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ok lately all this stuff has been going on in my life wich sux cuz my life finally got normal again i was always good at dealing with stress but this time i think it has gotten to me i cry like alot and i wanna cut my wrists and i go through mood swings alot and i am lways tired and i am even pushing away my best freind sm seriously depressed do i need to get help or am i normal for my age 13/f and if i need help how do i get it cuz like i said my family is all going through alot i dont want to stress them out even more (link)
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The fact is, most people who actually realize that they may be depressed or have emotional problems aren't. So I doubt that you are. I know what it feels like to have everything go wrong, and not want to even turn to your friends for help/support. But don't worry. No matter how bad things may be, there are many people in the world who have it worse. I know that that doesn't help, but the point I'm trying to make is that you should be happy for what you do have, and not dwell on the bad things that have happened. I've also thought about if I myself had some sort of emotional problems, because I have these mood swings and have cried a lot over problems. But I don't think I do. Like I said earlier, if you actually think and ask yourself if you have problems, you probably don't. At least, not serious ones anyway(like hormones and stuff).
One thing that helps me a lot is listening to music. Good music, about happy things. Of course, I also listen to somewhat sad ones, but don't listen to songs with intense and depressing lyrics- it just makes you feel worse. As for cutting your wrists; just don't. I never have and never want to, in my opinion it's stupid. Why inflict pain on yourself? That's the worse thing you can do for your family, friends, and you. Please PLEASE don't. Punch a pillow instead.
Thirteen, is a bit of a young age to carry such an amount of stress, and I suggest you change your lifestyle. Try to do relaxing things, and just let go of it all. Keeping everything inside, just to let it build up for when you get older is not healthy. I stress out a lot too and I'm sixteen. One thing I've learned is that you can't take in everyone's problems, just try and stay out of it. It's hard not to be affected by it, but it's for your own good. Even if you are affected by it, don't let it show too much, it could cause stress to others. So I really hope that you listen to what I said.
I have to admit that I'm still pretty stressy, but the difference is I'm changing that now. Do you stay awake for a long time in bed before you actually sleep? Don't keep things inside too much, and you'll see that you'll get a lot more rest and feel better. I hope everything works out, and I'm sure it will!
Please just ask me any more questions if you feel the need to talk or anything.
-Princez Peach
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All my best friends have gotten into weed. I'm not like that, so I've shifted to a new group of friends. Now one of my other good friends, who doesn't do weed, all of her "group" is into it too.
She so scared, and she pretty much has no friends now cause she's not into that stuff and they hate her now cause she isn't doing it too.
I'm her friend, but theyre in her classes and I'm not. How do I help her get thru this. She's starting to show symptoms of depression from this too. (link)
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This situation is not as tough as it seems. Although she's not in your classes, try hanging out with her as much as possible(if you want). For example at lunch, or free periods maybe? Also, you should try hanging out with her outside of school so that she feels like she has at least one true friend. And THAt is one more reason for her not to be depressed. Do you like shopping? Does she? If yes, then you two should go! I know this may sound materialistic but shopping or even just giving yourself a makeover can make anyone feel better. It's true! How about inviting her to hang out with your group of friends. Maybe that could work. But above all of that, tell her that you'll always be there for her, and make sure that she knows that. At night, or whenever just call her and talk to her. Maybe even by AIM or MSN. As long as you let her know that you care about her and you want to help her, I think that she'll get through this alright. And forget about those idiots smoking weed. Whatever they say doesn't count for anything at all. For whatever reason they started smoking it, it's not right, and that means that they probably have some problems themselves. So tell her to ignore whatever they say, and just hang out with her so that she doesn't feel alone. Hope I helped! And remember always be optimistic and never take what negative things others say too seriously. Good Luck with everything!
-Princez Peach
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Usually if I had a question about a song, I would look some of the lyrics up on google to find it out .. but the problem is I can't remember this song at all. I remember the music video of a white guy driving in a car (the singer) and it flashes to a black guy who dances in front of a diner every year to try and get his lover back. He does it as a ritual because she left him or something. Anyone have any idea of the music video im talking about/know the title or artist? Thanks. (link)
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Is the song you're talking about by any chance Days go By, by Dirty Vegas? I love that song. Well, I hope it's what you've been looking for!
-Princez Peach
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This may sound really weird, but I am going to a slumber party in a week and I can't find any good prank phonecalls, if any body has any good ones, please tell me (link)
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This site should give you some ideas...
http://www.franksworld.com/pranks/faq.html
this one too...
http://www.collegesucks.org/html/pranks.html
Have fun!
-Princez Peach
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me and my best friend work for my church .. we are like the altar serving coordinators and we are in the office 3 days a week. hes a little smarter than me and always seems to take charge, he even calls me "his assistant." i dont like this because i wanna have as much responsibility as he does. i cant talk to him about it, hes so passionate about this and he will get so mad at me. idk what to do .. i just wanna feel like im doing something, and helping. (link)
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This guy seems like he's a little bossy. When you two first started, did you ever try and take charge? Maybe in the beginning he just decided to be the "leader" because no one else was. Some people just can't stand not having someone taking charge. However, if he is really passionate about this job, maybe you should just let him have this thing, and let him be in charge. Don't care so much about "being under him". In fact, it's not that he's the one in charge, it's just you're letting him organize everything and you're not caring. You never know, maybe he does things that he hates with you, just so that you're happy. Should you ruin your friendship just over this? If he's only like this at work, then I think you should let it slide and don't say anything. If he's like this all of the time, then I think you should tell him how you feel.
If you don't tell him anything about the way he acts at work, just try doing more things, like volunteering to do this and that at work. If you're mad about not doing as much as him, then make it you're business to know what's going on and doing as much as him. He'll see after a while that you do do quite a bit of work at work, however, he could react differently to this situation. Maybe he really loves being in charge and might feel that his place is being taken by you. If you get to that point, maybe it'll be safe to talk to him about it.
I think though, that if he's really passionate about this, just let it go, and don't let it get to you. Besides, many people would LOVE, to have a job and not have to do as much work as the others around them.
Good luck & I hope I helped.
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I broke up with my ex a month and a half ago, and I'm still not over it. He dumped me, and then wanted to be friends.. and I refused, and we didn't speak for a couple of weeks. Then we spoke again, worked out everything, and agreed to speak in person, perhaps get back together (a couple of days later, he said he "thought about it carefully" and said he only wanted to be friends) We fought again, and then stopped talking yet again I was happy with this. I don't believe in being friends with someone afterwards, because I know I can't get over them that way and there's just no need for it. I was a little sad our friendship had been ruined because we had been good friends for 5 years, but not talking helped me to get over him. For a time. one day, out of the blue he came and apologized to me, said he wanted to put the past behind us, and invited me to a party he was having. I went, we had fun and acted like normal, I thought I was over him but that night I realized I was anything but.
I just don't know what to do anymore. We say hi and stuff, but I find myself intentionally avoiding him, or when I see him I avoid his gaze. When he talks to me, I try and make our conversations short. Every single time I see him or we talk my feelings become ever more intense. I'm kinda unintentionally acting mean to him so he won't bother speaking to me anymore and thus I can get over him.
The other night I unblocked him from IM and asked him about us getting back together ever in the future. He said you never know what could happen. I said I wanted to know whether to cut my losses and move on. He asked what kind of relationship I wanted, I said nothing serious just something casual and he said same, because he wanted to focus on more important stuff. He said if we were to get back it'd be nothing heavygoing. He acted like he was interested in getting back, and so we were joking around.. flirting and stuff, and then suddenly he changes hes mind like "i'm only really interested in physical stuff at the moment, something no stress or friendship. nothing that will distract me" and I felt awful because he had changed his mind like the drop of a hat. I said I'd never bring it up again after he said that. And I never will.
What can I do? I just am so confused right now. I don't want to argue with him, but I don't want to be friends either because it's tearing me apart. I only have a few months of high school left. How can I get over him? Should I just tell him outright I can't be friends with him? And why did he lead me on like that, and act like he wanted us to get back not once but twice?
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Hey there, this is quite a difficult situation...but there are a few solutions. So, from the info you gave on your question, this guy seems to be rather immature. But that's ok, because most guys in high school are. What's happening is, he doesn't even know what he wants to do. He wants to be with you, but he only wants a physical relationship. That means that he doesn't want to hurt you, and he cares about what happens to you. But nonetheless, he still just wants a physical relationship with girls he he doesn't know too well.
If you really don't want to be friends with him, just tell him that. Well, tell him that you find it really awkward when you're around him and that you're having trouble getting over him. Even if you're scared of how he'll react to this, don't be. GO FOR IT! After all, you were acting mean towards him on purpose to make him avoid you.
I know maybe that you might think that it's too soon, but the only way you're going to fully get over him IS by moving on. What I mean by "moving on" is finding another guy. Have you really been paying attention to all the other guys at school? For all you know, you've been too focused on this situation and missed signals from a guy who likes you.
I personally think that you should tell him what you think, but still try and stay friends. OF course, after high school it will be harder to stay in contact, but you never know. He could just come back to you when he's in his mid-twenties when he's matured. But I highly suggest that you don't sit around and wait for that to happen. Like I said before, just put your interest in other guys, and hopefully you'll find someone else. Just try and stay friends with him, but if not...oh well. There's a lot more fish in the sea. I'm not trying to be mean, but he's still immature now, he doesn't know what he wants, so don't let your feelings get hurt by what he says and does. I hope this helps even a bit and I hope it will all work out for you in the end.
-Princez Peach
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im a 14/m and in march i went out with this girl and we didnt realy see each other that much because we both had alot going on and then we decided just to break up until summer but i dont know what a was thinking and was realy mean and said alot of stuff i didnt mean and this made her hate me and i realy regret it and that is the only thing i have ever regreted in my life but anyway lately i have seen her around and it has made me feel even worse and want to be with her even more but i just wanted some advice on how i can let her know how i feel and how sorry i am and that i still like her alot and would like another chance
p.s. i know its to probly to late to start over with her but i wanna givve it a chance (link)
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To be honest with you, you shouldn't have your hopes up for making this work...but you're right, you should give it a chance and try. If it doesn't work at all in the end, just move on but then at least you'd know that you tried (which is a lot better than wondering what would of have happened if you didn't.
Ok, so now what to do to try and get her back. Write her a letter telling her how sorry you are, and make it a long one. Even if she doesn't seem to be happy or do anything after that- don't give up yet. She will probably keep that letter and reread it again and again. After that, you could maybe buy her some flowers and just give them to her with a note saying sorry. Something else that she will definetely love is you making a cd for her. You can burn a cd with a bunch of songs that talk about "being sorry" and "regreting"...etc. She'll see that you took the time to put it together. You could continue giving her things, but not too many things. After that, you should go to her house or try and meet somewhere and just talk about everything.
I really hope everything works out for you..and remember, don't give up after a couple tries. BUT don't go overboard and be "stalker-ish". I hope I helped!
-Princez Peach
ps. girls like things that you made for them, it shows that you took time to make something just for them.( you could compose her a song, draw or paint a picture for her, write a poem...)
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today i went to the dentist and they said that i had to get it pulled. so tomorrow i am getting it pulled at 11:30 A.M. i have gotten a tooth pulled before but that was when i was 7 and it was loose but it didn't hurt and i had novicane then. this time i have novicane but this tooth is nnot loose. please can i have some advice. thx (link)
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Well, the only way to get passed this situation is to just go through with it. When they take the tooth out, it won't hurt at all, no matter how stuck it is. The only time that it might hurt, is about an hour after the procedure's done. The advice I can give you is just don't think about it when they're pulling the tooth. Find something else to think about, and let them do all the work. Before you'll know it, it will all be over, believe me. Good Luck!
-Princez Peach
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Ok. Im thirteen years old and I'm around 125-130 lbs. I'm not sayint i'm fat, I am just really muscular in my legs. Although, I do have alot of, un-wanted fat in my stomach. My mom says I don't need to loose weight, but that is what moms are supposed to say. I look at my friends, or family, and they are so much smaller than me. Me and my best friends share clothes all the time. But my clothes seem to be a little baggy on her. I always feel so bad. :( My question is, what are some ways I can loose weight? I would like a detailed answer please, not just "eat right and work out." thankyou so much in advance. :) (link)
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First of all, are you really fat? Don't compare yourself with other people, everyone's bodies are built differently, and that's why they maybe seem smaller than you. Do you still want to lose weight? Well, if you do, I really recommend that you lose the weight naturally. Don't take any pills or things like that to lose weight, they may sometimes work but it's really unhealthy to do that. You should just excercise and maintain a good diet. You can excericise by doing, for example, thirty sit-ups a day, every day. Or maybe jogging, or even biking. As long as you keep doing excercise a little bit at a time, every day, you'll lose weight. For your diet, try eating fruits more often, and ignore the temptations of eating junkfood as much. Hope that helped!
-Princez Peach
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Ok so i really wanted to go to this really good, expensive private high school for years now and my friend that just moved away is going there, but my best friend isn't going there. I don't really want to wear a uniform and i kind of want to go to a public school because if i went to a religious school would there be any relationships? I'm so confused! (link)
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Once you get the facts, it won't be confusing at all. Private school is almost exactly the same...Except for the uniforms, maybe a few more and stricter rules, the price of attending, and perhaps smaller classes. If none of those things bother you, then you could go to that private school. On TV, private religious schools look so strict, nuns stand around you with rulers ready to beat you, and no one can talk...etc. In real life, it really is nothing like that-- at all. Students have relationships for sure. The only questions I guess left to ask yourself are, is changing schools and leaving your best friend the best idea(for your sake)? How badly do you want to this private school? If you do choose to go to the private school, good luck, and I'm sure that despite leaving your best friend, you're going to make many other new ones. On the other hand, if you decided to stay with public, you can be happy that you're still with your best friend, in an environment you know so well. You can think about all the money you saved by not going there. Well I hope everything works out, and whatever choice you make, it will be the right one for you.
-Princez Peach
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who sings the song with the lyrics, i like big butts and cannot lie...? (link)
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Artist: Sir Mix a lot
(not sure if that's the spelling)
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I have this cousin that is gonna get operated. The thing is she doesnt have a lot of chance of getting through safely(if you wat i mean...)
I dont want to talk about it with her because she doesnt know that I know...what should I do I dont want to loose a friend(and family member)!!!
HELP!!! please.... (link)
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OMG! That is horrible...sorry to hear about this. I suggest that you don't think about the bad side(s) of this situation. Every time you're with her you probably get that thought into your head, but you should try really hard to not think about it. Think about all the good times you two have had together...and happy things..okay that might sound lame but it does work! But whatever you do don't tell her no matter what, unless something important comes up or like an emergency situation where you do have to tell her. In any situation especially this one, always be an optimist, like always look on the bright side of this situation instead of the bad side. Sorry I was late in answering this...GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING! I hope it all works out for the best!
~Princez Peach~ ;)
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okay I have thisd friend ..... and we hang out with a really big group of friends evry day! but when we do hang out its usally us and stuff..... I think Im beginning to like him more than like!and if I ask him out I think that will ruin our friendship like it happend befor! .....please help me because IDK what to do! thx bye
XoXoXo Jess oXoXoX (link)
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When you begin to like one of your friends, there's always a risk when trying to take that friendship to the "next level". If you really do like him, I think you should give it a shot. Maybe one day you should just sit down and talk with him, or maybe even walk because that makes it easier. It's always hard to know what the reaction of guys will be to that kind of news, so it's almost unpredictable. Sometimes the best of friends make the best couples and sometimes they make the worst, so this is definetly hard. So follow your heart. But if you really are scared of losing this friendship, then you should really put a lot of thought into this situation. If we think about it, a lot relationships (as in bf gf)in high school don't last for a really long time. So maybe if you guys did end up going out but it didn't work out and you broke up, there is a chance that for some reason you two stopped talking to each other. So maybe going out for a little while isn't worth losing a possible lifetime friendship. I'm not saying that this relationship is destined to fail (hopefully it isn't), but that there is going to be that certain risk there. For all you know though, it could turn out that he likes you back and is going through the same dillema as you. So I wish good luck to you Jess! [and omg sorry I answered this late :( ] Hope I helped and remember if this is what you really want go for it, and even if he doesn't share the same feelings as you tell him you still want to be friends with him no matter what happens. [Follow your
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im having an upcoming birthday party at water conutry in june and there are these 3 girls who arent very nice to me at times but they are sometimes and i was wondering should i invite them here and there storys are please tell me yea or no
( lets call this girl mary ) okay mary she doesnt like me that much and every day when i was standing next to my friend she said to my friend she doesnt like me so why should i invite her if she doesnt like me
( lets call this girl sue ) sue talks to me mostly but only when we go out somewhere or on the phone when i call her in school she barely talks to me and at my school we still ahve recess even there we in the 7th grade and were 13 and at recess she dont eevn say hi to me so why should i invite her to my party if she dont talk to me
( lets call this girl cindy ) well cindy theres inst much wrong with her the only thing is she doesnt talk ot me all the time its different everyday and one day she is my best friend and the next she is my worst enemy so why should i invite her if she is two faced
well those are all my storys please answer them with a yes or no thanks so much for taking the time to read this and keep in mind that when these 3 are together or even just 2 of them they are so mean to evryone and total bitches i rate HIGH if you give me a reasonable answer
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No, in a way you kind of answered your own question...and they seem like really mean so I would say to definetely NOT invite them!
~Princez Peach~
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im a 17 yr old guy and i just joined the local swim team. the problem is i keep getting hard and it sticks out quite a bit sometimes. its kinda embarassing. any advice? (link)
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To be honest, I'm not exactly sure what you should do. When you go swimming what kind of swimsuit do you wear? Well, I'm guessing you don't have like swimmimg trunks and that you have to wear the brief type swimming suit. Are there different colors? If there are, then you could try darker colors...that could help even a bit. Um this is sort of wrong...but are you sure you're the only one that's getting hard all the time? Maybe if you wanted to look really fast at someone else...then you might see that you're not alone in this situation, or that maybe it only looks bigger to you, but it really doesn't stick out that much. Do you know like why it keeps happening? Maybe it's because you're cold or something...well anyway this probably didn't help a whole lot but I hope it helped even just a little. So if all else fails...just stick to standing in certain positions or holding your arms on the sides in ways that people won't be that likely to see it sticking out. If you need any other advice about this or anything else...just ask me and I'll try my best to answer it!
~Princez Peach~ ;)
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Ok,sorry if this is long. I moved away from my city,call it A to a town/suburb call it B. If i might say,i was friends with almost everyone(in my grade in elementry school and middle school] in my home city, A.But when i moved to B,everything changed. People in B judge you by how you look and they hate you even when they never met you. I have friends,yes,but im not all that pretty and i know people dont like me,people that i dont even no hate me. I hate it,i dont hate anyone or talk about people behind there backs. People in A are so much nicer but ever since i moved,i get sadder and sadder every day. I know its stupid but i really cant handle it! I know at least some people will hate you were ever you go but im just not used to this change. Im not all that outgoing,but could anyone give me advice for my situation please? (link)
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OMG! I completely know how you feel, except for that I'm in highschool. I lived in the city and now I moved to a town as well, and I really know how you feel. The whole "people hating you without even knowing you" thing is something I can relate to. It probably feels that wherever you walk you hear people whispering and they might say something that makes you think that they're talking about you, and a lot times it turns out that they are. A lot of times I feel like saying something back at those people who talk about me or say something, but I shouldn't and I don't. I mean keeping it all in isn't all that good either because that could lead to depression, but...wouldn't you hate it if everyone just saw you as a girl who always shouts back and who's always angry or misunderstood? So some advice to you would be to not dwell on what people think and say so much. Someone said something to me once that made me really mad, and the more I thought about it, the more I felt like sad inside, so that just proves that thinking about even just ONE negative thought for too long can hurt yourself. Okay, this is exactly what I wouldn't like to hear if I gave myself this advice but TRY to ignore those people. Another thing, don't think so much about what random strangers in your school think about you, think about the friends you DO have. It took me a long time to get used to this BIG BIG change of moving, and I'm still not completely used to this change, and this all isn't stupid because I feel like the same way. You know sometimes your life will feel like nothing's going right, like you think,"Why me?!", because you haven't done anything wrong and everyone suddenly hates you for no apparent reason...but just Brush the haterz off your shoulder! LOL exactly that...what ever they say to you bounces off and goes right back to them! I hope things work out, even if it might take a while...and in a way thx because writing this out actually helped me a bit too. Please ask me if you have any other questions or email too...
my email: pcgamergrl18@netscape.net
Good luck!
~Princez Peach~ ;)
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I was wonderin if thers any cool girly websites with horoscopes or hair ideas or anything like that that you don't have to be a member to view? I just want a good website where I could go to for ideas or quizzes for fun! Plz help! (link)
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I know a site that's perfect! Go to www.seventeen.com It's THE best site for everything! There's quizzes and hair suggestions daily horoscopes...and tons more! Hope I helped!
~Princez Peach~ ;)
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I've liked this boy since i was 8, his name is Ty. I never told him becuase id thought he would have laughed.
Since i have moved up to my next school grade 6 he has been hanging out with me and my new mates after school and i like him more, he is my best friend.. well one of them! But i have my new best friend abi, she is blonde, a model, good looking, fashionable, funny and everything a boy wants. He is really into her and she is really into him. They have been dating on and off all through the year, well since we started our new school.
I wish he liked me... he told my friend lauren that he liked my personality but likes abis looks... so he basically is going for abi becuase her looks..
He wont date me becuause im not blonde. Im not gonna dye my hair just for a boy i mean boys come and go so why would i do that? [if u suggest that] but i really do wanna date him he is so good looking and all the girls like him.. i guess im lucky to be his best mate but i wanna b more.
I got dared to snog him but he wouldnt [coz im not blonde] i told him a millioon times i liked him! but he dont listen. how could i make him like me? i mean im not exactly pretty but i have a nice body [not bragging] and he flirts with me sometimes. I just so wish he would date me!!
So yeah how can i get him to like me?? please post
lush me x (link)
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If you've told him a million times that you like him, and he hasn't done anything then he isn't worth your time as a boyfriend and I think you should consider just being friends. But are you sure that the only reason he doesn't like you is because you're blonde? That seems a bit silly if you think about it. I don't want to be mean but please don't spend all your time just dreaming about him or ways to try to get him. You know, eventually if he keeps this attitude of "only dating blonde girls" then he won't have anyone to date at the end, and he just might turn to you for advice or as a girlfriend. But don't just sit there as your heart constantly is being broken, say something to him, and don't be shy about it. You can tell him that he's broken your heart straight like that and you could even shout so that he knows your serious, and if you break out in tears, then you'll make him think for sure. But one thing is for sure DO NOT dye your hair blonde just so any guy likes you, only dye it blonde if you really want it blonde. If he still doesn't react in any way, like by saying sorry or even having a long talk with you then should he really be one of your best friends? Well I hope I helped even just a bit!
~Princez Peach08~ ;)
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What are some stores or websites where I can get really cute skirts for our school's spring fling? (link)
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www.gojane.com ... THey have really cute stuff, including skirts!
~Princez Peach~
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i think my best friend is either bulemic or anorexic. she weighs about 119 pounds, wears a size 0 jeans and she constantly goes on about how shes fat. SHE IS NOT AT ALL. she graphs her weight on a chart (i saw it) and it's REALLY starting to scare me. what should i do? talk to somebody about it, talk to her...? please help!! (link)
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I think you should definetely talk to her. I mean she's not necesarily bulimic or anorexic but she may act that way sometimes. If you consider telling somebody about this, be very careful, because some people are very sensitive about this and you could risk your friendship. Maybe she's not like that, I'm just giving an example, but you know the way she acts because you two are best friends so you know what's best. Even if she may not be like the real definition of bulimic or anorexic people, you should still give her a talk about throwing up to fit in a bikini. So if I were you, I would definetly talk to her about it...study how she reacts...and maybe you should even talk to her about her chart. Maybe she's just obsessing over this for now and all she needs is someone to tell her that she looks fine. And I heard somewhere that when people look at themselves in a mirror they actually appear larger than they really are. Well, Hope I helped!
~Princez Peach08~ ;)
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