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i like my adopted cousin
so my cousin blake was adopted and we really like each other and he asked me out I don't know what to do he is really sweet and he cares for mw and I care for him he is always there for me when I need a person and once he kissed me and the sparks flew. What do I do I really like him is it wrong?
I am female 13 I am from America
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Blake is your Cousin only because he was adopted by your Aunt and Uncle. I have a cousin also that was adopted by my Aunt and Uncle. while he is my cousin because he was adopted by my Aunt and Uncle if he was to have dated my sister or if they were to have married it would not be incest because they are not blood relatives. Which is the same situation you have.
You cousin is not your blood relative and therefore you are not committing and y sin by dating. If at some point in the future you were to marry you would not be breaking the laws against incestuous marriage because he is not your blood relative. You might have to explain this if the two of you have the same last name but it would be legal to marry and not be a sin of religion or the breaking of any laws.
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No there's nothing wrong with him being your adopted cousin and it things work out to date...thats fine.
It might twist some family members brains around but nothing ethically wrong.
Heres an explanation as to why some people will say it's wrong. Long ago in ancient past, people married into closely related family and with todays studies, the concern is the possibility of medical problems due to inbreeding in children from two related by blood and genes people.
Why inbreeding is an issue:
We do inbreeding all the time to have show dogs, pedigree animals and it is all us humans inbreeding animals to get hopefully the best of their traits and markings. Unfortunately, that practice also brings out the worst of the flaws in the children. As a result, the dogs of today in some cases no longer resemble their breed 0f 30 years ago. And the expensive breeds of today all have tendencies to physical problems that come with inbreeding. Soo, long story short, thats the major concern. They've figured its safe enough for 2nd cousins to have children together and not likely have problems.
In your case, he's not blood related at all, so you're fine. It's not like you're going to be marrying tomorrow anyhow and that gives relatives some time to get used to the idea if this relationship is one that lasts into the future.
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