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My dream has meant something before, and now I'm frightened
Since I was five and up until I was ten, there was a man that used to abuse me and my bedridden mother. Finally when I was ten years old, my mother kicked him out. A few years after that, I was taken out of my mother's house, and am now living with my 30 year old sister, and her fiance. Anyway, off of the background. a couple years ago, I had a dream that I would run into the abuser guy, and then I did! Nothing bad happened to me that time, but now I'm having nightmares about him again! I'm afraid, because the nightmares are worse than last time, and I'm afraid something really bad might happen. What should I do??? I know dreams don't always mean something, but it's been happening for three nights now. I'm really frightened. :O
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if you are scared just remember that yu are nvr alone. God is always wit u no matter wut happens. he always is and always will b and dont u 4get it!! God knows your future, so go to him in prayer and ask him to protect you, and tell him yu are worried!! thats al i have!! may God bless you!!--melmel88--
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i think you should pray to god about it and pray that he will help you in your problems.
praying for you
rkgurl13
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Stay in the present moment, where you are safe. Right now, nothing bad is happening to you. Focus on your breath and let go of the fear. Once you have done that, then you'll be able to think more clearly. What could this man do to you? What can you do to protect yourself? If you think about it from this place of clarity, you will see that there is little reason for concern. You are older, bigger, stronger, and smarter than you were when he lived with you. As long as you stay centered in your own heart and mind, you will be able to handle whatever may come. In the end, if he ever does come around again, you will discover that you are much stronger than you ever thought you were, and that he is pathetic and weak.
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Dreams are made up of who you are and your dream warned you of an encounter with the man in your past and this dream is either warning you to be extra careful or it is bringing your fears of him out in you dreams. Always listen to your dreams!
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Matters like this one are not always easy to address. Becuase of the mysterious, bizarre nature of dreams, you can't always logically deduce what they mean or what to do about them. Some people believe that dreams mean nothing, others that beleive they are reflections of our thoughts and feelings, and some still who think that dreams can warn of the future.
Regardless of which is true, it may be helpful to you to treat this situation as if all three are accurate.
Firstly, treat the dreams as if it means nothing. Okay, not quite. Make sure you don't give it more weight than it deserves. It has obviously brought to your mind memories of this man... Have you considered bringing criminal charges against him? I'm sure if he were locked up for what he did you'd rest easier.
Now, treat the dreams as if they are reflections of your thoughts and feelings. Why are you dreaming about him? Ask yourself that. Do you feel anger and resement toward him over what he did to you? Do you feel unsafe? Are you worried that someone else might be after you, and are using him to represent them?
Others have suggested seeking out a priest or counselor to talk to. I think that would be a great idea, although with my more secular leanings I'm inclined to suggest the counselor over the priest. I would guess that, no matter what the dreams actually mean, that you have pent up issues over this. You need to get them out, or at least talk about them. At the very least, you'll feel better afterward.
Also, there are some things you could try for dealing with the nightmare themselves. If you become lucid during the nightmare (that is, realize you're dreaming) confront him in the dream. You might also want to try talking the individual dreams out with people, writing endings to them, drawing scenes. Start keeping a log and watch for patterns.
Lastly, there's the possibility that this dream might be prophetic. Whether you beleive in psychic powers or the capacity of the subconscious mind to interpret and predict events, you seem to beleive that dreams have some clairvoyant qualities. I beleive that dreams can predict the future; however, I rarely believe that the events they indicate are as dramatic and painful as the dreams themselves.
The important thing here is your safety, both physical and emotional. You will feel happier if you take steps to ensure your physical safety from this man, and that of your family. Check your house for problems, and maybe consider taking self-defense classes. Don't go to places alone unless they're very public and visual, and vary your routine--don't always come and leave at the same time. Whether or not the dream means anything, whether or not he or anyone else attacks you, this will still help you to feel better. Voice your concerns to your family, too, even if they're unsupportive of your intuition.
Reglardless of what other columnists say, it is important that you heed your intuition. The human mind is a powerful thing, and is capable of weaving all sorts of things together without fully cosncious thought. Logic may abandon you in dangerous situations, but intuition is as in grained in you as walking, if not moreso. Trust your intuition, use your brain, and don't worry so much. Those three things are the key to having things work out.
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Try getting this checked out. Go to a psygolosit or something. You should maybe alret the police so they can protect you. Warn your sister and/or her fiance as well. Make sure you use the "buddy system" when walking around bad neighborhoods. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck
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Tell your sister. She can help you. Listen to soft calming music while you sleep, it will help.
tarA
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Tell someone you trust (maybe your sister) that you are scared, and just be extra careful. But hopefully your just haveing nightmares about the abuser doing something bad to you because you had dreamt about him and then saw him. Just be careful. Im sure you will be okay.
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Well, you and your mom should go to the police about this abuser and then you should make sure your sisters house is secure just in case ( locks on the door ) ect. . tell your sister about the abuse just incase if she doesnt know
and dont worry to much about dreams..
carry a cell phone to call the police incase you run into him again
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Ok honey, well, if you're having dreams of this. Then don't freaking worry! Sometimes dreams are just like past memories! If like you were phsyic or something, then you'd be able to see into the future through your dreams. That's what happened to one of my friends. But like, dreams are either wishes the heart makes or past memories of what happened in the past or what happened today. Plus if you were getting abused, then baby scream it all out! Talk to someone so they can fucking throw him in jail! Like it's not so fucking hard! Just freaking make him pay in jail! If you meet him one more time then full on ignore him. That's it, done deal. Good bye loser abuser! Then like make sure you're protected from him. Like big ass hardcore time! But just tell the police or talk to someone who can help you! That's all there is. Good luck doll...
The Loner, Loser, Lover...your dark lord and master...Jenny M...enjoy...
[jennymanzanares@hotmail.com]
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Have you never gotten therapy because of all this? If not, I suggest that you do now.
Your dreams don't mean that you are going to run into this guy (by the way, why is he not in jail?), but it does mean that you fear it will happen somewhere in the back of your mind.You need to get some help with this.
Go to your sister and see if she won't help you.If for some reason she doesn't then go from one adult to another in your life until you find someone that will get you the help you need.
Don't live your life in fear of going to sleep every night, okay?
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Hmmm well it may have been a coincidence, or it could have really meant something. Try searching on the web for dream interpeters and ask them. Try telling your mother or father or somebody you absolutely trust. Good luck!
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Hey, nightmares are usually somthing that happend recently that you go scared of or somthing. But, you have to clear your conciousnce((SP)) to your sister or someone.
Always there..
Donna
ps dont be scared pf him ((the guy that abuses you))
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I don't know if what I tell you can help, but it helped my mother immensly.
She had an abusive husband for a long time when I was growing up. When she finally kicked him out for the last time, he would not let us go. He showed up at out house late at night, but luckily our dog never liked his abusive ass and attacked him. My mother would always have nightmares, and along with other stresses in her life, it was giving her a nervous breakdown.
She got counceling, and one of the things that they told her to do was forgive everyone that hurt her.
It was the hardest thing she ever did. But she finally got up the nerve to pray for her ex husband and forgive him one night.
The nightmares stopped, the stress stopped, the worry stopped. In that next month her and a good friend saw the ex at a fair. He had been avoiding the cops for some time, and my mother was able to call them and be the reason that he went to jail.
Of course she will always hate this man, but forgiving him in her mind helped her get the bad things out of her mind.
I think you should attempt this. You need to get your mind off of him. I think that your having these dreams because of your stress of what will happen. You think that they will come true, only because of the coincedence that happened before. If you get this asshole out of your mind, then the dreams will stop.
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Once you have a dream about the same thing after a while they go away this guy doesnt even deserve to be in your dreams but if your dreaming about him there not dreams there nightmares. Some people say that you have nightmares of your past because you blame your self for what happened if you do dont if you dont thats good. Dreams are not real, some times when people are layed in bed they start thinking of some really personal things that have happened late at night if you do that dont think of something thats going on in your life right now thats good.
hope ive helped
luv roxie
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