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whore?
there's this boy, whom I like alot- i'm going to call him jake. well today he came over, when my parent's weren't here, we didn't go outside but we were sitting on the bench& we started making out then he was leaving at ten, so I looked at my phone I was like twenty more minutes, then it started to get serious, like we would be kissing& for a few times he did would run his hand up my back& I was like if he tries to go under my bra or near my "private" area, i'm going to stop him, so he goes over my bra, like he was feeling them, just kinda touching? it wasn't bad& it was only for a few minutes. then we were kissing again& he stuck his hands down the back of my pants touching my butt, he would do that, then bring it out& then do that again, then he took his hand& he was playing w/ my "private" part's, like my panties were still in the way but he was playing with them over my panties& at the time I didn't care, I was like he still isn't in them, blah blah blah. & now that I think of it I feel horrible, weren't even dating& I let him do that, I feel so sick, like to my stomach& I feel like a whore, I already took a shower, he's the only guy I have done anything like this with, i've only even made out w/ one guy ever then him,& i'm fourteen, do you think i'm a whore?
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You're not a whore. But, I do think that 14 is a little young to be getting into more than making out. I would say that you're not ready for that type of a relationship yet, and I would imagine you would agree not only because of the discomfort you felt while it was happening, but also because of your questioning the situation after it happened. If I would adivse you anything it's to learn from this situation, and do not under any circumstances let other people take advantage of you. If you don't want something to happen, be sure that you voice that you don't want it to and then see to it that it doesn't happen.
<3 Cassie
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not at all. you're no where near a whore. you should never think about putting your self in any kinda category, most girls your age have many different sexual problems. you're young & you're trying new things. what's wrong with that?. but i do have to agree if you feel uncomfortable at any point in either your sexual life or your regular life. don't be afraid to say something.. good luck hun.
hope i helped.
-anjelica <3.
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First, its natural to feel the way you felt.
Sexual urges are meant to be pleasurable. Sex and sexual contact is very enjoyable.
Second, compared to some of the other kids younger than you on this website, you are actually doing VERY well. Youre 14 and your virginity is in tact. That puts you better off than the average right there.
Third. Trying to figure out how to word this.
Sex is something special to most people. Sex is different to everyone though, it can be special in different degrees. Your parents are going to teach you how special sex is to them, but thats not going to really work for you (this is why most kids and parents dont see eye to eye)
You are going to have to find out what sex is to you on your own. The good news is, you have the rest of your life. Its not something you have to accomplish today or tomorrow. Its simply something that you will learn about yourself. What is important to _you_?
What you did does not make you a whore. You are interested and curious, and learning that you are a sexual being. Theres nothing wrong with that, you simply have to be able to control the urges when they arent appropriate.
One of the biggest traps young women set for themselves in these situations is not setting clear limits.
You said to yourself "I wont do this I guess" and then he did, and you enjoyed it (Im guessing, but probably right, right?) and you let him continue. And it just felt wrong afterwards.
Every single part of that needs to be changed.
Set limits. Make sure the guy knows and respects them. If you dont want his hands inside your shirt/pants yet, even over panties or bra, dont let him. Tell him no, you personally are not ready for that yet. Stick to it.
Then, when you DO do something, you need to not be feeling horrible about yourself about it. When you make your decisions about how far you are ready to go and stick to them, it will help with feeling bad.
The last thing. Part of why you feel like a whore is because everything you've probably been taught about sex by your peers is wrong, and probably damaging to you. A person who has sex is not a whore, a person who has sexual contact of a lesser nature is not a whore. A whore is someone who sells their sex for profit of some kind (money or otherwise)
Next time, set your limits, tell the guy, and stick to them. It will help you not feel terrible later because you can think back and know that you stuck with what you were ready for and didnt stray outside it.
And to be honest, consider talking to your parents about it. I know, I know, parents == the devil. Some parents ARE really cool about this kind of thing. I have no idea if yours are/would be. Just consider it, think about how they would recieve it, and remember that your parents were your age once too. Its been a while but its kinda like riding a bike. You dont forget for long.
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definately not and do you want to know why? not only did you only allow a boy to touch you, not even you, but your underwear, but your questioning whether what you did was right or not and a whore wouldn't do that plain and simple. They wouldn't look back because they would be so used to it. Also, you're 14 and just trying new things and there is nothing wrong with that. I know kids your age who have had sex not once, not twice, but several times. You are perfectly normal and not a whore by anyones defination. Believe me, you have nothing to regret. Just be sure that if you're not comfortable with something to let the guy know for future situations.
Best of luck with guys :)
WiNTEROMANCEx
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no way your not a whore!
you didnt even have sex, and it was only once.
you didnt tell him to put his hand in your shirt and pants so its okay.
and making out is perfectly fine.
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Honey, you have nothing to feel ashamed of. You know, I felt the very same way about my make out session with all of my previous boyfriends, although they weren't as good as yours; you go girl. Anyways, you didn't do anything wrong and you have nothing to be ashamed of. You must learn to live life with no regrets. And you must learn how important it is in life to make your mind up, to follow through, and look back upon your actions with no regrets whatsoever. It's difficult yes. Not everything is planned. But it all comes down to how you feel about yourself and if YOU feel that you crossed a boundary for yourself. I don't think you did anything whorish.But if you feel that you cross some of the boundaries that you set for yourself, then simply try harder not to do so the next time, if there's a next time. There's nothing wrong w/ kissing and touching. You're young and you're testing the waters, but don't test too much unless you're sure that you're ready to do so. Don't be so hard on yourself. And in Websters New Ideal Dictionary, the definition of the word whore is PROSTITUTE. No really it is, literally, in front of me right now, that's what it says. And you're not that, so take comfort in the fact that you're not a whore. Hope I was some help and bye.
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whore /hɔr, hoʊr or, often, hʊər/
–noun 1. a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually for money; prostitute; harlot; strumpet.
That is from dictionary.com.
You didn't have sex- so you're not technically a whore. I wouldn't say that you're a whore.. I've heard of people doing much worse than what you did. If anything- he was a man-whore. You're fine. Most people make out with people they don't even know and then end up giving them a blowjob or handjob or even having sex with them. You didn't do any of that. You're fine.
And its perfectly normal to feel horrible. If you don't want him or anyone else to do it next time- don't let them. You were just caught up in the moment- and at least you didn't have sex. Maybe let Jake know how you feel.
--Jack
(15/m)
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girl your not a whore,
if you do it with alot of guys and your not dating them then yah i guess people would consider you one but dont worry your not =]
♥christina
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