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bulemic/anorexic friend?
i think my best friend is either bulemic or anorexic. she weighs about 119 pounds, wears a size 0 jeans and she constantly goes on about how shes fat. SHE IS NOT AT ALL. she graphs her weight on a chart (i saw it) and it's REALLY starting to scare me. what should i do? talk to somebody about it, talk to her...? please help!!
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I would talk to her more about it. That could be her way of dealing with things. Maybe she needs someone to talk to. I'd get to know what's going on with her. If it seems like she is anorexic I would say something to an adult, whether it be your parents, her parents, a guidance counselor, teacher.. I would. Aneroxia is very serious. Some cases more than others. Regardless, you wouldn't want her to get worse. Maybe you could ask her to tell her mom, so she can get to a doctor. And if she's making herself throw up, she's bulemic =.. which is also very serious.
Hope I helped.
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My friend almost turned anorexic. I told her that she will be skinny but she will get hurt. Then she said But I will die skinny. I thought that was a bad attitude toward it. So you should try to talk to your friend about it and maybe she will confess. Dont tell any body until you acually find out what your friend is doing and then you will no when its time to tell. ~LMS
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If you really think she has a problem I would say something to someone. Her mom if you know her well enough.Just ask her if she thinks maybe friend has a problem with this because you noticed that and you don't want to get her in trouble but your're worried. Be prepared for her to get mad at you for awhile.You could talk to her but she will probably deny it.If you do and she tells you that she is...definatley tell someone.
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hmmm well you never no because some people can be weird about there weight but not be bulemic or anorexic. if she starts to loose more weight then i would start to worry keep an eye on her. hope i helped
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You have to seek advice from somebody else. People who suffer from diseases like anorexia probably will not take you seriously and will continue to think that they need to lose weight, are fat, etc. First what you need to do is contact a helpline (these can be found in the phone book or teen magazines in the help sections). They will be able to give you better advice on what to do and how to handle the problem.
I would also advise you to either tell your parents and then get them to talk to your friends parents as this will make them take the problem more seriously if it is coming from another adult. Or, if you know them well enough, you could tell her parents yourself. Either way, her family must be notified of their daughters condition so that they can take steps to prevent it from getting further out of hand.
If you really want, you can try to talk to your friend about it, but I honestly don't think you will get through to her.
Good luck honey
Claire xx
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This is a scary suituation. You need to talk to her one on one and tell her she is not fat and you are scared something bad is going to happen to her. Tell her if you ever NEEDED to lose weight that you are their for her and you got her back.<<shows trust and a good friend. Just tell her how you feel why she shouldnt be doing this and >hopefully< she will consider it! If this does not work out, go to an adult BEFORE it gets to be really bad. *this is just the beggining of it* hoped i helped!<3 BLONDE911
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Talk to her about it tell her that shes not fat and doesnt need to be throwing up
go see a counsiller at school
about her problems mabe you could go together
roxie
hope ive helped
xxx
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119lbs? She isn't that skinny! Stop worrying about it. Most of the women I go out with are 100lbs or less and they aren't bulemic or anorexic.
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You should definitely talk to her. She might take it the wrong way, but explain to her that she is scaring you and you don't want her to hurt herself. If she doesn't listen, talk to a trusted adult.
Hope I helped!
Ke
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This is serious. your friend has a disorder and she needs help! if she doesnt get help the body will eat away at muscle tissue for fuel..thats when the likliness for heart problem inccreases. This isnt just about her looking way to skinny..its about doing perminent damage to your body. So the question..what can you do? Well maybe go on google.com or askjeeves. Print out a page about anorexia/bulemia and the signs..and the harm it can do. Show this to your friend. Alsp..print out a chart of height and the normal weight. Your friend will see first hand that shes underweight. If you talking to her and showin her the stuff you printed from the website doesnt help..its time to tell her mother..or your mother. Maybe if you tell your mom you can get her to tell her mom. Something has to be done and you will feel really good about yourself when she gets treatment. These disorders arent permenent! All she needs to do is get treatment and she will be ok again
-melissa-
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i was there. were your friend was. i thought i was fat, i didn't like the way i looked, i always said i was fat, and then i went anorexic. eh. not a good idea on my half.. but anyways. i would just talk to your friend. dont bring anyparents into this.. or adults or w.e. that makes things SO much worse. i would tell your friend. "hey, are you okay. you are really starting to worrie me. you look great, and yet you still worrie about your weight!" and then if she says, yes. im anor, or bulem. then be like im here for you, i'll help you. because it is a really hard time. and it is really hard to get out of. offer to go tot he Dr's w. her, and to help her eat more. she will feel a lot better knowing that she has a friend that is 100 % w. her
-h.i.h-
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Yeah your friends retarded. Seek help for her.
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ok well like whenever you spend the night with her or somthing see what she eats and if she eats a lot then goes to the bathr0om and throws it up or i fshe starves herself or can go a day wiht like hardly eating anything then u should talk to a docter or school nurse or consuler! good luck 2 ya! =)
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Well, it's obvious she is having some issues, but does she actually not eat? All girls talk about how fat they are, and making herself throw up once does not exactly make an eating disorder. However, she does sound like she is developing a disorder. Tell her that she's beautiful, you care for her, you don't know what you would do without her. Remind her that all teenage girls hate their bodies, think they are fat, etc. In reality, most people are too concerned with the way they look to bother noticing you and the ones that do notice you are losers with way too much time and not enough self esteem. If she decides to stop eating or vomit every meal, say to her, "Well, if you're going to do it, then I will too!" (But don't really), and hopefully she will tell you how much you mean to her, etc. and you can say, "That's exactly how you've been making me feel."
Be there for her, and best of luck!
-Kigeto
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This is definetly an act of bulemia. Yes, go to somebody to get her the help she needs. You need to tell her that either she needs to tell someone, or you will. Warn her about it, and try assuring her that it will be ok, your best friend will probably be angry, and she will be in denial. But you have to do whats right for her, you don't want her to be in anymore danger than she is now. So I am hoping that you will go straight to someone as soon as possible.
-TheTeenGirl
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Yes, you should talk to someone!!! talk to her, her mom, your mom or a councler or someone else you trust!!
always there-
Kels
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I think you should talk to her and compliment her on how she looks. If that dont work just talk to her on how scared you are for her. If shes a good friend she will understand! Hope i helped you out :)
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Just tell her how you feel and what you think about it. Also encourage her that she is way too skinny and no one likes bony people. (Or you could tell her that she isn't fat, but that's not as effective.) Hope I helped.
~passionate
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I think you should definetely talk to her. I mean she's not necesarily bulimic or anorexic but she may act that way sometimes. If you consider telling somebody about this, be very careful, because some people are very sensitive about this and you could risk your friendship. Maybe she's not like that, I'm just giving an example, but you know the way she acts because you two are best friends so you know what's best. Even if she may not be like the real definition of bulimic or anorexic people, you should still give her a talk about throwing up to fit in a bikini. So if I were you, I would definetly talk to her about it...study how she reacts...and maybe you should even talk to her about her chart. Maybe she's just obsessing over this for now and all she needs is someone to tell her that she looks fine. And I heard somewhere that when people look at themselves in a mirror they actually appear larger than they really are. Well, Hope I helped!
~Princez Peach08~ ;)
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give her hints, like say, "are you gonna eat today?"
things that push the act about eating. if that doesnt work (try for at least 2 weeks) talk to a counsalor and maybe she wil give you advice. if that doesnt work, then talk to her parents.
~lele
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