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My Bubba
Well my brother Blake died almost 8months ago. He was only 24 and thats wats the worst part of it. My brother was really well liked and always smiling. He was good looking and was always teasing me. Now that he is gone I find myself crying over things that make no since. Im' in more fights with my parents and everybody keeps saying Ive changed. Well There has also been alot of memorials for him and i don't want to go to em and all my parents can say is your so selfish. I don't wanna go cuz it hurts so bad. I tell them that tooo. Wat should I do to keep them from thinking I'm selfish?
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"Mom, Dad, you're pretty selfish for saying I am. Don't you think I'm going through this roughly? Just give me some time to get used to the difference. I will go to pay my respects but this is really hard for me."
AND SMILE I hate wehn people frown =(
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I lost my brother (he was 21) three months ago--and yes its tough. You're not being selfish at all! I know how bad it hurts. Your parents are having a hard time letting go and are afraid that he will be forgotten. I hope you feel better.
-Nina
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Answer: I'm truly sorry for your loss.
Go to the memorials. It will help with the healing process and bring some closure to you. My uncle passed away two years ago, and I did not want to go to his funeral either. I did go, and I cried through the whole thing. But my whole family was there, crying together. Afterwards, we all felt a sense of peace. Please go.
Do not focus on your brother's death. Focus on his life and all the wonderful memories you had together. Would he want to see you so sad, or to continue on with your life as his happy sister?
See a therapist, or just talk to someone. When I was going through a really hard time in my life with my mother's illness, I went and saw a therapist who really helped me out. You cannot keep your pain bottled up inside of you.
That was probably not the answer you wanted, but I hope it helps. In time, things will get better, and life will move on with your brother in a special place in your heart.
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first of all I'm really sorry about your brother's death. You might be differnt because you are upset it's only human to be that way. If people are saying that as their excuse they are selfich and obviously have never been through a situation like this. As for your parents say to them that you aren't selfish you want to go to the memorials but it hurts too much. You can cry when you say this too. Tell them you really miss your brother and it makes you even more upset.
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well first off im soo sorry and im sure sure its really hard one you..but even if if hurts you should go to the memorials and stuff because he is your brother and you should be respectful
hope i helped..
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You are basiclly shutting yourself out from everyone else. You are not the only one who is so hurt. Imagine how your parents feel. They have to put up with it and they are strong and have to go through it. You all are in so much pain. I'm not trying to be rude, but you are being selfish. You are caring about your feelings and no one elses. Just put yourself in your parent's shoes. Look what they are going through. You have to be there for them as well as being there for yourself. You will never make the pain go away, simply because he is your brother. You need to show respect and go. It's alright to cry. Understand that. No one will judge you. Trust me, your parents do understand what you are going through and they do understand how you feel. You love them and you love your brother, you should go. You will feel better and you know your brother is always going to be with you and love you no matter what! Remember that.
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I know it may hurt to go but go to at least one because if you don't go to any you might regret it later on in your life just like I still do. When my great grandfather died I never went to his funeral or anything and I regret it so much now.
Tell your parents the reason that you do not want to go but please do go to one.
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