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he always takes charge !
me and my best friend work for my church .. we are like the altar serving coordinators and we are in the office 3 days a week. hes a little smarter than me and always seems to take charge, he even calls me "his assistant." i dont like this because i wanna have as much responsibility as he does. i cant talk to him about it, hes so passionate about this and he will get so mad at me. idk what to do .. i just wanna feel like im doing something, and helping.
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Tell him calmly and have him stay calm. Tell him that you're not trying to take over or anything but you still want a fair share of the responsibility. Tell him that you understand he is far more passionate about this but he's got to share the responsiblity and stop looking down at you like the littler person in this. You two are suppose to be having the same amount of responsibility and fun.
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This guy seems like he's a little bossy. When you two first started, did you ever try and take charge? Maybe in the beginning he just decided to be the "leader" because no one else was. Some people just can't stand not having someone taking charge. However, if he is really passionate about this job, maybe you should just let him have this thing, and let him be in charge. Don't care so much about "being under him". In fact, it's not that he's the one in charge, it's just you're letting him organize everything and you're not caring. You never know, maybe he does things that he hates with you, just so that you're happy. Should you ruin your friendship just over this? If he's only like this at work, then I think you should let it slide and don't say anything. If he's like this all of the time, then I think you should tell him how you feel.
If you don't tell him anything about the way he acts at work, just try doing more things, like volunteering to do this and that at work. If you're mad about not doing as much as him, then make it you're business to know what's going on and doing as much as him. He'll see after a while that you do do quite a bit of work at work, however, he could react differently to this situation. Maybe he really loves being in charge and might feel that his place is being taken by you. If you get to that point, maybe it'll be safe to talk to him about it.
I think though, that if he's really passionate about this, just let it go, and don't let it get to you. Besides, many people would LOVE, to have a job and not have to do as much work as the others around them.
Good luck & I hope I helped.
<3 Princez Peach
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