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My boyfriend hits me but I don't want to leave him or break up
When my boyfriend gets mad he gets really really mad. He hits me and has choked me twice before. I don't think he'd actually kill me but he does leave a lot of bruises and I'm really tired of it. I can't talk to him about it because he's just going to get mad. I don't want to leave him because I love him with all my heart and soul. I'm just tired of having to hide bruises and cover them up with make up and clothing all the time when I go out of the house. We live together right now and I just don't know what to do. My friend has seen the bruises and got worried but I told her it's no big deal. It is a big deal. What do I do from here? how can I make my boyfriend stop hitting me?
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He might have an anger problem. t shows that you love him, you could try talking with him on a mature level and tell him its time he got help from someone and you could be there to support him. He will love you for it in the end.
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you need to leave him you may love him but it will only get worse belive me i no, you need to put yourself first he will try and stop you he will even promise you that he will change but he wont, if you stay with him it can only get wors you need to leave him and make him see someoneabout his anger and sort him self out and if he loves you the way you love him he will do it to be with you but move out of the house and he can sort him self out and if you do deside to get back with him then take it slow dont ever move in with him till you no he is sorted and wont ever harm you. he need to see that you whont stand for it and he will lose you if he dont get his anger sorted.
best of luck x :)
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If you love him, you'll make him stop. It's wrong and cruel for him to harm you like that. I say you pick up a few defense tactics. If he makes a punch at your face or something, duck or dodge, but don't get out a weapon. Just quickly move out of the way. If that makes him mad, just tell him flat out that you don't want to be abused. You're not a toy, you're not a pet. You're a human and you deserve to be treated like one. If he insists on taking out his rage on you like that, I'm afraid you'll have no choice, but to drop him.... And maybe call some anger management too. I have a really bad temper myself and if I feel like hitting something, I get a pillow or I start writing. If he gets mad, maybe hand him a pillow or something...
Best of luck to you!
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I know that you may love him but he has no right to hit you! You either need to talk to him about this, or leave him. if you are scared of him getting mad and hitting you go to a public place where a lot of people are and talk to him about it. Let him know that you love him but he needs to get help and needs to stop hitting you or you will pack your stuff and leave.
A lot of women get "addicted" to being in an abusive relationship. Whether it be physically or mentally. When he gets mad he hits you, then after he calms down he apologises and tells you he loves you and it wont happen again right? well it is the make-up part that all women love. We all hate the fighting part but we all love when he gives you all his attention and tells you how he feels becuase he knows that he is in the wrong.
Hunny if this continues to happen i hope that you dont stay with him. He needs to make some major changes. No matter how mad he gets he still has no right to hit you. I am sure he is a lot stronger than you and what if one day he gets so mad he tries to kill you? He isnt worth your life i can promise you that.
I wish you the best of luck!
if you need anything else feel free to message me personally!
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I'm old enough to be your grandfather so I am going to give you some grandfatherly advice.
Read what I say carefully: THERE IS NO REASON ANYONE SHOULD EVER HIT ANOTHER PERSON. A MAN SHOULD NEVER HIT A WOMAN LET ALONE STRANGLE HER FOR ANY REASON.
I am not being sexist when I say a man should not hit a women; I am being realistic, men are generally stronger than women are and when angry and enraged can easily harm the women.
You are the victim of domestic violence. Depending on where you live this is either a misdemeanor offence or a felony depending on circumstances. That's the legal side of this. The personal side is although you say you love him there is no reason you should take his abusing you in this manner. His abuse will only escalate to a point that you could end up in the hospital or worse. If you really love him leaving him will be a wake up call that he needs to change his ways. He needs to learn to control his anger and that hitting is not the answer. If he is not willing to work to control his anger then he is not returning your love. He using you for what he can get from you.
Even if he says he ill get help you need to move out. As long as you stay he has no reason to seek the help he needs. Your moving out is the catalyst need for him to seek the help he needs. Stop the abuse, protect yourself and the next time he hits you call the police.
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First of all, NEVER retaliate against someone abusive, like your boyfriend, with further abuse. This is a good way to get your self beaten like never before or killed. He isn't going to back down if you defend yourself with violence. More than likely he will get more pissed and over power you. This is real life not a J-lo movie and it's damn serious.
With that being said, I know that you are looking for advice on how to keep your relationship AND stop the abuse. I hate to break this to you and I really do feel for your situation, but the reality is that your only choice in stopping the abuse IS leaving. You CAN'T 'work things out' with an abusive partner. Abuse is a cycle. After he hits you he's very apologetic, sincere, and affectionate (this is likely what keeps you hanging on). As soon as you fight again the abuse starts right back up and it will continue to do so.
So you have two choices. Stay and keep suffering the abuse or leave and find someone who can really love you and show you what it means to be loving and caring toward another human being.
GET OUT NOW! It will NOT got better. If you feel like you are alone you are not. There are a lot of programs and people out there that can really help and guide you. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) is a really good one. Do some googling to maybe find some help centers in your area.
I hope things get better for you and you are able to find the help that you need.
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when your getting abused its time to leave him! you love him but when he gets angry and hurts you then you need to leave pack you bags and leave as fast as you can. maybe its not so bad now but wait longer you can be in serious danger here. to actually leave bruises on your neck face anywhere because he hit you out of anger come on you know what you need to do he wont stop and if your afraid to talk to him about it then theres another sighn that you should get OUT! talk to someone about this go to a poilce officer and tel them the situation and what you should do have them tell you stories about other women so that you know this is a bigger situation than you make it out to be. and see a therapist beacuse this can cause serious issues in later relationships. please be careful. watch this lifetime movie that just came out about this exact thing. maybe this will help your situation.
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You do love Him trust me I know I can feel it but you have to stop and ask yourself does he love you! There are so many women right now in your shoes that cannot walk away from this but you have that oppurtunity! EXAMPLE Muslim women they are abused and branded and treated like toatal animals do they love there husbands yeah Im sure they do and apparently till death does them part! I bet they would be happy to switch places with you and with that being stated just think about how serious this can get stastics show that this type of behavior is gained and can get worse in no time going from anger levels 7-20 in 3 days I suggest you get out of it before He does kill you But I suppose if you do love him! Cook breakfeast for Him! Get you some grits and when they start boiling like larva you throw them on him and you get somethig and beat his ass let him know you love him but you will not take his lashings honestly this may sound harsh or obscene but its better then getting hurt or even killed! If you dont wanna go to those limits I suggest getting a tazer and putting it to good use! Defend ur self God was a man of war! do what you have too!
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