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How to forgive sexual abuse
Hello my name is ... well that honestly doesn't matter . I've been sexually abused by 3 family members and 4 other male's in my life .
I was abused by a family member at home . it started when I was 2 years old... well that's as far as I remember .
I hate the person so much . I cry my self to sleep . I have cuts all over my thigh's .
I try to forgive but I cant . how could I ?
how could someone do something to a innocent little girl .
my mom cried when she found out she was having me . I was the " accident child " .
she didn't want me .. I know she didn't .
I always felt like a mistake to this world .
maybe I am . Im no one important just a 14 year old girl who got sexually abused by her own father . ive become so suicidal I wish everything would just end . - abby
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1. You're not a mistake. God chose you and has a plan for your life.
2. I'm very very sorry about the abuse that you faced but abusing yourself isn't gonna heal your past.
3. You're stronger then you think you are. You wake up every morning and live your life. If you weren't capable of doing that then you wouldn't be here today.
You don't have to let your abusive past define your future. God knows the plans he has for you. They are prosperous plans and you need to stick around to see them :) Find an adult, whether it be a teacher at school or someone in your community you trust. Talk to them about the things going on in your head. We need other people in our life. We weren't meant to do life alone. Please don't cut yourself because, you're beautiful and deserve good things in life. I pray that God will heal your wounds and that you will find strength through your story.
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You are not a mistake. I know how you feel Iwas molested by my Dad when I was 3 years old and when my mom found out she called the police and you need to do the same. The police is there to help you so you don't have to deak with this anymore. I have been going to Pineland which is the mental health program where i am located i am now 26 years old so it's been 23 years since the event happened and my dad's dead now and it is still hard for me to forgive him for what he had done. I often have mixed emotions I find myself absolutely hating him one minute and then the next I find myself making up excuses for him ehen in reality there is no excuse for what he did. He may have been mentally ill but he still could have controlled it. I agree with adviceman 49 you need to report this so other girls don't have to put up with it and the police will stop this from happening to you. Please follow my advice.
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Abby I am so sorry you have been treated as you are or have been. No child should ever be sexually abuse or abused in anyway. Children are a gift and need to be treated as such.
I know what I'm about to say will be hard for you to do but you must do this, especially if the abuse is on going. You need to report this abuse to the police. You can do this by calling 911 or going to the nearest fire station, police station or hospital emergency room and asking for help.
The sexual abuse of a minor in most states has no statute of limitations. The police will first make sure you are in a place safe from anymore abuse. They then will investigate those that have been abusing you. If they have been abusing you they are most likely abusing other young girls making them sexual predators.
Being 14 you are old enough to be strong enough to a stop to what they are doing and to save other young girls from suffering as you have.
Once you made your police report Child Protective Services (CPS) will assign you a caseworker. Ask the caseworker for some counseling with a psychologist. While you can never forget about what has happened, with the help of a psychologist and therapy session with the psychologist you will learn how to properly deal with what happened and not feel suicidal because of it.
This won't happen overnight but if you work with the therapist remembering that everything said in therapy stays in therapy you will begin to feel better and deal better with the abuse.
I can't tell you the why of what your father and the other men have done to you for I do not understand how a grown man can do something like that to a child myself. What I have told you is what you need to do. Please report what has happen to you and let the law handle it and CPS help you.
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