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theres this guy whos my teacher and who is married
he is my college teacher, married and has a baby girl too. he used to say that i love you and all and i fell for him. he used to take me for drives and all. we have started being physical too. he has touched my boobs. gave me a vaginal massage from outside. i have not let him touch my vagina from inside. i know im very wrong. and i want to end all this. but he is my teacher and that scares me. he can use his powers against me. im realy confused. i want to end all this before it goes too far. please help
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Hey. This relationship is definitely wrong. You know it is yourself. But YOU are not wrong, HE is. He is a suppose to be an authoritative figure and he abusing his powers. If he is married and has a child, I would assume he is some years older than you and he is acting like a predator. What about him scares you? He's only as powerful as you see him, the truth is, he works for other people too (people who are more powerful than him) and trust me, those people would be very upset if they found out he does this type of behavior.
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You need to inform your school.
What he is doing is wrong. It's coercive, it's bullying, it almost certainly against the rules, and it might even be against the law.
Protect yourself, and protect others, by reporting him to the school.
Yes, it's risky and it's terrifying, but if you don't it wont get better. You'll still be at risk and so will every other young women he uses his position to abuse.
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For just the reasons you mention is why this is so wrong. You are probably not the first coed he has come on to and you probably won't be the last.
The proper way to end this is to go to the school administration and to reports him. What he has done and is doing with you is an abuse of power. It is sexual harassment as well now that you wish to end the affair and are afraid to for the reasons you stated.
Once you report him it will become campus gossip that someone has reported him for sexual harassment. If there are any other coeds on campus he has done this with they very well may come forward as well as alumnus.
There is a reason students and teachers are not suppose to date and you have given them. You are both above legal age so there is no law that has been broken unless he has forced himself on you or threatened you in any way.
The best way to get out from under this with your GPA in tact is to report him to the school administration. I suggest you do not tell him in advance if you decide to do so. Doing so allows him to head off anything you might tell the school administrators.
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WOW, yeah this is tricky situation you have going on here. Well you could always say to him (if he tries to take you out again or meet after class when your both alone) that you cant help but feel bad for his wife EVEN if hes unhappy with her or she "treats him bad" that you feel really guilty and cant live with yourself if you continue this but that hes "not a bad person" and you wont go and try to do anything to ruin him, but that this just doesnt feel right to you in your heart.
Let him down easy basically and maybe just try to boost his ego by saying hes a good person and that this was all a mistake and that its not totally his fault, you played a part in it too and you feel bad enough about that.
It really isnt cool that hes cheating but for right now you need to try to tell him whatever it is you can to try to both keep him calm, and end things on an OK note.
This really IS a two way street though and you did continue to do this even though you knew he was taken i would assume, so what im telling you to tell him IS mostly true. Im just saying basically to leave out the whole part about his cheating and taking advantage of a student because thats not going to help YOU at this point.
Maybe you could offer to still be friends and keep in touch and if he wants to just talk ever that your here for him ((((just until your done with the class of course not for REAL)))) ; )
I see the situation your in and thats the best way I WOULD handle it. basically "dont piss him off"
good luck though and i hope things work themselves out.
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