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Governmental overreach is fine as long as other taxpayers pay your bills? If it's bad for the state to decide whether a woman can have an abortion or not, then why not have that same independent spirit over paying for healthcare? How can Hillary Clinton really say she supports people that are pro life if she will sees no problem with making them pay for people's abortions under universal healthcare? Personally, I'm pro life, but I can rationalize why abortion should be legal, and I can also rationalize why we should have some form of universal healthcare, but an abortion is an elective procedure, unless it has been determined the woman's life is at sake, but the majority of the time people get abortions are not cause of rape, birth defects, the life of the mother and other reasons pro choice people always bring up. The majority of the time it's due to a woman's lack of responsibility, simply, and I don't think it's justified for tax payers who disagree with a child being killed for no good reason to have to pay for that. What next, taxpayers should have to pay for people's traffic tickets? that goes against the reason traffic tickets are issued in the first place, to discourage bad driving.
Razhie's answer to you is excellent. I will boil it do to it's more concentrated form.
That is it is the economy of scale. The more people that pay it no something the less expensive it should be to supply. Emphasis on the word should for when the government administers a program nothing is cheap.
An example of what I am say would be school taxes. My children are grown and hopefully will soon be having children of their own. Why should I pay school taxes? I don't need the schools any longer.
Our school system has about 60,000 student on average. It costs about $2,450 per student to teach them for one year or $147,000,000. Yet the entire budget for the school system is well over a billion dollars a year or approximately $23,000 a year per child. That is quite a burden for a parent with multiple children in school. Because of the size of the community as well as a proper mixture of residential, business and light manufacturing my tax burden for schools last year was $1,800; less than the cost to educate one student.
Because of the economy of scale and the democrats desire to have the government supply everything to all people Hillary Clinton can be both Pro Life and for Universal Health Care.
I need whoever is reading this to keep an opened mind about how im feeling and why im feeling this way. Ive had daddy issues growing up, my dad is emotionally shut and doesnt really talk to me, infact he doesnt really talk to anyone in the house. He doesnt even know how to give us a proper hug without it being awkward, he doesnt ever tell me he loves me or that he wants the best for me. Never taught me how to drive, never helped me much in life. Never pays for anything, I work and am completely dependent on myself. I realized this starting to become an issue when I started getting into relationships, at first I didnt want it to affect my life in such a terrible way. I thought to myself that its okay that I dont have a good relationship with my father- However, I realize how it makes me feel absolutely devasted whenever something doesnt work out with someone in my life. I have been through a few terrible expierences in my life that taught me how strong I was as a person, and how people are not always permanent. Went through the typical heartbreak and came out like a rock. What I started to notice was how much pain Ive been through the past few weeks. I met this parent that works in the school i teach, his son is very dear to my heart and I feel like hes my own. I am 20 years old and he is 34 ( just incase that matters) I was walking to work while he was dropping him off and I saw him and said hello. He knows how much I love his son because his wife is always posting our pictures together and I am always tagged in some kind of picture with him. So i found him writing me a message on facebook saying how much he appreciates my treatment to his son- I ofcourse replied politely and then we started talking and he told me that he has a job offer for me he thinks Id be great in. Its his own company and he wanted me to work with him. So ofcourse, just like any normal person - I went to the interview and got accepted. He then told me how much he likes me and how he wants to marry me. In the midst of all of this, we got really close, hed call all the time, text, ask where i was, who i was with, how i was going home.. I pretty much kept my limits by not telling him how i felt about him. I told him that he was married and he told me the whole story about how they were supposed to get divorced as soon as they got married but they stayed together because of the kids and etc. I wont say all the details here because theres no point. But after a while, I noticed that he started to back down a little bit, doesnt call, text or see where I am anymore or sees how my day is going. Its only been happening for about 2 days but i feel like I am in a lot of pain. He was showing me how much he was going to take care of me and unforuntately, I liked that. Which is terrible because I am actually a really strong and independent girl. I dont fall for stupid words and all of that but for some reason him not talking to me is driving me insane. I shouldnt care because hes married and he has 3 kids, but i do. I do because I feel lke my dad put a hole in my heart that I can never fill, and I hate myself for feeling this way for someone I probably can never be with. And im pissed off that he kinda just threw me aside at this point. I feel so upset about more than just one thing but the one person Im really mad at is myself, for caring this much and for being naive. Any advice?
I do understand how you feel maybe more than you might believe. My father was a lot like your father and I almost ruined my marriage because of it.
There are a lot of pent up feelings that you have and I have had. Things that we locked away in nice neat little packages and stored in the deep recesses of our minds hoping that they would stay there and they will for quite some time.
If you are anything like I was they will slowly start to seep out and cause you harm in ways you would never imagine. In one sense the relationship you had with your father is already bothering you as this older man has given you what your dad never did. Now he is pulling back just like your dad. This hurts I know for in some ways I experienced what you are going through and that nice little brick building you have built will start to crack.
Don't be like me and wait until you are in your mid fifties and you're about to destroy what you took a life to build. Let a professional help you put things right. I finally did and things have been much better in my life and I have never been happier. As a teacher you should have great health insurance benefits and a EAP program. EAP stands for Employee assistance Program.
Contact the EAP benefits manager and get the phone number to call for assistance. Ask them to help you find a psychologist in your area. Generally the EAP program will pay for a certain amount of visits then your health insurance kicks in. The psychologist should become your new best friend someone you can tell everything to knowing what is said in therapy stays in therapy.
I will admit I didn't have much faith in therapy at first. I can't tell you how it works it just did for me. It's not the type of medicine I know or most of us know where if you are bleeding you bandage it or if you are sick you take a pill.
Therapy doesn't work that way there is nothing to bandage. You have to be honest and work with your therapist. If you do the issues you have, the ones you know about and the ones you have locked away, can and will be dealt with. Once you have dealt with these issues properly you will not be easily hurt, you will be a stronger person in a different manner, you will be happier and you will have a better life.
I don't have a suspended license. I just need to go in and do the tests but i wanted to buy a car before. Can I get a car registered in my name without a license? I live in Texas.
If you are buying a car through a registered Dealership they will know for sure what the law is in your state. Most states do link your registration to the soundex number on your driver's license. But as we all know cars can also be registered to corporations and as far as I know Corporations are not issued driver's permits. So it may be possible to do as you wish as long as you can find an insurance company willing to issue insurance for the car as most states if not all states will not issue a registration to an uninsured automobile.
Hi my name is Ciara I'm 21 and for about the past 6-8 months every one day out of the months I experience excruciating pain in my stomach on the right side right by my ribs and hurts so bad my back aches at the same time it makes it impossible to lay down sleep at all I'm not sure what I should do. I do however have back problems already and probably eat a lot of spicy food what can be causing this and should I seek a doctor soon
For something going on for this period of time I think it would be time to consult a doctor. I would suggest you consider seeing your Gynecologist if the pain if the pain you are feeling is during the period of time between the 7th and 21st day of your menstrual cycle.
The reason for my suggestion is although the pain is well above where your ovaries should be. The fact that this happens once a month leads me to believe something this regular may be tied to your ovulation. Pain can radiate to another part of the body even though the origin is someplace else.
If you do not need a referral from your family doctor to see your GYN I would suggest you go straight to the specialist doctor and see your GYN. IF it is not your ovary the GYN is also more qualified to diagnose and treat problems within the area you are feeling pain then a family practice doctor is.
I have never had a problem with my husband watching porn. We have watched it together multiple times. Recently though, we were having sex and he was haveing trouble staying hard. He blamed it on being to hot, but that has never been a problem before. Afterwards he went to take a shower, with his phone, "for music" , but when he came out and I hit the home button twice, there was porn up. I feel helpless, betrayed, and jealous. Oh and to beat it all it was porn about step sisters and brothers, and he has a step sister, who I believe is more attractive than me, and we were seperated for about two months a while back and he lived with his step siblings. They were "rumors" of the two sleeping together, which they both denied. Some body please tell me I'm not crazy for feeling hurt?!
Not knowing either of you and from the little you wrote it is hard to say one way or another what may be the problem here. As for feeling hurt you may or may not be crazy.
The fact that you found porn on his phone after his shower does not mean he used the porn for self-gratification in the shower. Questions.
1. Did you hear the music playing?
2. Was his shower longer than one he would normally take?
As for having trouble staying hard. It happens to almost all men at one time or another. Overwork, stress, tiredness, over the counter medications, blood pressure medications all play a role in erectile dysfunction.
As to the type of porn you found him to be viewing. This does not easily explain away given what you feel may have happened between him and his sister. Though this type of porn could also be a titillating fetish for him. Sex between siblings and parents is a very popular fantasy and fetish fantasy as well. There is a lot of fictional literature written on the subject.
First answer the questions I asked. Based on the answers you get I believe you will find the answer to your question. Once you have the answer you can then decide on what path if any you wish to take.
My daughter, 21 years old, has always had low self esteem and in most, if not all relationships, has at least mentally cheated with "friends" she has via the internet. I thought this time would be different, but apparently it isn't...last night I caught her texting with a boy. When I confronted her about it, I could tell it was more than just harmless texting - and she never denied that it wasn't more. I told her if I was wrong, then show me the texts and she refused...enough said. The problem is that she's getting married almost exactly a month from today....AND I'm dumping a boat load of money into it!
I know it can't be easy for her to live at home with her step-dad and I, but she's very lazy and very unmotivated. She has never held a full time job and does little around the house - 6 months ago, I told her she needed to make active plans to move out when she told me she was already engaged and moving out anyway. I suspected this marriage was just an escape route to get out of the house.
Last night I talked with her and told her this is a MARRIAGE and serious business...she can't play those foolish games that she did in the past. She can't long to have the attention of every man, because there will only be one now. In two instances of her cheating, I became very good friends with the boys' parents, so honestly, I was very embarrassed when her cheating was exposed. This case is no different...again, I've become very good friends with her fiance's mom and we talk often, even though she lives a couple hours away. During the heart to heart last night, I told her if my suspicions are correct, I will not forgive her this time around because she's already dooming her marriage to fail. You don't go into a MARRIAGE with relationships on the side.
Long story short... I'm beside myself and depressed that she has such issues about herself. She had no answer when I asked her why she does this. Just shrugged her shoulders and looked aloof about it.
What do I do? Have I done all I can by just talking to her and giving her the cold hard facts? It wasn't a short talk....she probably tuned me out after the first 3 1/2 minutes.
There is nothing you can do to fix this. Whatever you might try to do amounts to "leading a horse to water but not being able to make it drink." Your daughter is 21 legally an adult. Neither you nor anyone else can force her to change.
While I agree counseling might help I do not believe it is marriage counseling that your daughter needs. What she needs is to meet with a psychologist to find out why she has such a low self-esteem. You say your daughter is; "very lazy and very unmotivated." What she may really be is clinically depressed which is either brought on by the low self-esteem or the low self-esteem is brought on by the depression.
If either you or your husbands company offer the employees and EAP program, employee assistance program. These programs generally cover anyone lining in the home with them. This program will find a psychologist for her and pay for a certain amount of visits as well.
Suggest to your daughter that she get a complete medical checkup before she gets married. Try and speak to her doctor and ask that she be screened for depression. IF the doctor diagnoses depression then follow the advice and arrange for her to see a psychologist for therapy.
My feeling is treating one or the other will improve her self-esteem problem. Once that is improved you hopefully will see a different person in your daughter.
I really like this girl but I don't know how to open up to her. Can you guys tell me what to say?
I'm not quite sure by what you mean, "to open up to her." If you mean to introduce yourself or she is someone who knows you and you know her but you would like to become friends or date her. Then I suggest the following.
The best way I know to get to know someone is to find and interest or something that you have in common. Not knowing your ages I'm hard pressed to pick an example but a generic one would be something like Hiking.
Let’s say you find out that she likes to go on a hike which is something you like to do also. You could go up to her and say something like, "Becky I hear you like to hike, have you ever hiked any of these trails." Then list off some of the trails you have hikes. It's possible you will hit on one she has not hiked on yet but wants to or won that is her favorite. In either case you could invite her to hike that trail with you.
When people have something in common to talk about it relieves that awkward stage of trying to find something to talk about. Common interests are the key to every friendship. If you can learn of her interests she may have one you like. If so you have the basis of a friendship.
My boyfriend and I have almost gone all the way with each other. I love him and he loves me..he makes sure to tell me I'm gorgeous an ld beautiful everyday. He's just so nice to me and loves even the worst of my flaws. For the past couple weeks he has wanted to...finger ne and I know that I want it too. The only problem is that I'm insecure about my..down there area.. I'm afraid of what he'll say or think or that it won't be good enough or that something will be wrong with it. I just don't know why I feel this way or how to come to terms with it and accept the way i was made.
It is funny how we all feel the same about our sexual body parts, especially when allowing someone of the opposite sex to see them for the first time. We all feel insecure that our lover is going to find something wrong with what we have.
If your lover really loves you and is not just lusting for you. Then what you have is what your lover wants and they are not concerned with how it looks, tastes, smells or how big or small it may be. They love you and your sexual parts are part of you which allow them to make love to you.
There is a big difference to sex when someone loves you then when someone is just lusting for you. Many guys confuse the words love and lust. In fact many believe the two words are synonymous. Sex with them will be different as they will only be interested in satisfying themselves. They too are only interested in what you and is what they want without concern for how it looks. The difference will be in how you feel as the use you for their own pleasure.
Besides my advice not to worry how your sexual parts look. Please make sure your boyfriend really loves you and is not lusting for you.
So me and ny boyfriend had unprotected sex 3 days before i was supposed to start. I was supposed to start may 2nd but i havent started and he didnt cum inside me but were not sure if he was precumming..could i be pregnant ? Because i had been on medication the week before and ive been super stressed for about 2 weeks already
If you were today's from when you should have gotten your period then you should have been in your safe time. Meaning if you are like 85% of all women you would have been past the time of ovulation and the chances of getting pregnant are minimal to none.
Most women on a 28 day cycle ovulate somewhere between the 7th and 21st day of their cycle. from the first to the seventh day is considered a safe time to have sex as well as the twenty-first through the twenty-eight. bear in mind that sperm is viable for three days so it is important to know when you ovulate and an egg is ejected.
If you are among the other 15% women they can ovulate at any time; even during their period. This is why it is important to know when you ovulate. Especially if you are going to have unprotected sex. Which for reasons other than birth control you should be practicing safe sex and using a condom.
As for being pregnant I doubt it. You say you were on medication. Certain medications, especially some of today's antibiotics will mess with a woman's period. That coupled with the stress you are under worried about being pregnant will cause you to miss a period.
Stress is the major cause of a women missing a period and comes ahead of pregnancy as a reason. While I believe you are not pregnant if you wish to relieve the stress you are under take a home pregnancy test.
he is my college teacher, married and has a baby girl too. he used to say that i love you and all and i fell for him. he used to take me for drives and all. we have started being physical too. he has touched my boobs. gave me a vaginal massage from outside. i have not let him touch my vagina from inside. i know im very wrong. and i want to end all this. but he is my teacher and that scares me. he can use his powers against me. im realy confused. i want to end all this before it goes too far. please help
For just the reasons you mention is why this is so wrong. You are probably not the first coed he has come on to and you probably won't be the last.
The proper way to end this is to go to the school administration and to reports him. What he has done and is doing with you is an abuse of power. It is sexual harassment as well now that you wish to end the affair and are afraid to for the reasons you stated.
Once you report him it will become campus gossip that someone has reported him for sexual harassment. If there are any other coeds on campus he has done this with they very well may come forward as well as alumnus.
There is a reason students and teachers are not suppose to date and you have given them. You are both above legal age so there is no law that has been broken unless he has forced himself on you or threatened you in any way.
The best way to get out from under this with your GPA in tact is to report him to the school administration. I suggest you do not tell him in advance if you decide to do so. Doing so allows him to head off anything you might tell the school administrators.
Do you have to be very good at math to take on the course BS in Electrical Engineering??
I just enrolled on a university and I chose the course BSEE. Im kinda nervous about my math skills. Im not that very good about math.
Any Engineering Course is heavy in math. If your math skills are not up to the challenge talk to your course advisor. My son who is now a Paramedic had the same problem.
His Science and Biology skills were great. His algebra skills were lacking. In order to become a Paramedic and pass the course he had to have algebra as much of the formulas for delivering medication require algebra. Rather than let him flounder and fail his course advisor arranged for him to get the remedial help he needed so he could pass the algebra portion of his course.
Because of the help he received from his course advisor he graduated with honors as the honor graduate with a degree in Emergency Medicine.
Your course advisor should be able to do the same thing for you. All you need to do is ask.
so my cousin blake was adopted and we really like each other and he asked me out I don't know what to do he is really sweet and he cares for mw and I care for him he is always there for me when I need a person and once he kissed me and the sparks flew. What do I do I really like him is it wrong?
I am female 13 I am from America
Blake is your Cousin only because he was adopted by your Aunt and Uncle. I have a cousin also that was adopted by my Aunt and Uncle. while he is my cousin because he was adopted by my Aunt and Uncle if he was to have dated my sister or if they were to have married it would not be incest because they are not blood relatives. Which is the same situation you have.
You cousin is not your blood relative and therefore you are not committing and y sin by dating. If at some point in the future you were to marry you would not be breaking the laws against incestuous marriage because he is not your blood relative. You might have to explain this if the two of you have the same last name but it would be legal to marry and not be a sin of religion or the breaking of any laws.
What do you do when your dad, who is a crazy, ridiculous control freak tries to dictate who you marry? My dad is insane (I know that's disrespectful to say about your dad and I'm sorry), but he just doesn't want me to be able to run my own life. I've looked up the signs of an overly controlling parent on the internet and he has almost all of them.
I'm an adult (I'm 27) and he tries to control what I eat, what kind of car I drive, who I have as my friends, where and when I go to church, and other such things. Most irritatingly, he tried to control where I went to college, what classes I took, when I moved out of his and my mom's house, and what career path I chose. When I refuse to do as he says, he can have a giant fit and gets C-R-A-Z-Y. He makes me feel smothered and it's extremely unpleasant to be around him.
Now, what would you do if you had a father like this? What would you do if your boyfriend, who you love more than life, asked your father for your hand in marriage and your dad said no. He honestly believes he can stop me from marrying who I want to and I'm afraid of what will happen to our relationship when I go against his wishes.
If your dad just hated your boyfriend and insists that you two won't get married and knows you two are planning to get married against his will. He's threatened to put a stop to it, which he can't, but it's annoying that he thinks he can. It's also scary because he's the kind of guy who'd pull something like ruin the wedding IF he showed up at all. What would you do?
Wow Talk about a Narcissistic parent, I am so sorry for you. There is not much you can do to change your dad. There are things you can do to help yourself. From reading your note to us I understand you don't live at home with him. That's good.
I'm also sure like most children you would like to honor your parents and have their blessing as you grow and mature in life. It is apparent to me this is not possible for you unless you do as your father tells you to do. Because of how your father is towards you; you are by all respects morally released from having to honor him in the way you might like to.
You are 27 legally an adult and do not have to answer to anyone but yourself not even your husband, legally speaking. Once again if you are in fear of your father there are things you can do legally to protect yourself.
Just because he is your father that does not give him inalienable rights of access to you. He cannot enter your home or workplace without permission the same is true for your wedding. If he is not invited, should you chose not to invite him and nothing says you must. Then he cannot attend the celebration the Church is a different story as it is a public place of worship.
What you can do to insure he stays away from you, if this is what you want. Is to go to the district court and file for an order of protection. From what you have written you live in fear of being harmed in some manner by him, physically or emotionally. This is sufficient cause to get an order of protection. If he violates the order of protection you can have him removed by the police.
I know this is not something you would want to do, it is not something I usually recommend as the only solution to a problem. Based on what you have written it is the only solution that guarantees your safety and protection from him. Discuss this with your fiancé and do what you think best.
Hello I'm 13 and ashamed but I jerk off and I've never released white cum yet. I'd be weirded out if I asked my dad so... I'm asking anyone how to release cum.(you can tell me techniques or just give me instructions).also I wanna how to make your cum thicker or whiter. I really wanna learn how to gain son inches too just answer the questions you may have an answer to thnx!!!😉
Relax your only 13 and just entering puberty. Your cum will come, pardon the pun, as the hormones for it are released as you go through puberty. As for gaining inches if that has not already happened it will happen as you go through puberty as well as all of this is hormone driven.
These hormones are all released during puberty. They are like tiny time capsules and every ones hormones are released on their own schedule. Have you ever heard the term late bloomer? It refers to someone who goes through puberty later in their teenage years then most teenagers. There is nothing wrong with them it is just the schedule their body has chosen to go by.
So relax everything will fall into place. Puberty is actually supposed to start when you enter your teenage years and at 13 you have just entered your teen age years.
Just a note: There is nothing wrong with masturbation it is far better to take care of your hornyness in the privacy of your bedroom than to get a girl pregnant at your age. I understand not wanting to talk to dad about this stuff and I can only speak to myself about this. But we dads are here to answer these types of questions. We are the ones you can guarantee will give you the right answers to your questions.
I don't know your dad but if he has ever said to you as I said to my son; "son you can come to me with any questions you may have." Then trust that you can go to him. The only dumb or embarrassing question is the one you don't ask. The only thing I suggest is when you have a question is you ask him first if he has the time. You might say "Dad I have one of those question do you have the time now." This way you don't catch him in a bad mood or bad time.
It seems like my life is a big ball of stress. I'm often angry or annoyed, but still have plenty of happy times. I have headaches a lot, and I cut. Mostly when I'm stressed or mad. Also times when I'm sad. I don't use a knife tho, I use a fingernail file that has a piece of loose metal sticking out. I did lots of research on what I could be experiencing, but nothing seems to help. I seem to experience stress a lot, and am always getting into fights with my sister or other family members and it makes me want to break down sometimes. Last week I left marks on my leg after getting upset with my sister, and today they were almost gone, and me and my dad had a fight and I started crying and cutting myself in my room, opening the cuts right back up. I've only ever told one person about this, but she is an actual happy and carefree person, so she can listen, just not understand. I know one person who will understand but I won't see her till next month. I keep going on and off about whether or not I may be depressed, but don't feel comfortable talking about it with someone I don't completely trust. I Do sleep a lot usually at night, but I also workout and not sad all the time. I think of suicide sometimes even though I'm not gonna try it and I let my thoughts and emotions get the best of me. I get annoyed easily, and just experience anger. I seem to get stressed very easily and quickly too, and it causes me to lose control and experience all these crazy emotions. And no, it hasn't just been a passing thing either. Seems to be my life. Before I do something about it, how do I find out why I'm going through all this? I know people who get stressed, and believe me, the way I think and act isn't normal. Sometimes I just can't control it. Does anyone know a site I can use to find out more about this?
First of all none of us are doctors so we can't offer you any clinical diagnoses. What I can tell you is that your feeling of depression is correct, having dealt with clinical depression myself. Some of the things you listed as how you feel or experience, the fighting, the stress you feel and especially the cutting are all symptoms of depression.
Stress is part of the cycle of depression. As stress causes pain, both mental and physical pain. Pain causes depression and depression causes stress. It continues in a cycle until you break the cycle. Unfortunately this cycle is not something easily broken by yourself; it takes the help of professionals.
The first thing you need to do is see your family doctor and be properly diagnosed. Make an appointment for a complete physical. You will need one anyway to rule out any physical reason for why you are feeling this way. While you're with the doctor ask to be screened for depression. The screening is painless and consists of the doctor asking you a series of questions. Based on your answers the doctor can make a diagnoses.
Based on this diagnosis the doctor can best determine which of the other doctors or professionals are best capable of helping you and will set up a treatment plan.
Most people suffer from what is called clinical depression. At your age you may be suffering from teenage depression which is similar but more caused by puberty. Both are hormone driven in that you are lacking certain hormones to control stress and depression. Simple drug therapy with counseling to determine what your triggers are for stress and to help you cope better are the usual treatment.
I believe, from looking back at older questions you have asked, that you are old enough that you do not need parental permission to see a doctor.
I am 24 years old, living with an abusive mother. i have been in a secret relationship with someone that she hates. The reasons for hating him are not valid. My mother is a narcissist. Today, there were pictures caught of me at a big event. She can't find them on Facebook. I am so scared of her seeing them that I have even considered suicide. I would't go through with it, but it has crossed my mind as a result of the abundance of stress. She has threatened to kill me and/or him if she finds out that we are together. The problem is that I have not caught it on tape or recording and it was not written. So, if I bring it up to the police, it is her word against mine. Please help me. I am so scared. Please!
Lets' start with why at 24 years of age you are still living at home. Moving out of moms home would be the quickest and easiest way to solve this problem.
I understand financial reason may be one reason for living at home. There are alternative to getting your own apartment. There are agencies that specialize in finding people to share apartments or for people who may want to find someone to rent a room too. Contact a couple of these agencies, they can be found on the WEB, and tell them what you can afford and see what they can find you.
As to taking pictures off Facebook? I know Facebook will remove indecent pictures as for others I don't know. You can contact them to find out. In the mean time you can unfriend your mother and ask your friends to unfriend your mother or anyone you are friends with on Facebook who may be friends with you mother ask them to unfriend her or you unfriend them.
GO to your account setting page and change you account setting to the strongest security so that only your friends can see your page. Change your password and make sure to sign out every time you leave Facebook.
As for the threats. They are most likely just that threats. The problem with a threat from a legal standpoint is this. IF I threaten to harm someone and that person believes I can harm them. Even if I meant it as just a threat, from a legal standpoint in most states it is now an assault. Most likely just a misdemeanor offence but still I can be arrested for making it. No one else has to hear it and it does not have to be on tape. The person threatened just has to be in fear and have reasonable belief that I am capable of carrying out my threat.
You are scared, if you believe your mother is capable of harming you; then call the police.
m a virgin bt me n my bf messed up rubbing n stuff n did ejaculated on my vagina ... it was on 11th april n my due date was on 28th april ... m sacred a lot plz help i always hv periods on time n m 18 .. m pretty much scared .. plz help me out
The chances of you being pregnant because your BF ejaculated on your vagina are slim. Sperm actually has to enter your vagina. Given the dates that this happened on the 11th and your period is on the 28th; that is 17 days before your period. You should have been in your safe period when for most women they cannot get pregnant.
To get pregnant you must be ovulating. This generally happens during a normal 28 day cycle been the 8th and 21st day of your period. Sex during that time has the greatest chance of a pregnancy happening.
The best reason why you are late is stress. More periods are late or missed altogether because of stress. Just why this is doctors cannot say for sure other than the stress upsets the delicate balance of the menstrual cycle.
Try and relax and stop worrying about being pregnant for the chances are very slim, less than 0.0001%. IF you really want to assure yourself that you are not pregnant purchase a home test kit. Be aware that false positive are more possible than false negatives. Should you test positive wait ten days and test again.
One other thing if you have been taking a new antibiotic or over the counter medications for say hay fever these also could affect your menstrual cycle.
My friend, James, died a week ago and I had to keep my emotions in because it was best to not let my mother know. She'd ask too many questions and I couldn't handle that. He was like a brother to me and I don't know what I'm going to do without him. I cut my arm and my thigh again and it helped for a little while but the pain came back. I'm wondering if I should do it again.
My condolences for your loss. Losing a friend is always hard but the pain does get better.
Cutting is not the answer as is second guessing what a parent can and can't handle. As parents are job is to keep you safe. If your cutting then you are not safe and need help. Moms job then is to get you that help and to get you the proper help she needs to ask questions. I understand you may not like the questions or think she has no right to ask them or is being invasive in your private life by asking them. All of that may be true but if you do not share your feelings then as a parent it is her job to pull this information from you to keep you safe and healthy.
Don't try and guess at what mom can and cannot handle. I assure you mom is much stronger than you believe. She may yell, she may get angry she may even blame you it does not mean she is not handling whatever it is in an appropriate manner. It also depends on the problem, how it is presented to her or the situation in this case and whether or not you are involved in something you were not suppose to be.
There are two sides to every situation. When you say mom can't handle something. This leads me to believe there is something, another side to the story, maybe not this one but others, that you are not telling us. As parents there are a lot of things we know that you think we don't know. In fact all you are doing is reinventing a wheel that we tried to reinvent on our parents who also tried to reinvent on their parents.
There's very little you can do that we haven't done or tried to do when we were your age. This is why we get we get upset or fly off the handle at some things and it looks as if we can't handle things. Most likely because we have tried to tell you not do whatever it is that has brought this to a head and your now telling us about it.
So don't say mom can't handle something. She can and she will especially something like cutting as it has to do with you health and safety. She can also offer you some comfort while you grieve for your friend. Grieving is natural and there are many different parts to grieving and you will go through most of them.
My mom was making some food for our pet and she poked a hole in the cup, she told me to throw it away so I did. She then starts screaming at me that I put it in the wrong trash can. I said how was I supposed to know. She then started screaming at me about how I never do things. I really can't take it anymore. She really embarrasses me to because we have a screen door and everybody could here us that was outside. She always does this, and it's starting to get ridiculous. Please help, I really don't know what to do.
There is really not enough information here with which to give you much in the way of advice. What I can do is ask you if this is something new in how mom is acting then there may be a medical reason for it and to try and get her to see her doctor. Tell the doctor the has been a change in how mom is acting; flying of the handle at little things, yelling and screaming and how this is different from ho9w she has been.
If this is not a new way of acting for her then I need more information on how you and your mom interact in order to give you better advice.
Im dating a man now weve been dating fir two months. He got married when he was 23 and got one daughter. Last 2013 he got another son with different women but they got separted now the custody if the child is with him. his open to me with regards to his family and child . Though our dating still remain secret ..the two of us only know were dating . im still single his older than me about 10 years older shoul i continue to date him?
Love may be blind but even a blind person can see that this guy is not someone you should be dating.
1. He is all but telling you he can't be true to any women that he is a cheater.
2. He is dating you in secret which means he is cheating on his wife now.
3. He has had a child by a woman other than his wife.
4. He wants you dating to be a secret because you just some sex on the side that he can have when ever he wants.
Is this what you want. Waiting around, sneaking around for a few hours of pleasure with him when he wants it. I would think you would want the whole package husband, children and house with picket fence in the suburbs.
You deserve a lot better than someone 10 years older than you who only wants you for his own pleasure. Take more pride in yourself that you deserve better. He will never leave his wife and even if he did. Why would you want someone who you never know whose bed he may be sleeping in.