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My mom is driving me nuts
My mom was making some food for our pet and she poked a hole in the cup, she told me to throw it away so I did. She then starts screaming at me that I put it in the wrong trash can. I said how was I supposed to know. She then started screaming at me about how I never do things. I really can't take it anymore. She really embarrasses me to because we have a screen door and everybody could here us that was outside. She always does this, and it's starting to get ridiculous. Please help, I really don't know what to do.
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Advice man is right. We dont know enough to know if shes always been verbally abusive, and thats who she is or if this is due t some recent change in her life, stress at work, loss of a mate, etc, or a change in or new medication with a side effect of becoming irritable.
In the long run, either if she's been like this all along and its just more obvious now, verbal abuse is a serious thing, it affects the people around the one who does it and someone like that needs to recognize first that they have a problem and then want to see a professional counselor to learn how to overcome this, whether its just with therapy or medications as well.
If it's stress causing this or even taking a medication that gives this kind of side effect, in the end, it all boils down to the same thing, her reaching out for help from a professional.
And there's nothing you really can say that will get her to want to talk to a professional.
What you can do is keep your responses calm and let Mom know that you don't like it when she yells and verbally cuts yu down. It's degrading, embarrassing and not necessary. You'd like her to treat you with the same respect you give her as a person, especially as your mom. But it is really beginning to bother you and your also worried about her, wondering what might be going ooon personally inside her, in her life that is causing her to act like this towards you. You can understand her being stressed over something in life, but you would a ppreciate if she didnt let those frustration out using you as a verbal punching bag.
See what response that gets. If she trys to turn the blame all back on you, thats a defense mechanism, she probably IS aware that something is wrong in her, in her life and would rather continue to ignore and pretend its not there.
If she won't go for help or reach out on her own, then you'll need to make the situation know to other adults in her life so that they can talk to her.
You didnt mention a Dad. Even if divorced, you should talk to him and let him know whats going on. You may need to talk to a school counselor ( after talking to Mom first). Or perhaps you go to church and can tell the pastor. Tell grandma,
However, before you start down the road of Mom having the actual issue, if your a teen girl going through puberty, teen girls can become very combative, angry, easily irritated and lash out first at usually the females in their life, either Mom, sisters or best friends. And this can also be a reason for Mom being more irritable with yoou in return.
Good luck.
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There is really not enough information here with which to give you much in the way of advice. What I can do is ask you if this is something new in how mom is acting then there may be a medical reason for it and to try and get her to see her doctor. Tell the doctor the has been a change in how mom is acting; flying of the handle at little things, yelling and screaming and how this is different from ho9w she has been.
If this is not a new way of acting for her then I need more information on how you and your mom interact in order to give you better advice.
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