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so lately im not sure why but ive been sexually frustrated like crazy! every night i get the feeling that i need to masturbate. but it doesnt feel as good as sex. im not willing to have sex with just anyone. and im too embarassed to go buy some sex toys. so i dont know what to do. please help! thanks!
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I remember when I was younger and went trough spells of being very horny. It usually lasted 2 or 3 months at a time but eventually would subside. I would try to hang out with my friends more, help out around the house or read a scary book to get my mind off of sex. That seemed to help a lot but would still get those urges. I would find long candles or even the plastic toilet plunger handle if I was really desperate. Of course nothing will feel as good as regular sex but you don't want to become a slut that will sleep with anyone. Wait until you find someone you truly care for and know that will be there for you in the long run, then you won't have to worry abbout being frustrated anymore. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. Hope this helps and good luck.
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It would help in answering your question if you had included your age.
In general, for a person of any age, masturbation is a good alternative to just jumping in bed with just anyone. If you're old enough to have sex then you know masturbation is part of foreplay, we just call it by other names; handjobs, fingering and so on.
As to sex toys: Her again these are nothing to be embarrassed about. If you are old enough to legally purchase them then go ahead and do so. Don't want to be seen going into a sex shop then order them over the web. Don't have a credit card; buy a pre-paid credit card to use. Whatever you purchase will be shipped to you in a plain wrapped package. Not even the service delivering will know what is inside.
I am probably old enough to be you grandfather and I give advice on this sight to tell it like it is. To tell things like parents may not. Sex is a beautiful thing between two consenting adults. It is not a sport to see how many partners you can bed. Frankly even at your age and being male I never saw the joy in running from bed to bed as some of my friends did. That is not love that is lust, which is what most young me get confused with.
It make not difference if you are male or female, if you cannot make love in a safe and comfortable place it is better not to make love at all as you cannot possibly enjoy something that is meant for enjoyment and beauty. To relieve the frustration masturbation is therefore the next best thing as you can arrange for safety and comfort to enjoy yourself, and if toys are needed, buy them. There is nothing to be ashamed of when it comes to sex, just as long as both or all parties are consenting.
By the way most religions, including the Catholic religion, approve of masturbation in case you were wondering.
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