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She fights for no reason.....
Well, me and my friend have been friends like forever. WE are bestfriends and our families are extremly close. Well, she has tried braking the relationship every month and 3 or 4 times a month. I am sick of it!! And starting to get sick of her fighting. She can be oh so nice and OH SO mean. We only fight online because she doesn't want to fight in person. I think she might want the relationship to end but I really don't know. She says she will always come back to me every time we fight but sometime I think she won't. I really don't want to lose her but maybe the next time we fight this may be the end to our relationship. I need some advice with that. She used to say how I get all the guys, and how I am not pretty, and also how I copy her, and junk but like I don't understnad her. I have tried not telling her more close things so if we do lose the relationship she won't really have anything to say to anyone about my secrets. But Like I need help on what to do with her.....
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ignore her shes a bitch. then when she gets sad then be her friend again. hope i helped
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She sounds very moody..and i dont think you desserve to have fights picked with you for no reason. Definately take a break from her. I saw other people suggest just not talking online to her. Well if yyou do that are you really friends? If yuo dont talk online you will know that she will be thinking in her head how she wants to fight. Next time you fight suggest " i think we need a break from each other" one of my former closest frieds kind of drifted apart and took a break..(not due to fighting..but other issues) and now we are OK. Not best friends..but just OK. We talk in school..we are friendly..and to tel you the truth..its better that way due to the issues she has with drugs,etc. So maybe its best for you to just be friendly with her and thats IT for now...being that shes so moody. A struggling friendship is never fun..but its something everyone deals with at some point in their life..good luck with everything
-melissa
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first of all, she doesnt seem to be a very good friend. but one thing you do HAVE to stop is talking online. i have made that mistake may times and it just comes back to haunt you. go up to her face to face nex time you fight and i garentee you things will be MUCh different. you need to be the stronger person by doing this. my best advice if you wanna save the relationship is to talk to her face to face, if not just say to her that if she always wants to fight, then why be her friend..and that it's "over" persay...good luck..if you have any questions leave them in my inbox *KaysEe
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Maybe talking online is the problem. You said that's when she picks fights. So one way to end the fights would be to stop having conversations online. Block her on your msn or aim or whatever, and just talk to her in person or on the phone. (Do this delicately, though, or else she might take offense... but if you explain that you'd rather just talk on the phone and see her at school and stuff, it might be okay)
Just a thought. The other advice about not being friends with someone who's mean to you is good too... it's up to you which route you choose to take. Good luck!
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Since you guys have been friends for so long, you probaly just need a break from each other before things get out of control. Just kind of seperate from each other, but still be friendly. Maybe do that until you think you guys are able to have a healthy friendship.
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Well have you tried asking your friend if she'd trying to end the relationship? And if so why would she want to? I know thats a really short and probably unhelpful answer but i hoped it helped at least a little! :)
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Don't take this the wrong way, but you really need to ask yourself, "Why do I want to be friends with someone who doesn't want to be my friend?" I think that by staying her friend, you are hurting yourself more. But don't end it with a fight. Just tell her that you think the two of you need to be apart for a while, hang out with other people (sounds like a typical girlfriend/boyfriend break up, huh?) and that you hope the best for her. Mention that you'll always care about her. And stay true to your word, don't obsess over her. Maybe someday you will be friends again, or maybe you will go your seperate ways for good. But it's normal for friendships to change like this, your worst enemy one year could be your best friend the next year and vice versa.
I hope it works out for you.
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well maybe shes useing you! and she only is friends with you when she wants somthing and if thats the case and it dosent change then it would be best maybe to just be friends not like BEST friends cuz it happened to me before and it worked out! good luck 2 yew! =)
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