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idk what to do. i wanna have sex. but then again i dont.
ok. im 14/f. still a virgin and ive been thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. like when he hugs me from behind he'll just start humping me. and i know i tell him to stop but i like it. l.o.l. and he always puts his hands up my shirt. and i like it. but im ashamed of my body. i know im not fat...but i just think i am. i think my legs are at least. but... i dont know what to do. and i dont think thats all he wants from me. but i dont know....i masterbate alot and it feels good. and i want the real thing now but i dont know about it tho.
please help me.
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well he humos you from behind you and all that right and you like it...have anal
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Dude WAIT!
I know this chica who met her bf at worlds of fun and they hit the bricks and now she has a baby and her parents kicked her out of her house and she lives with her bf who is 18 and she is about uh 12 and WHOA WHOA WHOA!! Not the kind of thing i want to think about you know?
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Answer: It is totally your decision. No one on here can make the decision for you. The most important thing of all is, if you are going to have sex, USE PROTECTION.
In all honesty, I think you are not mature enough to handle the emotional aspects of having sex. You need to make sure if you do have sex, there will be no regrets. If you are in doubt just a little bit, do not do it. Once you lose your virginity, you cannot take it back.
If you are uncomfortable with your body, you will not enjoy sex. You will be too busy worrying how you look instead of enjoying such an intimate experience, and that would not be any fun.
Masturbating is nothing to be ashamed of. Your hormones are raging; you are exploring your sexuality in a healthy, safe way. If it feels good and keeps you from making a big mistake, it doesn't hurt to keep doing it!
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Alright,
This is my opinion. But I think you're way too young to be having sex but your not to young to be wanting it.
If you're not ready to have sex then don't do it. And if your boy doesn't understand then he doesn't understand your guy's relationship.
If he try's to pressure you into it. And you don't want him to pressure you then tell him .. And if he doesn't understand then maybe you guys aren't for eachother.
NOW........
On the other hand. If you really want to or you just wanna have sex with him. It's your decision. It's all up to you to make the final decision if you should or not. if your ready or not.
OH. And be safe of course.
good luck girl.
-love.
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NONONONONONONO you only 14 chick not cool!!!! unjoy what he does just start laughing. *it's illegal til your 17* *~*Karlie*~*
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i was very ashamed of my body too.
but if a guy wants to go up your shirt and stuff then obviously you know he doesnt care. just dont think about it thats what i did. he will love you for the way you are if hes a true b/f
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40-60% of women masterbate, 90-95% (or around that) of guys masterbate in American statistics at least. Uh you are very young, too young to be engaging in sex not only because you might get pregnant but also the risk of STD's and heart break. Most women will become clingy to the guy that takes their virginity away and that might be all that he wants since he sounds very horny. 90% of women regret having premarital sex, less than 30% of guys regret having premarital sex or are harmed at all with break ups afterwards. Basically i'm saying a lot of guys are not affected so easily by it. Sexually transmitted diseases are on large, I would be cautious he may not show any signs of it but remember he could by heredity be a carrier, with no symptoms or affectd by it himself but he can infect others. Also pregnancy is an issue, the condom could break, and your Doctor will need your parents to sign you up for birth control pills. You're young, this is just your hormones rushing. Continue masterbating and wait for after marraige, it is the only true way to know if someone is really in love with you. Because you know if you love it, it's worth waiting for. oh btw, if you have premarital sex, when you share that experience with your husband later on and it's not the first time not only will it not be so special but it won't feel as good. The first time is INCREDIBLE but the next few times you rely on toys and other gadgets to give you that same incredible effect.
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it depends if you are ready if you think you are go for it but if this guy breaks up with you, you are going to feel really bad cause he is your first i lost my virginity when i was 13 luckly the guy dident leave me but after sex u get really emotionally attached you should really think about it before you do it
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my advice to you is go for it,but don't do it just because you think he wants to do it. Wha ti am saying is dont do it just because he wants to.
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If your having any doubts at all about having sex it means your not ready. You really need to feel comfortable with your body before you have sex because being comfortable with your body is part of being mature enough to do it. I know that maturity levels are different with each person and has nothing to do with age but being 14 is way way too younge to be having sex. Masturbation and him putting his hand up your shirt is totally different from acutally having sex when it comes to the developement of your mind and body. No girls body is developed enough at age 14 to be having sex.
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if you have to ask, then you can't possibly be ready. you saying you feel fat, you aren't comfortable with yourself. you should be comfortable with yourself first, because this person is going to see your body. if you don't want them to see, then you're not ready for it. i lost my virginity at 14.. and it really sucked. i wish i would've waited, even though i've been dating the same boy for over a year. masturbating is normal, it's just your hormones. if you DO feel ready for sex; then go for it. you have to deal with your decisions in the end, though. make sure you are safe and use a condom if you do decide to. hope i helped..
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If you have any doubts about sex then don't do it. It means that you're not ready yet. If you were ready then you would know that you wanted to do it and you would have no doubts whatsoever. It's perfectly normal to want to have sex- it's your hormones! But at your age it is just as normal to have doubts about it, and these doubts should be the thing that stops you from acting on your feelings. You're not completely happy about it so don't do it. Good luck
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If you are questioning whether you are ready or not, then you are not ready.
Insecurity with yourself is normal. God made us all different. He's not going to be thinking, this girl has chubby thighs or big feet or anything. He's thinking, wow this girl is beautiful or damn I'm getting some. The fellas know what I'm talking about ;)
Your age, however, is a concern. I'm sure you've heard this before, but you are too young to have sex. There is no preset age limit, before you ask, but there is a difference between masturbating and having sexual intercourse. You are working with a partner, one that you have to be willing to give yourself entirely to. It's normal to get emotional and if you or your relationship cannot handle this kind of stress, it's ok to back out. There are plenty of other things you and your boyfriend can do. Judging by his wandering hands, he's already found plenty of things to do.
I've seen a lot of potential relationships be ruined by sex. Talk to your boyfriend and see what he thinks. (If he says yes, as he will, ask him what he thinks about it and why. He should be able to give a good reason)
Remember, safety is first. :)
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Your boyfriend sounds like a dog humping someones leg. He humps you? And in public? How rude.
As for your sex question. Unless you are 100% sure it's what you want, don't do it. Simple.
And I personaly think you are far to young to be having sex anyways. What are you going to do with a baby at 14? It could happen!
If you can not handel the responsibilities that come with sex, the you should not be having it. Especially with some boy that 'humps' you. He sounds very mature.
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you don't want to regret anything. you need to have sex when you're 100% ready & since you're asking this question, you aren't 100% ready yet. talk to him about this & explain how you feel. you can't regret anything. i know a lot of people in my school that had sex & regret it totally & wished they would've waited until they got married. i'm catholic so i wouldn't want to have sex before marriage. it depends on your religion or your values too. plus if you guys don't get married, you'll have sex with your bf now, & then he wouldn't be your husband..that'd be kind've weird. what if he breaks up with you after er something. you might even get a reputation for it. think about all those things, & of course one of the biggest ones..STD's & pregnancy. you don't want to risk those. they're major & a lot of people has STD's & a lot of teenage girls are getting pregnant. you have to be 100% sure before you have sex. juss talk to him about it & sort everything out.
-hope that helped!♥
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