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My friend told me she is bisexual and I don't know what to do!
Okay my best friend just told me shes bi..And im a girl to.I dont know what to do, should I still be her friend or should I like not be..Im kinda creeped out cause I dont want her to like hit on me or nething.What should I do? Im only 14 to what should I do
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Sure you should still be friends as you have a nice time in her company right!
Don't wreck a good friendship for something your friend can't help. She maybe bi but it don't mean she is going to hit on you. She still likes boys as well you know.
The fact she owned up to being bisexual means she trusts you and she must have been brave to do so. Don't worry about her hitting on you just enjoy her company.
Hope this helps.
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This is a very hard topic to get on but Im not going to affend anyone! Now friends are so called people that will be there for you till the end! keep that in my mind! Teen suscide is among a very high rate in this time in the most of it has to do with bi or gay teens! So instead of turning in your friend be there for Her just simply let her know that you aren't bi but you will be by her side! You don't know what she is thinking in her head and by her telling you! That just means you are important to her! So Please be supportive we don't need more teen blood sheded!
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I am old enough to be your grandfather and maybe the maturity of my age will help you decide what to do if the advice fro the other advisers has not already done so.
You friend is today the same person she was the day before she came out to you about her sexuality. This was a big step for her; one that not only took a lot of courage bit showed how much she trusts you to keep her trust (secret).
She is still the same person she was before she told you she is bi, you can still do all the things you did together before she told you. Whatever those things that young girls do together, make-up parties, sleep-overs, double dates nothings changed.
To be frank is this young lady is the same age as you she may not be a confirmed bi as at your age teenagers, boys and girls are still searching out their sexuality. Puberty and the resulting changes caused by the new hormones raging through your bodies are causing her to explore her sexuality in away that is different from how you are.
In college I found, and so will you, a large number of girls who were bi that today are as straight as an arrow. Why was this. For one thing it was safer to have sex with say a roommate or dorm-mate, it was more convenient and it relieved the sexual tension that builds up.
There is nothing wrong with being bi or gay. If you want or feel you have to; tell your girlfriend that your happy for her but you are not into a bi lifestyle but want to remain friends and ask her not to try and get you to try any lesbian sex with her.
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She obviously considers you to be a rather close friend, I'm assuming, if she confided this in you. But dear, there is nothing to be afraid of. She is no different now than she was before. Just because someone is bi/homosexual does not mean they are interested in you. It's the same thing as having a straight friend. There is no difference. Be a good friend, be supportive, ask her questions (I doubt she'll get offended by any of them), instead of running away from this, learn about it, sexuality has nothing to do with friendship. I want to make this clear sweetie, just because someone is bi/homosexual does not mean they are attracted to everyone of their same sex. It's the same thing as being straight. You're straight? That doesn't mean you are attracted to every boy you see right? Friends don't judge other friends. Keep an open-mind dearie.
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don't just drop her as a friend, she confided in you and seems to trust you if she told you that. if she knows you're straight she won't hit on you.
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Well this is a good sign. Clearly she trusts you as a friend and feels like she can tell you anything. Don't be scared that she's bi...just because she's bi doesn't mean she's attracted to you. It may seem weird but think of it as a good thing clearly she trusts you so that must mean you're a great friend!
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Omgee because like, obviously of someone is gay or bi they obviously like any other girl they see!
Do you realize how bad that sounds? This girl is your friend and she trusts you enough to confide in you. Instead of shutting her out of your life why don't you be a good friend and be there for her?
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If you had a brother, would you worry about him hitting on you just because he likes girls?
If you let her know that you are 100% straight, she won't hit on you. Best friends are like sisters. She won't jeopardize your friendship.
Her telling you about her bisexuality is a huge deal. It means that she trusts you and wants to be honest with you. It means that she trusts you to be her friend and to not judge her. Keep that in mind when you're making decisions and judgments.
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if you are honest to god her friend. weather best friend or not you will accept who she is and she will understand that you are not that way everything can be the same between you to. she still likes guys you can still talk about guys you can still go to dances and movies. you were friends with her before she told you whats the big deal.
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hehe that happened to my sister too.. dont stop being her friend just because of it i mean dang have some respect!! if you just tell her : hey i dont think that there will ever be a future for us as a couple soo um try to hold back from this ok? lol and she prob wont hit on u if she knows your not like that!! trust me!!! lol she'll understand.. it will all work out for the best dont worry bout it!!
xoxo crystal
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DONT STOP BEING HER FRIEND. thats just mean. i would be creeped out too, but u should still be her friend. +plus+ since shes bi instead of homo, u can still talk about hot guys but when she brings up hot girls just keep your mouth shut lol
i know this advice kinda sucks-hope it helps!
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I`d still be her friend. Just because shes bi and you`re a girl doesn`t mean she automatically like`s you.I`d probably be creeped out too but i`d still be her friend.
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If she's your best friend it shouldn't matter what sexuality she is. Don't look at her any differently for being bi. And just because she's friends with you, it does not mean that she's suddenly going to develop a crush on you just because she likes girls. It's like if you have guy friends, you don't have a crush on every single guy you meet just because you're straight. You have to think about her like you thought about her before she told you she was bi. If she confided this in you, that means she obviously trusts you and values your friendship. Try to be as good a friend as possible and try to go back to normal, just because you know something about her that you didn't know before does not make her any different of a person.
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well u should still def. be her friend and if u guys are best friends and she tries to umm...ya know make a move then tell her ur uncomfortable and if she doesnt respect it then she's not worth it...if ur really not into being best friends with a bi then just kind of back off a little...at least she opened up to u
<3 josie
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Well you shouldn't just dump your bestfriend because she's bi. It probably took up a lot of guts for her to tell you that. You should still be her friend, she probably needs someone to be there for her.
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Hey... I am 14 too... I think you should invite your friend to the mall and sit down in the food court and tell her that you want to still be her friend because she is your best friend but you dont want her to think that you are lesbian or bi either and you dont want her to hit on you...if she does you could probably talk to her about it again...and if she does it a second time try to stop hanging out with her slowly...and hang out with her in public places when you do hang out and if you are comoratable with it you could have her stay the night but i dont suggest it.
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Dont stop being friends wit her cuz of that... im sure if she was in ur place she wouldnt do that to u... just tell her that ur str8 and as long as she doesnt come on to u... ur ok wit her being bi
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Its her choice of who she likes. My best friend is BI and i have no problem with it. She prolly wont hit on u cause she already knows ur not into that. If she does hit on u.. just flat out tell her (nicely) that ur not into girls.
Hope I helped!! Drop one in the Inbox if u need anything else!
**~~**Jeanine**~~**
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Dont stop being friends with her just because she is bi.Shes still the same person but just is attracted to girls too.Just make it clear to her that your not bi so dont try to do anything with ya.So dont ditch your best friend over that.Hope everything works out!:-)
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wow thats kinda yeah i understand but i would talk to her make sure that she doenst like u otherwize that'd be gross
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if your friend got up enough courage to tell you, then she probably needs your support right now, and her personality hasn't changed just because you found this out! also, not to sound rude but look at it from this perspective ~ isn't it a little cocky to think she'll like you just because you're a girl? i mean, you don't like every guy you're friends with, right?? just let her kno that you are okay with her being that way but that you aren't !
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I think that you should still be friends with her cause one of my best friends told me last year that she was bi... and I was just like ok... that's cool!... cause whatever!... that's her decission!... But like she would never hit on me cause we're friends... and she jus doesn't think of me or our other friends that way!... I hope this kinda helped you out!...
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be her friend!! just if she hits on her tell her to stop!
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You shouldnt stop being her friend just because shes bi. Most likely she wont hit on you and just still treat her like you did before she told you her secret and you should feel good that she told you. Hope i helped =) ask again
xO bRiTtaNy
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Of cours you should stay her friend, Tell her staight up that you dun want no realtionship with her or thingz like that.... hope this helpz! Beebyes! God Bless!
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okay i dont think you should stop being her friend cuz keep in mind she still likes guys too but you should keep out from doing things that might seem like your interested in her
hope i helped
..*..MarissA..*..
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what is the big deal about finding out that your friend is bi or lesbian?
you're afraid she's gonna hit on you because she's bi?
well are you gonna end your friendships with all your guy friends because they're straight and might hit on you?
think about it people.
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Dont stop being friends with her just because of the people she likes just let her know you dont want to be anything more than friends and if she knows your straight she probably wont do anything and shes your friend and i would hope she wouldnt do anything to jeprodize your friendship.
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dont not b her friend jus cuz shes bi....jus make sure u dont do nething that shed like lol
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Ok, just because she is BI is no reason not to be friends with her. I doubt she will start to hit on you. And if she does tell her that you're uncomfortable with it.
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No that would be awful this is a crucial time in her life wen she definetly needs freinds... and she will not hit on u she is ur friend... so dont diss her thad be dirty!
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If you guys are best friends then dont just stop being friends! I mean it probably took a lot of guts and courage for her to tell someone, and if you guys are best friends you need to have her back no matter what! Good luck! <333
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Of course you should still be her friend! Just because shes bisexual doesnt mean shes going to make a move on you. She knows that you arent interested in girls and she will lay off. Believe me, theres no sense getting rid of a good friendship because of it.
xoxo
ali
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If she's your best friend then I think you should be able to talk to her about how you're feeling. She obviously trusts you, otherwise she wouldn't have told you. She is going to need somebody to be there for her through this because it's probably not any easier for her then it is for you. Be a friend to her and stand by her side. It couldn't have been easy for her to tell you, because if she cares what anybody thinks of her it's you. Good Luck ~*CaSSiE*~
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hey hun..okai well u shood still b friends with her but jus tell her that u wood feel reeli uncomfortable if she tried to hit on u or if she does..nd tell her that ur not bi
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*Right now is not a good time to leave her. She's going through a big stage in her life and she needs your support. You're her best friend, I'm sure she wouldn't hit on you. Just help her out, or tell her who you think she would look cute with(as in another bi girl or a guy.)*
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She's still the same person! Stay her friend, you would want her to be your friend if you told her something. If she does start hitting on you, say that you don't care for it. If that doesn't help, then you might want to consider new friends. Hopefully she'll be open to talking about your boundaries until you're both comfortable.
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I think you should stay her friend. IF she hits on you or anything of the sort, let her know that your NOT bi and you get uncomfortable when she does that. she'll understand.
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