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Depressed.
Ive been having like really low self esteme issues for like the past year or so... ive done so much physical harm to myself but i know its not right.. but i keep doing it cuz its like an addiction.. in the past year my best friend killed herself..(over me to try and get me to stop) and ive been in an abusive relationship.. everything has just put me down.. even the smallest things.. and i dont ever seem to be happy anymore.. i dont know what to do anymore.. sometimes i think that life is just like a dream.. is there any way i could help this?? (please dont say a councelor ive tried many and none have helped)...
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wow. It seems like you have been through a lot of hard times. But, you need to know that you can move on from your difficluties. Try thinking of how you used to be before all of this began. Can you remember when you accepted things as "good"? Try steering towards that again. It may sound like there is no one out there to help, but there is always someone that wants to be your frined and have a good time with you. I alraedy want to be your friend. I like hanging around people, like you, that will express their feelings. Hanging around people and joining activities will get your mind off of your hard times, and you will be able to focus on having a good time. I hope I helped and I hope you get better soon!
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You and I sound a lot alike. I used to do a lot of self injury and stuff and it was really hard to get over. I think the best thing you can do is just talk to your friends and try and get this off your mind. If you keep thinking about it you will get even more depressed. Also, something that helped me was writing poems and stories and stuff. Even if you don't like writing actual stories and stuff just get a notebook and write down everything you're feeling and why you think you're so depressed so you can look on the bright side of things.
Hope I helped!
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I'm not going to tell you to get a concelor. You Need a doctor first of all. There are these pills called anti depressant pills and they are for people like you who need some help in being happy. You can only get these by going to your doctor and asking for help. You need to try there first. If you would like anymore help please feel free to talk to me about anything
Hope that helps
Love Meggs
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Dear Depressed,
You at least acknowledge your problem in your first sentence and it's a great thing when you are self aware. You state that you have had really low self esteem issues. Low self-esteem kills. Do you hear me? That is why your best friend killed herself, it wasn't over you, believe me. It wasn't your fault. She killed herself most likely because she was in a lot of pain and didn't have the strength and faith in herself that she could get through it and that she had options. The pain may have seemed unbearable, but she still had options. And for this you have to grieve. And grief feels like depression. You ask a lot of questions...to God, to the universe, to your friend, of yourself. Here's what you have to know. The only thing that doesn't change in life is the fact that things will change. And you have the power to create anything in your life. You can create a healthy relationship by taking steps to end an abusive one. You have the power to have a happy and fulfilling future if you take steps to correct your thinking and change your thoughts. A lot about life is perspective. Change your perspective about the things going on in your life. Instead of thinking of this abusive relationship as something you are trapped in, think of it in terms of showing how strong you really are, it's a challenge and I'm not saying it's going to be easy, but you CAN do anything you put your mind to. And this doesn't apply to only some people. This applies to ALL people. Try joining a group with similar interests as you. Such as a small book club, a drama club, a writing club, something that will take the focus off you and the negative thoughts you are having and put the focus on other people and how they have risen above the negative in their own lives. Learn from other people. Be around people who you want to emulate, not around people who make you feel bad about yourself. And be nice to yourself. Pamper yourself. Sometimes it seems that we don't have enough to give to others because we are not getting it from others, however, the best way to get what you need to overcome obstacles is to give it back to yourself. Try to steer the negative thoughts into something positive or when you start feeling depressed, challenge your negative thoughts. Here's an equation for you: thoughts = words or statements which = feelings. The best way to be happy is to think happy. It may sound like a bunch of optimistic bull right now, but trust me, it's science.
Good luck sweetie. Let me know if you need to talk.
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Hurting yourself is the last thing you want to do in a situation like this. my sister went through this she didnt want to hear that she needed a conseler either but we ended up bringing her to one and she slowly got better. just think about your family and friends and your friend that killed herself to try to stop you that means she really cared about you so although it may seem like your alone in this world your really not theres always someone out there who cares about you but as for doing something about it journals are the best thing to do they allow you to say what you want without bringing harm to anyone or yourself
good luck and dont do anything you will regret later im always here if you need to advice with anything else <3
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you dont need a counselor .. first thing .. start thinking about a positive thing about yourself .. say you have an awesome smile, or great eyes .. just start thinking positive .. second .. you really need to get out of the abusive relationship .. ive been in your shoes .. ive been through counselors so i know how much you hate them, cuz i hate them to .. if you lost your friend, by her trying to show you the pain she feels for you, wouldnt you thought that the pain you went through is how ur friends felt ? .. a counselor wont help you .. the best thing is just to get someone you can talk to .. i.e. a friend .. a cousin .. and brother .. someone you can trust not to say anything, that you can call at any hour of any day just to talk .. thats the best thing *
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hi, i can't say that i know exactly what you are going through , but i have been depressed before. I'm not going to suggest a counselor- but i think that it would help to pray. I'm not going to preach to you i promise, but God is always there for you when you need him and ,i think that you just might, and he wants to help you. if you want to know some verses you can ask me im megz2209. or if you just want to vent. you could also try writing out all of your feeling, sometimes it is better to see them on paper. something to make you feel better: at least 1 person you do not know loves you, you are the world to at least one person, at least 15 people love you, somebody thinks about you everyday, at least one person prays for you a day. That was emailed to me i hope it makes you at least a lil bit happier even for just a minute. Good luck! Luv~megz2009
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It may be and addiction but YOu need to taLK TO PEOPLE LIKE ME I BASICALY KNOW WUT UR GOIN THROUGH AND ITS NOT FUN BUT THE MORE DAMAGE YOU INFLICT THE MORE YOU REGRET IT LATER SO STOP WHILE YOUR AHEAD OH AND MOST IMPORTANT TRY NOT TO BE LEFT ALONE BECAUSE YOULL GET BORED SO TRY TO KEEP BUSY WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY PLEASE WRITE BACK IM EAGER TO SEE YOUR PROGRESS THROUGH THIS
REMEMBER THS IS DATEDOCTOR343 EVER WANNA TALK YOU KNOW WHERE I AM
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I have a friend just like you and she says that when she gets angery or something she snaps her wrist with rubberbands. this way instead of cutting she snaps herself. I know that it sounds weird but consulars havent worked for her either, they just make her madder.
Talking to your perents about your problem might work to I know some people who have done that and sure it didnt go well at first but later her parents seemed to understand.
Maybe you should also try to keep busy. Join an after school activity. Because I have found that when you keep yourself busy you dont think of your problems as much.
Well, I hope that I have helped you in any way possible.
Lotz-o-Luv~Kay
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damn i know how you feel depression supposidly runs in my family i do alot of stuff 2 try and not think or be happy i meen ive been drinking since i was a little girl like in elementary started smoking weed in 5th grade cutting in 6th smoking in 7th snorting coke in 8th using coke and crystal ex weed crack anything i could get in 9th now im in 10th i wanted 2 try everything 2 see what feels better took 2 long 2 get now 2 days ago i quit what im doing 2 control myself since i really was addicted 2 coke and crystal is drawing and writing poetry when in doors and other days be with my friends and try 2 always look at the positive of things weird i know but i dont know what 2 do either if you find a good answer message me because think im going 2 slip the day i quit i was going 2 drink some clorox but i dont trust it i dont think you always die well if you quit whatever your doing quit 4 some1 not yourself when you quit 4 yourself it doesnt work when its 4 some1 else you care 4 you dont want 2 let them down and if you keep slipping and telling them youll feel bad and try harder not 2 next time
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I believe that the reason most people harm themselves through what's called self mutilation is to attempt to releieve emotional pain. This process rarely causes any long term relief because of the negative implications like the guilt that you are probably feeling when you say "I know it's not right" This in turn creates a negative self esteem, and yes with all this emotional pain most people will be bothered by the small things in every day life. So while what you are feeling can be expected.
You say you've tried many counselors? Sometimes successful therapy is a trial and error process. With each failed attempt you are one step closer to finding the right treatment.
The sun will rise tomorrow, and with each new day, there is new hope that you will find help. I am sure you want to be around to feel what it's like to feel good. If you give up now, you'll never know.
Call this number for help:
800-DONT-CUT
800-366-8288
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