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love life going up and down
i am from india and am a muslim.... i have been in a relationship for a year now with a guy who is a muslim too and hard core one... i love the guy deeply and i have changed a lot for him... but he has a lot of expectations from me and wants me to change completely and adopt a new life all together... he has changed and so has his attitude towards me....he gets angry and doesn't behave in the same way as he used to... he is not like the guys i loved.... even though i really love him but i cant compromise on being myself... i cant leave him because i cant live without him.... m too used to him... n even if i do i know he will hurt himself.. he is very suicidal and can do anything.... i feel like m in such pool of mess and so confused... what should i do?
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It seems like you unknowingly got yourself involved with someone a little more than what was bargained for. Well im going to be blunt. After reading your post, my assumption of your significant other is none to well. He wants to change you, he changed himself, hes suicidal and has changed towards you. My advise to you would be to take the heart ache and leave. With his entire demeanor being altered and him not having any value of life could possibly mean that he would try to kill himself one day and possibly take you with him. He isnt the guy you once fell in love with any longer. And if this is true, im sure you wouldnt want to stick around to the end. Please, just try your best and get out while you still can.
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I'm sorry but what this guy is asking of you is wrong. And how he is making you feel is wrong too. He's trapping you in this relationship. You've changed to meet his expectations and he's still not happy, you need to leave him. Obviously it will be hard but this guy is not right for you. He's making you change and your getting nothing back. I get how you will be worried for his state of mind but your means of staying with somebody cannot be purely that reason. You need to get out quick, and if you really want to, get somebody he knows to keep an eye on him or let a doctor know. Hope this helps!xx
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Get out of that relationship. Now. You can't change, and he HAS changed into an angry woman hater. You can't be responsible for what he might or might not do to himself. You can only decide how YOUR life may be affected by staying with him.
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first of all, you're right in saying that you can't compromise on being yourself. you're you, and no one, NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE, should try to change that. if he has changed this much since you two started dating, it's not a good sign. he seems very controlling. i think you should just slowly ease your way out of the relationship. i promise, it's for the best. stay strong, don't let him guilt you into staying with him.
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