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my friend's problem...
one of my best guy friends constantly smokes. he is only about 13 or 14, which really makes me sad for him. he said he quit, but he hasn't. i really care about him and am concerned, i've tried getting rid of the cigarette while he was using it, and trying to explain to him that i care, but he is not emotional at all (he doesn't cry over relationships, and not even when his brother died). i would appreciate suggestions on how to get him to quit completely. thanks!
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Try talking to him, say that you don't want to be in this relationship if he's gunna smoke. Maybe your bf is smoking because of his brother. I bet he's the type of guy that will never cry, so that's why he smokes- it makes him feel better.
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Werid enough, smoking makes you feel good. Its not just to look cool or because you're addicted to it. Smoking can be his way of dealing with issues he has (death of his brother maybe?) Its very addictive, and trying to get him just to quit instanty wont work. You need to just let him go his own way. Yes, its hard and I've seen friends of mine choose cigarettes and other drugs trying to fit in and deal with stress. Maybe its what made him start thats holding him back from stopping? Ask him about it. Sorry if I wasnt any help, but its his decision :/ - Meg
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I would let him dieeeeee
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well i think you should tell someone like his parents or the police or somthing. because if hes smoking alot and hes only 13 then he could die really easily.and if his other friends smoke to, tell him that those really arn't his friends if they want him to do bad things. Talking to him almost everyday about it in front of people might get him annoyed and so he might stop!Hope I helped!..Juliee*
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I know he's your friend and you want to help him but sometimes we have to accept that no matter what we do or say to help someone, they may still continue down their path to self destruction.
What you can do, however, is to every now and then just try to drop into conversation. Mention the dangers of smoking and that it would be a lot nicer for him if he wouldn't have to worry about whether or not he could breathe when he does sports at high school when he's 17.
I expect the reason he does it is because it sounds as though there has been a lot of trauma in his life. People tend to turn to things like drinking, smoking and drugs when they have experienced tragedy because it provides them with a mean to cope or a means to escape from what they have been through or are still going through. Make sure you let him know that you will always be there for him, whether he smokes or not but that you are concerned for him. Find out a little more about what smoking does to your body (especially when you start from such a young age) and every now and then thrust a little more info in his face.
The moment I knew I would never smoke was in a lesson about what it can cause when I was about 11. They knocked on a lifetime smoker's chest and it sounded like knocking on wood. They then cut open the lung of a dead ex-smoker and it was literally BLACK inside. Nothing but black. That terrified me so much I knew I would never ever touch cigarettes and to this day I haven't. You need to do something like that with him. You need to shock him. But it will take time so stick with it and don't make too big a deal about it all the time or he will get bored and stop listening. He needs to want to quit. Keep trying and hopefully he will get there.
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See I have a friend with the same exact problem she is 15 and she does drugs also. What I am doing and what I did which helps is just keep nagging about how bad it is learn facts about it and tell him all the bad things that can happen but what I did that really helped is I spent as much time with her as possible so when she would want to change the suject or do as many things with him to get his mind off of it. But most importantly never stop being there or being a good friend always stay by his side and let him know you are there no matter what.
Well good luck,
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The choice to quit smoking has to be his. All you can do is be patient with him. And you can also do research and get information and pictures of what smoking does to you and show him those things. He can refuse to read the information or look at the pics but you will at least know that you tried. Just continue to be his friend. And voice your opinion and concerns once in a while but don't do it all the time. Because if you do it constantly it may make him want to smoke more just because he knows you want him to quit. But seriously try getting information and pics about smoking and what it does to your health. Bring the issue up and try to share those things with him without being too pushy. Just remember this has to be his choice. I hope that everything works out. Hugs Fiesty
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