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:.Hey x3
My name is Emily and blah blah blah.


:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.


:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.


:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.


:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.


:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.

If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM

If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.

:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).

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What is a good way to get rid of the pain when u get your braces tightend. Help. Im in pain

Take Advil drink a beverage with ice in it. It will relieve it temporary. And it you have temptaion to chew on someting because your teeth tingle, chew on something.

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So yesterday I went to a baseball game with my friend. My other friend found out and go jealous. So today the other friend was suppose to come over but she said she would come later because she was going to the high school with another friend. I wasn't jealous i was just upset that she ditched me. So I talked to my "friend" about it and all I said was that i'm mad that she ditched me. So the jealous friend heard that I said that and said I was talking about her behing her back. Was I talking about her behind her back?

Seems like this friend gets very jealous and is unstable with herself and seeks revenge when she's hurt.

So you went to a baseball game with a friend. So what? Nothing to make a big deal out of it. I mean she's the one who is being the immature one. You offered her a chance to hang out with you because she was upset but she declined it and now she's saying that you're talking behind her back when you weren't talking about her.

You need to confront her face to face and talk this out and if this behavior continues, she's not worth your time

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A girl I know, but I'm not really good friends with, is having a pool party. She invited 3 boys, and I don't know any of them. I wouldn't care if they were there if it was just a regular party, and I have a boyfriend, so I'm not worried about any of that dating stuff. What I'm worried about is, that I hate how I look in my bikini. It's the only bathign suit I have, and I don't really want guys to see me in it. Especially when half the girls at the party, are anorexic bitches. I think it'd be rude if I didn't go, and I don't know what to do.

You seem uncertain with your self image around boys and also exposing parts of your body.

You need to be bold and confident. Know that everyone comes in different shapes and sizes and we're all different. Don't let those girls with unrealistic bodies discourage you from wearing a bikini and having fun. You're gorgeous in your own way so be confident.

Don't ever become annorexic or bulimic or go on crash diets because it can hurt your body long term and short term

Bring your boyfriend with you, wear you bikini, be confident and bold, and have fun.

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Right. This could be a bit long.
For the last few days/weeks, I have been thinking about having a baby. Me and my boyfriend are very happy and it definatly looks like we will be together for a long time. He has mentioned before bout kids and stuff. but I always said to him that I would but not yet. I am only 17 years old and I have got a 2 year course at collage coming up. also i dont know if he would actually want a kid yet.
but I have been thinking and I would really love to have a kid.
Can someone please help me change my mind because I know I'm to young to have a kid and I probly wouldn't be able to cope. Even though I'm pretty sure my mum would help me out if I did have a child.
Please help me change my mind because I really want a kid but I am only 17.

Any advise would be brilliant.

Thanks
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First you're not married. What are you thinking! A kid with no father? Kids are to only be made when you're married. Not when you're going out.

And you're only 17 and you have a birght future ahead of you. A baby will ruin all your dreams. Finish college, get a job, get married, then after you're over 22 get make a baby. I won't say anything when you do then. But right now you're just way to young to be throwing away the rest of your life for a kid that will keep you up all night.

It costs more than $800 to raise a baby in a good home PER YEAR. It's hard to support a kid with only high school education. You need to attend 4years of college and/or more. Many jobs won't hire you if they found out that you only had 2 yrs of collegge (with not so good grades) and a kid.

You're bringing in a living, breathing, thinking, human being into this worl when you yourself haven't experienced it. You're life is just beginning and if you have a child, your life ends right then and there.

Do NOT have a kid. PLEASE DONT. Many children whose mother's had them when they were teenagers have a greater risk of going bad with bad grades, drinking, smoking, drugs, etc. because their mother isn't able to support and give them the full attnetion a mother needs to give them.

You'll regret this very day adn there is NOTHING you can do to take it back.

Spare yourself and don't have a baby.

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This girl wants to know about my...man thing...which isn't exactly big. I am wondering if I should let her see it since she knows my cousin and girls talk

Know that guys [and girls] develope at different rates and develope sexual interests at different rates also.

You seem to be uncomfortable with showing your thing because you're not ready and/or because it's not as big as you wish it to be.

I don't think you should be showing girls that wants to see when you're uncomfortable. Save it for the moment when you feel ready and if the girl doesn't respect that, she's not worth it.

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You don't have to answer all them.

1. Whats a frat house? and Sorority house? (spelling?) What do they do? How do you get into them?

2. I'm throwing a party, but i needa know what some good songs are. So give me a good list. Please.

3. My bf keeps telling me what girls hot, and etc. It lowers myself-esteem. How do I look sexxy, so he looks at me, more then them.

4. How can i plan hard to get, for him to want me more.

Thanks

1) A frat and sorority house is a thing in college. It's like little teams they make. There are a lot of different types of sororities and frats. Some of them are into evrioments, parties, fashion, pets, etc. There is no certain way you get into them because each house has a different method to get into. All I know is that all the group members will have to agree to have a new member join. You may have to do dangerous stunts to get or just do a simple thing. It all depends on the leader of the house.

2)TBS- Makedamnsure
Lostprophets- Rooftops
Slipknot- Duality
Britney- any
Linkin Park- In The End
Bullets For My Valentine- Tears Don't Fall
Criss Angel-MF2
Senses Fail- Rum Is For Drinking...
Hoobastank- Inside Of You
Those are all rock..other than Brit. Add in some pop which I don't really listen to so don't have suggestions and some rap. Put in a variety so everyone can enjoy and don't forget to put some slowdance songs like Beautiful by Christina Aguilera and such.

3)Your bf doesn't seem the respect what he DOES have and degrades women's self esteen. I don't know why you still want him and degrading your respect to fit his needs isn't what I would do. I don't know what you look like so I can't tell you which hair style, color, clothing style is best for you. So I'm sory, but I can't help you on this part.

4)Make plans with him. Sound sexy. Don't pour out the plans. Go to an amusment park and kiss him but not too much. Don't let him have control. You keep all the control to yourself. Kiss but not let it go to make out. Or make out and not let it advance to sex. Get his interest, keep him hooked for more but don't give it to him. Give him just bit by bit

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my bf whos 38 and his son (14)have lived with me (37)for 9 months he just this month got a job
has not offered any financial help at all .
then yesterday he came home from work and said he was taking his two dogs to the desert. 10 hrs later at 1am he came back told me he was working on a new place to live and he had to bring dogs over to meet some one. then he says hell be moving in two weeks (by the way he looked like he just woke up) should i throw him out now or try to make things better weve been rocking this relationship for 7 yrs of witch he has only worked 3 of those years.so im the one always paying for everything i do love him but i feel he is using me and now that i made him get a job hes gone. so my question is should i wait the two weeks or get it on now

Confront him and ask if he's seeing someone else. Get that cleared out of the way.

Then tell him what's on your mind. Tell him that you feel used and that you're like his ATM machine.

Say you want a fair relationship which doesnt include you paying foreverything

If things don't change after that, I don't know what to say but to look for someone else.

If you can't seem to get the relationship stable, I don't see the point in marrying him because it could turn out to be a divorce at the end

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okay so for the past 9 months i have been using dandruff shampoo my dandruff isnt bad but when i scratch my scalp tiny flakes come off and my tiny dandruff is still there after 9 months and ive switched shampoos twice and im not sure whats wrong. I have to scratch my scalp in order for the dandruff to come off but sometimes my head bleeds and its just really annoying me so if anyone has any suggestions tell me.

Head & Shoulder is awesome for those pesty llittle dandruff. You really shouldn't be scratching your scalp to make them come off because you're doing damage to your scalp.

Wehn you get out of the shower, dry it with a towel roughly (it will relieve any itching without the damge of scratching) After blow dry it using a fine comb. For the rest of the day don't touch your hair. IF those dandruff shows up again, go to see a hair stylist at a salon and see what's up with your scalp.

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I'm a really shy person, and that makes social things hard for me. People automatically assume I am prude and just don't talk to me. When people DO get to know me, they tell me that they are completley suprised and they can't believe they had never talked to me. Do any of you have suggustions on tips to be less shy? I'm really trying to overcome it

I was uberly shy when I was 10ish. I barely talked to people and just waited for people to come to ME and talk. And then it seemed ridiculous that I was holding back so I started to talk a little bit more and it felt awesome

I suggest that you go to parties or something and intoduce yourself to a lot of peple. Say hi, I'm [your name] with a firmhandshake

dont' be discouraged when you see a group of people. No on'es gonna bite your head off when you introduce yourself.

So be bold and freindly

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me and my best friend work for my church .. we are like the altar serving coordinators and we are in the office 3 days a week. hes a little smarter than me and always seems to take charge, he even calls me "his assistant." i dont like this because i wanna have as much responsibility as he does. i cant talk to him about it, hes so passionate about this and he will get so mad at me. idk what to do .. i just wanna feel like im doing something, and helping.

Tell him calmly and have him stay calm. Tell him that you're not trying to take over or anything but you still want a fair share of the responsibility. Tell him that you understand he is far more passionate about this but he's got to share the responsiblity and stop looking down at you like the littler person in this. You two are suppose to be having the same amount of responsibility and fun.

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what is morning breath how did i get it and how do i get rid of it

This is one of those bumps in life we all have.

There is no way to get rid of morning breathe persay

But drinking water before you go to sleep helps a little.

Remeber to floss throughly, brush your mouth and your tongue, and rinse. And don't forget about the mouthwash.

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My best freind tyler has been there for me but since shes been hanging out with this other girl she hasnt spent much time with me. What should i do?

You have to understand firends come and go and as you grow older, our interessts change dramatically

Tell Tyler how you feel and that you miss her and you're lonley. Remeber the first day you guys met, what did you guys do? What's your most memoriable fun time? Why don't you set up an activity relating to those I mentioned above. Or that fit her interest as well as yours.

Why don't you try and get to know the other girl Tyler is hanging out with? MAybe you all three will have fun.

But beaware that someone will be the third wheel at times if that happens. So use this time to meet new friends and don't be to clingy on Tyler but don't loose her

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This is going to sound crazy, but I get so grossed out when I'm on my period. I can't take looking at all the blood. It makes me gag and stuff. What should I do?

I know. Our montly visitors are our enemies. Yuck. IT's such a hassel to go to the bathroom every 4-6hours..esp at school.

But you have to understand it's all part of nature.

If you hate seeing the blood so much, instead of using pads, use tampos. They decrease the chance of leaking and you may see less blodd since you don't have to hassel taking off the pad, wrapping it up in the wrapper, etc.

Just make sure that you odn't leave them in for too long and at night, just use a pad.

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Im 14/female and Im 106 pounds. I just wanted to know the average weight for teens. Also I was woondering when you are supposed to weigh yourself.... morning, afternoon,night... when? Thank you! :)

There is no certain weight for 14 year old. It all depends on heights. It's you're 5'5 its around 125. Add or subract 5lbs for each inch you increase or decrease.

Also, the most accurate time you weight yourself is wehn you get up in the morning..go potty. Right after that, weight yourself. It will probably be the most accurate time.

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ok. my brother keeps watching porne. i was making mac and chesse and i needed to go on the computer and i saw this one girl liek showin her boobs and naked and stuff. it seems so weird becuz my brother is so nice and smart you would never suspect it and everybody loves him. he got introuble with my mom and dad before and i dont want to tell them again. im worried because i dont want him to grow up and turn into this like rapist or whatever when he grows up. i dont know if i should have my 18 year old sister then again im not comfortable telling her. i dont know what to do. he watches all this stuff.please help me.

You have to understand that guys are more into sexual stuff then girls are (AKA they are PERVERTED)

It's a normal thing for a straight male (so you know that he's not bi or gay =P)

It's true that a lot of guys watch porn at an early age.

But if it continues throughout their adult years it could turn into a big problem. They can get addicted and lose all their money paying for 5minute shows and such.

You tell him yourself that You're worrried that he's going to be a porn addict. That you don't want him to get sucked into the abnormal world.
Show him that you're worried and that you're going to give him only ONE more chance to straighten things out.
Ask him what he would say if you were to get addicted to porn? Ask him what he would do if you were to be there with him and watch all those fake shows.

Give him one more chance..and if he's closing in around 18 (17,18,n 19) tell your parents no matter how much your brother will hate you. It will be best for him

If he's around 14, 15, 16, it's your decision to tell or not.

I hope everything goes well and that your brother doesn't get addicted.

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I had my period on august 1,2006 and usually it lasts for a week. well it was the last day for my period and i had intercourse without no protection so am i pregnant?

honey, never ever have unprotected intercourse unles you're married and planning for a child.

just to make sure, take an EPT test. After a week, take another to make sure.

Or go to a gyno

Never have unprotected sex. It just opens a wider door for a living human being to be made. Are you really ready for a baby? $500 for day care. Over $300 for diapers over $100 for formulas. Raising a baby costs more than $700 a year. Are you ready for that kind of responsiblity?

And don't say that it won't happen to you. Think about the consequences

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ok, me and my girlfriend have decided we want to have sex, the only probleam is i am not sure how i am going to get my hands on a condom, i am 13, and don't give me stuff saying im too young or anything cause we have made up are mind, im just not sure how i can get my hand on some condoms. can i just buy them? what? and also what kind should i get?

I'm not sure if there is a way to get them. Ask your friends older siblings or someone older then you. Make sure it's full protection and that it's good quality.

But just saying, are you ready to recieve consequences of sex? HIV, AID, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Scabies? What about a baby?

What if the word leaked out that you two had sex. What then? It would reach the counsler and your parents.

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Hey iam a 17 female and I just found out that one of my friends that i've been best friends since 2nd grade is bisexual and I don't know what to do is it ok for me to still be friends with her or what?my mom's very prejedice against people who are gay and bi and she told me not to associate with them,but she's my best friend and I don't think I can stop being friends with her all at once what should I do?

My family is very close minded and think homosexual people are a disgrace and gross, and frankly I can't change their mind about that.

I haven't told my parents thatI might be bi and that my friends are: 2 gays, 1 lesbian, and t3 bi's.

I suggest you don't tell you parents and explain to your friend why.

And stay with her. You've been friends for a vbery long time and to ditch her for having a different sexual orientation is shallow.

It's perfectly fine to be friends with her. I don't see what the problem is. If you're afraid of her hitting on you, don't worry. She won't risk such a valuable friendship for an infatuation that won't work out.

Just stay with her and let her know that you don't mind her being bisexual. Let her know that you won't ditch or leave and she trusted you to know that she's bisexual because she thinks you will understand. Don't tell your parents and explain to your friend why so she doesn't take offense. If you do tell your parents, it may become a bad bad mess.

Remember, there is NOTHING wrong with being homosexual. So do not ditch her for being one because that is one of the shallowest thing a best friend could do

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Alright, This is really gross. but the last 3 days,i've had like, diarrhea, but its reddish, like, blood. but i'm not on my period for another 2 weeks, somebody please tell me whats wrong with me??

I suggest you talk to your mom about it and go to a doctor to make sure you're not having serious digestive problems inside.

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I want to do my hair on the frist day of school, but i have no clue for something to do. What are good ways to put my hair. Be specific and give complete steps, please. If possible add a link of a website that shows or tells you how.

P.s. I don't have short hair but not long. My hair crosses my shoulders, but not my elbows.

Most important thing:
Do not, do not, do not use hair products (other than shampoo and conditioner) from regular stores. Some gels and hair sprays can damage your hair in a second!

Why don't you try a loose bun?
1)Tie your hair in a ponytail
2)twist the hair and get it into a bun by twisting your hair around the hairband
3)Clip it down in several places with hair clips.

The more your hair strands come down, th eprettier. This is somewhat hard to do though but really pretty.

What about just few curls.
Have your hair straihgt (if it already isn't)
Take several strands from your hair (make sure you get it from a lot of different places like on top, back, under, etc) and loosley curl it.

I don't know what you look like so I don't know what style of hair will look the best on you. If you want, email me your most current picture at xchoke_on_dead_hopex@yahoo.com

and I can give you the hair style that works on your face

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