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theres this guy in one of my classes and i sorta like(d) him... im not sure if i still do or not... btu today in class he was totally flirting with me and i thoght he was gonna ask me out... ive never had sex before but ive done a lot of things... he told me he just recently had sex with this chick hes sorta been "dating" i guess u call it... but i dunno like i thoght he was gonna ask me out and i got really flipped out... so i dunno!! hes kinda cute and all my friends like him... but i dunno what i shuld do... any ideas?
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You can certainly go out with a guy without having sex with him. That part I wouldn't even worry about yet. He may have told you that story to get your reaction, I'd let him know that you would have to get to know a guy really good before you'd do that kind of thing. Then you'd know that isn't why he asked you out.
If he asks you out, and you like the guy give him a chance. Just don't be pressured into having sex until you are ready and until you've known him a while.:)
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its not that important to me and i try not to make a big deal of it but i sort of really want a boyfriend!!! of course it sounds weird but no one in my grade really has them. if you do people just talk gossip and say "omg i heard they made out once!' and stupid things like that. i really don't want people to talk about me that way. unlike some people, im really self-concious about my reputation and what people think of me. suddenly everything is just going haywire...(dunno if i spelled that rite) theres no way im going to go and ask some guy out...for all they know, they'll think its a joke! id rather have them as regular guy friends than boyfriends but they'd think i was, how you say, a freak, retarded, out of my mind. i only have one guy friend and i like him but not that much. theres only one problem-he doesn't have the deepest voice and he sounds like a girl so of course, thats what people call him. i dont' really know what my problem is because there baisically a bunch of problems twisted together. but if you figure my actual problem out, could you please answer it for me!? that'd be grate
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You're right school kids do sometimes like to gossip. Especially in younger grades.
That is why when you get your boyfriend you just don't talk about it with those who will start the gossip.
I don't think boys will think your retarded or anything if you want to be friends. They are no diffrent than girls that way. If you have something in common with a boy, then you just go make friends with him.
As for your friend with the high voice...that will change soon. Boy's go through a time when their voices change.
You know what your actual problem is? You are a young teenager and your body is just undergoing a lot of changes all at once. It can make for a confusing time sometimes. It will eventually even out and get better. Those boy's will catch up with you real soon and you will get a boyfriend.:)
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Is it true that chewing bubble-gum will help your ears to pop? (link)
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Yes it will. Actually chewing anything will help youor ears pop.:)
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Well, you see, I have been friends with this girl who lives in England for over 3 years now. We met online, but we've talked over the mic and we know what each other looks like. And she's thinking of doing a trip thing over here and we where thinking about having her stay. When I say we, I mean I...
Anyways, everything went well until I asked my Mom about it. She said, "Yeah, I guess...perhaps." And she's been thinking about it. But when I brought it up again, she said: "How do I know how to trust her?"
And so we've been trying to get ways to proove that my Mom could trust her, but I just don't know how. Does anyone have any suggestions?
And does anyone have any suggestions on how to get HER Mom to let her come? She's been saying it's okay to be penpals, perhaps, but I don't know about actually coming here. How do we break the news to her Mom & Dad without having them blow up? Their very over-pretective, as she describes them...
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How old are you? Where do you live?
It's hard for a parent to just put their child on a plane to travel halfway around the world.You
may just have to wait until she's older...I don't know how old you are so that's all I can offer on that one.
If you want your mom to get to know her that is easy enough. Let her talk to her online the same as you do.:)
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I need some good advice. I am homeschooled and I would like to get into something like football. This years been rough and im considering going back to public school for 10th grade. If I go to public school though my parents are afraid that my attitude might change to match the people around me (which is very true and might happen and it'll be worse). Should I go back to public school and stay caught up, play sports, and be around other people. Or should I stay homeschooled and not be influenced by the people around me? (link)
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If you want to play football you will have to go to school I think. Around my area they do have a soccer team for homeschooled kids.
There is nothing wrong with being home schooled.
I want to say that up front. But, there is also nothing wrong going to school with your peers. You will have to join the world some day and be influenced by those around you. So long as you know right from wrong and are strong enough to make your OWN decisions I don't think you will have a problem with public school.:)
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wow, I don't really know what category to put this under, so I guess it works under friendship.. kinda. Anyway, I started cutting, I don't know why but I did. I don't want to, but it's really addicting.. 0.o so it's hard for me to stop. Only on of my friends knows and I just met him and I like him alot.. he cuts to, so I feel conferdable talking to him about this.. he doesn't do it so much anymore but I wonder if he is worried about me, I know my step brother is.. he knows to. Well he doesn't really know he just thinks I do it and he knows that I have a BiG possibatly of doing it.
When I look at my scares.. I cry, and I think 'is this really who I am?? is this really me??' cause I don't seem like this kinda girl who would do this.. I am real caring and nice and funny.. so I don't get it.. how do I stop.. do you have anything to tell me about what I wrote? just anything, please.. I wana stop.
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Tell your parents. They may not understand it but they will get you the help you need.You really need to talk to a therapist who knows all about your problem and can help you deal with it.
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ive been with my boyfriend for about 3 weeks and we were originally planning to keep it a secret so no one would bug us. well, now every knows and wants to know all the details (have u kissed yet...how far have you gone..) and i really dont know what to do besides tell them to shut up and stay out of it. thanks in advance.
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I agree. It is nobodys business but the two people involved. Not to mention that they will tell someone else and on and on!
I think a relatonship between two people should be special. And it just seems that once everyone no's your business it just kinda takes the special out of it.
So, you don't have to be rude (unless they just won't give up) just tell them that you prefer to keep your private life private.Anything more than what movie you seen last night is off limits. Just have a talk with each one and say this is how its going to be.Don't even wait for them to ask. Then you won't have to worry about rumors or gossip and you and youor boyfriend can just enjoy each other in peace! Good luck :)
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i have been seeing my ex on and off for 3yrs.we were going out steady for 2yrs and i dumped him. hes messed me about really bad i realy like him still and he wants to try again, but i dont no what to do. female 18yrs old! dave is 22. (link)
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If he has made you miserable before, chances are he will again. I'd just keep my distance if I were you. Why would you want to go through all of that again?
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no one understands
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i kno i sound emo but no one ever understands..no one every knows why and they blame me for sh*t everyone thinks im all happy...im not...
i dont kno why i even try no one cares
no one fu**ing cares
not even my fu**ing frends
and i like this guy...he doesnt like me....i dont think..my friends told him that i reli like him but he doesnt believe them..i feel realy weird goin up to him cause hes my friend and i dont wanna change anything..wut do i do? (link)
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Of course he doesn't believe them. He won't believe it until he hears it from you. If he didn't like you he would have said Yuk or something when asked. Go talk to him and see if that doesn't cheer you up some.:)
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hello,
ok my friend has a problem she likes this guy but she cant trust him at all ok.no one can really trust him i mean he has like gfs but umm when he does he flirts with everybody else and he has a crush on my friend but she doesnt want to go out with him because she cant trust him. she tried to advoid him but that didnt work lol. now shes gonna try to talk to him and tell him she just wants to keep it at a friends level. how can she do this without ruining the friendship. (link)
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She just has to do it and not worry about the results. Unless she wants him to bug her until he's tired of it.
She is right to avoid dating him.Relationships are nothing if you don't trust each other. :)
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About a year ago, my nephew started to steal things. He stopped doing it after he stole a hundred dollar bill from my brother-in-law. We called a police man in to ... "threaten" him. His real mother is an ex-convict, and she called him around easter. All of the sudden, he is theiving again. We think she triggered his rebellious side. I think that he thinks he'll impress his mother by acting like her. She says she's coming over this summer, and our family is worried. My family is baffled on what we should do now. We've grounded him to his room yet somehow, he manages to still theive. We know it's him, because we've caught him in the act several times. We're sending him to church now, to see if it will shape him up a bit. But he's taking it as a punishment.If we don't do something soon I'm afraid that he'll turn out like his mom. And that's nothing an aunt wants for her nephew. I need help, I don't want him to end up in jail by the time he's eighteen. (link)
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I think your right about why he does it.
Is it possible that his mother would help you out by telling him she doesn't approve? I mean she has paid some dues for her bad behavior so maybe she could scare him that way.
Your family has done a wonderful thing giving him a home. In the end you may just have to hope that enough of your familys life rubs off on him that he will choose that way of life instead of his mom's. You don't say how old he is. Hopefully he will outgrow some of it as he matures as well. :)
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there is this kid who sits next to me he is really annoying and ugly and has a staring problem...hes lookin at me right now while im typing this and he wont leave me alone what should i do? (link)
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Tell him to stop the staring. You don't like it.
If he still doesn't stop tell the teacher and see if she will move him somewhere else.
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Why do guys get angry when you have only been dating two months and they tell you they love, but if you don't feel comfortable saying it back they all the sudden don't love you? Especially the only reason you don't want to say it is because that is when people start getting hurt! (link)
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Well, I don't think saying it gets you hurt. Feeling it maybe!
For some reason people seem to want to rush into saying they love each other. Maybe they think it makes getting sex easier?? I don't know. But, if he loves you one minute and doesn't when you don't feel the same.....He didn't in the first place. Either that or he's saying he doesn't to keep from being embarrassed.
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alright, so there is this guy that my bf is not-quite-but-sorta friends with. nick, the dude, is trying really hard to get in our realtionship. he's always asking questions and saying things that he has no right to say. he asked my bf if we had sex in his truck. i honestly don't think its nick's business what my bf and i do or do not do. what can i do to get this guy to get the hint that no one likes him and he is not wanted anywhere near me. thanks in advance.
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If he is sorta friends with your boyfriend, then he's the one who needs to get rid of him. He is also the one who needs to tell him to stay out of your business.:)
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I'm on my peroid, and it's suddenly (within the last two days) become very, very painful to pee.
It's fine until I have to stop peeing, at which it feels like everything is pinched down there. I thought it might just be something because I'm using regular flow tampons right now, instead of just light, however when I try to pee even without a tampon it's still painful.
I know I don't have an STD--I'm a total virgin, and I don't have any other symptoms of any other common infections, such as a yeast or bacterial infection.
Does anyone know why I could suddenly be having so much pain? I'd appericate it. (link)
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Sounds like you have a Urinary tract infection.
You will have to go to the doctor to get medicine for it. It won't go away on it's own.
You will have to see your doctor.:)
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Theres a girl who is a complete and total slut shes trying to take my boyfriend away from me I dont like her and she knows it i have talked to my boyfriend and he promised he wouldn't go for her...what should I do? (link)
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you will have to trust your boyfriend.
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i used to be really popular, well not really popular but i had alot of friends,well positive people to hang out with and the summer came and we drifted apart. then i met this other group of black students and they were really fun to hang out with. All of a sudden two of the girls started acting funny. turns out that they were bisexuals and they were dating each other.well after i found out, things returned to normal and we were all frinds again, dispite their sexual preferance. well then this other girl in the group decided she wanted to be a lesbian too. well then she just started dating all these girls and breaking up with them and and dating them again and so on and so on. any how she just got annoying and now all she does is fight with my other friends and make people stare at her. no matter how many time ive tried i cannot get her to leave me the hell alone. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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Maybe the whole group needs to get together with her and just say leave us alone. Other than just down right getting rude I don't know what else to say. Are you in school? You could tell a teacher. Is she just causing fights or is she coming on to you? If she's coming on to you threaten her with a sexual harrassment suit. They aren't just for male/female relationships.
If you want to give a few more details I will try for better answer.:)
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There is this girl that I REALLY want to ask to prom. But there is one small problem. She says she doesnt really do the school dance thing. We went out to the movies last week, and she said she had a great time. We've been friends for a while, and I finally admitted I have feelings for her, and she said she likes me too. So I dont know, should I ask her, or should I ask someone I dont know as well? And if I should ask her, how should I ask? I am a singer, but I'm not confident about my talent under THAT sort of pressure! Please help! (link)
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I think you go ahead and ask her first at least.
Maybe she just doesn't know how to dance. Offer to teach her (at least the slow ones).If she doesn't want to go with you, then consider asking someone else...or just skip it and go out with her, depending on your feelings. :)
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I have a few guys I want to ask to my prom...One is this guy ive been seeing but im not sure if i really like him anymore, the other is a guy of my friend toms friend who ive never met, and then theres a few others... im not sure who i want to take yet . my prom is june 27th . how much time in advance should i ask the guy in order to give us time to make arrangements and for him to get a tux. (link)
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I think a couple of weeks at least. Unless you think someone else might ask him. Then I don't think i'd wait much longer.:)
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so theres this guy named brandon at my school. ive liked him ever since september. weve sat next to eachother almost all year in english.he would always flirt with me and stuff but he had a girlfriend & they were togteher for over a year.well last month they broke up. and ever since then weve been hanging out soo much and hes kissed me and hes held my hand and told me he likes me soo much. he even wrote me a song. and he calls me alllll the time. well when were at school he hugs me and puts his arm around me. but he told me he doesnt want a girlfriend. he wont kiss me at school. but outside of school we kiss all the time...we hangout at lunch and stuff but i dont know. my friend (whos also his friend) asked if he liked me he said yea i like her alot. and she said are u gonna ask her out? he said NO! not for school. its like he doesnt want the school to know were together. and everyone is asking me about it theyr like oh are you and brandon going out?? what does all this mean, why wont he ask me out? and hes not the kind of guy to use a girl...hes soo sweet...:| (link)
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Some people just don't like to show affection (like kissing) in public. Could be he's one of them. He may have with the old girlfriend, but maybe he regrets it.Some things are better kept private. So, I wouldn't hold it against him. I think I would ask him about though. And I'd ask him about the not for school comment. Just tell him you're a little confused by it all.My guess is though that he just don't want nosey people at school questioning his relationships.:)
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