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i am always fine around boys-except if they are my boyfriend. like, if i know i like a guy, and i know that they like me, but we arent together, i am fine and not nervous. but then if we were like a couple... and we were like talking or something, i get so nervous and stuff. how can i help this?
i'll rate 5's for stuff that helps me = ) (link)
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Just try to think in your mind that you two aren't together. You are just 2 people who like each other and are hanging out. Even if you are doing things that couples do. Just think of it as 2 people who like each other doing things that couples do but not being a couple. That might help. It is all a matter of how you think about things and look at things when you are with him. Hugs fiesty
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i like my friends boyfriend, and i tend to flirt with him A LOT,but not while my friends around.is it ok to flirt with him even though its my friends boyfriend?it must be pretty obvious i like him, because today a kid in my math class yelled STACEY(me) WANTS TREVORS(the kid i like) NUTS!!
should i stop flirting with him so much because hes my friends boyfriend?or what? (link)
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He is your friends boyfriend so I think you should just talk to this guy and say as you know I do flirt with you. This is because I like you. But because you are dating my best friend, I don't think I should flirt with you. Tell him you are not trying to send any mixed signals but it isn't right to flirt with him when he has a girlfriend especially when his girlfriend is your best friend. And you hope you two can continue being friends.
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There's this guy I've liked for more than a year, and he's now going out with this really snobby girl. She totally has the need to have everyone know the depths of her intellect. Whenever I'm around her, I feel like such a moron. And it's not like I'm acting like a prejudiced asshole. I tried to be friendly. Whenever I have something interesting to share with her, she just lifts her blonde eyebrows and goes "Uhhhh, okay." She's basically an intellectual with no personality. She acts all shy and coy and stuff, and he finds this extremely attractive.
Well today, I saw the two of them making out behind the Liberal Arts building, even though it was raining. I feel so awful right now. Watching this girl I hate making out with this guy I've liked for ages is absolutely torturous.
Anyone who at least tries to make me feel better will get a 5. (link)
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If he is attracted to her it means that you are too good for him. You have to look at it as it is his loss not yours. He obviously is too blind to see how great of a person you are. Otherwise he would be with you and not her. So just find someone else to give your love to and share your time with. Who knows maybe this will make him jealous because someone else is with you instead of him. But don't date someone else just for that reason. Just let that be an added benifit. I really hope this makes you smile and at least laugh a little. HUGS Fiesty
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i know this girl and last year we used to be best friends. now this year she met a new girl and only hangs out with her.she completly ditched all her old best friends! now she being wicked mean to me for no reason. her and her new friend always talk about me cause i can tell they are and they always try to annoy me and my friends.now her new friend totally changed her and she like wayy different and whenever i look at her she gives me a dirty look. i have tryed to talk to her but she just wont listen or is just more mean to me. how can i make this all stop? (link)
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I am sorry but there is really nothing you can do besides ignore her, show her that the things she is doing doesn't bother you. Kind of act like it isn't even happening. And show her that you are happy and having fun with the friends you have. Act like you don't need her. Maybe after this goes on for a while she will begin to miss your friendship. She will see and start to remember how happy and fun it was having you as a friend and the things you did together. But other then all of this there is really nothing you can do. You can't change the way someone acts, the things someone says or does. It has to be up to them. But usually if you ignore it long enough and show her it doesn't bother you she will get bored of doing these things. Because if it doesn't bother you then it is no longer fun. I hope all of this helps. Good luck hon. *Hugs* Fiesty
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I know this guy from staff in our school. I have a huge crash on him, and don't know what to with all that, cuz i don't want to get in trouble with the school administration. how can i forget him, if i'm gonna see him again and again during my school time? (link)
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Just keep in mind that it is JUST a CRUSH. You are not in love with him. And try to find someone in your own grade to crush on. Stop looking so much at him and look more at other guys. That is pretty much all you can do. Because crushes sometimes last for a long time so all you can do is find someone new to crush on. And make sure it is someone your age. Through time and crushing on someone else this crush you have for him will eventually go away and as I said don't forget that it is JUST a CRUSH, nothing more. HUGS Fiesty
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i think im in love with my best friend..that happens to be a girl...im a girl myself and 15..but im not sure, maybe i just think i like her like that b/c i kno she likes girls and has had girlfriends in the past. we've never really done anything but when ive been with her i have gotten like turned on i suppose...but idk..maybe im just confused. she knows how i think i feel but i told her i didnt want to be with a girl and she said that she knows that and tries not to like me like that..but its hard b/c my feelings take over sometimes when they souldnt and it kinda leads her on i guess. then theres a boy whom ive been speaking with for a couple months or so. i mostly talk to him on the fone..he doesnt usually talk to me at school.i told him i didnt feel like i could be with anyone rite now when he asked me out. but we still talk. i like being friends with him but thats all i want to be with him. i think it would be unfair to go out with him and not feel the same way he feels about me. but he wants a chance really bad. then in the past three weeks or so i started talking to a guy who i met this year. he really likes me..i dont kno him that well yet but im waiting to see..hes really cute..kinda annoying sometimes but funny. i could see myself likeing him and i think i can see myself with him. he sounds like he's gonna ask me out soon and if he does i want to say yes. but i kno that wouldnt be fair to the first guy and would upset my best friend even though it shouldnt. i dont want people to get hurt especailly my best friend but ive been single for a long time and really want a relationship, with a BOY. i really think i do have feelings for my best friend..if that is true than a lot of things ive done or felt in the past would make sense..shes been hurt so many times in so many ways. i kno that if i was to be with her...i can only see myself being swept away by some guy in the future and her being left there..hurt..i couldnt stand to see that..if she ever did anything bad for herself b/c of me. but now that she knows how i think i feel its really hard to keep my feelings inside. so sorry this is soo long..its quite complicated..i somewhat kno my options i just want some other peoples opinions on how i should handle this situation...it would be much appreciated if someone would get back to me.
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You really need to think about why you are fighting your feelings for this girl. Maybe it is because you are worried how others will feel more than you are worried about your own happiness. When 2 people truly have feelings for each other they usually can't fight it for very long. It is possible that you may be bisexual which means you like both boys and girls. Only you can figure that out. But there is also the possibility that you only want to date a boy because you were raised and taught that is the way it is supposed to be. But you have to remain true to yourself. Be honest with yourself and everyone else without leading anyone on. And follow your heart. Only you can truly know how you feel in your heart. So think long and hard before you make any decisions. I hope this all helps. HUGS Fiesty
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I'm a 14 yr old girl and I like a boy who is 16 he likes me back and everything we flirt, hug, and we are really cool with each other everything is great. Everyone thinks he's my boyfriend and I want him to be and I know he likes me as much as I like him but I don't know whats wrong. He doesn't act funny and he doesn't have a girlfriend on the side or nothing I just don't know why we aren't together and so does everyone else. Can you please give me some advice or thoughts on what you think is wrong when everything seems so right?
~KookieMonster96~ (link)
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The only way you are going to know the answer to that is to be honest with him and talk to him about it. Maybe he is afraid that things are fine the way they are now with you two just being friends but if you started dating it may ruin your friendship. That is a possibility but again the only way to know the real truth about this is to talk to him about it. Just be honest, be yourself, be patient and don't be too pushy. If he really does like you he shouldn't have any problems talking to you about this. Good luck. Hugs Fiesty
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hey ummm this might be long.... ok this guy i really like asked me if i wanted to lose my virginity to him....and i was like asking him questions like if we would ever go out and he said he didnt know maybe.... and he also doesnt want anyone to know about it...which i can see that to because i dont want it getting around school either but i have the feeling that he doesnt like me and he just wants to lose his virginity....but i dont know. and like after we talked about doing it around his birthday and then like all of a sudden he asks my best friend out and im like OMG... and they went out for a couple of days........ but i havent talked to him about it anymore because i havent got the chance to... but i dont think he likes me anymore... so does anyone have any advice?
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All I can say is you may really like this guy but remember your virginity is very special. Once it is gone that is it. So you need to be very careful about who you give it to. I wouldn't give your virginity to anyone unless you are in love with that person, in a relationship with them and you know they love you too. Don't just go giving your virginity up to anyone. Especially if it is just someone you like and someone who probally doesn't like you back. At least not in the same way you like him. So think long and hard about your decisions. And I am assuming you are young and still in school so make sure you are truly ready to give up your virginity. HUGS Fiesty
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one of my best guy friends constantly smokes. he is only about 13 or 14, which really makes me sad for him. he said he quit, but he hasn't. i really care about him and am concerned, i've tried getting rid of the cigarette while he was using it, and trying to explain to him that i care, but he is not emotional at all (he doesn't cry over relationships, and not even when his brother died). i would appreciate suggestions on how to get him to quit completely. thanks! (link)
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The choice to quit smoking has to be his. All you can do is be patient with him. And you can also do research and get information and pictures of what smoking does to you and show him those things. He can refuse to read the information or look at the pics but you will at least know that you tried. Just continue to be his friend. And voice your opinion and concerns once in a while but don't do it all the time. Because if you do it constantly it may make him want to smoke more just because he knows you want him to quit. But seriously try getting information and pics about smoking and what it does to your health. Bring the issue up and try to share those things with him without being too pushy. Just remember this has to be his choice. I hope that everything works out. Hugs Fiesty
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im a sophomore in highschool and the guy i like is a senior. he'd had a girlfriend for a long time. about 2 years i think. but they break up alot and fight alot. i really like him and i dont know what to do. should i tell him i like him? he is the most popular kid in school. everybody knows him even the freshman. i talk to him online but we only hung out once and thats when he invited me to come see him at his work. we have alot in common like the music and movies and the stuff we like. i dont know how serious he is with his gf. he always tells other girls their hott. plus they fight alot. how can i hint to him that i like him without actually telling him straight out? or should i tell him straight out? should i even tell him at all? (link)
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You can tell him you like him either online, in a letter or face to face. But realize that there must be a reason him and his girlfriend keep breaking up then getting back together. So don't set your hopes to high on this. Just let him know how you feel without being pushy and with still being yourself. Then just see what he does or says in return. Because the choice is going to be up to him. If you let him know how you feel without being pushy and he does like you then in one way or another he will let you know. Either by what he says or by his actions. And always remember actions speak louder than words. Good luck on everything. Hugs Fiesty
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ok so i met this guy in the beginning of the semester and hes super sweet we went out for a month & he broke up with me in the cruelest way possible. he felt really bad and due to the lack of me being able to stay mad at him i still talked to him. now that classes have changed i havnt really seen him for like almost a month. i think he still likes me bc we still talk on aim & we wanna hang out but i hear rumors & my friend told me he couldnt decide between 8 [yes 8!] girls. after that i was completely over him but now im wondering if i would consider seeing him again. hes sweet REALLY funny and cute but he makes me so upset. should i keep him as my friend or try to make it something more?? (link)
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I think you should keep in mind how he broke up with you when you two were dating. And think about the fact that he upsets you so much. Could you handle being in a relationship with someone who hurts you so much? And someone who has already broke your heart once? If he is acting this way now just being your friend I really don't think he is going to act any better having you as his girlfriend. If you go back to being his girlfriend he may feel that because you are his girlfriend it makes it ok to treat you the way he is. And don't even worry about those other girls. He is going to choose who he wants and no one else can change that. I hope this helps and good luck with everything. Hugs Fiesty
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Could a sign a guy likes you be that he talks to everyone and is able to keep long converstations with other girls, but with me hes shy and we have short random conversations, usually having to do with making fun of each others in a nice way? thanks in advance! (link)
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Usually when a guy is making fun of you while talking to you especially if you are doing it back it does mean he likes you. He is shy so to him that is a way of flirting. So just kinda start giggling at him and finding other ways to flirt. Definately be yourself, be honest, and take notice of his interest and bring it up in conversations with him. Hopefully all of this will help you. Good luck. Hugs Fiesty
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I'm a junior in high school so it's come to the time to make important decisions that will effect the rest of my life, including my love life. And I'm a hopeless romantic, so that's incredibly important to me. Here's my problem. I have a boyfriend of 6 months who I love, and we've talked over and over again of moving in together and getting married. I mean I love him so much! But there's also my first love. Who I think of all the time, who I'm passionately in love with!! Like you wouldn't believe! I'm dying to be with him, but he has a girlfriend too. But he always said if anything ever happened with them, he'd come down here to where I live. We live nearly 800 miles away from each other. And I know he has some sort of feelings for me to, he just never could put them into words, so he said, and he calls me all the time, and we talk of so much. We're so alike, and he's always fit my picture of a perfect man, and my idea of "the one" for me. Well, I love them both. And I know "the one" is supposed to be one of them. I know I want to be with my first love more, but the thought of hurting my boyfriend just kills me, and I can't imagine my life without him. But my first love, I can't explain how I feel for him. I'm so completely in love with this boy, it's crazy. I even made a pro/con list. And my first love had more pros than my boyfriend, and less cons than my boyfriend. Which would figure. I just need some sort of adivce of what to do, I just cant stand the thought of hurting him, but I'm dying to be with my first love. Please I need great advice! This is the rest of my life we're dealing with! Thank You So Much!
Dani (link)
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Somewhere in your heart and in your mind you have already made your decision. Which is to be with your first love. But he has a girlfriend and there is nothing you can do to change that. So you have to be patient with him. In the meantime don't go rushing out and getting an apartment with the one you are with now or getting married to him. But there is something else you also need to think about. I know in some way and some amount you do love the one you are with now. But since you think about your first love so much, truly want to be with him and feel that he is more the one for you than your current boyfriend is... I think you need to seriously think about why you are with your current boyfriend. As it stands you are being dishonest to him by loving another guy more than him and being IN love with the other guy. Put yourself in his shoes for a minute. How would you feel if you were dating someone for months and all of a sudden you find out the whole time you were together, you never had all of their love or never had their whole heart because their love and heart was for someone else? I know you love your current boyfriend and you don't want to loose him but at the same time you are being dishonest to him and not being fair to either one of you. So take some time to sit down and seriously think about all of this and I hope you find the answer you need. Hugs Fiesty
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ok to start out with i never had alot of freinds. but now i have like 2. all of my old freinds never hang out with me and they always say stuff about me thats not ture. first they say that they will always be my freind and the next they say that they hateme. i've tried to talk to them but them wont say anything and when they do say something its usely somehting hurtful like your to fat or to ugly. now none of that is ture but htey wont stop and all i want to do is see why they hate me so bad so that i might try to fix that in the weeks to come. i even tryed to leave them alone but then they get even madder and say even worse stuff about me. now i dont want to lose the freinds i already have by changing but if i dont then i get hurt. so what do i do?
-->mandy (link)
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I am sorry to tell you this but it seems to me like they get enjoyment out of hurting you. And they know just the right things to see to keep you tagging along. You can not control what others think, say or do. And changing who you are is not going to make them be your friend again. And if it does, they are NOT true friends. Because true will always accept you for who you are, faults and all. A true friend would never ask you to change. So stick with your new friends and just do all you can to show the other girls that what they are saying and doing doesn't bother you. Eventually after enough time of you showing them it doesn't bother you, they will get bored with what they are doing and they will stop. But right now they know it hurts you so they keep doing it. Remember to always be true to yourself, never change for anyone else. Good luck Fiesty
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I dont know, but i think i like 3 guys at once, and 2 of them are my x's. The problem is... i know that they dont like me at all, and the other one seems like he likes me, but i dont want to ask him out, becouse i dont like making the first move.i need help to see why i like my x the most, and why i like 3 people at once! (im a female!)
-sorry if it doesnt make sence! (link)
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It may not be your xs that you like. It may just be the idea of them or the memory of how things were when you were together. You need to remember why you broke up with these xs. Because there is always a good reason behind every breakup. And it may also just be that you miss being in a relationship. Now as for the new guy just be yourself with him. You can flirt with him, write him letters, call him. All of that is fine. And when you talk to him try to talk about some of the things he enjoys doing. Try to get involved in some of that. Like if he plays sports make a comment about going to watch him one day. If you are in school you can ask him if he would like to study with you. Ask him to join you for lunch one day. There are many things you can do but just make sure that you are honest and you stay true to yourself. I hope all of this helps you and good luck. Fiesty
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14/f...I like this guy named Peter and almost everyone knows. I'm sure that he probably has a hint but anyways. He used to like my friend Katie at the beginning of the year but now I feel like every single time that I talk to him he's more into Katie. I know that he doesn't like her but how do I get him to notice me more?
thx
I RATE HIGH (link)
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First of all you must have a reason for feeling he is more into Katie. And you really need to think about that. Second of all you can flirt with him, talk to him about some of his interest, write him letters and just talk to him and tell him that you really like him as more than a friend. Then just see what he says. But you can't be pushy with this. So no matter what you do just be yourself and be honest. But take an interest in the things he likes and make those things conversations for you two. If he is really into a conversation with you he will want to talk to you more. Then once you get that going you can slowly start trying to bring up things that are of interest to you. Just take things slow, one day and one step at a time. I hope this helps you. Good luck.
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15/f...I like this one guy named Brett. We've only known each other for about two weeks but I know all his secrets and stuff and he knows all of mine. I know who he likes but he is trying to get over her because she's his other friends girl. I had one of my friends talk to him and ask if he liked me and he said ((hesitaintly)) that we're not like that. Do you think that I should be more agressive towards him or shy like hard to get? If im too agressive I could scare him away and if I'm too shy he could give up on me all together. Any ideas?
Thx
I RATE HIGH (link)
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Don't change who you are just talk to him yourself and tell him how you feel and ask him if he thinks there could ever be a chance for you two to be more than friends. Being yourself and being honest are very important. And you shouldn't change who you are or the type of person you are just to get him to like you as more than a friend. So as I said just talk to him but be honest. And don't make it seem like you are trying to push him into a relationship with you just be casual about it. Just tell him you like him as more than a friend and you were wondering if he feels there could ever be a chance for you two to be more than friends. And if he says no just tell him that you understand and you still want to remain his friend. I hope this helps.
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hello f 31
i need new ideas on how to spice up are sex life in bed , instead of the same things we always do ! i ran out of creative was to making love , (toys , food or etc ) plz help anyother ideas ! (link)
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First of all don't be afraid to ask your partner for some suggestions. But there are many things you can use. Chocolate syrup, carmel, whip cream, cherries, strawberries, ice, honey, frozen bananas. As for toys just go look around in a toy shop see what is available and what you think you and your partner might enjoy. Handcuffs, blindfolds, candle wax, french ticklers. You can also search on the web for online toy stores. There you can look at the toys and most of them will tell you about the toys, what they are made out of and what they do. I hope all of this helps you and good luck.
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okay last night i went out to eat with some guy that liked. We had good conversion that night but when we got in the car before we got in the car i knew he was going to try to hold my hand but anyway so he tried and i didn't give a chance because i wasn't ready or whatever and i always do this whenever he tries to hold my hand and i don't know why and i almost gave him the chance but i didn't know why but maybe because my parents were in the car but how can i give a chance not knowing my parents seeing us? i want to hold his hand but i don't know my mind or my body won't let!?..
Thanks, Lauren (link)
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Only you can figure out the answer to this but since your parents are around when you are with him, maybe it would help if you talk to your parents when he isn't around and ask them if they would be ok with you and this guy holding hands? Maybe you are just too worried about how they are going to react. But no matter what follow your heart and trust your instincts. Really think about why you keep not giving him the chance. Only you can find the answer to that. Because this is a decision that is yours and yours only. Good luck with this.
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Sometimes, my friend Liv tends to make a huge deal out of things that don't really matter. It's also hard for me to talk to her because she doesn't talk well, she yells and gets mad and is mean. What can I do? (link)
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All you can do is try to talk to her in a calm normal voice and when she starts getting mad or yelling tell her that you are not going to talk to her anymore untill she can talk to you in a calm normal voice and give you the same respect you give her. Tell her that you do not deserve to be yelled at and treated in that manner and therefore you will not allow her to do so. And when she wants to talk to you in a calm normal voice with no yelling to come find you and then you will talk. But untill then you don't want to hear anything she has to say. It may sound harsh but you have to be tough with her and stand your ground on this. I hope it helps. Good luck.
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