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Intimacy with people
Is it weird for a guy to be more comfortable being intimate with guys (hugging and what not)than with girls?
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This is a complex question that can be given a complex answer. But, the short and sweet version is no, there is nothing wrong with it.
Sometimes we question whether something is weird or not just because some elements of society might have tried to tell us that it is.
For example, years ago it would have been considered weird for people of two different races to hang out or be a couple, that's certainly not the case in most of the civilized world today.
Perhaps you are discovering that you might be a homosexual. If this is the case, there's nothing weird about that either. It's just biology and who you are. If this is not the case and you are sexually interested in girls but just more intimate with guys, the same is true, still not weird.
In fact, I'm not even sure I like the world weird. It is based on something we cannot measure and is highly subjective. For example, some people might think girls with tattoos and blue hair look weird. But on the other hand, some find it interesting, fun and unique.
In the end, you are the only one who has to be comfortable with who you are. And being ok with yourself is anything but weird.
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I think you've written in before and we all answered no its not weird.
If not the same person, please excuse my wondering...we've had a lot of the exact same question lately.
If you are the same person and still asking the same question, i am wondering if you're wanting to hear the opposite answer, that you are weird? Have you asked yourself why you want to believe you are weird?
If none of us can change your mind and you are going to believe there is something still very wrong and weird about that, perhaps might I suggest you consider asking to go get some counseling help from a professional? Perhaps you would be more inclined to believe them?
Ask the parents to get you in to see your Dr who can then recommend a counselor, Or ask your school counselor to help put you in touch with a professional counselor who can deal with this and help you.
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It is not really weird and it may depend on your age or sexual make up. Do you believe yourself to be straight or do you think you may be Gay. If you were Gay you would have had feelings of this when you were much younger. You just don't wake up one morning and decide you're Gay.
Most likely you're just more comfortable around guys. This would be normal if you are a young teenager. You are also probably more affectionate than most boys are. Nothing wrong with that either. You probably come from a very affectionate family.
Unless there is more to your question then you asked I would say relax. You will eventually become more comfortable around girls we all do some of us take longer than others to get to that point.
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If you mean for a straight guy to be comfortable with that, then no not really. (Even though it's definitely not weird for a gay guy either) it could have to do with shyness, like you just are too shy of girls to be intimate, but not shy of guys so it's more familiar. Like, I know I'm a girl, and some people think that's different, but it's really not. But anyway, I am more comfortable with physical contact with girls than guys (I'm straight) and that's probably because I haven't had a whole lot of intimacy with guys so I'm more shy of physical contact with guys. So I don't think it's weird.
Hope this helps~
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