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jelous of my best friends
okay. well i have been best friends with the same three people for 4 years now and we do everything together and i love them to death but now they have new friends and they will talk about plans right in my face and not invite me and so i do other things with my other friends but i cant help but get jelous. its like sometimes i dont want them to be happy unless there with me. I hate feeling this way. I hate being jelous, but i cant help it. Things have changed and i cant take it. I try to take my mind off it and do other things but none of my other friends are as close as they are. i cant just give up on out friendship. How do i stop the jelousy? and Should i tell them how i feel? cause they would probbaly laugh and get mad at me...
sincerely,
Sojelous
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i had this same problem and i had so much to tell them so i wrote how i felt down in a note and gave it to them...after that they treated my differently for a while, and then they went back to the old way. i delt with it by trying to make plans with them myself and if they are doing something, ask if you can join them. if u just sit there and think of how jelous you are, then of course they won't know....try to be happy around them, and if they ingore you a lot after that , then tellthem how you feel and if they laugh then they are not very good friends...good luck!
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i HAD the same problem and i just asked if i could go and they would say yes so it all worked out its just a matter of asking now all of my old friends and the new ones they made are together in a group and im in it too
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i had the same problem about 2 years ago, and now im having one of the best times with my bessie's!!! Try getting to know your mates friends and try and fit in with them!!!! you could end up with soem new bessies!!
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I know how you feel!! I was really jealous of my best friend and it ruined our friendship!! we got back to being best friends and stayed best friends because i wasnt jealous anymore!! but dont tell them how you feel because when i did that she didnt care or anything just include your self say they say there going to a concert right? and they're inviting eachother to it say hey! omg i really want to go to that concert!! we should ALL go!! then there you go!!
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Why not ask them if you can come along? Might be they assume you will or can't go. Definitley say something...maybe in a joking way. :)
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Well I think you should just talk to them about it. Tell them that you are feeling left out and want to spend more time with them. They should understand because they are your best friends. They probably just don't know that they are hurting your feelings when they talk about their plans.
Hope I helped!! :-)
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Hmm.. I think one of the biggest things I've been saying to everyone is to talk about it. You remind me of my best friend.. actually the same exact thing is going on (really, its kinda scary) with her. She says she feels like she's slipping away from our group. I understand how you feel. It always hurts to loose some friends that you have been best best friends with for a long time. You should just talk to them. Its totally normal to feel jealous. But, if they laugh at you or get mad at you for trying to talk to them about it them they're obviously not worth it! And I mean really. Friends are there to listen to your problems when you are haveing them and to help you out when something is wrong. They shouldn't laugh at you when you try to talk to them about it, and if they do then (I hate to say this but) they aren't "true" friends. They souldn't get mad at you either.. because that's not right. If they do then you are soo much better than them and it might be time to move on. I know its hard to move away from people you have loved and trusted for such a long time, but its really the best thing for you when you are being treated like dirt. I really hope I helped :-)
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same here hun! Well,what i did is try to jump in with the gang!! Or find other people meet some,keep some,but still be friends with them! They'll like that you meet people,and arent a bug to them! You'll have more fun to! Just shake it off, let them have fun,they'll be obbsesing over you [[maybe ]] soon. And if not then,well you'll have other friends !! [[thats the EXACT same thing that happend to me,but im friends with both of them now,and im meeting more and more people!!]] It also helps if your a fun and outgoing person :)
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Don't worry, you're not alone. I have been in this situation before, and the worst thing that you can do is pretend it doesn't bother you. Just tell your friends straight up that you're feeling a little bit left out, and that you'd really like to be friends with their friends too, or that you'd like to make sure that you'll always be best friends. If they are purposefully excluding you, then you need to find some friends that will treat you better than the ones that you have. I'm sure that you can do it.
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That has happened to me before, and i hate how it feels...this is gonna sound hard, but try talking to them and telling them that you feel left out and everything. I don't think they would laugh or get mad at you for that. Anyways, just try and if it doesn't work, then send me stuff in my inbox and i will try to help. Hope i helped...
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