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Ok. There us this guy named Josh. We have had plans to go out after my best friend had broken up with him (for the 50th time). We wanted to wait a while so she wouldnt get mad and so she would get over him. Well it turns out she isnt over him and hes not over her, but he still likes me. So i see him flirt with her all the time, and it really hurts. I know he still likes me because we always flirt together all the time. But i just dont know what to do. I don't think he can choose between me or her. I REALLY like him. But i dont want my best friend to hate me. And i am affraid that if she goes out with him again i will be really hurt and depressed, i have a funny feeling i wont want to hang out with her anymore. PLease help! I dont want to loose my best man or my best friend!! (link)
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I hate to say it but your best mans heart belong to your friend. He may like you as a friend but if he still wants her back...she has the heart. I think you need to find someone else and forget Josh. You would always be worried that she could take him from you if you did get together. Why make yourself miserable.Get out while you can.
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This may sound wierd but im friends with this guy i met maybe 3 weeks ago at a teen dance club im 17 hes 19, i bearly know him and i dont know what makes me feel so much like i need to help him but its killing me that i cant come up with my own solution.
This kid was recently kicked out of his house where he lived with his father and step mother, and that may possibly be a good thing. his father was abusive and it wasnt a good living situation. the last few days hes either been sleeping in his car or finding people to stay with. What hes planning on doing in 11 days is moving back to texas (from new york) and back in with his biological mother who hasnt seen him in forever and who hes only been talking to for 2 weeks. All his friends and his life is here though and hes not even sure if texas is going to work out for him.
i was wondering if anyone has any suggestions of things he can do. chances he has of staying here. He did graduate highschool etc and is really a nice guy though obviously he has his issues. This is a last resort for me. idk if theres people i can talk to or what i just need someones advice on this
thanks
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I think it will be good for him to get with his mother. Especially if he hasn't seen her in a while. I know it may be hard for you to let him go but you can keep in touch. If things don't work out there he can always return. While he has friends NY now, he may not have them long if he uses them for a place to stay etc. over the long haul. So let him go to Texas. Get his life on track and then he can come back when he does.
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well it wasn't just me...but on-line he would go out of know where "movies?" and he would do it about ever weekend....on-line i asked "why do u always want to go to the movies?" and he said "because i want to go with friends and i want to include you in" .....i was like ookkkk (to myself is said that lol) but at one time..he wouldn't just go the 2 of us as friends bc he didnt want his sisters saying how he had a gf n ect..i was like...ummm ok? and when we went to the movies..we went in august to see the village with our friend (he was a guy) and we sorta flirted..then the 2nd time was in october n we saw the village..with our friend sam..n i was in the middle and sam kept making me elbow him bc he was acting stupid..and i can see the smile on his face that he was enjoying the elbowin...and then back in nov...we were in the office of the church of where they hold the religion classes and i was tying my shoe and my BFF (best friend) and him were in there..and be4 this all started he kept asking me how to ask a girl out and etc bc he liked this girl marissa..and he wouldn't believe me on being ur self really works..and he said something ...i dont remember wat and my BFF said outta no where "there is no marissa you like her.." and i dont remember what he said or if he said anything...but to my point and to my BFF's point of view but it sounds like he likes me but we are really confused..and even though we gotten into that huge fight i think i like him...and i miss him as well..and i cant remember what he looks like..i have no picture
:-(...but i have a feeling ill b seeing him this coming thurday :-D (link)
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I think on Thursday you need to talk to him a litle and see. I think he really does like you. Boy's mature later than girls do so his sisters teasing him would probably bother him right now. That doesn't mean you can't be a "couple" out with friends. :)
You need to talk more for sure. Even if it is just email or IM. Go to movies with him and have fun. Shower him with attention. I think things will work out in the end. :)
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This morning my boyfriend is being a major jerk. I don't know why, but it's like he doesn't even care how I feel today. I wish he would just talk to me. I am trying to send him hints, but it's not working! How can I get his attention? (link)
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Grab him by the front of the shirt, get right in his face and tell him. No, really just make him sit and talk. Forget the hints most guys are oblivious to hints.
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my boyfriend always trys to get me to do things in front of other guys... and when i dont' he gets mad and says stupid and prude. he gets his other guy friends to rag on me. and the other night i was on my rag. he wouldn't leave me alone.. so i took out all my anger on him... then he told me i was lucky to have him... hes realy sweeet wen nobody else is around.. and i dont' want to break up with him...what should i do? (link)
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My opinion is that if he acts this way in public, its only a matter of time before he acts that way in private. You really need to get rid of this guy. He is trying to get you to do things in front of his friends to show them how much power he has over you. He is a jerk, you can do better than him.
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I know this is long but please help me!! Here is the thing my friend and I got gotten into a fight, (he's goin to be 15 in July and I just turned 15 at the end of March, he lives a few mins from me (just on the other side of our town..he goes to a Catholic school and I go to a public school) the only thing it was it was mostly my fault, I take the blame for starting the whole thing...he was pissing me off and my friend convinced me to call him back in mid-december and ask him to come over so we could talk, he refused and it made the problem even worse, he didn't get why I wanted to do it face to face and no over the phone or AIM. He had swimming so he wouldn't be at youth group on Thursday till Feb. I saw him once since I last saw him in November and that was in January at our friend's father's wake. The whole time we were there, when I looked at him I could see that he was looking at me, I was just to pissed off to look at him or even talked to him so I was trying to focus on my friend then him so which I did. Till this day I still haven't seen him since then. There were nights were I would be up till 2 AM thinking about him and the whole situation we gone threw. We started talking again in Mid-March, we talk here and there and our friendship is getting back to what it used to be. Last night I was thinking about 2 of my friends and some reason I started thinking about him again and the whole problem. I am confused after a month of talking again and all, why am I am thinking about this all again? We both agreed we would drop the whole thing and forget about it, but for me I feel that it is hard to do because even if he doesn't see it I still feel it there and that it's something that I want to just get over for good. I am starting to miss him since its been almost 5 months since I last saw him, I should be seeing him this Thursday but I am not sure. I told him that I may not be the same when he last saw me, and he asked "why?".. I said "because it's going to feel akward when I see you because if everything that we went threw and how I haven't seen you in so long"..he said "I shouldn't feel that way towards him because he doesn't" and that actually got me to smile for once..to the point of how I was in a good mood for once since November. I was tempted to call last night and I had my friend help me (the whole who suggested I called him back in Decmeber) and so I called him last last night just to say "Hi, Whats up?"..but there was no answer. I figure I would do it again tonight, but I am not sure. What should I do? I want to write another poem but I can't get to the right words out. I guess I can only write when I am pissed not when I am in a good mood? Someone help me please!! (link)
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If he asked you out to the movies he likes you.
Go out and forget whatever it was you were fighting about. He has. Call him on your own if you want to, keep girlfriend out of it. :)
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Dear advicer,
I'm asking for your opinion? Im a 35yr old male and my wife is 26yr old. My wife and I have been through alot of arguments. One time we went to see a marriage counselor and I promise I would change my attitude. I never did. A year have past now and in March of this year I returned from Iraq. She dicided to leave me and clean up her mind and troubles. She didn't took no pictures of our wedding or marriage life. She left me her weeding ring. She saids she wants to be friends now. We talk on the phone everynow and then. I ask her do you still love me and she doesn't give me a respond. I still love her so much. Is she trying to forget me our marriage or does she need some time to breath? (link)
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I would say that whatever attitude adjustment you didn't make was VERY important to her. Enough so that she doesn't want to deal with it anymore. If you want to try to get her back, first thing you need to do is to work that problem out and let her know you are doing so.
She want's to be friends. That is a good sign. She doesn't respond to I love you's could mean that she is confused about what she feels. Don't ask her that question anymore for a while, no matter how much you want to.
Here is what I want you to try. I want you to first find a counsler or someone to help with your attitude problem. Then, I want you to seriously work on the problem.
Then, you call your wife and you ask her out on a date. A nice dinner somewhere quiet where you can talk. Then take her home (where ever she's staying) No putting the moves on her. talk only.
If you have trouble expressing yourself, try writing it in a letter and give it to her to read later on. I know it will be tough going but I want you to romance her without pressure for more than that for the moment. If she refuses, continue getting help for the problem and ask again after a resonable time. Remember no pressure, no begging. If after getting help and asking her out a few times you get nothing positive from her...then you'll have to move on. I think you may be able to salvage your relationship though with a little effort. Feel free to ask if any questions come up along the way. I wish you the best of luck. :)
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ok if a guys likes you and you like him ALOT.. but he hasnt asked you out yet.. how can you get him to stay liking you until he asks you out..cuz what if hes not poitive he likes you.. so how would you get him to kno for sure and get him really into you??
*thanx (link)
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Time will tell as they say. Not really much you can do to make him like you except be yourself. If you like each other a lot, it is just a matter of time. :)
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ok my best friend lets call her taylor, went out with this guy lets call him ty three times since the begining of this year and she broke up with him all 3 times and when she broke up with him thats all she talked about ty this and ty that then my friend lets call him ricky, ricky asked her out on last thursday and she kept asking people what she sould say to him and it was making me mad because its he decision not everyone elses! and she asked like 15 people! and then he was sitting with us at lunch and she wrote him a note saying that she didnt know if she still had feelings for ty or not (ricky and ty are best friends) and in the note she said that she would go out with ricky but didnt know how she was going to tell ty and she still hasnt told him! and she said that the only reason that she said yes to ricky was because she didnt wanna hurt his feelings but i know that in the end she is going to break up with him by wednesday and ricky really likes her so i guess my question is why is she doing this?
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Is she still dating Ty or are they broke up? If they are broke up she doesn't owe Ty an explanation for anything, she's free to see who she want's. If Ricky is Tys best friend then he probably knows anyway. Guy's do talk to each other ya know. So could be Ty doesn't want anything more to do with her. Anyway, who knows why some people are the way they are. Your best bet would be to stay out of the whole thing so that nobody can blame you for anything. Sounds like a regular soap opera! :)
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okay. well i have been best friends with the same three people for 4 years now and we do everything together and i love them to death but now they have new friends and they will talk about plans right in my face and not invite me and so i do other things with my other friends but i cant help but get jelous. its like sometimes i dont want them to be happy unless there with me. I hate feeling this way. I hate being jelous, but i cant help it. Things have changed and i cant take it. I try to take my mind off it and do other things but none of my other friends are as close as they are. i cant just give up on out friendship. How do i stop the jelousy? and Should i tell them how i feel? cause they would probbaly laugh and get mad at me...
sincerely,
Sojelous (link)
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Why not ask them if you can come along? Might be they assume you will or can't go. Definitley say something...maybe in a joking way. :)
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hey every1. right now my life is so totally like the movie The Notebook, if you've seen it. K so there is this guy who goes to my school and a lot of people don't really like him at all because he is sort of full of himself and annoying. but for some reason at the beginning of this year i really really liked him. i only told a few of my friends though, because it was really embarrassing. then i found out that half way through the year he had to move to Hong Kong. i was really sad and his last day at school , my friend told him that i like him. he said that he liked me too.anyway overtime i kind of got over him and started to like this guy named Ben. Ben has been like my best guy friend for a really long time. anyway he asked me out and i said yes. i was so happy, until Jamie (the guy who moved to Hong Kong) CAME BACK!!! anyway now he is being really sweet, and trying to get me to like him again. the thing is, Ben sometimes ditches me for computer games and stuff, but Jamie never does, hes really sweet now. i don't know what to do at all though because Jamie is moving back to HK for good over the summer, so i probably wont see him again. so i could either break up with ben and spend the remainder of my time going out w/ jamie, or i could stay with ben since i will never see jamie again. no clue what to do! help! (link)
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You should probably stick with the one who is going to be around for a while. That doesn't mean you can't be friends with Jamie. Plan on writing and all that. You never know what might happen in the future! :)
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there's this guy at school and he always like bumps into me, and says sorry. before i didn't think anything of it, but now it's happening like almost all the time! does he like me? or is this just some weird coincidence?! (link)
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Maybe he's trying to start a conversation. Are you saying anything to him? Think of something to say to him next time and start a conversation. :)
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If it matters, I'm seventeen, and a girl.
Okay, so I've been really close with this friend of mine for about two years. Then all of a sudden, she decided she was too good for me. She dwells in every issue she has until she makes herself depressed. She's getting all "emo", for another thing, and pushing EVERYONE away, except our mutual friend, who happens to be a guy.
Now, she even admitted to him that she had a crush on him for awhile, but she "got over it". Somehow, I don't think she did. We're in a choral group and she always manages to position herself next to him, which bothers me - not because I like him - because I'm used to hearing his part in my ear. I'm used to listening to him. We always used to practice together for concerts, we sit next to each other in choir because we blend, and all that.
Anyway, so the main issue I have is, what do I say to her, if anything? She suddenly decided she was too good for everyone except one guy - oh, and her "college friends" which are her only "real" friends. Most of my friends are in college, and I still don't act like that.
I almost want to confront her about her pompous attitude, and about her supposed crush on our friend, but it would make everything awkward, I know.
What would you all do in this situation? I'm just curious.
I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. =)
Thank ya for your opinions. (link)
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I understand your not wanting to confront her with this. However, the way she is acting is already awkward for you...I'd mention it to her. :)
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I have a cousin who puts my probles on here for the world to know! It's really annoying me..what should I do..I don't want to seem mean though.. (link)
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Just don't tell the cousin the problem. She probably think's she's helping though. :)
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ok well my b/f was sapose to come over to my house on fridy and he seemed like he really wanted to come like when i was on the phone with him he was looking up my house on map quest and he was telling my friends that he couldn't wait to come to my house but he also told my best friends thta he was scared..in the hallway i was like when r u comeing over and he go well my parents are goign to my grandpas birthday soo their gonna drop me off then and i was like u can't miss your grandpas party b/c of me and hes like yeah i can its the same thing every year and ive been waiting all week to come to your house then later he called me and told me that his grandpa was going to flip if he didn't go to his party so i was like ok and hes liek i really wanted to hang out with you though and was like i promise well do it over break so i was like ok well its his grandpas party...later that night i even drove by his house and there was no lights on but today someone told me that they saw him at a laxcrosse game on the same night..this really doesn't sound like something he would like im soo surprised that he did it b/c we have been going out for a whille and he acts liek he really likes me i dont know what to do please help me!!!1 (link)
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I wouldn't take someones's word for it. They could be wrong. Don't jump to conclusions until you talk to your boyfriend. :)
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I've been friends with the same group of people since I moved here(8th grade). I'm not a junior in highschool and just about fed up with the way they all act. I mean, don't get me wrong, they're great friends but well...act pretty slutty at times. Actually, they don't act like sluts...they are sluts. They are they typical "popular slutty cheerleaders" and I don't want that to reclect back on me becasue I'm not like that. I want to stop hanging out with them but I don't want to just be like "hey, I don't like you guys anymore...see ya around." What should I do? (link)
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You just start hanging around with others. I wouldn't even tell them, they'll get the idea. :)
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I am so tired of people writing "liek dis" Spell correctly so that you can actually get some advice! I don't even know how those questions even appear on the site if it's not even understandable...Does anyone agree with me or am I just illiterate? (link)
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I agree with you. I usually get frustrated with it and don't answer. I'll go do a cryptogram for entertainment if I want to decipher codes.
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is it safe to try inserting a tampon if you dont hae your period? (just for practice) (link)
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Won't hurt you any. :)
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Well i put some blonde streaks in my hair and ive got like one side which is quite gingery and the other is really blonde! lol i dont know what to do i cant go out like this it looks such a mess please help xxxx lush me xx (link)
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There is usually an 800 number in the paperwork or on the box. Give them a call and find out what they suggest. :)
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I am 15 and 5'3 and 142 pounds..I used to be 112 when I was 12..I had gained 30 pounds :-x..I can't do sit ups for some reason or anything like that, I need to use my elbow to help me up. I have a breathing problem and I can't really run w/o having to stop and catch my breath every few yards. Is there anyways I can get to about 120 by summer? (link)
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Don't know if you can loose 30 lbs. by summer. You can make a good start though. Most doctors advise 1 pound a week is healthy if you want to keep it off.
Try walking and swimming. No need to run. :)
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