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coldness during intercourse
Hi there I am 24 female..my sexarche started since I was 20 and I was diagnosed with pcos when I was 16..i used to have oligoanavolations but after being active in sexual life my periodic cycles normalised..but last year I had to take birth control pills after intercourse..thats when my problems resumed again...i missed my cycles then it irregularised..and from a few months I an noticing that I am losing interest in having sex..i don't find any excitement and whenever I engage in intercourse I feel how fast it'd end and coldness prevails...i feel embarrassed in front of my bf because of my decreasing libido...what should I do?does pcos have anything to do with libido?
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Loss of sex drive is a symptom of pcos according to the information I found on the following web site. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location).
This group is a Houston, TX based organization and it may be possible through them to find a local chapter support group near you. They are also online on Facebook. I'm sure that through them many of the questions you have can be answered and some helpful information can be shared with you.
This is one ailment that I am not that familiar with. It appears to be a hormonal disorder which is why birth control medication is part of the treatment as birth control medications are hormonal medications.
I would suggest that besides contacting the organization I found that you sit down with your GYN and discuss the problem you are having. This problem is common in 5 to 10 percent of women which tells me your doctor may not be all that familiar with the problem. If he or she is not then you may want to search for a doctor who is. Between the organization I have found and the sites the other advisor has offered you one of them should be able to help you find a specialist in this area.
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The internet is a fount of good information.
Here's a website with symptoms and complications of having PCOS. No where does it mention having a low libido or non as a side effect.
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However, when I did a search asking if PCOS can cause low libido, I got the following website, which says it can be related in that there could be a hormonal imbalance (due to PCOS) and low hormones will affect sex drive. Men can suffer from the same if low on testosterone. Here
is that website link:
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Stress and depression are more often what causes low libido. Also dwindling of closeness, intimacy between two people can bring on having little libido and no excitement with sex. And lasting, I know from experience with 1st husband that two people can be sexually mismatched and not inspire much passion in each other and what little there is disappears after the newness of the relationship is over. So on an off chance, he may be the wrong guy for you. I would think one way to find out is having Dr. test your hormone levels and treat it. Then once your hormones are okay, if you still continue to feel nothing with the boyfriend, you may have to face the fact that nothing medical is affecting it.
That woould mean the issue is something going on between you and him.
You did mention how fast sex would end and you feel cold. Hon, that is something many women without your medical problems face sexually simply because their men are poor lovers.
For one thing, there needs to be a playfulness, intimacy before the sex act, Women need to be slowly seduced with foreplay. I am talking more than foreplay tho, in the form of how he shows his desire in intimate ways and makes you look forward to the time set aside for lovemaking in private. Does he pat your butt as you walk by, how about lots of hugs and caresses daily along with kisses and nibbles on a daily basis. Or how about playing with your hair, massaging your scalp or shoulders, telling you often how beautiful you are, giving you admiring looks and trying to peek down your shirt often and say I love you alot. Women are like irons for clothes. We take a long time to finally get hot, but once hot, it also takes us a long time to cool back down and be done. For men, its different, like flicking a light switch, instantly hot and just as instantly done. If he doesnt spend enough time on you giving you several orgasms by hand, toy or intercourse before he allows himself to come, then he's not doing his job of satisfying you and it's not your libido but a fact that he has no idea what you need. Tell him if this is the case. If he is too lazy to do this with you every time, then kick his sorry ass out the door cus he doesn't really care enough about you. If he did, he'd make sure your sexual needs were met first before allowing himself to enjoy as well.
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