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My nephew is stealing things!!!!
About a year ago, my nephew started to steal things. He stopped doing it after he stole a hundred dollar bill from my brother-in-law. We called a police man in to ... "threaten" him. His real mother is an ex-convict, and she called him around easter. All of the sudden, he is theiving again. We think she triggered his rebellious side. I think that he thinks he'll impress his mother by acting like her. She says she's coming over this summer, and our family is worried. My family is baffled on what we should do now. We've grounded him to his room yet somehow, he manages to still theive. We know it's him, because we've caught him in the act several times. We're sending him to church now, to see if it will shape him up a bit. But he's taking it as a punishment.If we don't do something soon I'm afraid that he'll turn out like his mom. And that's nothing an aunt wants for her nephew. I need help, I don't want him to end up in jail by the time he's eighteen.
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Hmm, church is a punishment. Maybe hes atheist.
Hes stealing because hes a young retard. If the police man is still talking to him, have the guy pull a gun on the young one. Have the guy say "if you every steal again, ill kill your mother, put an asshole on your teddy bear and shove his head up it, and piss on your pillow". Make sure the guy looks freaky too!
He'll never steal again.
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I think your right about why he does it.
Is it possible that his mother would help you out by telling him she doesn't approve? I mean she has paid some dues for her bad behavior so maybe she could scare him that way.
Your family has done a wonderful thing giving him a home. In the end you may just have to hope that enough of your familys life rubs off on him that he will choose that way of life instead of his mom's. You don't say how old he is. Hopefully he will outgrow some of it as he matures as well. :)
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well if he's that old and steals, i think punishment is the only thing you can do to straighten him up. you need to be very strit and you need strong punishments. if he ever asks why, yell him oyu love him and care. i also think the reason this happens is because of his mom and her influence. it's also 'in her blood or personality' to steal or wateva she did. so it might have naturally gone to him. if you cant stop him, tell his mom. i hope everythin goes well.
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I'm thinking you may need to discuss this with his mother. Dispite the errors she's made in her life, she may really want her son to be a respectable adult. If she is completely hopeless, them the boy needs counceling. He's having a crisis of some sort, but I'm not a professional and can't tell if he is going for self-distructive behavior, attention grabbing, or just trying to prove to himself that he is his mother's child. Being separated from a parent can cause all kinds of anxieties and confusion for a child regardless of that parent's suitablity to provide care and guidance. No, church is not the answer if he thinks it's a punishment. All that "the wages of sin" and "sins of the father" crap will only make things worse by stripping him of any self-worth the boy has left. If he is seeing his attendance as punishment he will never even understand that the "who so ever beliveth in him" and the Father's forgiveness or even "he who has not sinned" is also meant for him. He will see only his flaws and not the means to correct them and grow. Good Luck, and however angry or disappoined you become, don't forget that you love him and don't let him forget it either!
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