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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
advice
I love using black eyeliner. I dont do it very dark or anything though. However after like not even like 15 minutes its already wearing/comming off and smudging. Any suggestions or any brands that work all day long? No links please! thanks :]
Well, first you should get like an eyeshadow color that's similar to your skin and will blend in very well. Put that color of eyeshadow around your eyes to prevent the eyeliner from smudging.
Liquid eyeliners usually won't smudge or come off.
Waterproof ones won't for a couple of hours.
I use Revlon's ColorStay Eyeliner. It really doesn't come off easily and it doesn't smudge much so I think you'll love it because I do & I've had lots of problems with my eyeliner smudging and coming off.
15/f
Emily
on june 6th 2006 it was supposed to be a very unlucky day and on july 7th 2007 it was suposed to be lucky
what will august 8th 2008 mean (888) and what will september 9th 2009 mean (999)
Well, June 6th, 2006 was unlucky because it represents Satan's number [666]
July 7th, 2007 was lucky because the 3 "7"s in a row representing the lucky number 7 [777]
August 8th, 2008...well, apparently it appears in a bible? I don't know. I googled it and it said something about the bible....
Sept. 9th, 2009...I'm not sure if it will stand for anything ... I'm not sure if 888 will stand for anything
Well I am 14/f. and I drink...not regularly or anything..but like if I go to concerts I will drink...or if I hang around with my friends, we will drink. My parents (obviously) do not know..but I don't think I should be drinking. The law in my country is that you have to be 16 to drink..
I just need advice.
btw. I'm not addicted to drinking... :)..and I have never been drunk. I've just been tipsy.
Well, I'm straight edge and I don't believe in drinking, smoking, & drugs. So I don't think you should be drinking regardless of your age. You shouldn't drink period...
I think that if you drink with your friends and when they're around, as you've said in your question, it's time to get a new group of friends that will NOT drink or do anything illegal...such as drinking illegally. I'm getting the sense that your friends are triggering your want to drink & if friends let you drink alcohol, than I believe they're not that great of ones.
Get a rubber band on your wrist and everytime you have the urge to drink/you drink, snap it. Make a list of "punishments" that you will have to do if you do drink. [example: grounding yourself for a week or something like that]
Hmm, so, yeah. You shouldn't drink period...or until you're 16. Kids who drink in their teen years are more likely to become alcoholics in the future so keep that in mind. You might not be addicted now but you will be in the future if you're not careful. Try to avoid your friends that drink or firmly tell them that you do not want to drink. If they pressure you to do so, then you know that they're not being the best of friends. Try meeting new people [friends] that you can hang out with that you can hang out with or go to concerts with that won't let your drink..or do anything illegal.
Just to let you know that parents will find out about everything you hide from them in one way or another. I don't know how they do it but they do in the end and your parents won't be too happy to find out that you've been drinking although you're still a minor. And if it leaks out to the wrong group of people, you could easily land someone in jail/juvie.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Effects_of_alcohol_on_the_body
You should read that...see if you still think alcohol is appealing then.
Good luck
15/f
Emily
do u people know any songs about suicide?
like the song,
Never too late. by Three days grace?
i really love that song and i was just wonderin if there was any more songs like that.
thanks
Suicide is Painless by Marilyn Manson
The Art of Suicide by Emilie Autumn
Headfirst For Halos by My Chemical Romance
Emily
15/f
Hi, i live in Saint Louis MO. Last night my mom was down by the arch around 10pm. As she was walking up the steps, some people, i don't know how many or the genders, beat her with a bat. they hit both sides of her head and her face and eye. They beat her in the back and on her butt. They also cut her hands with a knife. Luckily she did not break a bone, only pain and bruses. She just fell down the steps because of the hospital pants she was wearing. I'm really upset, and i need some incouriging words for both me and my mom. so i looked to advicentors, please help.
I continue to ask what is wrong with the world nowadays. You can't go a day without violence unjustly occurring somewhere.
Those people are just flat out bitches/bastards and they have nothing to live forward to but jail in the future.
I'm glad that your mom didn't get major injuries. My friend got shot by people driving by. Wrong place at the wrong time thing. I guess it was the same with your mom? But, yeah. What doesn't kill us only makes us strong, right?
those people will end up in jail for something else, if not this. They have nothing to look forward to or live for. In the end, your mom's the winner =)
I hope that she gets better very very very soon & that those mother f.ckers go to jail soon.
15/f. i had sex a couple days ago and i know im young i have a question im not here to be lectured that im too young to have sex. the kid i did it with he said the condom had a hole on tha side but he was told that if a condom breaks then it snaps at the top and rolls down. is there a chance i would get pregnant if it just had a hole on tha side of the condom?
If there's a hole, well, it's basically a paved road for semen directly to your vagina...
So yes, there is a likely chance you could be pregnant. Condoms aren't always 100% reliable so also have a back up like the BC pills.
Hey everyone.
Before you just look at how long this is, it's actually a pretty interesting story and I really need some advice here!! :-P
I'm a 14 year old girl and my best friend, Mike, is a 15 year old guy. I really like being around him and hanging out with him. You should also know he's a very awkward guy - probably the most awkward one I know...meaning he isn't always the most personal guy who tells you all his secrets, etc. :-P But we are close.
Anyway, we've been close friends for about a year and a half now. Something weird happened in 7th grade and we "dated". it was very awkward and didn't last, though.
So, we've been hanging out much more this summer, lately, than we really have before. He asked me to go to a movie with him after x-country practice yesterday, and I figured, you know, since he always asks me to go places (as friends, of course) it was no big deal.
Well.....when we got there, we were the only ones in the whole theater and the movie was about to start. He said "where do you wanna sit?" I said "just not in the front". So, he picked a seat with the arm-rest up. I have been thinking he likes me as more than a friend for a little while now...but then just think I'm imagining things. Anyway, he picked those 2 seats out of the whole theater. I figured it might not mean anything, and I went to the bathroom.
When I came back there were a bunch more people in the theater, and he was like, I don't wanna be right behind these people, let's go somewhere else. I was like....okay? haha
so, I figured, you know, being the awkward guy he is -- he'd feel weird sitting with the armrest up since that usually means youre planning on being pretty close....so, he moved back like, 1 row, and picked ANOTHER 2 seats w/ the armrests up!
I thought, oh man, he's gonna try to hold my hand or something! Then our other friend, Vinny showed up. He sat next to Mike, and I was on the other side of Mike. Mike managed to sit as far away as possible from me the entire movie.
I STILL can't figure out why he wanted to sit in those 2 seats so badly if he wasn't even gonna sit close to me...maybe it was because it would be weird with our other friend there??
I'm not sure. But anyway, sorry this was so long but I'd greatly appreciate some opinions...I told my brother and he just laughed at me, haha. But it's weird! Does he like me? was he waiting for me to "make a move"?? I don't think I really like him like that....but I had sometimes during the movie where I actually hoped he would hold my hand! Its very confusing.
I don't know, it sounds pretty dumb but you're talking to someone who's never even held hands with anyone, so it was a pretty big deal for me, especially with him being my best friend and all.
Thanks so much!
:>)
My not scientifically proven bet is that he does like you somewhat, but isn't very comfortable showing that, especially when a buddy of his/someone he knows/his friend[s] are near by. If Vinny didn't show up, then maybe he wouldn't have sat away.
I'm not quite sure about the arm rest things. But, yeah. I think there's a chance that he likes you and the only reason he sat away was because his friend was there and he might have been shy/embarrassed to get all bf/gf like thing with you in front of his friends...
15/f
Emily
I am 14/f.
I weigh about 132lbs and I look+feel really fat.
How can I loose about 10lbs without a strict diet. I just need some advice on what to eat, and at what times...and it should be something that works :)
Thanks!
Go to my forum =)
I have topics for losing weight, exercises, stretches, and protein/carbs/fat which you should definitely read.
how do you know if a condom breaks?
Best way it to put the condom under water and see if the water seeps out from anywhere...as if you wwere filling up a balloon for a water balloon fight.
Ok, I need advice concerning my weight. I'm 15/f and not obese, not even overweight (according to my doctor). Whenever I tell people that I think I'm fat, they give me that "you're not fat, you look just fine" speech. The problem is, I have a lot of body fat. With my clothes on I look pretty normal but a little chubby. Underneath my clothes, which I can see, I have a LOT of fat. It's around my belly, buns, thighs, etc. ESPECIALLY my belly. I've even noticed some on my face lately. I really feel disgusting and I can literally feel the fat hanging on my body. I'm too embarassed to wear bathing suits. I look HORRIBLE in pictures. I wore this strapless, knee length dress to a party thinking I looked pretty good. Then, I looked at the pictures of the party and I just started crying. In one picture I stood next to my 50 year old mom and she looked really thin compared to me. I eat pretty healthy meals at home because my parents are health nuts and I hardly ever eat fast food. My only weakness is snacking which in my case isn't even that severe and we don't even have much junk food in the house anyway. My plan for this fall is to run cross country, eat really, really healthy and try not to snack too much, and do all kinds of abdominal excercises and lift weights. Do you think this is a good plan for me? Do you have any tips on diet and excercise. My goal is to be two clothing sizes smaller by the end of cross country. Do you think this is a realistic goal? Is it possible that this is just my body type and there's nothing I can do about it? Is it also possible that this is just "baby fat" and will wear off as time goes on? Before I started puberty I was fairly skinny compared to others my age so maybe it isn't my real body type. Please help me. I'm sick of having so much fat. I really, really, really just wanna look trim.
PS. Sorry this is so long
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
You should go to my forum. It has 4 topics related to losing weight:
Lose Weight
Target Exercises
Stretches
Proteins, carbs, fat, wtf???
You should definitely read the last one, which seems to be neglected although it's a very important part of losing weight =/
Good luck and wish you well =)
I just got snakebites and like them,but now would like some feedback as to what type of object should i use and which would look nicer?
1)silver rings
2)silver studs
3)black studs
now i'm having black studs,but i'm open to any suggestions,is black or silver better?
Awww. I want snakebites =/
If it was me, I'd get silver rings with black/red/any color you want ball[s].
I don't really like stus for some reason. So I'd go for silver rings with balls.
14/f
when i sit down for a long time and then stand up i get kind of light headed and dizzy and i start like seeing blue fuzzy for a second and my head feels like...a rush of blood or something.
like normal people see this.
http://s100.photobucket.com/albums/m17/xoojessii/?action=view¤t=feet.jpg
but i see something along the lines of this for a few seconds.
http://s100.photobucket.com/albums/m17/xoojessii/?action=view¤t=blue-1.jpg
it doesnt happen like every time. just like maybe once a day or every other day.
i don't take any kind of medication or drugs and as far as i know i don't have any major medical conditions.
any idea what this is? or has it happened to you?
Don't worry.
It happens to me, too.
It's because you stand up too fast & get dizzy.
Just stand up slower next time.
14/f
i'm not really religious at all. my family doesn't go to church or anything and one day my parents found out i don't really believe in god. and they kinda like freaked and said we're going to start going to church and stuff [we never did]/ k so i have some questions about all this religion stuff.
-who wrote the bible?
-i mean really how is it possible that theres some great god up in the sky?
-who all thought of this? like there had to be someone who came up with this?
-who created these so called sins?
-if being gay is a "sin", why did this god create them?
-how do people know anything of what they looked like or did?
thanks =]
Well, I can't express my answers on here because I don't want to offend anyone or be banned for this. But I can tell you that I'm an athiest and so is my friend.
My mom believes in god but we never go to church. She's even bought a bible for me >.> Well, my family doesn't know where I stand with religion and I plan to keep it taht way. Well, my friend is an athiest and he still has to go to church every Sunday.
But religionfacts.com [or some site like that] has a whole lot of information on every single religion. So if you want, you can check it out there =)
how can i lose that inner leg flab??
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
Read the topic on Toning Exrcises. I should have 2 for inner thighs.
i have a weight problem and i need to lose a lot of it and fast any one know how to before school starts besides exersising?????
Sorry to say but you can't lose weight fast and keep it off, and I assume you'd like to keep that weight off, right? And without exercising, you're depriving your body of the needed exercise and results may not come as quickly as it would if you combined healthy eating and exercise.
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
That's my forum. I have 4 topics on losing weight/eating healthy. It should explain a lot of stuff and help you lose weight. I really do suggest you at least walk for 20min 3 times a week. At LEAST. Good luck!
~Emily
15/f
I made a chocolate cake from the box with applesauce instead of oil. What would be the amount of calories instead?
Well, most oils are 120 cals per tablespoon.
So if that box called for 1 tablespoon of oil, take out 120 cals. Then add in the amount of cals the apple sauce had.
3 teaspoons = 1 tablespoon by the way. =)
~Emily
15/f
okay. so i have a physical on tuesday, tomorrow. and i smoked pot on friday and saturday day nights. and i have know effing clue waht to do. cause they will like make me pee in a cup right? oh btw im 14 and a girl. im not a pothead. it was only my second and third time.. but neways please help i have no clue what to do. my friend is telling me to drink bleach cause it\'ll clear my system but im scared! pleaseeeeeeeeee please please help :[
but im not going to drink bleach cause thats poisen and i dont want to die. my other friend said to drink tons of water and cranberry juice? will that help? i hope i have been. please if you have any ideas for me that will help clear all this stuff out of meeeeeeeee! please help :/
Well, you should''ve thought aabout this before you went off smoking pot. Seriously, you shuldn't even smoke.
I'm not going to start lecturing.
Under no circumstances drink bleach unless you want to die. As the first columnist stated, drinking fluids will make you go to the bathroom, removing some traces of pot, but again, it will seem suspicious.
Physicals do not necessarily have to make you urinate to test. The last time I went, they only checked my height, weight, eye sight, and gave me shots for an update.
Don't smoke pot! It's bad for you.
~Emily
15/f
is a 14 yr. old to younng 2 date a 16
In my opinion,I don't think so as long as intentions/reasons are pure.
I have a 16yr old guy friend dating a 14yr old girl. So, I don't think so. I mean, age shouldn't really be a barrier. And it really shouldn't matter. What should matter in dating someone is if they have the right intention and right reasons to date you. Not just because he wants to get in your pants or take advantage of you. Not saying that he. Trying to point out that ..ahh never mind.
No. Haha
~Emily
15/f
what motivation can i use to lose weight? i really want guys to see me as hot
Um, I think that you should lose weight as a way to attain a healthy life/lifestyle. Not for guys to see you as hot, because, really, all guys have their own meanings of "hot". Not kidding you, because 89% of my friends are guys, sadly, and I have never had any two guys give the same definition for the term "hot" on a girl.
Anyways, for motivation...
1. Buy clothes that you'd want to fit into when you lose weight, but make sure that the sizes are reasonable...hang it up in your closet or some place you'll see it often.
2. Healthy life and lifestyle. What could be better than that?
3. Make a list of things you'll reward yourself with if you eat/exercise healthily for a week. NOT with food, mind you. With maybe like a "at-home spa day" or going bowling or hanging out with friends. Stuff like that.
4. Healthy life and lifestyle. What could be better than that?
5. You'll gain more self confidence, I guess.
6. Healthy life and lifestyle. Get my point? Good.
Good luck and if you want, I have tips for losing weight in my forum
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
is there any way to gain weight in the butt and thighs?
You can always try to gain weight, but know that 99% of people's genes are programmed so that they gain weight first in their tummy unless they exercise well.
So, google stuff on how to gain weight. Now, well doing that, focus all your workouts on body parts you do NOT want to gain fat in, while keeping your butt and thighs moderate to little exercise. This is really important or you'll just gain a lot of tummy fat. So google stuff on gaining weight and target exercise/vigorously exercise parts of your body you don't want to gain fat in.