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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

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I started using the triphasil pill since 16 jan 2015 and have not missed one pill,i take it at the same time everyday but this past 2 weeks iv been takin it a bit late sometimes an hour later or so cause i take it at 5am..i had unprotected sex on the 11 june so like will i get pregnant seeing that i took it late and had sex eventho i did not miss a pill yet...iv gotten back on track with taking it a 5am again

Taking your pill a bit late will not affect your protection or even if you miss a day. If everything else with you is normal you should be fine. The pill has a cumulative affect on your fertility.

What does affect your contraceptive medication is taking antibiotics so talk with your pharmacist about interaction with you contraceptive medication when a doctor prescribes another medication. It may be necessary to use condoms while on this other medication and for a period of time after you finish the other medication.

When you decide to get pregnant don't expect to become pregnant right away. Depending on the medication you're taking it could take 30 to 60 days for the contraceptive medication to fully work out of your system.

I know this sounds like a contradiction with the information about other medications. Its not. The other medications you might need to take are an abnormal situation where as going of your contraceptive medication would be a normal event and that requires the body to readjust.

Can you make yourself pregnant

It is biologically impossible for anyone male or female to make themselves pregnant. That being said there is the possibility of a female having what is called a hysterical pregnancy. An hysterical pregnancy has all the changes, for some women, that a real pregnancy has but does not end with the birth of a child.

Other than a hysterical pregnancy no one sex has the needed biologics in which to impregnate and support a pregnancy. Without a womb and the ability to fertilize and egg with sperm there can be no pregnancy. Artificial fertilization would not count as is a procedure done to a women and not done within her by her.

is there any chance of hiv after getting blowjob by a gay ?

You can only get the HIV virus from someone that is infected with the virus or someone who is a carrier of the Virus. If someone is infected or a carrier of the virus then any unprotected sex, oral, anal or vaginal, can cause that person to be infected.

This is why it is important before having sexual relations with someone new that you both be tested together for STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus and show each other the results. Even after receiving a clean result you should still use condoms for intercourse.

Hi there I am 24 female..my sexarche started since I was 20 and I was diagnosed with pcos when I was 16..i used to have oligoanavolations but after being active in sexual life my periodic cycles normalised..but last year I had to take birth control pills after intercourse..thats when my problems resumed again...i missed my cycles then it irregularised..and from a few months I an noticing that I am losing interest in having sex..i don't find any excitement and whenever I engage in intercourse I feel how fast it'd end and coldness prevails...i feel embarrassed in front of my bf because of my decreasing libido...what should I do?does pcos have anything to do with libido?

Loss of sex drive is a symptom of pcos according to the information I found on the following web site. http://www.pcosfoundation.org/.

This group is a Houston, TX based organization and it may be possible through them to find a local chapter support group near you. They are also online on Facebook. I'm sure that through them many of the questions you have can be answered and some helpful information can be shared with you.

This is one ailment that I am not that familiar with. It appears to be a hormonal disorder which is why birth control medication is part of the treatment as birth control medications are hormonal medications.

I would suggest that besides contacting the organization I found that you sit down with your GYN and discuss the problem you are having. This problem is common in 5 to 10 percent of women which tells me your doctor may not be all that familiar with the problem. If he or she is not then you may want to search for a doctor who is. Between the organization I have found and the sites the other advisor has offered you one of them should be able to help you find a specialist in this area.

hi this is siva from india,

i am 23 male, i jerking my dick from 9th standard . .. i mean from the age of 2006.. mostly i do it atleast a day and now jerking my dick atleast thrice in a week , sometimes when i make sex chat over phone with gf , i do it more thrice a day.. unable to stop this habit .. please tell how to stop this..

please give me suggestion do i get any disease regarding this ... something like STD ?

please tell me do i get health problem ,does it make any challenge in giving baby in future, does it make any difference in my kids health issue....

Can i continue this ?? or wht ?

tell some food items to maintain this ?

should i reduce jerking ?

if so Why ?

does it make a any problem ?

if so then how to reduce it ?

plsss plsss

Relax your a normal healthy 23 year old male with a high sex drive that needs to relieve his sexual tension. Masturbation, jerking your dick or jerking off, is normal and healthy. You cannot gets STDS from masturbation and it will not affect your ability to father children in the future or the health of your future children.

The only time masturbation is not normal is when it becomes an obsession and something you do to the exclusion of everything else. Masturbating thrice daily or three times a week is normal and not an obsession.

It is the best way I know to relieve sexual tension for those dry spells between sexual relationships so stop beating yourself up, relax and enjoy yourself.

Hello everyone, I am having sexual frustration as well is my partner. I am a female and I cannot orgasm. When he plays with my clit it becomes ticklish and feels good but it's almost uncomfortable at the same time. And when I really start going my legs normally spaz and my body jolts and then he tries again and the same thing keeps happening. Can anyone give me ANY advice on how to relax, or to make my legs stop spazzing, literally ANY kind of advice or tips. I want to orgasm so bad and I get in the way of myself from getting there. Also, when a female does orgasm, does she always cum? Thankyou!!

When it comes to orgasms there are mainly two types of women in the world. Those that come from vaginal stimulation and those that come from clitoral stimulation. There are a few women whose nipples are so sensitive, usually nursing mothers, that they can orgasm through nipple stimulation or nursing their baby.

What you need to do is either experiment on yourself through masturbation and see which works best for you or ask your boyfriend for help.
Those leg spasms you are having and body jolts may be you orgasm or the start of one. Your over sensitive clitoris may kill off the orgasm.

If you must still hide your sexual activity from your parents then that too may be causing a problem with your ability to orgasm. Men or much different then women fro them it is more mechanical. For women it is more complex.

A women must be comfortable in her surroundings when having sex. She must feel safe and safe from intrusion, this stays with her when children come along as she will always fear her children will need her or intrude. Comfort is in two parts, she must be comfortable in her surroundings and what she is having sex on. A bed or couch is preferred over the back seat of a car or out in the woods.

IF you decide to ask you BF to help you find out it your vaginal or clitoral you two must first have conversation. Believe it or not men have to be trained into how to have sex with you. We have the basics but each women is different in what she likes and dislikes and how she likes to be touched and caressed. This need to be taught to us.

IF he agrees to help you it is best if you satisfy him first with a BJ or HJ so he will relax and take his time. The problem with most men under the age of 25 and single is they rush to climax and they rush through foreplay. By getting him off first you may find all you really need is an extended make out and foreplay session.

I am a 14 year old girl and I really want to wear diapers and use them. Like pee them. I know I am weird but I can't help it! Should I start wetting the bed on purpose? What happens when they take me to the doctor? Even if I only wear them to bed that's fine. I don't really NEED to wear them 24/7.
I can go to the store by myself but my dad won't allow me to because of the crime rate here.
Please help me out.
I am from South Africa.

Some people get a sexual pleasure from wearing diapers though the pleasure comes from having someone change and pamper them. I do not think this is this issue with you. Wanting to wear diapers is a bit strange for a 14 year old girl and without a reasonable explanation.

Wetting the bed on purpose won't cause your parents to buy you diapers. In fact as a parent I would say it would probably have the opposite effect. They would probably have you continue to sleep on that bed and to clean the sheets each day.

As to what would happen when you see the doctor? Most likely the doctor would ask you why you are wearing diapers or want to wear diapers. If you do not have a medical reason to wear them he or she might suggest to your parents they have you see a psychiatrist or psychologist to find out the reason behind you desire.

My bf has been coughing up blood lately. It only happened for a day. He also said he had bloody stool. I was really worried about him but his stubborn self wouldn't go see a doctor. His cousin is a doctor, however, and she said that it is stress related. (I know he has been under a lot in the past quite lately and he also doesn't eat nor sleep well) All these symptoms lasted a day but he said he's had it happen to him in the past before but it never lasted or turned into something serious. I just want to know if anyone knows anyone else that this happened to and what did they do about it? Did it get more serious?

Coughing up blood and blood in your stool are two very serious symptoms that should not be ignored. I believe he only heard what he wanted to or is only telling you what he wants you to hear. As no doctor I know would tell you to ignore these symptoms.

Now stress does cause stomach ulcers which is one condition that would cause this problem. Without medical tests to confirm this; treatment for stress alone would be inappropriate. There are other conditions that can cause this problem as well Ulcers are at the top of the hit parade so to speak.

Since this has happened to him before it can happen again. This time it may be an internal bleed that could cause him to pass out at the wrong time such as when driving a car. He could bleed out internally while asleep which would not be good either.

He needs to see a doctor immediately as in get him to a hospital emergency room or call 911.

I recently left my Uni house, and I was picked on by two girls in the house however the rest of the house treated me nicely.

When I left my mum chose to blast loud music through the house while we were packing up (because a complaint of mine was that my housemates kept me up till like 2am most nights being noisy next door)

It didn't stop there. My mum spilt oil all over the kitchen top (the oil I think was one of the nice housemates) and all over the plates.

She then as we left shouted 'slag' and 'bitches' up the stairs. Needless to say I was angry at my mum because her actions caused one of the housemates who I dislike to have a go at me online about the oil.

I just deleted the conversation-well my mum took my phone and did that.

What do I do? Shall I say sorry to the 'nice' housemates about the oil and say good luck for the future stay in touch. Or should I just leave it all together.

I wanted a peaceful exit but because of my mums actions I'm worried I have now lost what were good friends :(

You are not generally responsible for the actions of your parents. Though in this case to a certain extent you are. While you cannot undo what she did I believe you all your housemate an explanation of what happened and who is responsible for the mess made. You also should apologize for what she did and tell them you will be responsible for any reasonable repair costs if any to the cook top and to replace the oil you mother wasted on the cooktop.

Wile what I'm suggesting save any friendship you have with housemates I can't say. It is going to be hard to believe that a grown woman would act as she has. Unless one of them were there to see and hear her they may be a bit skeptical of your apology still I believe you should send one.

What do I put in Special study?

There are many reasons for this question. Should I assume this is related to what to put on a job application or resume in answer to the question of Special studies.

If I were to assume this is for a job application then in this area anything outside of a course curriculum for college or high school would go in this area.

These would include; Fellowships, Internships, EMT, and Paramedic courses. Any computer course you may have taken. If applying for a job which requires you to dive a company vehicle any safe driving course such as EVOC would go here. These are just some examples.

Hi for whoever answers this! Ok, so I looked all over the Internet and couldn't find an answer so i was hoping maybe one of you would know the answer. Ok, so I heard for women if they eat less than 1200 calories their body could go into starvation mode. I eat about half those calories, but I still eat plenty. I just eat things that are low in calories and don't overeat. If I start taking in more calories or even eat sugar, then I'll feel like I can't stop. Plus for me, these diets are addicting and I'm perfectly fine with that. I also work off about 130 calories at least each day so it's like my net is around 500 calories. If I eat more, I'll stretch my stomach out, and if I eat things in higher calories, then I'll get back to eating fatty foods, and I feel healthy foods will, well, keep me healthier. I have felt so much better since starting this diet, but I heard that these diets can burn out your metabolism. Will this happen if your still eating enough and have high metabolism foods (egg whites, coffee, green tea, grilled chicken, etc)? To be honest, I'm a little too worried to stop this diet because I always go on and off with this diet and every time I "take a break" from it, I can never seem to stop eat fatty foods and I get to where I don't want to exercise as much. So after hearing all of this, is this diet still ok for me since I eat enough and eat high metabolism foods? It's probably not gonna change the way I eat, I just really need to know. Thank you so much for your time!

I am not a doctor nor am I an expert on eating disorders. From what you have written I would say you have an eating disorder probably one very close to Anorexia. Eating disorders are very serious for you are causing your body to seek other ways to stay alive.

The primary mission of the body is to keep the brain alive. If the body cannot maintain all the functions of the body and still maintain the primary function; it will start to shut down some of its unnecessary functions. By the time the body starts to shutdown the kidneys and liver you are more than halfway to death's door and it is not always possible for the doctors to reverse the damage done to these organs. The last organ the body shuts down is the heart and then the brain dies.

At your present caloric intake, when your body uses up all the stored fat it will start looking for ways to survive. This is why you may feel the need to binge eat high calorie foods and junk foods.

To answer your question your diet is not good for you. You should see your doctor ASAP and tell him or her everything you have told us. I would expect, since you did not state your height and weight, that the doctor is going to find you underweight. Point in fact it is better to be 10 pounds overweight then 10 pounds underweight.

You say you feel healthy; you may be or you may be fooling yourself into thinking you are. Let your doctor be the judge and then follow the doctors orders.

My mom woulnt let me have a boyfriend...what should i do because im 12 but my friends are not dateing but i really want to!!

"I'm afraid I have to side with mom on this; that at 12 you are too young to date. You have a few more years to socialize and mature before actual dating can start.

I have a question for you. It seems the young people your age have a different definition of dating then people your parents age and I do. My question is by the dictionary definition of dating are your friends actually dating?

If I use the dictionary definition of dating I believe what your friends are doing is what your parents and I called going steady. We weren't actually dating but we walked the halls in school together. When a group of us went to the mall or the movies we held hands and maybe hugged and kissed in the dark at the movies though by definition we were not dating. Young people today are in such a great hurry to grow up that they have redefined many things. I believe dating is one of them. You are about to enter your teenage years which come only once in a lifetime. This is the time when as parents we expect you to grow and explore your way to becoming an adult. Do not rush through this period in your life as you miss too much of what you will need later in life. This is when you learn the social graces or refine the social graces your parents have taught you. You learn more of what society expects from you.

There is an old Indian saying; "It takes an entire village to raise a child." This is a true statement and is very much in play in today’s society. It is during your teenage years when parents allow their children to spread their wings and grow that the village (your town or city) really steps in to help raise you.

Slow down this is not the time to jump from 12 to 16 or 18 you will miss too much.

Hi i am 13 and i am worried because when mu friends get thier period it last for at least 7 days but i am the only one that is different when i get my period it only last for 4 days is that normal what does that mean

Relax you are normal. Everyone's body is different never judge yours by anyone else's

Just some grandfatherly advice here. This is the type of question we are more than happy to answer for you. But it is also the type of question you should not be embarrassed to go to mom with or your dad. Yes dads know all about a woman's period. What we may not know before marriage we quickly learn as soon as we marry.

Remember this please. You and mom share a common body type. Your period and certain things that happen to your reproductive system are not sexual in nature such as your period. Your mom is your best and quickest form of information concerning your female anatomy and any pains you may have or if you think something is wrong.

Missing a period is also normal for someone your age. If you miss more than one or two in a row and you are not sexually active you need to tell mom. You start with mom I'm a virgin but I have missed two periods."

This keeps mom from yelling are you pregnant and gets to the heart of the matter as to do you need to see a doctor. There may be other aches and pains you may experience that you do not understand. Chances are mom has experienced them and she will be able to explain why you are having them and if medical intervention is needed.

In short not everything about your reproductive system is sexual; you should not be embarrassed to talk to mom or even dad. That is what parents are for to help you grow through these problems of puberty

im 13 and I masturbate all the time especially with brushs and I go really fast and deep and I think the cum sorta smelled like blood the other day so I was wondering if that could pop my cherry

"Popping your cherry" is a term most people your age use to mean losing one's virginity. You cannot lose your virginity through masturbation. What can happen for the female is she will tear her Hyman which can also be done in many other ways including the use of Tampons.

Back in the dark ages when I was a teenager a girl was not considered a virgin unless her Hyman was intact. For that reason mothers told their daughter not to use tampons until after they were married.

Virginity is lost when you have sexual intercourse. Sexual intercourse is defined as a male penis fully entering the female vagina. Until that has happened you have not "Popped you Cherry," something that should not happen for you for many more years.

Is it weird for a guy to be more comfortable being intimate with guys (hugging and what not)than with girls?

It is not really weird and it may depend on your age or sexual make up. Do you believe yourself to be straight or do you think you may be Gay. If you were Gay you would have had feelings of this when you were much younger. You just don't wake up one morning and decide you're Gay.

Most likely you're just more comfortable around guys. This would be normal if you are a young teenager. You are also probably more affectionate than most boys are. Nothing wrong with that either. You probably come from a very affectionate family.

Unless there is more to your question then you asked I would say relax. You will eventually become more comfortable around girls we all do some of us take longer than others to get to that point.

People shouldn't get abused .
its not right ... this world is so cruel .
I've been sexually abused all of my life . The thing that kinda kills me the most is that it was my own Father . man I swear I talk way to much . I have such a big mouth for the wrong reason ... I know I need to tell someone .
but im to scared I wish someone could do it for me ... but I know I have to .
and you cant help someone who wont help themselves... man sometimes I feel like just ending it all already and just commit suicide .
I cut myself do everything and cry but I just cant keep myself together . I hate my self my body . it's all my fault .
- just a stupid 14 year old girl who let people touch her because she was to scared to ever say anything .

HI Sweetheart, Let me make one thing perfectly clear; you are not at fault for any abuse you have suffered. No child asks to be abused especially by a parent. Be the abuse be of a sexual nature, physical or mental the person abusing the child is fully at fault.

No one should be touching you anywhere you don't want to be touched and that includes mom or dad. You do not have to let them and what you can do about is very simple. You call 911 and tell the call taker that you are being abused and how you are being abused.

You can do this from home, from school or from a phone booth or cell phone. Tell the call taker where you are and help will be sent to you. You can also go to any fire or police station or any hospital emergency room and ask for help. These are all safe havens for children.

Once you ask for help what will happen is Child Protective Services will be called. They will see to it you are put some place safe, someplace your dad can't hurt you. They will see to it you get help so you don't feel like committing suicide. They will work with the police to see to it you have safe home to return to.

You do not need anyone's permission to call 911 or to go to a fire or police station or a hospital emergency room and ask for help. Neither should you be scared for there is nothing to be scared of. Once you ask for help you will get help that is a guarantee. Show them your cuts, tell them what your dad has done to you.

You are not a stupid 14 year old girl. You just need to know and understand there is help for the asking and you need to do the asking. Once you ask for help things will get better in a hurry. You will be safe and you can start to heal.

It hurts me to read letters like this and it is unfortunate that we get as many as we do. But please understand this. IT is not your fault, you did nothing to cause this to happen to you and you can do something to make it stop. Please so as I have suggested and ask for help.

Everytime i go for a bath when i get out i feel extremely dizzy like i am going too faint and like i am gonna spew this happens everytime i get out off a bath and one when it happened i spewed

Carbon monoxide sickness feel like you have the flu. If this is how you feel after spending an extended period in the bath or bathroom get out of the house now. Carbon monoxide gas is heavier than air and will float to the lower levels of the house. Get out now and call the fire department. They have the equipment to check for high CO levels as well as to have a paramedic check you out and see if there is a need to take you to hospital.

If the problem is not high CO levels then the problem may be that your bath water is to hot. Spending extended periods in hot water, a hot tub, can bring on nausea and feeling faint. It would be best to check in with your doctor and let the doctor decide if this is the problem or if something else is going on.

Hello my name is ... well that honestly doesn't matter . I've been sexually abused by 3 family members and 4 other male's in my life .
I was abused by a family member at home . it started when I was 2 years old... well that's as far as I remember .
I hate the person so much . I cry my self to sleep . I have cuts all over my thigh's .
I try to forgive but I cant . how could I ?
how could someone do something to a innocent little girl .
my mom cried when she found out she was having me . I was the " accident child " .
she didn't want me .. I know she didn't .
I always felt like a mistake to this world .
maybe I am . Im no one important just a 14 year old girl who got sexually abused by her own father . ive become so suicidal I wish everything would just end . - abby

Abby I am so sorry you have been treated as you are or have been. No child should ever be sexually abuse or abused in anyway. Children are a gift and need to be treated as such.

I know what I'm about to say will be hard for you to do but you must do this, especially if the abuse is on going. You need to report this abuse to the police. You can do this by calling 911 or going to the nearest fire station, police station or hospital emergency room and asking for help.

The sexual abuse of a minor in most states has no statute of limitations. The police will first make sure you are in a place safe from anymore abuse. They then will investigate those that have been abusing you. If they have been abusing you they are most likely abusing other young girls making them sexual predators.

Being 14 you are old enough to be strong enough to a stop to what they are doing and to save other young girls from suffering as you have.

Once you made your police report Child Protective Services (CPS) will assign you a caseworker. Ask the caseworker for some counseling with a psychologist. While you can never forget about what has happened, with the help of a psychologist and therapy session with the psychologist you will learn how to properly deal with what happened and not feel suicidal because of it.

This won't happen overnight but if you work with the therapist remembering that everything said in therapy stays in therapy you will begin to feel better and deal better with the abuse.

I can't tell you the why of what your father and the other men have done to you for I do not understand how a grown man can do something like that to a child myself. What I have told you is what you need to do. Please report what has happen to you and let the law handle it and CPS help you.

So my parents have a big relationship issue. they are constanly fighting over the stupidest things (such as how much laundry detergent needs to go in the washer) and it ends up turning into screaming matches. I can tell my mom hates my dad. She's always rolling her eyes at him, making rude comments about his weight, and she never tells him any of her plans. Also, when I was about 5 or 6 (I'm 15 now) they stopped sleeping in the same bed. My mom said it was "because he snores" but he sleeps on the air mattress across the hall from their bedroom. Before my sisters wedding, my mom said "I regret getting married and not waiting until I knew your father better". They seem like they should be getting a divorce except my mom is highly against getting a divorce. I don't know if I should tell them how their relationship make me feel, and how it effects my life, or if I should try to convince them to get couples therapy. I'm just afraid that they will think it's not my business and not listen.

I think you should stay out of your parents marriage. It has been 10 years and has become their normal. It is not your place to play marriage counselor to your parents. As long as they are loving parents to you and not supplying you with all the things a parent is required to give to their children their marriage problems are not your concern.

I understand that their marriage and relationship will or does have its affect on you. Your parents marriage is not the stereotypical marriage one expects to see and once a child would be best to be brought up in. It is better than a one parent home as both your father and mother are in your home to nurture you. If this is true then while their living arrangement is abnormal you are not suffering all that much and in a much better place than children of a one parent home.

Suicide was not for me. Tomorrow could be the best day of my life! I just know that I don't want this. Please tell me how to die painlessly.

"Suicide was not for me. Tomorrow could be the best day of my life!" You wrote this not me or any of us and you are absolutely correct; tomorrow can be the best day of your life.

Some of us on this site have been where you are today, myself included. I can tell you several things as to why this is what you are feeling.

Right know this is depression talking. Just why you may be depressed can be any number of factors with stress being the leading cause. You might be a teenager and saying what does a teenager have to be stressed about. You would be surprised. The teenage years, especially the early years, are quite stressful especially for girls. If you are a teenager the hormones of puberty add to the confusion which adds to the stress.

Stress causes pain both physical and mental. This pain causes depression. The depression causes confusion that is causing you not to know how to feel. I a certain sense you are experiencing is part of being a teenager although feeling as bad as you do is whole lot worse than what would be considered normal.

Parents expect teenagers to have trouble puberty and to act moody and rebellious. For as long as there have been teenagers it has been called a phase teenagers go through and will grow out of. Most do some do not. Today doctors know better and can help those who may be suffering as I feel you may be.

Whether you are a teenager or not you need to see a doctor and be screened for depression. It is a simple painless exam where the doctor will ask you a number of questions. Based on your answer the doctor can make a diagnosis. The doctor may want to do a complete physical to rule out a physical reason for how you feel. Let the doctor do so. When the doctor makes a diagnoses follow the doctors’ orders which may include seeing a specialist.

Please trust me when I say there is a light at the end of tunnel. The most likely diagnoses will be clinical teenage depression brought on by hormone imbalance. This is caused by puberty and easily corrected with medication.

IF you are actively suicidal please call 911. Tell the call taker what is going on with you. They will stay on the phone with you until help arrives.

If you need to talk to someone and you are under 20 call this number 1-800-668-6868. This is the kids-help-phone a trained counselor will stay on the line and talk with you for as long as you need to speak with someone.

There is also the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. No matter what problems you are dealing with, we want to help you find a reason to keep living. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7.

None of her will help you die we will though do our best to help you want to live.

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