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my friends are mean.
i have this friend and she is kind of an ass. i mean we get into fights and all but we get over them and forgive each other. but there are so many other people that she has hurt in the past. for example, one of my really good friends used to be extremely close with her. like they were inseprable. and then they got in HUGE fight (name calling, bad language, etc.) and they have never talked since. alot of people talk to me behind her back about how much they despise her and yet in front of her they act like her friend. There has only been a few instances where me and her have been mad at each other. i know she has talked behind my back before.. but i mean we're teenagers... i've talked behind her back too. it happens. just i'm not sure if i should still stay friends with her. when we're together i enjoy her company very much. just i know what she is capable of and i dont want to get hurt. what should i do?
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Stay friends with her, I just have a feeling and I kind of guarentee that a girl like her will always have your back. Honestly, the only reason she probably said anything about you behind ya back is because 1. she wanted to be accepted by the girls who talked about and 2.she doesn't know if she can trust you all that much and 3. she was probably in the middle of a fight with you at the moment! I think that if someone is talking about ur friend, you should def. let her know. It may start some conflict but after all she is your friend and you gotta have her back.
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ok well i was just looking through the questions im pretty new to this site and i was bored so i just made an account nd i was this question .. is this marissa? if not just ignore this but if it is .. just. wow. i dont know what to say. thats not true. but. wow.
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In high school, there is always going to be someone that talks behind everyones backs, but you should try not to. If you really want to be friends with her, then try to respect her when she's not around. Just because you're a teenager doesn't mean you have to talk behind people's back's. you'll feel a lot better if you don't. If you're not sure about being friends with her, then try to sit down and think if she's a true friend to you or not. I have had to do that lots times, and I've had to leave a few friends because I didn't feel that I was very happy with how they treated me and i how i felt around them. I hope I helped and I hope you work out your situation.
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It's hard to forget the good times, I admit, but staying her friend could result in worse situations, such as how you said one of her friends & her haven't talked since their fight. Next time, it could be you she's arguing with like that. Ask yourself - do you really want a friend like this? Do you really want someone who could possibly bash your whole reputation, or someone who could start rumors? I say drop her & quick, because the sooner you drop her, the sooner you have time to make a better friend who indeed won't talk about you behind your back. Some people are just so much better than that. I know how you feel, because I've been in this situation, but I stopped being this girls friend because of something she did to someone else. That someone else being my brother. She hit him, and I just kinda lost it. I haven't talked to her since because I don't like that crap. I just stopped being her friend, even though we had so many good times, I met others who were so much better. I hope I helped you, somewhat.
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I'm of the same viewpoint is you, forgetting the bad times because of the good times. However in this situation I would advise you to maybe ditch her, however enjoyable her company is. The problem being that she may eventually drive all your friends away and if you remain friends with her, she could drag you down with her.
Also, be truly honest with yourself, can you stand knowing that at this very moment she could be bitching about you like mad and then come in tomorrow and act like you've been friends forever, even though you may have done it too? Even worse is, can you stand listening to other people bitching about your friend all the time. because I know personally that would drive me mad and make me feel crazily guilty for not telling her.
In my opinion, I think you should just cut your ties and leave your friendship while you still associate it with happy times. Because if your friend is as bad as you have described it could get very ugly!
Hope this has helped. Good luck, I know its a difficult decision
Sapphire Lily xxx
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