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My best friend and I always go shopping at the mall together, but there`s been a problem lately. My friend always wants us to match & it's starting to get annoying because I want my own style. For example: We both were shopping together & saw the same purses. We ended up buying the same one`s but in different colors, and now my friend wants to make a habit of this and buy matching purses for every season like a fall purse, winter purse, etc. This friend & I went to the mall this past Sunday [ Yesterday ] and she saw what I had picked out to buy, it was like a tshirt and a pair of jeans, and then she picked out the same one`s. She DID ask if I was okay with her buying the same thing`s as me and since I was on the spot, I said yes. Well now I don`t really want to have the same thing`s as my friend, because I want to be an individual, not a twin!! I`m not sure what I should do or say, because I would feed bad asking my friend to take back her purchases and I don`t want to take back mine. So what I`m asking, is, what should I do to stop the matching in the future? Please Help!!
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heyy, eh isnt it anoying. yeah it is, because i know somebody that always tells me to buy stuff to match with her. but its a lot of waste of my money because ill never wear it.. ect. well lets not get into my case, lets get intooo yours and let me try to answer it <3
heres some idea.
Not to be mean though
you could say
+ ew thats not my style
+ i dont think i should waste my money becasue ide like some other stuff
+ dont you think we already have enough matching stuff for now ?
stuff like that
help her get her own style,
and if none of this works ide be like brb when your both in a store, tell her to stay there and go return it . :)
hope i helped in some what a way
xoxox good luck <3 kendraa
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I totally understand how you are feeling. If i were you i would tell your friend that you would like your own style. and mabye you could give her tips on clothing she could get that isnt identicle to yours. So she will have her own style with a sprinkle of fashion taste from you. try it. hope it works!
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Well.......That could get annoyingsometimes.But wat you have to do is talk to your friend and say to her that you would really want to dress in your own way.And hopefully she will understand.BYE!
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Wow. Well maybe next time you should go shopping without her. Or maybe you should just tell her how you feel. Imagine being your friend. How wold you feel if she told you she didn't want to be twins? If bad, then don't tell her how you feel and go look for a better advice columnist. If ok, then go ahead tell her. You guys are best friends and that must mean you have something in common. Maybe the way you feel about each other. So maybe she won't be that upset when you tell her you don't want to be a twin. I think.....
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hahah, i used to have this same problem except it wasn't just clothes: stuffed animals, makeup, buttons, everything. what i just started doing was pointing out other things to her and helped her try and get her own style. i'd be like,"hey, check this out! this looks so great on you, you should totally get it!" and try and get her to veer off into other things. another thing i would do is remember in my head what i wanted to buy, and then as she went to head to the counter to go on ahead, i'm just checking out something, and whenever she'd head over, i'd grab everything i wanted and go buy it while she's already paying for her stuff. or while she was dressing in the dressing room, i'd go do it.
but, if that doesn't work, i suggest talking to her in teh nicest way possible about it. just be like,"_____ look, i think it's really cool that you want to match and everything, and i'm not trying to sound mean or anything, it's just.. i sort of want my own style. and you should have your own sort of style too. i mean it's cool whenever we get some matching purses sometimes, but not all the time. i sort of want to have my own individuality, you know? just like you want yours." [ or something like that ]
i hope i helped. <3
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i've had some stuff like that happen to me, too. my friends will copy my style and then claim that they started it or something. basically, if you see your friend wearing her outfit one day, wear yours like three days later. nobody wears the same thing twice a week, and people won't remember that you two have the same clothes unless she makes a big deal out of it, which is retarded. in the future, if this is still bothering you, when you go shopping and your friend asks if it's okay to buy the same thing, just simply tell her that you'd rather not. and explain why, in a nice way. she might get mad, but she'll get over it and you two will have different clothing. as for the different purses per season, that's just weird. or, you can avoid going to the mall with her for a while. your choice.
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If you politely say, no, sorry, i would prefer if we didn't match our clothes, she would probably understand, Tell her that you want your own style, and she doesn't have to return her purchases already and neithor do you, put the tee-shir on with different jeans, alter it somehow to make it your own, and try not to wear it on the same day. If she's really your friend, she'll understand. If she doesn't, then find a new shopping buddy :)
Hope i was of some help!
-DD
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Your friends sounds insane. Dont shop with her anymore. Find someone else to shop with and buy the clothes, and if she buys the same ones, say stop buying the same clothes as me, its annoying and its tacky, and I think you should get your own style.
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um well first of all you shouldnt have said yes. you didnt have to be like "hell no" but you could've just been like "well i kinda prefer my own style so i'd like it if only i bought it cuz i would feel weird if we had matching clothes."
just TELL her you dont feel comfortable with it, or you could just not go shopping with her anymore.
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Tell her.
I mean it seems shes copying you because she cant find herself.
As weird as that sounds.
Commuication is the key in relationships, so tell her how you feel about it. You made a mistake telling her yes, even if it was on the spot. Explain to her that you would rather be an individual, and tell her what you wrote here sorta.
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ouch. That sucks. I had the same problem with my friend...but worse:she would get the same things without asking a week later then start and argument saying that I got HER clothing. bleh that wasn't fun.
When you guys go shopping, why don't you suggest some things for her to buy...and you don't get it (obviously pick ones you don't want.) Orr pick clothing that your friend will loathe..I mean she won't get the same one right?
Or pick ones that she likes but you don't...and get it together..then go by yourself and return them all babe.
Or just flat out tell her that her behavior and habit is starting to annoy you and that you don't want someone having the same clothes or style as you. And if you don't wanna do that and she still gets the same clothes as you, wear it on different days (either you plan it by yourself or plan it with her) so you guys won't wear the same clothes
And sorry if it didn't help much =X
Wish ya luck **emm[y]
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