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Yes, I have gotten therapy for this, but all she did was give me a dream catcher. The guy isn't in jail because my mother was stupid and only kicked him out. By the time I got a restraining order and protective order against him, he had already run away... but then he came back, and after that dream, I did run into him. Do you have any other suggestions? (link)
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No offense intended but that therapist sounds kinda wierd.I would try again and find a diffrent one!
Unfortunatly we have no control over what we dream.So, there isn't much I can do about that from here.Wish I could.
Make sure all your restraining orders are up to date so you can nail him if he tries to contact you.I would hope he was smarter than that but, you never know.
If your therapy was in the past and you are not currently getting any, I would go again (new one)
They may be able to help you deal with your fears so the dreams will stop.
Sure wish I could be of more help.It would be nice if you could just start over in a new place, I realise that isn't usually an option for most just thought I'd throw it in .
Best of luck to you. Feel free to stop by any time you want to talk about it, will do my best.
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Since I was five and up until I was ten, there was a man that used to abuse me and my bedridden mother. Finally when I was ten years old, my mother kicked him out. A few years after that, I was taken out of my mother's house, and am now living with my 30 year old sister, and her fiance. Anyway, off of the background. a couple years ago, I had a dream that I would run into the abuser guy, and then I did! Nothing bad happened to me that time, but now I'm having nightmares about him again! I'm afraid, because the nightmares are worse than last time, and I'm afraid something really bad might happen. What should I do??? I know dreams don't always mean something, but it's been happening for three nights now. I'm really frightened. :O (link)
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Have you never gotten therapy because of all this? If not, I suggest that you do now.
Your dreams don't mean that you are going to run into this guy (by the way, why is he not in jail?), but it does mean that you fear it will happen somewhere in the back of your mind.You need to get some help with this.
Go to your sister and see if she won't help you.If for some reason she doesn't then go from one adult to another in your life until you find someone that will get you the help you need.
Don't live your life in fear of going to sleep every night, okay?
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Prom is coming up next month. I decided a few months ago that I wouldn't go because I am at a new school and don't have any 'real' friends here (like I did at my old school), but now I am starting to think that it might be fun. I love to dress up and dance. No one has asked me though, but I know I can go alone (which would suck though). Do you think I can crash someone else's table? Should I go? (link)
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Not everyone will take a date! They will have a place for you. Go, have fun, and maybe meet someone special!:}
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I met this really cool guy at a party a couple of weeks ago and we had like everything in common. He seemed a little bit interested in me that night, but it was hard to tell. He got my screen name from my friend and he IMed me and said he wanted to do something that weekend. Plans didn't really seem to work out 2 weeks in a row. He definatly seemed interested like a week ago and he kept trying to see me. I kept telling myself not to get too hooked on the guy because I just met him and I need to get to know what he's like. Plus I didn't want to get hurt if things didn't work out. So my friends asked if he liked me and he said he wasn't sure because he doesn't really know me, but that I'm an amazing girl. So naturally being a girl, I plan out this whole relationship in my head not being able to control myself. The past week we haven't talked much and when we have he didn't seem to still be interested at all. He didn't say anything about maybe doing something this weekend, which he normally would've done at this point. I'm sooo mad at myself for falling for him because now I'm feeling really sad about the whole thing. I haven't had a boyfriend in 2 years and I've been searching for someone, but I didn't like anyone until I found him. Do you think he still likes me and I'm just reading too into it? And am I crazy for being so obsessive? Like maybe he's just busy this weekend or something... I don't know, but I'm confused and I just want to get over it! (link)
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IM him and say hey, I thought we were getting together, what happened.Go from there.
You guys have to communicate if you're ever going to have a relationship.So start with IM and then don't just let it hang there...follow up!
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I really like this guy and we dated befor and are good friends now. Well i also dated his brother a few years ago too and he just came back to my school and I've been talking to him a lot and all the feelings are coming back but i don't think he likes me. Meanwhile he also dated my best friend for a long time, well she still has feelings for him but she doesn't talk to him. She knows how i feel about him and she doesn't care but i dont know if i should tell him or play it out or what. And i'm not sure if id want to date him because of my best friend and i still have a lot of feelings for his brother. wat should i do? (link)
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Be friends with both brothers.If one asks you out go.No need to be exclusive. date both.
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hey...i was wondering what can i do to get this guy i like to notice me and to let him know i like him?I'm 15 years old and female if that helps any. i know him (the guy i like) because i'm really good friends with his twin sister and i ride his bus alot with my best friend. we have alot of mutual friends but i havent talked to him personally i've gotten to kno him by being around him alot with some friends but i've never actually talked to him and up until recently i didnt realize i was attracted to him so now i'm wondering what i should do whether to just not tell him or go for it...usually i would know the answer myself but i've been screwed over to many times by going with my gut feeling Thanx to any one that helps!!! (link)
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I think you talk to him more.I wouldn't go rushing in there and tell him you like him,that will be obvious when you show more intrest in talking! Let him ask you out, don't rush and scare him off.
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I'm torn between two guys. They are both really great and I like them both. I have no clue which one I should be with. I know I have to be with one of them, but I don't know what one. *Jake is 16 years old. He's an awesome guy but sometimes we get into fights and say really hurtful things to eachother. But I still really like him, because he always shows that sweet side to him around his friends, when he's known as a "Tough" guy at school. *Erik is 17 (my age) and is an all time sweetheart, he's always there for me when I need him. He's just plan amazing. I like something about both of these guys, but I'd like a little feedback from you guys about what I should do. Which one should I choose/not choose? Thanks. (link)
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Don't be exclusive and date them both.
Sooner or later one or the other with prove to be the one for you. Then you can go exclusive with that one. Don't be in such a rush to be tied down!:}
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I livve with my dad and you no once in a while need a outfit for picture dayy orr a dance? My friends cant alwyas go with me what do i do go with my dad or stay home?? ?anyone with expierence? i rate goood! please help (link)
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I think you should go with your dad.Who knows maybe he has good taste!
If you know he doesn't have good taste, then I'm sure you have good judgement about what looks good on you. Have a little more confidence in yourself.
If all else fails is there a grandma or aunt whose advice you trust.Maybe one of them will take you.
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My friend and I met online from another friend of mine. We were always good friends, but the only time ( it seemed like)we get in to fights is online. It's kind of weird now seeming that we met online. I mean, It seems like just because I wanted to meet her, we have gotten in a fight.
Any Advice?
~.CoOkIe~.
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Maybe she's just nervous that you won't like her when you meet,or vise versa.
Once people meet silly things like looks and personality get in the way. It's easier to talk to someone you haven't met. I'd say she may be nervous.Talk about that online with her and see if that might be the case. Also see if you can figure out what you were talking about before the the fight. Maybe that will give you a clue.
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My friend ((We'll call her M)) is a total sl**. She knows it and is proud of it. She stabs people in the back and screws you over. She turns on you and talks crap on you behind your back. My 2 best friends and i ditched her because we knew she wasn't a good friend to have. Now she is friends with lots of girls... at least she thinks she is. They all hate her, but they won't tell her! I wouldn't mind becoming friends with her again, but how can i learn to trust her and believe what she tells me if she did all this stuff to me the first time around? (link)
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She will never be trustworthy.
Be friends with her at your own risk.
I'd leave things as they are.
If you hang out with her people will assume you are just like her even if you aren't.
If you can live with all that then be friends with her.I really think i'd stay away.
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my mom has the perfect boyfriend, i love him to death! for every other day the past month my mom has been going out with friends from like 7 pm to in btween 3 and 4 am ! a few of my friends moms even think she is an irresponsible parent! her bf is even begging to think that. eveybody is worried. she wont listen to me or her bf when we try to help! we all want them to get married, but even her bf sed he hopes she doesnt ruin it in the end! (its a long distance relationship, we live in la, he lives in san fransico) (link)
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He may be the best guy on the planet but I'm afraid you guy's can't make the decision about who she marries or doesn't.
If she loves him she will if she doesn't she won't. That is up to her.It would be nice if everyone were with those people we think would be good for them! But, thats not how it works in real life.
If you are concerned about the time she is spending with friends, or more importantly the time she is returning, then speak to her about that.Go ahead and tell her you believe it to be iresponsible and all that, but you have no say so on who she marries. Sorry about that.
In answer to your feedback: I did read the ? and nowhere does it say they are engaged. Nor do you refer to him as her fiance? Doesn't matter though.people break engagements all the time.It is still her decision who she marries.
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hey so i had a boyfriend for like almost a year and we never really talked or anything so thats why we never broke up with each other and we were friends before but we haven't talked since this summer. all of my friends that were jealous of us (even though there was nothing to be jealous of) don't like him now but i kind of still want to talk to him. since we haven't talked in so long what would be the best way to approach talking to him without it being wierd? (link)
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You just go up and talk about anything.
It's going to be a little wierd probably whatever
you do.But, if you want to be friends again that's what you have to do.Once you get started you have to keep it up. Communication is very important in any relationship.....if you want it to last.
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ok, my bf gets boners when im with him, i know this because hes told me ,i was just wondering if there is anything i could do? Also is there anything i could do with my bf that's cute, but not sex?
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could you be more specific? Do you want to know how to help get rid of the boner without having sex? Also give me your age.ok
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Me and my girlfriend just broke up and i was kinda glad that we broke up at first but noe i miss her really bad and i am not sure if she likes me so what should i do? (link)
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Why did you break up? Did you initiate it or did she? If you did, then you may be able to get her back. If she did, and the problem that caused it isn't fixed...probably not.
The same would go if you were the one to do the breaking too actually,Can you live with whatever problems may still exist?
I do some serious thinking about it first then follow your heart.
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Me and this guy use to go out. He broke up with me and I didnt see him for a long time. I was in love with him, we started talking again and we hug and flirt and talk but theres this other girl he does some of that stuff with too. I still have feelings for him, everytime I see him I always think god he's hot, and think about how much I care for him. But wut do I do? I need him back, he's like all I ever think about. (link)
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Sounds to me as if he still considers you a friend at the very least.I would maybe ask him how he feels about giving it another try, see what he says.Since he treats others the same though Don't get upset if he doesn't feel the same.But you need to know one way or the other so you can move on or not.
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Tomorrow, i have a Persuasive essay to turn in, which I will later have to read to my English class.
My topic is on book-banning, and i've typed up my essay, and it's all set.
My problem is, is that my last reason for why book-banning from schools and libraries isn't right, is because books are sometimes banned because of homosexual characters.
At first, i felt strongly about stating my opinion through an essay on my opinion on homosexuallity (I'm for gay marriage), but now, I'm having second doubts. Can someone please tell me how they think this will go over in my class, and is it appropriate? (This is Advanced 8th grade Eglish by the way) (link)
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While I agree with your opinion it may be a bit much for 8th grade. Then again I suppose it is (unfortunatley) a reason why the school might ban a book.
Leave it in, tell the teacher before class your leaving it in. But ask his/her opinion on weather or not to read that part in class.How's that?
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Okay now I dont want to sound too sluty but yesterday I went some where with my friend and when we got there it was this really cute boy there. Now he was flirting with me(rubbing my leg and holding my hand) but the bad part of all this is he was doin gthe same to my friend, when we went outside, we actually made out. When we got back to my friends house she told me that they made out! Now I don't know if that is true or not because they were never really alone together bu twhat if it is true? I have to see this boy every thursday, and I think we both like him, but who does he like??? PLEASE HELP ME (link)
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Well, he evidently thinks he can have you both.IF your friend is being truthful.Is she usually? If so i'd be headed the other way next time I seen him coming.
After all, if he's going to make out with your FRIEND, while you're right there, what's he going to do behind your back?
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Ive met this great man and we get along in all aspects, but from the start he has said hes not sure about a relationship because of his past. Hes been so hurt and has built this huge wall around him. I have made it clear from the beginning that i do want a relationship. Who doesnt want to be loved as long as its with the right person? He has just recently figured out that i have started having feelings for him and it scares him. Now im scared of how honest to be with him about it because i dont want to lose him from my life, hes also a great friend. On the other hand i wish there was something i could do to get him to see how great we would be in a relationship. Help me, ive been seriously hurt in the past as well and i dont like this feeling i have in my stomach. What should i do? I am 33 years old and hes 36 and we both have children from previous relationships. (link)
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Give it some time. Keep your feelings about it to yourself for now and see if he doesn't come around soon.I'm sure niether of you want to be hurt again.
I don't know how long I would wait for sure.You can't wait forever.You need to set a time limit for yourself and if you are looking for a serious commitment you need to move on if he won't commit after that time is up.
If you are willing to let things remain as they are indefinatley then you can do that also.Just be prepared for him to never change.If he was stung that bad he may never get over it.
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okay my guy friend and i were suppose to spend yesterday together but we didn't cuz he didn't call me. he is not a dependable person. so today in the hall he said hi and i ignored him. was that the right thing to do? and does anyone have any ideas on what i should say to him or what should i do? (link)
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It's a good thing to do if you want to start an argument!Oh well, it's done now. I would explain to him that your feelings were hurt because he didn't call. A family thing might have come up or something, give him a chance to explain himself.
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Ok now well i have been with this kid whom we'll call john and my ex we'll call jack.Ok me and john have been together for about 3-4 weeks and i was with my ex for 5 months then we broke up in january but lately i have begun to get old feelings back for jack but we are BOTH in a relationship so i wrote him a letter after john left for florida basically asking him out and i am waiting for right now but the prob is if it doesn't work out should i tell john when he comes back about what i was secretley doing?? plz help i only have a couple of days left!!!
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No. No reason to hurt his feelings.I'd just keep quiet about it and hope the ex doesn't say anything to him about it.
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