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Im extremely shy.Theres this kid i like, but i can never seem to find the courage, or things to talk about with him. any suggestions on how to be less shy or subjects to talk about?
(hes into most sports and alot of music, ect.) (link)
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when it comes to guys they are generally quite or should i say very easy to talk to. if you comment on him and talk about him it shows that you are interested in him, also a tip that always works is if you copy a few movements of his body language, for example is he scratches his head, play with you hair and if he rubs his eyes rub urs, make sure that you dont stand or sit with you arms folded - this will make him feel like you dont want to 'communicate' with him. hope i helped, xXxluceexXx - plz rate me xx
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Someone asked me to communicate with them via AIM and I have no idea what that is or how one would go about contacting them this way. Could you explain what this is? Thank you. (link)
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Answer: AIM = AOL instant messanger. It's free and you don't need to have AOL to download it. Just go to aim.com and click "download aim now" to get it. :)
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ok i've had my period for bout 5-6 months. And if been at the end of the month but this time if hasn't happen i got it at the end of September but not at the end of October? Is this normal? What's wrong? (link)
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your period is always screwed up for the 1st few years, but once it settles down it will be regular and you will know roughly when it is due. so there is nothing wrong with you but i suggest that you carry a spare tampon or pad/towel around with you just incase you start when you least expect it. hope i helped XxXluceeXxX plz rate me x
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I was wondering if anyone can help me make a plan of when to change "supplies" during my school schedule. I'm only in middle school, so no one uses purses yet. There's also this one girl who ALWAYS searches my pencil case to find gum and whatnot so I can't use my pencil case! I go to my locker before lunch time, and in past situations I have picked up a purse in which I put a pad in. But, I hate using purses because its SO obvious that when you carry a purse to the bathroom, you have your period!! I don't know any other ways! I don't want to buy anything at school because the dispncers have the worst brands. My tampon can not last ALL day and I'm a little scared to use jumbo because im sure they're hard to insert and other stuff. If anyone wants to contradict this idea please do so! I need some ideas! (link)
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no you cant have the same tampon all day, but if you put a minature (small) one in your trouser pocket or mayb jacket then no-one apart from you wil know. this is what i do all the time and no-one has any idea. hope i helped
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OK I know you get a lot of these questions but 1 more can't hurt! I cheated on my boyfriend of 5 months and I think he has a girlfriend. He gave me 3 chances and I messed them up. We're good friends. My question to you is should I forget about him? I'm always thinking of him and he moved on so quickly. I don't know if I want to move on so fast. HELP!! (link)
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Answer: You need to move on. If you were really in love with him, you would have never, ever cheated on him or even contemplated cheating.
You cheated on him not once, but three times, so obviously you did not regret your actions. Since you did not regret cheating, there must have been something seriously lacking in your relationship that drove you to cheat.
Consider yourself lucky he is still decided to remain friends with you after all he went through. Sure, you are probably attached to him and enjoy his company, but it is not love if you can cheat on someone three separate times. He gave you more than enough chances. A relationship without trust will fail. Plain and simple.
Hopefully, this experience will make you a much better person, so when the next guy comes around, you will know how to treat him and not make the same mistake twice... or three times.
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so yeah when my boyfriend and i kiss...i don't get feel that weird sensation or anything... it happened with my ex gf and I..she was the only one that made me shiver...get goosebumps and those weird sensations when she touched my lips or when her fingers brushed against my arms. i dunno. i don't get it with my boyfriend. i do care about him but... i was told that i probably don't like him because my body isnt reacting to him or whatever? is this weird, normal, ...what? (link)
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Answer: Each relationship you experience will not be the same, so don't expect the same exact feelings. It is perfectly normal to feel something with one person and not another. One relationship will not be a carbon copy of another!
However, since your ex was a girl, maybe it's just that you are not physically attracted to boys. Maybe that's why you are not getting a physical response. Ask yourself if you are physically attracted to him, or just care about him as a person. If you feel no physical attraction to him, it would be best to remain friends instead of having to fake your emotions.
If you are physically attracted to him, here is something else to consider. The further you go with someone sexually, the less responsive your body may be to the little things. So maybe it's just that the little things don't excite you as much as they used to.
You are only 14; you still have plenty of time to explore your sexuality and figure out what makes you tick. Don't sweat it.
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Hi,
I am 19, blonde and VERY pale. I consequentially can't find any decent colours of make-up - if I wear anything too pale, I look wishy-washy as I already have fair hair and skin. If I wear anything darker, I look gothic and I have nothing against goths but that's not what I'm going for :) Does anyone have any suggestions for some natural-looking make-up? Or some colours that may work? I have grey eyes, if that helps.
Thanks!
P.S. This has to be suitable for work, as I am a nanny and don't want to scare the children in my charge lol! On the other hand, some ideas for going-out make-up would be good too :) (link)
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Answer: First of all, do not use a darker foundation to make your skin look darker. It will just look like you are wearing a mask. You need to find a foundation that matches your skin color.
As far as blush is concerned, I'd go for a soft reddish brown to add some warmth to your skin. Or if you like the more pink shades, go for a rose colored blush.
For your grey eyes, choose pinks, lighter browns, mauve, silver, gold, peach, and purple. If you don't want to wear eyeshadow, I think a blue eyeliner would bring out the color of your eyes.
As for lips, you can never go wrong with gloss!
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i like all these guys like 6 and i can't chose just 1 can you give me advice on picking 1? (link)
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Answer: How can I tell you who to pick if I know nothing about them?
You may think you "like" six guys, but I'm assuming they are just crushes, and that the attraction is mostly physical. Crushes can come and go in a flash, while liking someone is a little different.
You need to talk to them, discover what kind of person each one truly is. Once you get to know what each one of them is like as a person, the answer will be crystal clear. Follow your heart!
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ok heres the deal. ive posted questions before about this but i seriously am hurting. im 17 female a lil over a year ago i met this guy that i fell completely in love with..*dont tell me its not love please* it is.. but umm i moved away from him about 4months and havent seen him since i barely talk to him only every now and then. but i get so depressed knowing that some other girl can be with him and have him hold them like he held me and kissed me. just like b4 i moved he told me how in love with me was and like that he had never felt this way for another girl in his life. but after i moved all that went down the shitter idk what happened he didnt stick around with me for very long either. it hurts i really need somehow to control these emotions till i can see him again which prob wont be for atleast one year or longer.. i really love him and it is causing me to not be able to like-love any other guys like im holding back i dont want to get hurt again..* please any help would be nice ill rate you if ya want...! thx in advance! (link)
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Answer: If this guy truly loved you, he would not leave you just because of the distance. I have been in a long-distance relationship before, and we were both committed to each other even though we were 10,000 miles apart!
I know it hurts to have your heart broken, but you need to let go. Cherish all the memories you had together, but you are in love with a guy from the past. Do you really love him now, knowing how easily he left you?
Dwelling on this one guy will only imprison yourself from experiencing happiness. It's okay not to like any other guys at the moment because you are afraid of being hurt. The heart takes time to heal. Don't focus on guys! Focus on your friends, your passions, and your family. In time, things will get better and you'll be fine.
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ok... i have a step family that i live with. like i live with my mom and with my step dad and with 3 step sisters. i get along really well with all of them but the youngest one(jody) is a little younger than me. we get along pretty good infact we are pretty close.sometimes. but other times she gets mad at me for like the simpelist thngs. like if i were to just be like wow your ugly, and then say just kidding she would get mad at me. or something like that.but im older than her. shes not supposed to boss me around. but if i say something to her or talk back to her she tells her mom(which absolutely hates me)and then jody gets even madder at me. just help me please. im sick of getting bossed around of somebody younger than me. help! (link)
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well the truth is, all little siblings tell on the older ones because they think that they will be forgotten or lefted out and since you are her only step sister she feels that she can take out all her anger on you because you are the step sister to her. you just have to lay the rule down and dont be afraid of her mom because her mom cant do anything to you. you cant be soft or very goddy goody nice to her but show her that you are still there for her.
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I'll try and condense this. There's been this guy who I've been chatting to online for years (nearly 3) and we are really, really close and truly do love each other. We are planning to meet soon as well.
But here's my dilemma. He was going on today about some girl who he is really worried about because a guy has been pestering her. He was asking me what to do about it and kept going on about how he thought the guy was objectifying her and she deserved someone great. I finally asked him whether he liked her and he confessed he does have a bit of a thing for her. This is not the first time this has happened either - 6 months ago he liked another girl and it started lots of problems for us. Then he thought he was just confused and it wasn't really a crush at all.
I can't help but think that he would drop me in a heartbeat if a girl liked him back in real life. The other girl he liked told him she didn't like him, and this one doesn't seem to either. I feel somehow I'm just there as a backup. Do you guys think I'm being paranoid? I know we aren't together and I'm really not usually so defensive - I encourage him to have female friends! But I feel really torn up inside over the fact that he likes this girl when he tells me every night that he loves ME. I understand that guys are always going to be attracted to girls even with they are with someone else, but it's really depressing me and I don't know what to do. Should I say something to him? Am I justified in feeling this way? Is it alright for him to do this?
Thanks a lot for your help. (link)
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Answer: I have been in the same boat as you... literally.
I met my ex-boyfriend over the internet. He is from Australia, and I am from America. We were faithful to each other while doing the whole "net" thing. It was very hard, but we pulled through it.
Why is he my ex? Because only when you've been with someone face-to-face, over a long period of time, do you REALLY get to know who they are. My ex and I were physically together for a year and a half. We broke up because the man I met from the internet changed into a real man I no longer loved.
You need to ask him if he really loves you, or if he has feelings for other girls. Because if he truly loves you and wants to be committed to you, he would NOT have feelings for anyone else but you. Love is NOT worrying if he will leave you. Love is having NO DOUBTS.
It takes a certain type of person to have a long-distance relationship. You need to have a long talk with him about committment and goals. Be realistic. Would you be willing to give up your country, friends, family, everything for him? Would he do the same for you?
If you guys decide to be together, it will be very difficult. Ways you guys can be together:
1. Tourist visa. 3 months max, unless you apply for an extension. Even if you receive an extension, you'll probably only receive a year max.
2. Student visa. Only valid while one of you is studying in that country.
3. Work visa. You can only obtain one if the person has a specialized job, and that country is experience a shortage of workers in that field.
4. Fiance visa. You have to get married!
5. Green card. Easier to win the lottery.
Think all these things through before you commit yourself!
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there is this guy that i really really like but when ever i talk to him, i tense up and sound like im a socially retarted moran. anny tips? thanx i rate (link)
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Answer: I used to be the same way. In fact, sometimes I still become tongue-tied around boys I am attracted to! Experience will make you better at talking to guys, trust me.
As for now, here are some tips. Before you walk up to this certain guy, plan out what you are going to say. Take a deep breath and try to relax. Realize they are just a normal person like you. The more and more you talk to him, the more comfortable you'll be around him, and the less tongue-tied you'll be!
Good luck!
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Hi I'm 15 years old and I'm a female. For some reason I think my ex is ignoring me. I dunno if he's mad at me or what for not talking to him when he IMed me one day. I was really upset that day especially when I saw him flirting with a bunch of different girls. Why do I always feel hurt by him everytime I see him with another girl? We only went out for a week over a year ago. What can I do to make this feeling go away? (link)
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Answer: I know it hurts, but if he is your ex, he can ignore you if he wants to. Maybe keeping in contact with you hurts him too much when he is just trying to move on.
You need to do the same. Move on. Some people just cannot remain friends after a break-up. Cut contact from him, and in time you will find yourself thinking about him less and less, and knowing he is with other girls will not bother you.
Keep yourself busy. Go out on dates with other guys. Hang out with friends. Enjoy doing the things you love. Basically, keep your mind off your ex and one day you'll find someone so much better!
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ok. im 14/f. still a virgin and ive been thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. like when he hugs me from behind he'll just start humping me. and i know i tell him to stop but i like it. l.o.l. and he always puts his hands up my shirt. and i like it. but im ashamed of my body. i know im not fat...but i just think i am. i think my legs are at least. but... i dont know what to do. and i dont think thats all he wants from me. but i dont know....i masterbate alot and it feels good. and i want the real thing now but i dont know about it tho.
please help me. (link)
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Answer: It is totally your decision. No one on here can make the decision for you. The most important thing of all is, if you are going to have sex, USE PROTECTION.
In all honesty, I think you are not mature enough to handle the emotional aspects of having sex. You need to make sure if you do have sex, there will be no regrets. If you are in doubt just a little bit, do not do it. Once you lose your virginity, you cannot take it back.
If you are uncomfortable with your body, you will not enjoy sex. You will be too busy worrying how you look instead of enjoying such an intimate experience, and that would not be any fun.
Masturbating is nothing to be ashamed of. Your hormones are raging; you are exploring your sexuality in a healthy, safe way. If it feels good and keeps you from making a big mistake, it doesn't hurt to keep doing it!
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I have a sore on my labia. My mom just asked me if I was sexually active, I said no. This is a lie, although I have never had sex, I have had oral sex and been fingered.. I'm so scared I might have an std. My mom is making me an appointment with the gyno. I'm scared to admit what I have done, they probably wouldn't let me see my boyfriend and I would be in so much trouble.
I'm so scared.. What should I do??? (link)
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Answer: You need to be truthful with your doctor. It is possibly you have an STD, considering some STDs can be transmitted through oral sex.
Your gynocologist WILL NOT tell your mother if you have an STD, unless you want her to. There is a thing called patient/doctor confidentiality.
When you go to the gyno, explain to your mother that her presence there will make you uncomfortable. Considering how private a gynocological examination is, I think your mother would understand. The doctor may call you in alone anyways.
I don't know if you have this in your area, but in my hometown, there is a clinic that will give girls examinations/treatments for free. They are very careful in making sure your parents do not find out anything if you do not want them to. They will test you for STDs, give birth control, and pregnancy tests, among other things. Look in the phone book; if there is possibly something like that in your area, use it to your advantage for your sexual and overall wellness concerns!
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Well my brother Blake died almost 8months ago. He was only 24 and thats wats the worst part of it. My brother was really well liked and always smiling. He was good looking and was always teasing me. Now that he is gone I find myself crying over things that make no since. Im' in more fights with my parents and everybody keeps saying Ive changed. Well There has also been alot of memorials for him and i don't want to go to em and all my parents can say is your so selfish. I don't wanna go cuz it hurts so bad. I tell them that tooo. Wat should I do to keep them from thinking I'm selfish? (link)
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Answer: I'm truly sorry for your loss.
Go to the memorials. It will help with the healing process and bring some closure to you. My uncle passed away two years ago, and I did not want to go to his funeral either. I did go, and I cried through the whole thing. But my whole family was there, crying together. Afterwards, we all felt a sense of peace. Please go.
Do not focus on your brother's death. Focus on his life and all the wonderful memories you had together. Would he want to see you so sad, or to continue on with your life as his happy sister?
See a therapist, or just talk to someone. When I was going through a really hard time in my life with my mother's illness, I went and saw a therapist who really helped me out. You cannot keep your pain bottled up inside of you.
That was probably not the answer you wanted, but I hope it helps. In time, things will get better, and life will move on with your brother in a special place in your heart.
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Hey,
I'm having a Halloween party tomorrow night. There are seven of us and it's in my house followed by a sleepover. We are all dressed up and set to go trick or treating but the forecast is rain!! If it rains really awfully we can't go out (we will if it's drizzle or just light though) as we all already have colds and stuff thanks to this lovely British weather!
My question is: do any of you wonderful people have any wonderful ideas as to what we can do if it DOES rain for the entire duration of the party? We are all sixteen, but please no 'just put on some music!' suggestions because that's boring! We don't mind being a little silly and acting like kids. We have already decided on movies, twister in costume, eating donuts hanging from the ceiling (VERY DIFFICULT!) and hide and seek in the dark. Can you think of anything else? (link)
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Answer: Some suggestions include, bobbing for apples, carving pumpkins, baking cookies with Halloween shapes, toilet papering each other to look like mummys, and pulling a prank on the first person to fall asleep!
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so there is this guy i like ya so i don't know if he likes me so how do i find out? ? ? ? ? ? ?
PLEASE HELP (link)
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Answer: Some people may say to just go out and ask him. I'd say bravo for being so bold! For the rest of us, it's a little different.
I'd say, spend time with him. It can be small, such as chatting with him in class, writing him a note, etc. See if he responds. If he's smiling, laughing, making eye contact, etc., then that's a good sign. After you've been approaching him, if he starts coming up to you as well, that probably means he's interested.
Try touching him on the shoulder, giving him a "friends" hug, just little things. Later, try asking for his phone number, hanging out at the movies, these are just some ideas. If he does not decline and if things do not seem awkward, I'd say he likes you too!
Nothing is set in stone, sometimes you can just tell!
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this is pretty long but ill make it as short as i can..
anyway, i just started high school this year, and there is this guy named ken. i met him not too long ago, but we have become such good friends. we hang out a lot, tell each other a lot, and to be honest i started liking him... one day when we were hanging out we were sitting on our friends couch and he grabbed my hand and put his arm around me and stuff. it was really cute, and that day i really felt like he liked me.
a week and a half later or so, he starts dating this girl allison. i knew before he liked allison. but it didnt really matter.
so one day, we were talking about relationships and stuff and i told him what i liked in a guy and he told me "where were you before allison.. i liked you and im surprised to didnt see that." and ever since then, he always told me to keep liking him because he had feelings for me, but for allison as well. and if anything were to happen between allison and him, i was there, even though he really likes his allison.
well anyway, me and him talk ALOT like i said, were like best friends. now his girlfriend hates me and a bunch of her friends dislike me to cause they think im trying to steal ken from her. i know exactly how allison feels though.. if you had a b/f and he was with another girl all the time, wouldn't you be suspicious? and i dont know if i should just give up on ken or not.. i hate drama and i dont wanna be in the middle of it! but i dont wanna lose ken as a friend either.. (link)
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Answer: This guy is bad news. He is telling you to keep liking him even though he is going out with someone else. He is being a coward. Why?
He wants someone to fall back on in case he and Allison break up. You are the fall back person. Do not let him do that to you!
He is using both you and Allison. He needs to choose one girl. He cannot have the best of both worlds. If he really liked you, he would not be with Allison.
You deserve better!
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hey guys.
i'm going to be turning 15 in december, and in january i plan on applying for a job. any ideas where i could work? do you have to be 16 to be a waitress at an actual restaurant? thanks a bunch! (link)
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Answer: Hey! My brother is turning 15 and is in the same situation as you, so maybe I can help.
Most fast food places/restaurants (at least in my area) only hire people 16 or over. The only place I know of that hires 15 year olds is McDonald's. My advice, visit different places or pick up a phone book and ask what the age requirement is. Also, ask some of your classmates who are the same age as you if they have found some ways to earn some extra cash. Maybe you can get some ideas from them!
My brother has worked for the local newspaper. You only have to be at least 12 to pass papers in my hometown, so you may want to look into that. Also, if you can't find anything, shoveling snow, babysitting, yard work, house cleaning, pet sitting, jewelry making, car washing, etc. are all good ways to earn money. Just be creative!
You'll think of something.
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