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my freinds hate me
ok to start out with i never had alot of freinds. but now i have like 2. all of my old freinds never hang out with me and they always say stuff about me thats not ture. first they say that they will always be my freind and the next they say that they hateme. i've tried to talk to them but them wont say anything and when they do say something its usely somehting hurtful like your to fat or to ugly. now none of that is ture but htey wont stop and all i want to do is see why they hate me so bad so that i might try to fix that in the weeks to come. i even tryed to leave them alone but then they get even madder and say even worse stuff about me. now i dont want to lose the freinds i already have by changing but if i dont then i get hurt. so what do i do?
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People are always changing, and your friends might have changed as well. Sometimes it's for the better, and sometimes, it's for the worse. Try to ask them what happened between your friendships and why they are trying to hurt you. Don't sound desperate because you have to be strong. Stick with the friends that truly care about you and you won't have to worry about these problems. You sound like a very fun person, and not wanting to be your friend is their loss, so don't blame their unfriendliness on them. I hope that things work out for you!
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Those aren't friends, those are bullies. Get away from them, even if they talk bad about you afterwards. Would you rather stay with a group of bullies that put you down all the time, or find a different group of friends? You might have a small amount of friends for a while, but that's fine. And even if your old friends talk bad about you, only bad people will believe them anyway, people who you won't want to hang out with. (Most likely, once other people see that you aren't friends with that group of people, they'll think of you better and want to be your friend.)
Show the old friends that you are not affected by their insults, and they'll most likely stop all the bullying. Otherwise, if they bother you too much, let your parents or a school counselor know.
You said that you don't want to loose friends.. but they aren't friends, at least not very good friends. Ask yourself, can these people really be trusted? Do they care about you as a friend? Not really. It's time for some change!
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I am sorry to tell you this but it seems to me like they get enjoyment out of hurting you. And they know just the right things to see to keep you tagging along. You can not control what others think, say or do. And changing who you are is not going to make them be your friend again. And if it does, they are NOT true friends. Because true will always accept you for who you are, faults and all. A true friend would never ask you to change. So stick with your new friends and just do all you can to show the other girls that what they are saying and doing doesn't bother you. Eventually after enough time of you showing them it doesn't bother you, they will get bored with what they are doing and they will stop. But right now they know it hurts you so they keep doing it. Remember to always be true to yourself, never change for anyone else. Good luck Fiesty
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