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Major problem.
Well, you see, I have been friends with this girl who lives in England for over 3 years now. We met online, but we've talked over the mic and we know what each other looks like. And she's thinking of doing a trip thing over here and we where thinking about having her stay. When I say we, I mean I...
Anyways, everything went well until I asked my Mom about it. She said, "Yeah, I guess...perhaps." And she's been thinking about it. But when I brought it up again, she said: "How do I know how to trust her?"
And so we've been trying to get ways to proove that my Mom could trust her, but I just don't know how. Does anyone have any suggestions?
And does anyone have any suggestions on how to get HER Mom to let her come? She's been saying it's okay to be penpals, perhaps, but I don't know about actually coming here. How do we break the news to her Mom & Dad without having them blow up? Their very over-pretective, as she describes them...
Thanks! Sorry this is so long!
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How old are you? Where do you live?
It's hard for a parent to just put their child on a plane to travel halfway around the world.You
may just have to wait until she's older...I don't know how old you are so that's all I can offer on that one.
If you want your mom to get to know her that is easy enough. Let her talk to her online the same as you do.:)
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Maybe her parents would feel more comfortable with the idea if her mom or dad came with her?
As for what your mom has to say...I understand how you feel. You feel like you all ready know this person, and that they are trustworthy. While that might be true, you still have to exercise some caution when meeting someone in real life for the first time. I suggest that your friend and her parent(s) stay at a hotel while they are in town, and that the first few visits are supervised, and held in a public place.
You might think that I'm being ridiculous. However, I have been in your situation before. Like you, I had been talking to this person for a very long time and felt like I knew him. However, I was still cautious. (You have to be, the world is a very dangerous place.) I stayed at the local hotel with my family, I met him in a public place, and when I met him for the first time, my family was present. I turned out to be right. He was a nice, honest young man. I had nothing to worry about. But if I had to do it again, I'd still stick to my guns. As the corny old saying goes, "Better safe than sorry."
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Internet friends arn't good. There have been so many stories about how people got hurt or killed by an internet buddy. I would have to agree with your mom on this. If you still want her to stay, you should have her stay at a hotel in town. You and your family could meet at public places near by...but dont have her over unless you are sure. Maybe 5 times, you have to make sure, no matter what age, she couldnt hurt you or your family. If you see her 5 times in public, and your parents agree. Maybe next time she could come and stay at your house.
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