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I think I might have depression, I have been depressed for a while. I have been cutting myself and feeling completely lost and hopeless. Everything is being affected by this and I have been having suicidal thoughts. I am scared and I think that I need to see a therapist to work through some issues, but I don't know how to bring it up with my parents. Does anyone know how I can bring it up with them? I know that I need help and my friends who know about my cutting think I need it as well. How can I bring it up? Thanks. (link)
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Sit them down when they are both home. Doing this will let them know that you are serious. Tell them that you have been going through some hard times lately, and you need to talk to a perfessional therapist for help. Tell them that you are not happy and that you have been cutting yourself to releive stress. ask them if they could get a therapist for you to to work out your problems with. YOur parents will probobly ask you a lot of questions, but they are only doing it because they love you so much. Do not be afriad to tell the truth. Good luck!
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kay well i've asked questions on here before
*previous* http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=418941
* and this is kinda long but plesae and thank you for your time*
well im only 14 and like i've heard people say b4 there is no way you are depressed! well i am! at school i hide it! i smile i laugh i do whatever not to make myself upset!!* my friends have no idea what i go through and have gone through* most of them think im some happy teen whos life is pretty good** anywayssss
the teacher i talk to about this(call him coach)well i no he cares but you know how when you talk to someone about something and you know that there probably gettin annoyed by it! well thats how i feel sometimes when i talk to him! he says he doesnt and that he wants to help! okay well my main question or w.e well just recently i've been thinkin about suiced..I DONT THINK I EVER WOULD but im always upset when im not around people and i used to cut myself! i wanna tell coach but i dont want him thinking im a freak or a loser or i have some serious MENTEL ISSUES! i promise that i would never go as far as killin myself but i think about it alot! i might cut myself again but i dono sooo should i tell him or should i just keep it to myself or what?? (link)
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you should definitly tell him. keeping your feelings locked up inside will only make you feel worse. You may feel like you are telling him too much, but if he is the only one that you can talk to, then you should tell him how you REALLY feel. You don't want to hurt yourself more than you already have. i hope that you choose to talk to SOMEONE, IF ANYONE, so you can live a happier and safer life!
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ok to start out with i never had alot of freinds. but now i have like 2. all of my old freinds never hang out with me and they always say stuff about me thats not ture. first they say that they will always be my freind and the next they say that they hateme. i've tried to talk to them but them wont say anything and when they do say something its usely somehting hurtful like your to fat or to ugly. now none of that is ture but htey wont stop and all i want to do is see why they hate me so bad so that i might try to fix that in the weeks to come. i even tryed to leave them alone but then they get even madder and say even worse stuff about me. now i dont want to lose the freinds i already have by changing but if i dont then i get hurt. so what do i do?
-->mandy (link)
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People are always changing, and your friends might have changed as well. Sometimes it's for the better, and sometimes, it's for the worse. Try to ask them what happened between your friendships and why they are trying to hurt you. Don't sound desperate because you have to be strong. Stick with the friends that truly care about you and you won't have to worry about these problems. You sound like a very fun person, and not wanting to be your friend is their loss, so don't blame their unfriendliness on them. I hope that things work out for you!
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i think im in love with my best friend..that happens to be a girl...im a girl myself and 15..but im not sure, maybe i just think i like her like that b/c i kno she likes girls and has had girlfriends in the past. we've never really done anything but when ive been with her i have gotten like turned on i suppose...but idk..maybe im just confused. she knows how i think i feel but i told her i didnt want to be with a girl and she said that she knows that and tries not to like me like that..but its hard b/c my feelings take over sometimes when they souldnt and it kinda leads her on i guess. then theres a boy whom ive been speaking with for a couple months or so. i mostly talk to him on the fone..he doesnt usually talk to me at school.i told him i didnt feel like i could be with anyone rite now when he asked me out. but we still talk. i like being friends with him but thats all i want to be with him. i think it would be unfair to go out with him and not feel the same way he feels about me. but he wants a chance really bad. then in the past three weeks or so i started talking to a guy who i met this year. he really likes me..i dont kno him that well yet but im waiting to see..hes really cute..kinda annoying sometimes but funny. i could see myself likeing him and i think i can see myself with him. he sounds like he's gonna ask me out soon and if he does i want to say yes. but i kno that wouldnt be fair to the first guy and would upset my best friend even though it shouldnt. i dont want people to get hurt especailly my best friend but ive been single for a long time and really want a relationship, with a BOY. i really think i do have feelings for my best friend..if that is true than a lot of things ive done or felt in the past would make sense..shes been hurt so many times in so many ways. i kno that if i was to be with her...i can only see myself being swept away by some guy in the future and her being left there..hurt..i couldnt stand to see that..if she ever did anything bad for herself b/c of me. but now that she knows how i think i feel its really hard to keep my feelings inside. so sorry this is soo long..its quite complicated..i somewhat kno my options i just want some other peoples opinions on how i should handle this situation... (link)
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I think that you need to look at each person and try to figure out what YOU really want. Get to know the guys a bit more and try to figure out weather you like guys, girl, or both. I've gotten myself into relationships without knowing anything about the other person. I thought, "oh, he looks cute, I like him!" and then, i realize that he is a complete jerk, or i don't like his personality. I'm not going to tell you who to go with or what to say to anyone, because only you know how you really feel about each person. Try to find out who you will truly be happy with and stick with them. Try not to flirt with other people too much,because that's how you become attached. And no matter what, do what your heart truly wants.
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I hate the way my body looks and I have for-pretty-much-ever. I've tried so many diets, and working out, but nothing has ever worked. the thing is, I'm really not fat. I'm just chubby. I'm 5'3 and weigh 140.
I've had an eating disorder before, and it wasn't really that bad. I was anorexic when I was younger, I finally got over it, and now I'm buimic. Now just trying to eat makes me throw up.
How bad is bulimia? And how do I get over it?
Love,
Arlo (link)
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Bulimia is very harmful to your insides. You are distroying your stomach and probobly your teeth. Whenever you make yourself purge, you are bringing up acid that is eating away at your teeth and insides, causing your oragans to deteriorate. You also have mood swings that change quicily, and I am not kidding when i say that you could die from this. YOu can get help by talking to a nutritionist, therapist, parent, or friend. keeping all of it inside as a secrect could make it worse. whenever you feel like purging call a friend or parent and talk to them, or get a journal and write down how you feel. YOu need to learn to love yourself for who you are. Ask yourself who are you trying to get skinny for? ARe you happy? Who can you go to to get help? I hope that I helped you see the dangers of an eating disorder and I know that i can't make you do anything. YOu have to choose to live a happier and healthir life. Speak up!
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Hi. I think I might have an eating disorder. Because, I am constantly eating. I eat snacks and stuff. And then im always full. I always tell myself "no" but I eat it anyway. Is there anything I can do to help this? (link)
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You sound like you indulge more than you want to and you feel that you cannot control it. Sometimes when you are hungry,you are really jus thirsty, so try driking something before you eat if your not sure if your hungry. Try eating healthier foods that will fill you up quicker than snacks that have addictive salt and sugar tastes. I hope that I helped in some way
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I've got a simple question. Are most people with eating disorders already skinny? it seems only sticks become anerxic or belumic.
just curious (link)
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People with eating disorders come in all shapes and sizes. Whatever shape, they feel that they are not skinny enough, and they are never satisfied, even if they become skinny. MOst people are of normal sizes that don't feel that they are skinny enough as what our media pushes us to think.
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Lately, I have been concerned that I may be depressed. I've looked into it and I seem to have all the symptoms. I feel embarrassed talking to my parents about my concern. I feel weak and dumb. Can anyone suggest anyone that I can talk to about being depressed besides my parents, teachers or guidance councellor? Thanks. (link)
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tlakj to your friends. holding your "depressive" feelings in may make yourself feel worse. when you have someone to talk to you will always feel better. i hope that you get better soon!
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about 3-4 months ago my boyfriend and I split. I was so upset that he wouldn't let me explain my reasons for what had happened that I wrote him a long letter. I really did love him and I still do.I just didn't like what he said and did to me. In that letter I said some pretty nasty things. I have been thinking about him alot lately, and would reallylike to call him. should I? I mean after the letter that I wrote I'm afraid he won't talk to me, or if he does it will be to say some more mean things to me. What should I do? and If I should call him what should I say? (link)
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sometimes it's hard to get over a guy, but sometimes there is still a chance of getting back together. i think that if you do decide to call him,then you need to both explain your own reasons for splitting up, and you may even have to apologize if your letter was that bad. i can't be sure that you two will get back together, so i'm wishing you good luck!
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Right, my best friend is usually really nice, but recently she keeps putting me down, mostly about things that arent even true. She keeps pointing out people and saying they're taller than me and teasing me about my 'frizzy' hair. Shes even started being mean about the things i like. Like my big eyes she says are weird and the other day she said "I like my tummy better than yours" and i really like my toned tummy. Even though most of it isnt true, its really getting me down. What should i do? Please do not tell me to talk to her about it because she would just tell me i'm being stressy. (link)
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ok, whenever she tells you something that isn't too nice, tell her that it hurt you and if she tellsl you that you're being stressy than tell her that if she was really your fiend that she'd understand whyou you're mad. if she keeps treating you like this, even after telling her how you feel, then you should probobly not be friends with her. a real friend looks at all of the good things about you and should not be comparing herself to you.i hope everything works out!
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This question has been bothering me for quite sometime now...
If someone is depressed why wouldn't they want to reach out and get help?
Thanks (link)
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When someone is depressed they don't believe that anyone cares about them and so they won't reach out to those whom they know. Usually they smother their cries out for help by hurting themselves. They feel that they can only feel better by hurting themselves first.
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OK i was really mad at my friend krista because she did unspeakably mean things to me. because of it, she was asking em why i was mad, so on myspace i posted a blog about it. now my best friend marissa who is good friends with krista is getting mad at me for writing all those things about krista and telling her why she was mad. One of the things krista did was tell marissa the mother of all secrets, that my other friend, luke, thats like a brother to me was gay. marissa liked luke, and as a result got mad at me for not telling her. but i couldent tell her because i couldent have it on my concience that i made someone feel that badly, and i didnt want to break the news to her. when i found out that he was gay, i got really depressed and had to tell somebody, and i told leah, my other best friend who would never tell a soul any secret. when marissa found out tho, leah told her that she knew and that i told her, and marissa got really mad at me because i told leah and not her. marissa has been my best friend since 5th grade and i really dont want to lose her. and im afraid i am, because she sent me 2 hate letters and dissed me so badly on aim, and marissa is the nicest person in the world and would never do anything like that so i was shocked when she did. i really want marissa back as a friend, and dont say talk to her, becuase when i tried that she cussed me out and i was basiclly grovelling 4 forgiveness, so that wont work. i really need advice, please help me.
catherine (link)
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It seems like you had a problem with one friend and everyone else decided to join in and make the problem even bigger. The only thing that I can say to you is that if you tell her that she means a lot to you as a friend and that would never try to hurt her this bad, and she doesn't accept your forgiveness, then you have to accept that she my not every forgive you. YOu can't make someone like you and grieving won't work. Just tell yourself that you well say what your heart feels, go up to her somewhere that you two will be alone (bathroom) and tell her that you feel like you are losing a part of you, your best friend, and tell her that if she doesn't forgive you, you will understand and move on. Don't make the mess bigger by starting a fight or crying. Just try your hardest to accept what has happened. I'm sorry that i don't have those secret words to get your friend back, but you can at least try. (also, try talking to your other friends about what's going on. Maybe they can tell you how your friend is feeling) good luck!
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i have this friend and she is kind of an ass. i mean we get into fights and all but we get over them and forgive each other. but there are so many other people that she has hurt in the past. for example, one of my really good friends used to be extremely close with her. like they were inseprable. and then they got in HUGE fight (name calling, bad language, etc.) and they have never talked since. alot of people talk to me behind her back about how much they despise her and yet in front of her they act like her friend. There has only been a few instances where me and her have been mad at each other. i know she has talked behind my back before.. but i mean we're teenagers... i've talked behind her back too. it happens. just i'm not sure if i should still stay friends with her. when we're together i enjoy her company very much. just i know what she is capable of and i dont want to get hurt. what should i do? (link)
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In high school, there is always going to be someone that talks behind everyones backs, but you should try not to. If you really want to be friends with her, then try to respect her when she's not around. Just because you're a teenager doesn't mean you have to talk behind people's back's. you'll feel a lot better if you don't. If you're not sure about being friends with her, then try to sit down and think if she's a true friend to you or not. I have had to do that lots times, and I've had to leave a few friends because I didn't feel that I was very happy with how they treated me and i how i felt around them. I hope I helped and I hope you work out your situation.
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Ive been having like really low self esteme issues for like the past year or so... ive done so much physical harm to myself but i know its not right.. but i keep doing it cuz its like an addiction.. in the past year my best friend killed herself..(over me to try and get me to stop) and ive been in an abusive relationship.. everything has just put me down.. even the smallest things.. and i dont ever seem to be happy anymore.. i dont know what to do anymore.. sometimes i think that life is just like a dream.. is there any way i could help this?? (please dont say a councelor ive tried many and none have helped)... (link)
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wow. It seems like you have been through a lot of hard times. But, you need to know that you can move on from your difficluties. Try thinking of how you used to be before all of this began. Can you remember when you accepted things as "good"? Try steering towards that again. It may sound like there is no one out there to help, but there is always someone that wants to be your frined and have a good time with you. I alraedy want to be your friend. I like hanging around people, like you, that will express their feelings. Hanging around people and joining activities will get your mind off of your hard times, and you will be able to focus on having a good time. I hope I helped and I hope you get better soon!
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I have just got over hexakosioihexekontahexaphobia which is the phobia of the number 666, but now i have just been diagnosed with Ouranophobia which is the fear of heaven. Do you think this is linked? I dont like talking to my phychiatrist. They know to much and that scares me too. Please, i need a normal opinion instead of a long dialog full of words i dont understand. (I dont like asking what words mean) (link)
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the number 666 is a supersticious number. Although it does relate to the devil, most people just think it's bad luck.A fear of heaven is something else. If your not a relgious person, then talking to someone who is about heaven/hell, may help you better understand what you fear. I hope you get through your fears and i hope i helped.
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I have problems focusing.
During class, if I am not talking to the person next to me I fall asleep. I ALWAYS talk, no matter what. All my teachers write in my comments that I talk to much, I just can't help it I get so distracted and bored easily.
Also, I can't focus on one thing at once, if I do I end up frustrated and stop working, or start like flipping out because I don't get it.
I was wondering....do I have ADHD? (link)
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you may have some kind of ADD, but you can try different methods of focusing. When the bell rings and class begins, try to take notes and concentrate with talking to others. If you always talk to the same people, then try sitting somewhere else for a day. If you didn't get the information in class, taking notes may help you later, when there are not some other distractions. Good luck!
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Hi everyone!
My name is Todd, and I am a 15-year-old teenager. Well, my question is whether or not I should take the next step. Let me explain.
About close to a year ago, I met this girl, Andrea, in my Freshman year, and she and I didn't date, but we were good friends. We were both the same age, but I was about a month older. Through the months, we knew more and more about each other from our last names to what candy we like.
As strange as it seems, I've never had a relationship, much less my first kiss. I am trying to see if Andrea likes me or not, but more than a friendship. Some relationships can be harsh, so I don't want to try that, but I just want to know if she has the same or at least similar feelings that I do for her.
I am always glad to be around her, and sometimes I hang around her more than some of my other friends. I've also noticed that when I am with her at lunch, she wants these other girls at the table to go away, since they're annoying, but I'm not sure if it's just because she wants to be alone with me or something, since she and I usually sit alone.
As far as hanging out goes, she and I have hung out at my home once, and we've seen each other at school. I've been trying to hang out with her more, but she has a dysfunctional family which makes it tough for us to hang out on weekends. She is also depressed, so I try to help her through it.
I have been trying to show her that I love her by telling her that I care about her, how much I do care about her, and by doing things for her, like buying her gifts or getting things for her. Whoa, lot of "her"s in that one. Well, anyway, she never freaks out, but she always smiles and sometimes nods her head up and down a little bit. She might say things like "that's nice" or "thanks", but I never really can tell if she is nervous or anxious. I remember when I told her that I did really care about her, she smiled but she kind of laughed, and she said "I'm sorry for laughing...".
So, I would like to ask if I should take the next step and try asking her out. My parents have said I shouldn't because of her family, and some of my friends have said to go for it, just because she's single.
Thanks for reading this.
Todd (link)
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well, asking her out would be a big step, but try not to load it all on her at once. try to start by saying something like, "So since we are friends and we can trust each other, i was woundering if i could share something with you." then, try to tell her that you would like to take her out on a date to see if things could be more between the two of you.Remember that not all relationships work, and sometimes being friends is all there is. BUT!, don't give up hope, you two sound like you'd be great together. I hope everthing works out! Might as well ask her now, and not regret not asking her later! good luck!
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My friend Melissa is having a HUGE party at her house tonight..
but she didn't invite me.
We're friends..but not BEST friends..like on a scale of friendship..(10 as BFFs)..We're like a 5-6...you know?
Do you think I should ask her why she didn't invite me?
*One time, I confronted her about another party that she had..and she denied she ever had one.
I've never been over her house; vice versa..
Her parents like me though..I think..Why wouldn't she invite me? I thought we were friends :(...It's a HUGEEEE party..I'm sad. (link)
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Just go up to her and ask her if she's having a party. Then, if she says no and you find out that there is one, go there and tell her that you're not happy with your friendship and your hurt. good luck!
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I'll make this as quick as i can. I have liked this guy for a while, but he has a girlfriend (who is a total bitch and VERY full of herself). SO in science class he sits across from me, and he started staring at me. I know that he had liked me last year. But now im not sure because of his girfriend in all. So he was like stsaring at me with his hand pressed up against his chin like he was admiring me or somtheing. Then he smiled and reached out to grab my hand, but then the bell rang and i kind of ran out. So what do you think he thinks of me? Would it be terrible if i tried to flirt back? Will he breakup with his incredibly annoying Gf? Thanks! (link)
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you should not try to flirt with him if he has a girlfriend. if he tries to put a move on you again tell him that he has a girlfriend and you would never do that sort of thing. i know you like him, but only go for him if he's single. good luck!
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Ive had a crush on this guy for like 3 yrs(ever since ive known him)last December he confessed to me that he admired me for 3 yrs.Thats when the relationship started. Things were fine until he started cheating on me with one night stend girls(more that once but different girls).I always forgave him cause i loved him and wanted him to stay around me.We broke up for real about two months ago cause he was dating another girl(no night stand girl but his actual girlfriend). so i made my way out. it hurted alot but recetly his friend says his missing me and that he loves me but he cant come back to me cause hes ashame and got to much explanations to do and dont know where to start. They said the reason he left was because he wanted sex and i thought we were to young so he didnt want to pressure me or hurt me so he left. i still do love him. I miss him. i may be fooloish but i have feelings that he does love me(according to me)im stating to have nightmares about him suffering and wanting me. i wake up often crying. but the real problem is that i have a new boyfriend now which i relay on as a comfort. I realy realy do love my boyfriend very much his a great guy and i dont want to hurt him. But its just that my ex is still in my mind and often drives me away from my boyfriend cause i think of him. i dont know what to do. I'm starting to hate everything. I mean everything about my life. I'm desperate.Dont ask me to choose cause i dont know what i want. Waht would you do if you were me? what will you say? Im still young and i dont want to live a life like mine anymore. just want to be happy (link)
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First, I would sit down and think about who you REALLY like. I know you said that you don't want to, but you really should. If you pick your' current boyfriend, then take your ex aside and tell him that you no longer like him, but you could still be friends. If it's your current boyfriend that you are dumping, then you will hve to sit him down and explain to him how you feel about your' ex. It sounds hard, and it will be, but trust me, you will feel a lot better with the truth off of your chest. Make shure you pick the guy that you can trust most. good luck!
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