If David says he does not want to be in a relationship you cannot force him to be in one, but there is nothing wrong with showing him you're interested when you hang out with one another. Feel free to flirt with him a little. You can even DATE! Dating is NOT a commitment. However, just be sure to remember that you are both single. David is more than welcome to pursue other girls much like you are able to pursue other guys (and you should if you're not committed).

However, if you feel that you might become emotionally attached to David, or if it will hurt you seeing him with other girls, than it might just be best to start moving on now.

Cassie

It sounds to me like they could be vaginal or anal cysts. However, depending on your age and sexual history it is possible that these lumps are symptoms of something much more serious i.e. HPV, cervical cancer, etc. I don't want to scare you. I am not a medical professional and I do not know what exactly the lumps are, but I highly advise that you speak to a doctor about it ASAP. If you're anxious, bring a friend with you.

Cassie

www.collegeboard.com

www.collegesearch.com

www.collegeview.com

These are only a few of many sites. I am registered to others, but it's through my school. Your guidance counselor should be an excellent source for this kind of information.

Happy college searching!

Cassie Leigh

What I would do is just have small talk with him during the previews. You can comment on the upcoming movies they display or just ask him little questions about himself that will allow you to get to know him better. If you're having difficulty figuring out something to do afterwards you can probably bring it up then. Ask him what he thinks is the perfect end for your date and see what he says. If you're uncomfortable eating infront of him, you can always go for something small like icecream or french fries. That may not be as "look at how much I can eat" :) Also, feel free to watch the movie, especially if it's a good one. That way you'll have a conversation starter for when the movie is over. Feel free to comment on the things during the movie that make you laugh or scared or contemplative, but don't do it to the extent where you feel like you're talking to whole time. Just relax, have fun and I'm sure you'll be fine.

Best wishes!

Cassie Leigh

I wouldn't worry about losing your voice because you're starting to be louder. It's unlikely that it'll happen. I also play volleyball, but I happen to be one of the loud ones :) haha. I met this one guy during our drama production this year at school and he was extremely quiet. What I did to try to get him to speak louder was increase my volume obnoxiously anytime I would talk to him. The rest of the cast followed my example and eventually he started projecting more. I would suggest that during practice one day, your whole team joins you in exaggerating your volume levels. Even when you're speaking to one another, talk unnecessarily loud. It may help you get used to being louder around them.
Also, you can always try playing noise games. Who can call for the ball louder? Or play some two on two and yell jibberish back and forth to try and break the other team's concentration.

Let me know how it goes!

Cassie Leigh

I apologize in advance for the legth of this answer...I'm sorry.

one of the greatest things about being a Christian is that we are forgiven. We continuously spit on His will and His way and yet, He still saves a place for us in Heaven. It is a remarkable thing that I will never understand. I also believe that Jesus led by example, also through forgiveness. It is not easy to forgive those who have done us wrong. Infact, I got to a point where for as capable of hate as I am, I hated somebody who was in my life. I couldn't believe I was capable of feeling that angry and I was terrified. It was too far beyond my nature to be able to forgive on my own so I prayed to God for His help. I asked Him to show me how to forgive and to help me not feel so full of anger and hate, and sure enough life just started to get easier. Don't hesitate to ask God for help in getting through this, "Ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, knock and the door will be open unto you".

As far as going to a public school, it isn't as bad as it seems. I have had the priviledge of going to both private and public schools and I whole heartedly say that it was the best thing that ever could have happened to me. Don't consider this a curse, but rather as a blessing. You have the opportunity to learn so much from others, and also to have them learn a lot from you. Be a witness and lead the best life you can by setting an example to others.

God Bless You. - Cassie Leigh

I'm going to apologize in advance for the length of this answer...I'm sorry.

Speaking from personal experience, yes you are an idiot. BUT, that's okay. Many a times have I been a complete idiot in similar and EXACT situations, and this is where I stand today. It is VERY important that if you value the character and judgement of your friends that you DO listen to what they are telling you. They're only looking out for you. However, I still believe that it is equally important to give everybody an opportunity to make their own impression on you. If you like this guy and you want to attempt some sort of relationship with him, there is nothing wrong with that. BUT, I advise you on a couple of things. ONE - PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE keep everything that your friends and family have told you about this guy in your mind somewhere and DO NOT ignore it. Those are the people who should know you the best and have your best interests at heart. You may be okay with ending up hurt (props for that by the way, COURAGE RULES!), but your friends are not. They only want what's best for you. TWO - it is VERY important that when you become involved with a guy with a bad dating reputation that you take things SLOWLY and pay attention to EVERYTHING, otherwise you could end up with more regrets than you'd ever want in a lifetime. If you ever get an uneasy feeling during the relationship there is probably a good reason for it. Under NO circumstances should you ignore those feelings - address them instead. Don't hesitate to listen to your head when following your heart - you have a brain for a reason. I wish you the best of luck in the future. If you need anything else please feel free to write to me :) - Cassie Leigh

Well, if you haven't had your UTI treated, it could be some sort of kidney problem. My friend is currently on bed-rest from kindey inflammation due to an untreated UTI. Otherwise, it could probably be a menstrual related problem. Unfortunately I haven't gone to Med School so I can't exactly tell you what's wrong or how to fix it. But, I do think it's safe to say that you should see a doctor as soon as you're able to do so.

Don't let the fear of rejection or failure keep you from pursuing the things that you want. One of the worst feelings is having to look back and say "what if?". I say go for it. But before you do, I think you need to understand that a person's worth, or "league", isn't determined by how "hot" or how "popular" they are. It's determined by who they are as people. You'll be able to determine whether or not this guy is in your "league" based on how he treats you as an individual and who he is as a person.

That's cute :) I really like it.

It would probably be a good idea to tell him who you are eventually though. You could even tell him the same mysterious way. Maybe on each different thing you leave him you can put some sort of clue hinting to who you are. That'd be a lot of fun!

I think your neighbor is the least of your problems. Your age is this matter is extremely important because depending on how old you are, and how old the guy was could be potentially very dangerous. If he's considerably older than you I would imagine your neighbor might say something to your parents out of nothing more than concern for your safety, and there is nothing wrong with that. If this guy was closer to your age and it is generally accepted that your age group would be starting male/female relationships, I wouldn't think there would be a problem. Above everything though, all I want you to get out of this is to BE SMART. Do NOT become so consumed in attention from a guy that it impairs your judgement...I can say that because I'm 18 and I still have that problem sometimes.

I would imagine that after all that it's safe to say that he's probably interested in you. If he isn't, I would say that this boy has major issues. I suggest that the next time you two are hanging out, just ask him whether or not he likes you. If he says yes, tell him you like him too and go from there. If he says no tell him you were just wondering, because he's coming off as rather flirtatious.

Yes, it is completely normal. Your period will regulate itself out in time, don't worry :)

I'm never going to tell you that you are not in love. I believe more than anybody that love can exist in any age, and I can say that because I've experienced it. I can't lie to you though. Sometimes things change, and as teenagers, change is not unusual. It is more likely that your feelings will change as you start to surround yourself with other people, especially if either of you begins to develop an attraction for others. But, I think you know that already and that is why you are scared. The two of you will remain together as long as you maintain the feelings you have for each other. The environment you're in is irrelevant as long as both of you keep in mind how much you mean to one another.

-They both resurrected. Harry died and came back to life, the same as Jesus.

-They both returned from the dead to defeat evil: Harry defeated Voldemort and Jesus defeated Satan.

-They are both miracles. Harry was the only person to ever survive a curse from Voldemort, and Jesus is the only being able to resist the Devil's tempatation. You might also say He's the only one able to rid the world of sin.

I'm not sure what else I have for you. If you need more feel free to write me back. I'll try to think of other things.

To be honest, if this is going to be your first kiss, it might take awhile to get used to. My first kiss was pretty bad. I had no idea what I was doing, but it's normal so don't worry too much about it. The only way I can explain it to you for your first time is to move your tongue continuously like you're licking an ice cream cone - just out, up, and back in again. It can get a little tricky because your boyfriend probably has his own kissing style which will cause adjustments on your part, but if you don't have a lot of kissing experience that might be difficult for you to do. Just try to move your tongue in the same way he moves his.

In terms of how long to go...that's pretty much up to you and your boyfriend. You start and then just stop whenever you feel like it. If you get tired, some good ways to get out of it are taking his face in your hands and looking into his eyes and/or kissing him on the forehead and then resting your head on his shoulder and/or his chest.

If I were you, I would probably tell your boyfriend that you don't have a lot of experience in this area. In order for you to learn you need to be taught. Eventually, you'll pick up things here and there from every guy that you kiss, and you'll develop your own kissing style. But until then, just go with the flow.

Well, I would start by asking her what she thinks the reasons are for you loving her and go from there. If you really do love her, let her know and let her know your reasons for feeling that way. Just set the record straight. Whether or not she believes you is going to be up to her.

You also need to talk with her about how you're feeling. If you truly believe that she doesn't love you the way you love her you need to tell her that. And though it might be painful, relationships are not meant to be one-sided. Talk things out with her and come to some conclusions. From there, you can decide what you feel is the best thing for the both of you. Who knows, the whole thing could just be an insecurity issue for both of you and a huge misunderstanding. But, you won't know until you talk to her.

Yeah, I would stop will all genital related activities in the pool. Yeast Infections are NOT fun and that's a very good way to get one.

Well, I think that would depend on the guy. However, if you do happen to come across a guy who minds it, tell him to man the **** up because it's completely naturally. Really, it happens all the time. Your boyfriend said he didn't mind it anyway so tell him I said way to be a REAL man. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

You're not a whore. But, I do think that 14 is a little young to be getting into more than making out. I would say that you're not ready for that type of a relationship yet, and I would imagine you would agree not only because of the discomfort you felt while it was happening, but also because of your questioning the situation after it happened. If I would adivse you anything it's to learn from this situation, and do not under any circumstances let other people take advantage of you. If you don't want something to happen, be sure that you voice that you don't want it to and then see to it that it doesn't happen.

Hey! My name is Cassie and I'm 21 years old. I live in the suburbs of Chicago where I like to spend time with the important people in my life, play softball, and volunteer in my community. I am currently a junior in college. Throughout my years of schooling I have been involved in activities such as: volleyball, basketball, softball, theater, poms, choir, band, foreign language club, science team, and academic achievement programs. I am a Secondary Lutheran Education Biology Major with a minor in Spanish Education.

I enjoy getting to know people. I am generally an optimist and choose to believe that every individual has something to offer. Please feel free to ask me anything. I promise that I will consider every question thoughtfully and give you the best possible advice.

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