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My bestfriend and I've got some pretty naughty habit
We're both boys, age 14. Both of us are straight
We act like we're not bestfriends. Everytime we take a bus, I sleep on his shoulder. Everytime we sleep together we hug each other tightly. We also habittualy say I love you, but most of all, we kiss. I've no idea why we do it. I'm not disturbed by this at all, its fine with me, but it just sounds pretty wrong? When I do it, I feel like the trust between us increases and it feels really good. We both like it and we both understand that it's not a boyfriend kiss.
Do you think it's weird?
And Im really sure we're straight, not bi, but if we're going to end up together, I wont mind, he's fun to be with
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Im going to be a straight shooter here for you, honestly it sounds like you may be confused still about who you are sexually.
I have a big brother and grew up about his friends and they NEVER did things like that. The only thing i remember was them looking at nude mag's or passing around a porn collection with each other. Ive also had and still have straight and gay guy friends, their habits, and their pref.on relationships.
whos to say your one way or the other though other then you?
But from what i know thats not normal straight teenage boy behavior. even for close friends.
So I WOULD SAY, that it sounds like your just bi-sexual but your still maturing and growing as a person so theres no way to know for sure yet.
I think youll be fine, you just maybe need to think more about where you are on your sexuality.
good luck ; )
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I'd say it's a bit more common for straight females to kiss, and cuddle-up in bed or stuff watching a movie, or asleep or something. Us guys are not usually quite so 'touchy-feely' with our male friends. The odd hug is about as far as most of us are comfortable with, and that's a bit too far for some of us!! If you're both comfortable with showing your affection in a more physically intimate way then I can't see any problem. You seem to have a great attitude to the situation from your last line. So don't analyse things too much, just see what happens. Might point out that a lot of guys of 14 or so are sort of aggressively heterosexual and totally homophobic. Girls can be equally single-minded on the subject. Girls kiss guys, sometimes othe girls. But guys don't kiss each other! Don't rely on them understanding the set-up as well as you two do either. You might chose carefully who you share the info with for a while yet unless you can handle a bit of teasing, or maybe more malicious comments. It's very difficult to change sexual stereotyping in a teenaged peer group. Almost impossible, perhaps? Anyway, it's nobody elses business really is it?
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At your age, you may know in your heart you are not bisexual, but through life experiences, if you do end up finding one male love but otherwise only prefer girls, thats fine. I've known bi sexual woman who prefered only women and thought they were gay until just one right man came along and they married and the husband knew she loved women and he was okay with that.
So it can really end up in any combination.
Also, I have learned in life that theres two kinds of needs people get fulfilled from a partner, the emotional needs, the kind you get from a best friend, and the sexual ones one gets from a lover. Too many find only one or the other in who they marry. Some find the one need taken care of by one person, and the other by another. It would seem the love you feel and connection you both have is more the emotional one. Not many people can understand this, mainly cus its different from the majority of what they've seen and known in their live and people still do become critical of anyone different from themselves, out of the bounds of what they consider their personal norms.
So yu dont have to worry or feel guilty for doing something wrong. In America, its odd for men to kiss while in other countries its still a traditional way to greet others, with a kiss on each cheek or the quick peck on the lips. there's more stigma with men kissing in America tho we are slowly making progress towards educating the public that there is nothing wrong with a person having a different sexuality or gender ID from the majority. Different doesnt make something abnormal, just different.
So hate to burst your bubble but I wouldn't consider you and he kissing to be naughty. It still gets me how some people still consider Naughty any sexual thing between two consenting adults. Naughty nows means "something forbidden" in society when used, but when I grew up, naughty still meant that you were bad, had disobeyed or broken the rules the parents laid out for you. You are not bad, disobeying or breaking any written rule I know of.
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