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std?
I have a sore on my labia. My mom just asked me if I was sexually active, I said no. This is a lie, although I have never had sex, I have had oral sex and been fingered.. I'm so scared I might have an std. My mom is making me an appointment with the gyno. I'm scared to admit what I have done, they probably wouldn't let me see my boyfriend and I would be in so much trouble.
I'm so scared.. What should I do???
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Well, if you do have an STD (and...well...it sounds like ya do...)then it was your boyfriend who gave it to you (assuming he is the only guy you have been active with)So maybe not seeing him anymore isn't such a bad thing...(after all, he didn't tell you about it, if he even knows himself. If he didn't know, then that is gross neglegence on his part. Being sexually active carries a lot of responsibilites. One of those happens to be knowing you health.) The main lesson you should take from this scare is ALWAYS have a little talk with the person you are going to be swapin' fluids with. Find out if they have ever been tested, if they have not, it would be a good idea to get tested. You never know. They may not even know, not all STD's have symptoms at first. Your health should be first and foremost on your list...
P.S Lying to mothers isn't such a good idea...they ALWAYS have a way of knowing or finding out what you have done (WTF is up with that anyway?). If you lie you just make it worse on yourself. Offer up the info. If you are old enough and mature enough to do it, you should be able to admit it also. Good luck, hope it turns out the way you need it to.
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Well it depends on how old you are if your like ((well you shouldnt be doing this if your like 16 either but uh thats when its most ignored so yeah)) but if you're younger then that *sigh* you shouldn't have done it in the first place. But moms really do help alot so you should be cool on telling her I mean would you rather get really sick and stuff all because you didnt tell her you had oral sex
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you should just take it easy. take it easy. if you dothat everyrthing will be better. just take it easy.
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Answer: You need to be truthful with your doctor. It is possibly you have an STD, considering some STDs can be transmitted through oral sex.
Your gynocologist WILL NOT tell your mother if you have an STD, unless you want her to. There is a thing called patient/doctor confidentiality.
When you go to the gyno, explain to your mother that her presence there will make you uncomfortable. Considering how private a gynocological examination is, I think your mother would understand. The doctor may call you in alone anyways.
I don't know if you have this in your area, but in my hometown, there is a clinic that will give girls examinations/treatments for free. They are very careful in making sure your parents do not find out anything if you do not want them to. They will test you for STDs, give birth control, and pregnancy tests, among other things. Look in the phone book; if there is possibly something like that in your area, use it to your advantage for your sexual and overall wellness concerns!
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you can give & recieve std's through oral sex... you really can't do ne thing but wait & see what the results are... try to be more careful next time... ALWAYS use condoms... & remember abstinence is the best method of contraception... i hope everything turns out ok...
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If you are 16 or older, you can have the doctor make your mom stay in the waiting room. If you're above the age of sixteen, you have a right to your privacy - and its all confidential.
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omg you have to see the gyno.
okay just ask your mom if you can go in alone. and than tell your gyno about wut youve done and ask her not to tell your mom. Good Luck.
[♥] Ashley Joy
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this could be a matter of life and death tell and tell all
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You NEED to talk to your gyno. Ask her to keep things between you and her. She'll understand. Just make sure you see a gyno, its important!!
♥ MELISSA
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look..what you say to the gyno STAYS between you and the gyno. if you have an std you and the gyno will arrange it so treatment is private.
some things to think about
-do you have a person you trust who can take you back and forth to planned parenthood and/or the gyno?(a friend who drives perhaps..or an older cousin)
-i would definately be concerned about how treatment will be done if you have an std..(how to keep things private from your mom)so maybe call the gyno yourself and ask.
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Ask your boyfriend if he has done stuff with other girls that might have a STD. He might get mad that your asking him, but say your scared because you might have one. All you can do is ask your boyfriend and wait till the gyno to tell you what you have. The gyno might ask you what you've done with your boyfriend, tell her but ask not to tell your mom. She'll understand and wont say anything.
Good luck =)
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