i am afraid that i will either vomit out such quantities but more that it wont work. i will be paralyzed drooling piss and crap in pants always,blind, and be aware of all this. (link)
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I'm not going to try and talk you out of it or anything, but I am going to ask you a question. Are you really that cowardly? Running away from your problems with your tail between your legs like that? Heartbreak is heartbreak and it's going to happen a lot, but that's something that most need to accept. All humans are capable of grasping that thread of hope, even if you have to step on those who oppose you. Giving up and letting yourself fall under everyone's shoes? That's not what being human is about and you are human. Give it some thought, are you really going to be that cowardly?
And fyi, either way your body is going to release whatevers inside no matter how you die.
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Awkward question but my stomach is killing me. Yes I'm on my period. Any suggestions on how to feel better.... SOON (link)
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There's a lot of ways to be rid of cramps. First off, midol is your best friend. It relieves all kinds of menstrual symptoms, such as bloating and cramps. Next, apply heat to that area. Maybe try a heating pad or a warm cloth. Then try relaxing, do something that'll distract you, like watching a movie or taking a nap. Hope this helped!
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I just gave my friend a bj (I'm a girl) it lasted about 5 minutes when I had to stop... he told me that I was good but I didn't believe him. ...he didn't *** but I told him I was sorry...we are both virgins and it was my first time so I as very nervous, he kept holding onto my hair and pushing my head down, it felt good so I didn't gag,so after I finishd we hugged and he left, WE DIDN'T EVEN KISS, AND WE AREN'T DATING!!!! was it a mistake (I'm 13) (link)
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Only thirteen?! Oh my goodness, yes, that was a mistake. You're only thirteen and your mind shouldn't be on giving boys sexual pleasure, it should be uping social skills, looking into your educational options, and enjoying the freedom of being young. I know you probably hear that all the time, but it's very true, that's why you hear it commonly. You can get a lot of diseases from things like that, especially if you don't know the details of his medical history. He may be your friend, but you guys shouldn't be doing that, particularly at such a young age. Kissing and hugging is fine from time to time, IF YOU ARE DATING, but not doing something that far.
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ok my friend is bein a real douchewad lately ,saying i dont care about my soul just because im agnostic and hes christian and all kind of other stuff with my girlfriend and how he hates her and one of my friends whose bisexual got made fun of by him and this is all of the sudden and he never acted like this and if he keeps it up i might have to give him one good hit to the face to snap him out of it and should i even be friends with him even after he apologized cuz im pretty sure hes gonna do it again but i can tell he really is sorry but he might not be able to help himself...so i need advice (link)
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I know how you feel, I have a friend who likes to shove Christianity in my face when I study religion and I really prefer not converting to Christianity. Sometimes they tend to believe that you have to think the same way and just flat out tell him "Hey, that's not cool. Not everyone thinks the same, that's what makes us different." If he makes fun of your other friends, tell him off, stand up. If he keeps making you angry, warn him that if he's not going to accept you guys for who you are the way you are, that maybe he's just not as good a friend as you thought. It's kind of hard to let friends go, but true friends don't mock you for your opinions.
Don't resort to violence, though, as tempting as it may be, it's not going to help and you'll probably regret it later.
Also, if religion keeps coming up in conversations, change it. It's probably best not to discuss it with him around if he's so defensive about his religion.
Good luck :)
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Ok so my mom is freaking out becuz I told her i want to be emo she is telling me "why would u want to do that you aren't being emo over my dead body" I'm 13 and my mom is still ruining my life... I told my friends and they told me to just do it, so I did and I painted my nails and sarted to wear heavy makeup.... my mother then took away my makeup and black clothes and replced I with pink and purple...how do I tell her I want to be emo in a way so she will understand me and tgat this is what I want to do, I cry,I'm shy,and I cut but i did all tgat before I even knew about emo....so how can I expkain that to her??? (link)
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Honey, you're thirteen. Believe me when I tell you that what you're going through is just a phase and I know that probably makes you really mad to hear that. I felt mad when people told me that my 'I wanna be a master thief' phase was just a phase... Now I want to be a scriptwriter ._. Big difference, eh? But look, emo is a state of mind, standing for 'emotional'. It's not something you can just become by dressing in all black (I do that and I am most certainly NOT emo) or wearing heavy make up like those pop stars on TV. You are using stereotypes, which is wrong in this world and you will look back on as immature. Please, do not even think of cutting yourself either. It's very dangerous and it's not worth it because if you cut the wrong spot, you can kill yourself. Not to mention, you won't want to look at those scars on your wrists when you grow up. Your mother is worried about you and she's getting protective because you're at that age when you think that parents know nothing about you, when quite frankly, they do because they too have been teenagers at one point in their lives... Like, maybe a really long time ago, but that's not the point! By the way, I'm sixteen, so I wasn't thirteen too long ago either. Sorry if it sounded like I was lecturing you, but it's the honest truth.
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Ive been wanting to commit suicide for the last 3 years, i think ive not done it yet because of fear. Im 23 i live with my parents, my 2 brothers and sister. My family are nice to me, ive been trying to tell my mum about my situation, all she says is dont do it u will go to hell. I dont get love from my family the way my sister and btothers do. im a very shy guy, i struggle to make friends, ima student at uni, i just hate going there. ive told my family i dont want to study and i will get a job somewhere, but they are forcing me to study! Ima muslim my parents want me to have an arrange marriage with my 1st cousin, which i find disgusting because ive always treated her like my sister, ive got a feeling i might have to marry her because i will get emotionally blackmailed. for the past 6 months ive been constantly getting headaches, i get chest pains, i know that im not wanted, i need to take big deep breathes all the time and i jus want to kill myself. i can leave my family, but i dnt want to do that because they raised me.
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME? (link)
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You are in charge of your life, no matter what anyone says. I know they brought you up in life and they think they know best, but you know what's best for you at this age. I'll tell you right now, though, suicide should never be an option. Your family does care about you, without a doubt, however, they're not in charge of you. There's a difference. I know it's hard to make friends, but sometimes, you have to make yourself be a little social. In fact, I had to do this only a couple hours ago and I'm super shy, so I struggled, but after a while, I got used to her being around and now, she's a friend of mine as well. Whatever you do, please, never consider suicide. There's always someone out there who loves you. If you ever want someone to talk to, just to vent to, you can email me at fighter_of_words@yahoo.com. I'm always online.
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okaay, the other day my friend bumped into the computer desk and the screen fell on the keyboard and pressed the keys. and then the color of everything has a pink tint. idk how to change it back. nothing is wrong with the screen. its the computer.what do i do.? (link)
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Maybe the setting were changed? Try going to the menu for the monitor and looking for the tint colors, more red, more blue, more green kind of thing. Hope that helped a little :)
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ok so i was at a dance and i asked my bf to slow dance with me and he said "no way".... what is wrong??? everyone else was doing it!!! (link)
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A) He doesn't know how to dance and B) He just doesn't do the slow dancing thing. My boyfriend a couple months ago at a dance asked me to slow dance, despite all the others doing it, but I told him the same thing, no way. It's because I don't know how to dance and I just don't like the feeling of slow dancing. It makes me dizzy and nervous. Maybe he has somewhat of a similiar problem?
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How can you tell a guy you have your period. Lets say they started touching you, wanting to hook up ..how do you basically tell them no because you have your period without grossing or freaking them out even though they shouldn't be in the first place or even without making it awkward. (link)
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Try, "I'm experiencing the ketchup curse, maybe next time" with a serious expression.
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i just got through watching the omen, and during that movie, many religions were shown: christianty, satanism, other pagan religions, etc.
also my friend told me about his friend who is a jehovah's witness and some of their stuff got me thinking.
i was raised methodist christian in my home but turned my back on faith about a year ago. too many rules, inconsistancies, hypocrites, and it was all just very overwhelming, so i quit. and even now that i've given up on religion, i can't get it out of my head. its like i've been brainwashed. i'm not asking someone to give me back my faith, or to even lecture me.
what i'm asking is what do YOU believe? are you christian? satanist? wiccan? anything at all? please answer my question with why you believe in what you believe, and how exactly it works. thanks in advance :) (oh, and i don't judge. so even if you've made up some weird thing where you worship hotdogs, i won't mind) (link)
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I know how you feel on the Christian thing. I just didn't get anything out of it and I felt like there was really no one there. So, I switched to Satanism, and no, I didn't eat babies or anything like that. It's basically a belief that we can sharpen our skills and have some help from Lucifer and his gods (Demons). It gives you a sense of power. I felt totally comfortable with it, like there was someone actually there listening to me and being a real god. I was a Satanist for about a year and half, maybe longer and it was okay until recently. I just started questioning faith all together. I don't consider myself a full on Satanist anymore because I'm still kind of lost and not to mention, I've started to believe in more of a polytheistic religion. Anyway, religion is usually just something people look to because they're afraid of what happens after death. Where do we go? Is there someone waiting? Can I be reborn?
To actually say you have religion, you should know even the smallest details. I love researching all different types of religions, maybe you can try looking into all the different types. There's tons of them to look at and some make more sense than others. Religion is a widely debated topic, though. To really join in the debate, you have to know what you're talking about.
Don't know if that was what you were looking for, sorry if it wasn't :D (Btw, there's a religion out there where they worship a spagetti monster, sounds pretty cool to me, just like the hotdog thing.)
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I want to color my hair bright blue without using bleach to lighten it first. I have dark brown hair and I am desperate to make it blue. I heard about trying kool-aid but my mom said kool aid is only for light hair like for blondes. So, how can I dye my hair blue and get good results? I heard using bleach will damage it really bad and cause it to dry out a lot and not take the blue color right. So what do I do? (link)
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I'd have your mom take you to the salon or something and ask a professional because last year I tried to dye my hair blue, using bleach, and not only did it turn my hair green instead, but it also burned my scalp pretty bad so it's rather sensitive now. However, my friend recently did the same to her hair (her hair is somewhat brown, mine is so brown it's almost black) and it worked good for her since she talked to a professional at a salon. So, I suggest that!
Best of luck!
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My girlfriend is really pretty and we've been dating for 4 months. Before we started actually dating she told me about her passed and that she's hooked up with a lot of guys. She told me that it was "more than a dozen" guys she's had sex with before. I love her though and I told her it didn't matter and I loved her anyways. Well, lately she is been hanging out with these groups of guys. I know for a fact she's had sex with some of the guys more than once because she told me that before. I told her that it hurt me she was spending time with these guys that used her and she told me that it makes her happy to be able to spend time with these guys. I'm really actually getting mad because I'm hurt by all this and she doesn't understand what it's like to hear her laughing on the phone when they're out and me not knowing if she's REALLY safe from these creeps. I want her to have friends, boys and girls, but not the people who she has had sex with? especially that this one guy she keeps hanging out with told me (at school lunch break) he's been having sex with her when they get together. I don't believe him but I do think he's been hitting on her and that pisses me off that she lets that go on.
What do i do about this mess? (link)
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Oh dear... Well, it's good that she's got some friends, but if they're hitting on her, I think you should let those guys know big time that she's your girlfriend and that you really don't like the idea of people crushing on her. You need to sit her down and tell her that this entire thing is bothering you. If she starts to retaliate, you should tell her how much you care about her. You can't tell her never to hang out with other guys, but tell her to show these guys that she's already taken... Not to mention, she shouldn't particularly be talking about past relationships as she's dating you now and only you. Hopefully things will go smoothly after some good communication, but if not, if she keeps hanging out with these guys in a fashion that you KNOW she might be doing something, I'm afraid you'll have to drop her as a last resort, but keep trying to talk to her, and the guys too before you ever think of breaking up with her!
Best of luck to you!
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Nobody understands me. Nobody understands how it feels to be all alone like I am. Nobody understands how it feels to feel so lost all of the time. Nobody understands how it feels when nobody cares or loves you. Nobody ever listens to me when I tell them these things and I feel like I'm such a hopeless cause in the world and like I'm just taking up space. I'm not happy. I don't fit in with anyone.
I don't want to live any more and have decided to kill myself. I want to commit suicide soon. What are the quickest ways to commit suicide? Preferably I want to do this at home for ease. (link)
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Don't even waste your time trying. Suicide is pointless and the only place it'll get you is in the ground, which trust me, isn't all that fun. More people will step on you that way.
Yea, I know life is tough. Everyone may think it once or twice before realizing how WRONG it is. Don't do it. I know life seems terrible, not worth living, but it is. Do as much as you can, make your dreams come true so your life is blossoming. I know things are hard and you just wanna give up, fall down under the feet of trouble, but you need to get back up.
Never say someone doesn't care about you because somewhere out there, there IS someone who cares about you and would be devestated if you left this world in such a manner. Would you really be so selfish as to torment them, as well as yourself? If you want someone to listen to you, make them listen. Sometimes you need to get a little aggressive. If you want someone to chat it up with, go ahead and use my email! I'll gladly listen to anything you have to say. It's best to reach me at fighter_of_words@yahoo.com. I'm ALWAYS online, every day.
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Woahhh. Well, I have liked this guy for almost a year and a half. We finally start talking. Now, my best friend is like glued to him it seems. I have confronted her about it once. It like of broke our friendship up. And I asked him about it. It might just be me but they flirt ALOT. My boyfriend swears he loves me and my best friend says she doesnt like him. I am sort of stuck in the middle. They past notes and talk more than I think they should. What should I do? How should I react? (link)
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Hm, you should just keep a silent observation on them. If you see something exculate to like touching or anything, then you have the right to ask your friend to please stop getting so intimate with him because you love him so much. Tell him it bugs you a little that he gives her a lot of attention, but don't be mean about it. Just be a little calm and casual about it. If they keep reassuring you it's all right, just keep an eye out. Don't be paranoid, just a little cautious.
Best of luck!
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When my boyfriend gets mad he gets really really mad. He hits me and has choked me twice before. I don't think he'd actually kill me but he does leave a lot of bruises and I'm really tired of it. I can't talk to him about it because he's just going to get mad. I don't want to leave him because I love him with all my heart and soul. I'm just tired of having to hide bruises and cover them up with make up and clothing all the time when I go out of the house. We live together right now and I just don't know what to do. My friend has seen the bruises and got worried but I told her it's no big deal. It is a big deal. What do I do from here? how can I make my boyfriend stop hitting me? (link)
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If you love him, you'll make him stop. It's wrong and cruel for him to harm you like that. I say you pick up a few defense tactics. If he makes a punch at your face or something, duck or dodge, but don't get out a weapon. Just quickly move out of the way. If that makes him mad, just tell him flat out that you don't want to be abused. You're not a toy, you're not a pet. You're a human and you deserve to be treated like one. If he insists on taking out his rage on you like that, I'm afraid you'll have no choice, but to drop him.... And maybe call some anger management too. I have a really bad temper myself and if I feel like hitting something, I get a pillow or I start writing. If he gets mad, maybe hand him a pillow or something...
Best of luck to you!
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I just started having my period and I want to tell my mom so that she knows. I am having trouble finding the right words to say that won't embarrass me or make her confused. We don't really talk about periods or anything so I don't want to make the entire thing uncomfortable. From your own personal experience, how did you tell your mom that you had started your period? Well, I guess it doesn't have to be actually your mom, but whoever you told--how did you say you started having periods? (link)
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I started mine when I was 11 and I freaked out and told my mom right away because we had only had the conversation, like, once before and I kept telling her I'd never have it. Boy, was I wrong. Haha, but yea. I just ran up to her and told her I had blood in my underwear and I think I started my menstrual cycle. She understood completely. You shouldn't be embarrassed about telling your mother. She goes through the same thing.
Hope this helped ;)
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okay. so im a 14 yr old female and im a freshman in high school. Well, i was at this party one of my friends had and i got high and hooked up w 2 guys and had oral. then, everyone called me a slut at my school. but soon i really didnt start to care. all of the girls were jealous i think. then when i walk down the hall if theres a guy they either slap my a$$ or squeeze my boob. so after that i went and me and this other girl (that i hate) we started to masturbate together in her bedroom. we did oral and we made out. she licked my boobs and said i was a wh0re and a slut. she then started to slap my a$$ and we both got really horny. so she called up a couple of guy friends that recorded me and her like "doing it" then the other guy starts to give me oral. thats video taped too. he licks my vag and my boobs and the other guy was recording all of it. they put the tape online and showed everyone in my school. i got suspended. and they all still laugh at me. there were a couple of girls that put slut on the back of my shirt and they wrote in marker on my locker. i really didnt care that much but after i got really mad and got a tattoo that said "I'm a slut, f*ck me b*tch. So everyone saw that and they didnt really say anything else.so does this make me a major slut? (link)
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Unfortunately, yes, it does. Very much so and it's very wrong at your age. Do you realize that school should be the only thing on your mind right now and surviving it? Being named a slut is degrading and gross. You're basically broadcasting that you're a whore, which is WRONG on a lot of levels.
Quit now. It's going to be hell trying to get rid of the image that you've drawn for yourself. If you keep doing this, it's just going to get worse than just being called a slut.
Best of luck to you, you'll need it.
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How do you make cleaning fun? (link)
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Sing, dance, make an imaginary friend and make them help you. The music idea is very popular too.
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