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SUICIDE to get out of arranged marriage?
Ive been wanting to commit suicide for the last 3 years, i think ive not done it yet because of fear. Im 23 i live with my parents, my 2 brothers and sister. My family are nice to me, ive been trying to tell my mum about my situation, all she says is dont do it u will go to hell. I dont get love from my family the way my sister and btothers do. im a very shy guy, i struggle to make friends, ima student at uni, i just hate going there. ive told my family i dont want to study and i will get a job somewhere, but they are forcing me to study! Ima muslim my parents want me to have an arrange marriage with my 1st cousin, which i find disgusting because ive always treated her like my sister, ive got a feeling i might have to marry her because i will get emotionally blackmailed. for the past 6 months ive been constantly getting headaches, i get chest pains, i know that im not wanted, i need to take big deep breathes all the time and i jus want to kill myself. i can leave my family, but i dnt want to do that because they raised me.
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME?
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Your family is telling you about the hell thing because it is the only weapon they have. I'm not sure how religious you are, but I'm guessing they're trying to *scare* you. You say you're in uni - maybe consider transferring to another uni in another country and work at the same time? If you want, get in touch with me. I've lived around the world, I may be able to give you a few tips that will be more specific. *hug*
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You are in charge of your life, no matter what anyone says. I know they brought you up in life and they think they know best, but you know what's best for you at this age. I'll tell you right now, though, suicide should never be an option. Your family does care about you, without a doubt, however, they're not in charge of you. There's a difference. I know it's hard to make friends, but sometimes, you have to make yourself be a little social. In fact, I had to do this only a couple hours ago and I'm super shy, so I struggled, but after a while, I got used to her being around and now, she's a friend of mine as well. Whatever you do, please, never consider suicide. There's always someone out there who loves you. If you ever want someone to talk to, just to vent to, you can email me at fighter_of_words@yahoo.com. I'm always online.
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You have two choices: Stay with your family in order to keep their traditions but end of hating yourself, your life, eventually your family, and maybe kill yourself. Or, find a way to leave their home and find some peace in your life. If it were me, I'd be making plans to leave. I wouldn't be able to live the life you describe. But only you truly understand the consequences. Could you ask your parents to get a part time job while you study? That way you could have some time away from the house and earn some money. If you save enough perhaps you could find a way to leave home. I do know that if you spend enough time outside of the influence of your parents, you're going to look at the world, and your life, in a whole different way.
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If your family is willing to emotionally blackmail you...why would you feel obligated to stay with these people? Who cares if they raised you. A loving family wouldn't do that.
If I were you, I would move away and make a new life for myself.
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