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Why do guys get angry when you have only been dating two months and they tell you they love, but if you don't feel comfortable saying it back they all the sudden don't love you? Especially the only reason you don't want to say it is because that is when people start getting hurt!
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JEEZ JUSt dONt SAY it if YOU dONt MEAN it.
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There are two answers to this, first, they don´t love you, and as cruel as it may sound, they probably just wanted it said back 2 them to make them feel better. Boys can be incredibly inseure, us girls mature far quicker! ;) Ha ha but the other reason may be he does have feelings for you, maybe not unconditional love, but feelings nonetheless, and you not saying it back may have made him feel unwanted and vunerable.
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of caorse they are gonna b sad that you fdont like feel the same way, but explain to them that you really like them but you are not in love yet.. and then when you are it will be a special thing.. your doing the right thing by not saying i love you al the time to himand abusing thw word.... its supposed to bre a speical thing and its good you arent throwing it around.. dont say it till u really mean it .. and he can go skrew him self if he dosent agree!!lol
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Well I told my boyfriend that and then he told me it back ... a few days later he always have something stupid to argue about and then he ignores me and it isn't like im goin to apologize but he will but I guess they jealous because they think its some 1 more important then them in your life and I know thatz what my boyfriend thinks ...
hope i helped ... please rate ... Grape
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I dont know but if they loved you that much they wouldnt get angry at you and just accept that you're not ready just yet to "love"
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we men are they way we men are
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if you dont feel it, you are right to not say it. the guys feel rejected. but thats okay.honesty is still best. how 'bout a date?
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because guys have da urge to have someone love them..and they dont know that they may hurt someone
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because MOST, but not all guys, say it so that it makes you think that they do, and then they can get "some"
you know?
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MiSs KelC
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i think that if you dont feel comfortable to say i love you back then dont. no one is forcing you to say it. if that guy cant understand the resons why or the fact you just dont want to than he is not worth it.
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Ooh, good question.
Here's my psycho-analysis of the phenomenom:
He's not angry- he's hurt. He's put his feelings out there (Guy stereotype is "do not show emotion!") and in not doing the same, he's sad. So to prevent looking weak, he covers his hurt with anger. It's a defense mechanism.
That said, some guys will just say "I love you" to get in a girl's pants. Again, stereotype, but it is true for some, so a girl needs to be careful.
Don't feel pressured to say "I love you" just to prevent your guy from getting mad. If you're not ready to say it, just say "thank you, that's sweet, I really care about you too" or whatever else is honest. Then let him be alone for a bit if it looks like he needs it (He can deal with his hurt privately if you let him, and he'll most likely be able to accept that you didn't say "I love you too")
If he truly loves you, he won't stop loving you just because you don't automatically say "I love you too." True love is (almost) unconditional.
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guys are sensative with that stuff and they want to be loved back (like everyone else). if you dont say it back, they'll take it back cuz you hurt them. <3
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most guys say i love you as a way to get in your pants. i have tons of guy friends and though most of them arent like that...its a subconcious guy thing. get used to it, but dont accept it.
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Well, I don't think saying it gets you hurt. Feeling it maybe!
For some reason people seem to want to rush into saying they love each other. Maybe they think it makes getting sex easier?? I don't know. But, if he loves you one minute and doesn't when you don't feel the same.....He didn't in the first place. Either that or he's saying he doesn't to keep from being embarrassed.
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If you don't want to say "I love you" then you shouldn't have to. Maybe explain why you didn't say it. And never say it just to please him. This guy I went out with kept saying I love you and we've only been going out for a week. I just kept saying "mhmm" and left it alone. sure he got mad but I later explained that it was only a week and I don't love him. Your bf should understand. and if he doesn't he isn't worth your time.
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u dont have to say u love them if u dunt want to.
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I think the reason guys say this (SOMETIMES) is because they want the physical aspect of the relationship. Not all guys are like this though. Some guys may say "I love you" and honestly mean it; while some guys may say "I love you" and mean "I want to sleep with you". Be careful. If you don't know the guy well, you might fall into the trap. If you don't feel comfortable, just mumble something or say, "You too" (which can mean anything you want it to mean.) Explain to the guy (your boyfriend, I'm assuming) that you don't feel comfortable saying that because you'll get too attatched too fast. This is just asking for heartache. If the only reason you don't want to say "I love you" is because you don't want to get hurt, explain this very calmly and politely. Tell this guy that you like him, and one day you'll probably love him.. but it's too early on in the relationship to say that. What you say is true.. but, be careful. Some guys might not mean that they love you, while some do. It all depends on the guy.
-FunnyCide
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Because guys, have high self eestem, and if you say something that they dont agree with they turn on you. Boys are idiots! they need to be a little more sensative.
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Well here's the obvious answer. Most likely he is to young to know what love is and he wants to secure his reservations in your pants. my advice is to buy a chastity belt (metal panties with a lock) and tell him what he wants to hear.
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Because they're guys and their pride has been hurt!! They dont want to be the one to look all needy which they would see themselves looking if you hadnt said you loved him back. Therefore he pretends he's changed his mind so that he looks good again (or so he thinks!) You were right not to just say you loved him just because he said it to you so its just him being male really!
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i'm a guy, and i've neva had this happen to me b4 but i think it's cause the guy might feel offened or he only likes you cause you hott. sumthin like that. and i dont no if it would help but you might wanna tell him y you said you dont truely love him. hope it works out!
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