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My name is Emily and blah blah blah.


:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.


:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.


:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.


:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.


:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.

If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM

If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.

:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).

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Iwas just wondering if stuff like nail polish remover and permanent markers could get you high?
If they can.. dont you think its kind of dumb to have products such as that when they could probably easily develope something that isnt harmful?

Permanent markers can't get you high but nail polish remover, house cleaning porducts and such substitute as inhalents to teenagers these days.

And it's basically imp[ossible to make it impossible. If they add water and nothing else, then it wouldn't get the job done.

Even the smallest product can get kids high so just keep that in mind

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I'm thinking of going natural. No makeup or lots of hairspray.

-Would that make my skin texture better? [My pores look huge around my nose, not on my nose.]

-Would it make my acne go away? [My old acne]
For some reason I'm not getting new acne, it's just these red bumps on my face that have been there..for weeks. Anything I can do to get them to go away? [No proactive, please.]

I also want healthier hair. It's damaged I'm sure. It was bleached. I use "Pantene Pro-V Restoratives." Does it really work? Any products or any tips for anything will be helpful.

I won't rate low because you didn't answer all my little questions in here.

I just want healthier looking skin and hair. :]
Thankssss.

For hair. Frutice works really really well. And bleaching your hair definately damaged your hair. You should just go with your natural hair color or just have it go a lighter shade with just a hair dye. Frutice products are really really good and smells good too =D. And blow drying, straighteners, steer away. They damage the hair too.And hair products from the stores. They take more than they give in the long run. And they damage hair right away. So try and go to the salon a lot.

About your skin. Of course make up damages your skin. IT gives it an unhealthy look, can enlargen pores, makes your skin break out, give you wrinkles, etc. Most IMPORTANT rule: (okay, two) 1)Never use acne products either form stores, perscribed by dermatologists (oral or ont). They'll destory you internally and externally. 2)Neveruse lemon juice. Unless you put on a pound of sunscreen on your face, cuz you will have brown spots where the lemon juice was applied (it burns/tans faster)

Just change your pillow and towels everyday. Use a face cloth or cotton pads to wash your face. Use CETAPHIL. I love that soap. It's gentle and smooths your skin. When you use lotions and stuff to put on your face, make sure it says Oil free or Won't clog pores

Green tea really really really helps. Mix green tea and water. Cool it to room temp.Dunk cotton pads or face cloth in there and put it over your face every night 10-15min (re soaking it every 3min or so)

It'll smooth out your skin, make the pore smaller, make your face look flawless while getting rid of acne. It's gonna work slowly but you'll see the result withint 3-4 nights.

And the small red bumps...it might be because you're eating a lot of red food. Seriously. Lay off hot sauce, tomatoes, ketchup, pizza etc.

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You see now days that everyone has those side bangs...you know, you cut your bangs and put them to the side...something like that.

I have curly/frizzy hair (black)....do you think it'll be a bad idea if I do it? I'm chinese too...and 14 (my age doesn't matter)

If it is (be possitive) how do you do it?

Thanks!!!

hon, you shouldn't have your hair the way it is because other people does. you should have your hair the way you want.

I've had my hair like this a long time ago before it was even a "trend" I like my hair this way. It expresses my emotions.

And with a curly frizzy it's not the best idea. But (I normally don't do this since store products can damage your hair more than help it) Frutice products work really well. I don't know what it's called but it's a short round bottle (it's small) Read the front and it should say it's gonna help with frizzy puffy hair. Use that. Or straighten your hair or blow dry oyur hair straight and apply the Frutice product. But doing that everyday will really damage your hair. So I would say just to keep you hair like it is right now..

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I have been friends with my best friend since 4th grade. We are both going into 11th grade currently. Recently, she has found this boy that she really likes and he likes her, but it seems that she doesn't care if I'm there to hang out with them while his friend is there also and makes me feel like a 3rd wheel. She ignores me and doesn't seem to give a damn anymore. The thing is that she's never like that even when she had her other boyfriend beforehand. I am the one who wants a boyfriend and she tells me oh boys are stupid and there's no one around that's good enough. When I was at her house, she seemed to act fake around him and now I have heard that she's been holding hands with him and staring at him too much.Ii don't know but she's not exactly caring if I found a guy yet if she does, it's like oh my god. I don't want to seem jealous but it's like I'm not even her best friend. The sad thing is, they just met in person 3 days ago! I know she needs to have her space with him...but she's acting out of character.

Boys make girls go into a mold and ignore everyone outside that fake mold. If she's going boy crazy and not acting herself, you might wnana just sit her down and tell her how you feel. A boy shouldn't break up such a valuable friendship that's hard to find, right?

Tell her that you're feeling left out and that she's not being true to herself and her guy friend.

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13/f
i really want my hair to be long. not like, down to my butt but to like my mid back. right now its about at the bottom of my bra. & i have layers so the shortest layer, not including my side bangs is like to the top of my bra lol. my mom said my hair looks scraggily and i should get a trim, but everytime i go they end up going crazy with the scissors and cutting off like 3 more inches than i wanted. i only don't even want to cut it but my moms basically making me and i dont want it to look dried out. so is there any stuff i can buy to make the dry/split ends go away, or what else can i do? thankss

I wouldn't normally suggest this: Frutice. I love that brand. It nourishes your hair and makes it smooth. Theres a product that's called Frutice.somethng..erm. It's short and round and it says it'll smooth out dry and frizzy hair.

It works really well =D Use frutice conditioners too. But don't over use these products cuz in the lonh run it can really damage your hair

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hi im 14 and about 5 foot 10, i weigh about 165 pounds...do i need to loose weight or am i oaky the way i am?

p.s i can take constructive critisism

Okay, 5' 5" should be 125lbs. 5' 6" 130 5' 7" 135 5' 8" 140 5' 9" 145 5' 10" 150lbs. You should be around 150lbs. You're a little over the avg weight so you should exercise. (5' 10"? LUCKY. I'm 5'5..5'6? And I feel short everywhere I go =D)

Just go on a healthy diet...eat 3 times a day and 2 snack in b/w meals (healthy one slike apple, banana, baby carrots, etc.) to help you from over eating

Exercise at least 3 times a day (walk, jog around your nehigborhood for 30min each day.)

Or you can go see your doctor so he or she can give you a diet plan to go on to lose those extra pounds =D

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im 14/ m okay it all started at the beginning of the summer, there was this girl i had a crush on(a big time crush) so i decided to tell her and well i got rejected bt thats not the problem, after a little while i got over her but now im back in school ive started to get feelings for her again and i think that if i tell her sheel think im a stalker, what do i do>? help!

Hon,, she said no. Leave it at a friendship level. I mean [I] think that guys who drool over girls are sweet and cute..but if it turns to stalking...it's a bye bye time.

And what will you tell her? That you like her? That you wanna go out with her? Just asking her out or saying tht you like her is fine...

But if you stare, follow, sit behind her 24/7, try to touch her, walk behind her back and forth, beg people around her to switch seats with you, etc. That's gonna scare her off, make her think you're an obscure person, and just drive her off (yes, that happened to me so don't doubt that.)

So just talk to her, be nice, friendly, etc.

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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my ex boyfriend jesse who is also 17 years old and I broke up,but we still like each other,the only reason we broke up is becouse his mom dosn't want us seeing each other anymore becouse she dosn't think iam good enough for him becouse my mom dosn't make as much money as she does his mom makes over 8 dollars an hour and she's always bragging about it and my mom only makes minimum wage which isn't very much at all so how can I make her see that the money dosn't make the person it's how the person acts?

I'm sorry that this is happening. Society is just screwed up and it's always about money and so many closeminded people..uhg.

It's hard to change grown up's minds (I'm bi and my parents are homophobic and everytime they watch a movie with a gay, or lesbian inthere, they switch the cahnnel) --(so i don't tell them or bring up the subject of orientations)

Anyways since you have no power (or rights) to barg into the home and tell her straight out about this problem, you should have your boyfriend tell your mom. Money isn't everything. Money cna't buy happiness. Money doesn't do anything but bring on the violence and hatred.
She should never compare money to people. And why doesn't see ask what her SON wants. Not her. Youre making him happy and if she doesnt want her son to be happy...well that is screwed up.

Just have your boyfriend tell all those things to your mom. That money can't buy happiness, money isnt everything and can never buy what we truely need in life: love happiness and freedome. It only brings hatred against one another..even death. Jealousy, rivlary [sp?]. Money shouldn't be the reason she's taking away her sons happiness. Why she's seperating people that love each other just because she dislikes it. If she's looking at happiness as money, she doesn't know what real happiness means. Money does no good except for earning fake respect and freinds. But nothing else. It makes people close minded.

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I was wondering if anyone knew any good cheap, or at home recepies to use to get rid of your acne.. My acne isn't that bad really.. I would just really love to get rid of those few zits I have. Thank You!

Wow I've answered a lot of weight losing and acne problems yo. And yes, I've done them myself so don't worry about me giving an oil filled recipe to cause more break outs...

Green tea yo. Yes, green tea. Mix green tea bag or powder into hot water...mix thoroughly and let it cool to room temp. Wash your face with a face cloth..or cotton pads...but not your hands...anywhos wash your face, dry off(pat, don't rub) with a clean towel...then dunk cotton pads or face cloth (not the one you used to clean your face) into the green tea, and pat your face with the acne spots or just cover the whole face with the soaked towel or pads.

It'll smooth your skin, make your pores finer, clear away acne...etc. It's gonna take time but it's make your face beautiful like woah. Those cleansers that say will get rid of acne..and all those products, oral and skin medicines the dermatologist perscribe/give to you will make your acne disappear fast..but dry out the skin and whe n you stop using it, the acne will come back..so you get adicted to the meds and then in the long run, it will hurt your skin and if you take the oral med it will hurt oyur internally..just a headsup if you're planing to go to those dermotologists

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what are some scientific issues that are currently being debated?
ive got stem cells, and i need more please..

Um, I think one is about wether or not Pluto will be a planet...and if not what it will be. I think that's one.

Abortion..that's not scientific persay...but it's debated...and I say no to it. You're killing a child before it can even live. That's cruelty

This involves science...well more of a PETA debate. Whether or not to use animals as lab experiments to test medicines on them..it's scientific all the way though....

But anywhos...I'm a big animal rights, homosexual rights person ...and so on. Haha. random.

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Okay,It's kinda long but I need help!
I like this guy right and im not sure if he likes me or my friend.He looks at me sometimes but doesnt talk or flirt with me usually when he likes a girl he flirts with them in away.He kinda flirted with my friend today(he hit her on the head with a peice of paper: he did the same to his guy friend)
But,like i was saying he looks at me sometimes..like the other day him and his other guy friend was both looking at me and when i turned there way they both turned away and his guy friend hit him on the shoulder soo i dont know but i like this guy but i dont knwo if i should keep likin him or stop HELP!!!

First things first...I don't see how hitting a girl on the head with a piece of paper is attractive or even considered flirting..that's just guy fun and jokin around thing.

And about that staring thing..he could've been staring at the window behind you or something..staring in the direction you are doesn't mean he is staring at YOU.

Well with that out of the way...he might not be talking or flirting with you because he's nervous around you. Say that he does like you..that might =make him nervous and not want to talk. Maybe he's not prepared to talk to you. Give him time..and by time I mean few more days..if a month goes by and nothing happens, you start a convo with him.

I can't say for sur if he likes you because 1) I don't know him 2)Not all guys are the same

Just plan times where you and your crush can go to the movies with a few other friends. Making to going bowling. Just make times where you guys cna hang out casually. Be friendly. Flirt with him. If he flirts back, YOU ask him out.

If you're not sure, plan several more and then by at least the 10th time, ask him to go to the movies with you..without friends =D

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ok so i may sound stupid, but here it goes.

there is this kid on my Cross Country team who is AMAZING! he is extremely cute, athletic, and nice. buttttttt he's a junior and i'm only a freshman, and my selfesteme is low to begin with, so it's like why would he ever notice me.
i'm thinking it's just a dream crush.

i am in a semi relationship now (we aren't like going out yet until school starts and we know whats going on) and i REALLLYYYYY really care about him. but whenever i see the other guy i just melt. ahh what do i do?

Sweetie, boost your self esteem yo. Sweetie, yo..haha..anywhos. Some guys I know are repelled by that one personality...low self esteem. you jsut need to be bold, confident and yourself. Believe in yourself and don't let other people's criticizm get to you. If they judge you, they don't know you. If they know you, they won't judge.

Just begin talking with this guy. Say that whatever run was fun or something like that. Just small talk =D. Imagine that he's your best friend or such. Just don't begin the femal anatomy with him...erm. yea.

And semi relationship? Sort of going out. Same thing. Don't exist. either you're going out or you're not.

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im a 26 yo mal, ive been friends with this lady for a year now, and over time we have become best friends, but over time my feelings have become deeper, and im falling for her in a big way, the problem is she doesnt feel the same about me, and probably never will, the thing is i really like her, more than anyone else ive ever met, i care about her a lot, and even though im happy for her when she gets a new b/f it also hurts so much, i never want to lose her, and im always the best friend i can be, but i cant handle this pain, what can i do???

Aww I was in the same situation. I was this one guys best friend and he was too blind by all the girls that only liked him for his band. He went out with them, they broke his heart , etc.

But really, ask yourself this:
Do you really wanna ruin a friendship that you and this lady has that everyone looks for but can't find?
Do you really wanna throw away a friendship that can last a lifetime for a relationship that'll last a year?

If my best guy friend said he wanted to go out with me, like or love me I would freak, get angry at myself for not notcing, then wanted to set some space (although it will never happen since he's gay).

Just sort out your feelings for her. I mena you could love her in a brotherly way. But really, I suggest you savor this friendship instead of searching for ways to go out with her. Got to bars or clubs with your GUY only friends and meet new people. It's hopeless and pointless to set your heart for one person that doesn't even like you back in the same way =/

**emm[y]

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Ok I am a 17 year old male and I have had 3 serious girlfriends, but recently I have had major problems talking to any girls at all. Every time i see a girl that i am interested in i either freeze up or pretend they arent there. its starting to get so bad that i just want to stay in my house and ignore everything.please help me

haha sry..this is probably random but aww that's cute. =D

But really, if girls know for sure that you like them but you go up to them and freeze up, we think that's cute...at least I do =)

I know that everyone says this but it really does work: pretend that this girl you like is some guys you talk to..just stay off perverted and disgusting subjects...i know that most girls hate that. But I'm more of a tomboy.
Erm, be yourself. Don't get cocky, and etc. If you want to know more about girls and how to act around them, just IM me on AIM at ductape n roses

I'm on right now and I'll help you as much as I can. But really, don't go into isolation mode =)

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i downloaded like 30 new songs and added them to my itunes library and the songs are there then i plug my ipod into the computer and it says do not disconnect like always then it stops i dont know what is wrong somebody PLEASE HELP.

restart the cpu. plug the ipod in and itunes should start audtomatically. if it doesnt, open it yourself and replug the ipod back in. if it doesnt update, keep trying until that Do Not Disconnect thing appears on your itunes.

If it still freezes, you should go to an Apple or Mac store and have a professional look at it. But you really need to schedule an time ahead so you won't have to wait. And get to the store (or stay there) at least 30min before your time because a lot of people leave and etc.

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13/f
Is it weird not to want sex? Other people have it before they are married, but I want it after. If even then. I always said I would adopt my children. How I see it children are like puppies. Puppies are sent to pounds because they were not able to be taken care of, or not wanted. (Same as children sent to adoption agencies.) And the reason puppies, and children, are not being adopted is because dogs, and women, keep having babies. Then when the puppies owners can't find good homes for them they are sent to the pound, which just keeps on growing. So why would we want children when there are several at adoption aggencies waiting for a good family to arrive and take them home? Plus there is all that pain, and blood. But because I don't want to do it are people gonna try to make me later on? Thanks in advance.

It's perfectly fine. Actually it's great that you believe in being a virgin when you're married. And adopting, that's a great thought. I haven't thought of it that way. But erm a little early to be thinking about kids, no?

And guys will pressure you into having sex with them later on...not all guys. Just be sensible, make good friends and you won't have to collide with that problem. If you don't wanna have sex later on, don't. It's your decision and not theirs. If they do force you to have sex, that's called rape and yea...jail or juvie time for them
Just don't give into the pressure and stand up for what you believe in.

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17 female How do I make sure I get a guy to ask me to the prom without asking them?

Guy like girls who are themselves, not slutty, not hyper active, and are confident and don't mind being themselves in front of them. Just be casual around guys, be friends with them and they should ask you out...

I mean I just make guy frineds (I'm a tomboy) and they end up asking me out..which I don't favor

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Okayy, Welll, I'm 14/f. This is long but worth it! :) Alright SO..! Today was HS orientation for students at my school. and yeah, it was great because we saw everyone & seen how everybodys changed so much over the summer.. and we compared schedules and all that. well my crush was there and he said hi to me which i think is a first. i saw him once over the summer at an icecream place when i was with my family and it was bad because i didnt expect to see him there, i was in sweats and a hoodie, and no makeup, which is unusal because im pretty high maintenance i think. and i was super embarassed because obviously i didnt expect to see him, and even more because he saw me and then got out of there so fast. so i know that he wasnt exactly hyped up to have seen me there! and today he kinda mentioned that he was like "i saw u at the icecream place" and i was like too much in awe that he was actually talking to me that I just kind of couldn't talk. lol. well yeah my friends saved me by talking to me so it all worked out. anyways, i dont know if he likes me or not. i mean i have had a crush on him since last year, and he knows because my friend told him, but he really didnt have a reaction. and now hes kinda trying to talk to me and stuff. but then again i dont know what to think. what should i do, give up? i really am lost i dont know if hes just being friendly or if he likes me. well thanks for any advice you can give. xoxo.

My dear, saying "Hi" and "I saw you at the icecream place" doesn't exactly scream out I LOVE YOU. GO OUT WITH ME

Just be yourself around him. Don't get choked up or try to fit yourself into this mold that he wants. Be yourself.

Get a little more aquainted with him. Invite him to see movies, go bowling or something like that with your friends nad his friends too if you want. Just act casual and if he's into that idea of going as a group and is having fun and flirts with you (keep in mind that talking isn't necesarily flirting) then go for it (ask him out). I mean who says that girls can ask guys out?

And btw, you should get those make up off your face. They cause breakout, enlarge pores, makes your skin go bleh in the long run, causes wrinkles easily, etc.

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okay. school started for me two weeks ago and i like this guy eric. i told my friend i like him and she told me that he might ask this other girl out because of the way he acts with her. okay by the way im new at this school but im acting my normal self now. i talk to all the boys now and the girl im telling you about shes new too. okay anyways. im not ugly. i flirt with him a little too. i wear a little eye liner and gloss and thats it. the second day i studied with him and that was fun. and we talk because hes in 3 of my classes. i dont have problems talking to guys but i dont know what to talk to him about. im out of ideas. i knows my name and everything and heres another thing. he looks at me alot in English class. the other girl is also in my class but i never see those 2 talking. he talks to me alot. i just wanna know if there is anything i can do to make him like me more? i really dont want him to ask that girl out. the main place we talk is when we walk up to History. help me!!

First things first..you can't control someone else's feelings and control them just like that (insert clicking finger motion here)
If you really really want this guy, you should ask him to go see a movie with few of your friends
And if he's into it, go and if he seems like he's having a fun time and you think he's flirting with you, before you guys leave the theather, YOU ask him out. I mean who says guys have to ask girls out?

And if you're not sure by the end of the movie, plan more events where you guys can hang out (with few friends) and eventually ask if he wants to go see a movie or something..without the friends =D

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My best friend and I always go shopping at the mall together, but there`s been a problem lately. My friend always wants us to match & it's starting to get annoying because I want my own style. For example: We both were shopping together & saw the same purses. We ended up buying the same one`s but in different colors, and now my friend wants to make a habit of this and buy matching purses for every season like a fall purse, winter purse, etc. This friend & I went to the mall this past Sunday [ Yesterday ] and she saw what I had picked out to buy, it was like a tshirt and a pair of jeans, and then she picked out the same one`s. She DID ask if I was okay with her buying the same thing`s as me and since I was on the spot, I said yes. Well now I don`t really want to have the same thing`s as my friend, because I want to be an individual, not a twin!! I`m not sure what I should do or say, because I would feed bad asking my friend to take back her purchases and I don`t want to take back mine. So what I`m asking, is, what should I do to stop the matching in the future? Please Help!!

ouch. That sucks. I had the same problem with my friend...but worse:she would get the same things without asking a week later then start and argument saying that I got HER clothing. bleh that wasn't fun.

When you guys go shopping, why don't you suggest some things for her to buy...and you don't get it (obviously pick ones you don't want.) Orr pick clothing that your friend will loathe..I mean she won't get the same one right?

Or pick ones that she likes but you don't...and get it together..then go by yourself and return them all babe.

Or just flat out tell her that her behavior and habit is starting to annoy you and that you don't want someone having the same clothes or style as you. And if you don't wanna do that and she still gets the same clothes as you, wear it on different days (either you plan it by yourself or plan it with her) so you guys won't wear the same clothes

And sorry if it didn't help much =X
Wish ya luck **emm[y]

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