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The names Maeghan. Yeap, I spell it weird.

I'll admit it; I'm young, inexpirenced, and I make mistakes pretty much everyday. But I learn quickly and try to not to put myself in the same positions the next time around.

Though, I'm a terrible speller and that will never change.

I'm single and actually very happy with it. I've gained independance and a sense of being my own person because of being single and getting out of a bad relationship.

Ask my about anything & I'll try to help as much as I can! :)

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I was petting my dog (a female shit zu) and her belly/chest has a bump on it about an inch or more wide and an inch up its squishy and she doest yepl when we touch it or push it but I'm worried!
What is it?!

My moms a vet and my dog also has a squishy bump on her belly. Usually in dogs they are fatty tumors that are not harmful and sometime dogs can have many of them, but you should have her checked no matter what. Don't stress about it though, they are very common. If you happen to have a cat however and they have one, they are usually cancerous and need to be checked immeadiately.

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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...

Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.

He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!

I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...

Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad...

I can't admit that I've beaten someone in a real wrestling match or arm wrestling, but once my guy friend said he could easily take me down from behind and he came at me and all I simply did was grab both his arms and flip him completly over me. Lets just say his back was sore and his ego a little bruised haha. Guys are so stuck up about being macho, I hate it. My friend who is also really pretty beats my other guy friend in wrestling all the time and he just never gives up! It's like relax, beating a girl isn't going to help you or make you feel better haha. Hope I helped you out :)

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my boyfriend basically cheated on me, now i want to get REVENGE. i dont want to hurt anybody or vandalize property or whatever, i just want to get even and bring him to his knees. any ideas? please dont say oh be the bigger person dont do that.. yeah i am the bigger person im not the one who cheated.. i just need to have a little fun and this will certainly do it. its all in good fun. im 17 hes 18 and we both live with our parents.

Give all your friends his cell number and have them either text him or call him around the same time (Make sure everyone makes their number private if calling) and have them all say something short like "You ass" and hangup. Texting would probably work better since he can't block a text.

Or you could subcribe him to the free gay pride magazines (if you town/city has one)

Or leave one of those naked blow up dolls on his lawn or in his house door with a note attached saying "She's just as fake as you were. Douche" or something like that haha.

I had a terrible ex too and I should have done all the crazy things I wanted to, but I never got around to it :/

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15/f

well, i've been with my boyfriend for about 11 months. and the thing is, i'm not sure how i feel at the moment. i KNOW i can do better, because he treats me bad at times, and he gets too overly paranoid. he gets paranoid by saying that i can't talk to guys. -___-" and he got mad at me for going to target after school with my friend, which is a girl. because he says that there are probably guys there... but anywho.. i seem to be annoyed with him often also. but yet when something happens that could possibly break us up.. that's when i start getting scared.. but i don't do anything about it. i don't get as scared as i used to.. but i still get scared and nervous. when he used to say "never let me go" i feel touched and stuff, and he said that to me today, i didn't feel anything.. i just changed the subject. So, what's going on? am i losing feelings for him? am i not getting enough sleep or something? or am i just annoyed with him at the moment..?

what should i do? please & thank you!

I feel like I wrote this question. It matches my relationship with my ex boyfriend at that exact time frame. There's nothing wrong with you, your just starting to realize all the little things he does to you are adding up as if he's controlling. For me, I started seeing signs of my ex being posessive the same way you did. He hated if I talked to guys, he got possesive even if I was with girls, he made me feel like crap when I did stuff without him and he just seemed clingy. He ended up being abusive and controlling nearing our one year when I realized there was something really wrong with him. I'm not saying that's going to happen to you, (this could be completly irrelevant and he's actually just having a bad week and taking it out on you) but I would watch to how he treats you. As for you not saying anything back when he makes romantic comments, that was another thing I started to do when I lost interest in my ex. You might want to step back and look at your relationship and if your the happy person you were when you first started going out with him. If your not happy, you should think over your relationship. I really hope everything works out for you.

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I recently read a question that asked which condom was best, pregnancy wise and one of the advicers said Lifestyles were the worst.

...That's the kind my boyfriend and I use.

I kept in mind that the person that said that was a thirteen year old boy that was probably a virgin.. but still, it has me nervous. Is there any proof either way, about them?

Well as with any condom, there's always a risk of it breaking. But me and my ex used Lifestlyes and they worked fine, we never had a problem. He said that they're tighter than most condoms so it prevents it from tearing from friction. But if your scared, use some other methods of birth control along with condoms.

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ok, im 16 years old and i have this girlfriend who two nights ago (the 28th) i had sex with without a condom... it didnt last very long and i pulled out before anything happend and made sure to do my best to not let anything get in, but im still nervous. her last period was sometime this month that ended around the 8th. can somebody please help me out here and give me some advice on what to do??

Me and my ex has this scare before and he made me feel even more nervous about it. Do not bring up what happened as an everyday topic, it will only stress her out. If she's stressed, it could delay her period which is even worse and confusing. Try to push it to the back of your head for now. You might want to consider the choices you will have to make is she is though, so do some reasearch. Just reasure her that if it does happen, you will stay by her side and support her. Keep talk of the situation to a minimal untill she misses her period (if she ever does) And next time, as everyones already said, play it safe and use protection.

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15/f.
okay so about three weeks ago i broke up with my boyfriend. we had been going out for 4 months [yes, i know that's not really a very long time] but i honestly was in love with him. i had never felt the way i felt with him with anyone else i had ever dated. he is also the first guy i had sex with. which makes it even harder. the last time i saw him & talked to him was on valentines day when we went to the movies. the bad part is, at the movies we ended up making out and everything. he was even walking around holding my hand like we were still going out. ive always told myself that i wouldnt be in a friends with benefits type relationship; because that isnt something i would want to do. since 2/14 i havent talked to him [called, texted, or seen him] at all. i feel beside myself. i dont go out with my friends anywhere anymore because they all think im a slut when they found out about i had sex with him. i really feel like i want to call him but i dont know if i should. maybe the best thing for us both to do is not to talk, but i honestly feel like i cant let him go. should i try and work things out? HELP ME PLEASE.

You sound just like me when me and my ex brokeup, its so tough dealing isn't it? :/ I don't know why you two broke up so it so I can't exactly say if you should/shouldn't hang around him but I can try. If you think that you two might end up back together, I would say hanging out is okay. But if something drastic happened that made you break up with him (Cheating, he has personality flaws, etc.) I would suggest staying farrr away. Hanging out with someone you know you could never be with again/it would cause you trouble is never a good idea. If you think he's worth it, I would give a relationship another try because you seem to really like him. As far as your friends, don't listen to them. They have no room to judge you and if they are your true friends they should understand you really care for this guy.

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so i had sex with this guy ive been inlove with for 3 years the other day
im 14
anyway
it hurt but like felt good at the same time
i obviously broke my hymen cause it bled.
well
does it bleed the second time?
does it hurt the second time?

You will most likley bleed the second time and you'll probably have some discomfort/pain too, but it will not be as bad as your first time.

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Last summer my boyfriend and I of 4 years broke up. I was crushed, but it was for the best. I'm still in love with him. He has a girlfriend now, but we still talk. We talk as friends. But the other night he talked to me about "us." We talked about how much we missed each other, the memories we made, and he told me he still loved me. I don't think he is playing me because he's one of those that don't mess around. Then two days ago after school we hung out all day. It was like old times again. It was the best feeling in the world to tell the truth. Well last night we had a basketball game and a guy I once had feelings for was there. He talked me into going to a party with him. My ex wasn't there. Well the guy I have feelings for and I kissed. It was nice, but now I'm so confused. Since my ex has a girlfriend and I had a good time with another guy does that mean I should move on? I still love my ex, but I'm worried we aren't going anywhere. What should I do?

I know you dated this guy for a way longer time than me and my ex did (We dated about a year and a month) but believe me, finding a new guy was one of the most satisfying ways that helped me get over him. If you know for a fact your relationship with your ex isn't going anywhere, its time to open up your options. If he really wants to get back together, he'll end it with his current girlfriend. If he doesn't, than you have to make the choice whether you believe in waiting for a guy to come to you. Try to open up your options and start thinking about moving on. I'm sorry you have to go through all of this :(

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I have been telling my sceevy sister for months and months now to stop using my fricken toothbrush! Gosh! I have to get a new one every fricken week because of her! She tells my parents
she didn't use it! But she does! She took it to her stupid sleepover yesterday and now it's gone, so even if i did want to put that sceevy thing back in my mouth, I can't because she left it at her friend's house. The reason she doesn't use her own toothbrush is because she never washes it off so it gets all crusty, so she resorts to my clean toothbrush. I try to tell my mom to tell her to stop but she fricken laughs at me! What should I do? It wouldn't be a big deal if my sister was even a little clean, but we are talking about a girl who takes baths every 4 days and who's hair is so filled with grease it looks like it's wet!

I would do what other people have said already and use your toothbush then hide it somewhere that she'll never find it. To creep her out for what shes been doing to you, leave pictures of people with rotted teeth and write on the back of them "This is what will happen to you if you dont take care of your toothbrush," then when she can't find yours, she have to use hers. Or, either you or your parents should buy her a nice one that she can't just throw out.

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Okay so I really didn't know where to put this question so...
I am so sick of guys!
Like, I love them but I'm sick of not even being able to go into 7-11 for a bottle of water without getting told some derogatory remark!
Like...I'm at my school walking to lunch and a guy (who I don't know) walks past me and says "Ooh".
Sure, I like attention but it's always just because guys want some.
Random guys have asked how much a certain amount of money would get them and stuff but...Don't get me wrong...it feels good knowing that I'm attractive to guys but...how do I get it to stop a bit? Or at least handle it better.
Thanks ahead of time.
XOXO

That used to happen to me all the time during the summer with random, creepy guys. The thing is if your just randomly getting these remarks from guys you don't know, it's not going to change anything because it probably won't happen again by the same guy. Here's how I work out what I say/don't say to guys that are like this. If they go to your school, make a quick and whitty remark to let them know your not intimidated. If they're random guys, do/say whatever you want. It's funny to yell out that you have some some STD like herpes and get a weird reaction or yell something embarasing (to them) like "It's okay to be small down there" If it's guys that you know, ignore them or give them the coldest look possible. They'll get the picture.

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i read a question about lucid dreaming and i want to be able to do that so how do i do it? i want to do it so i can find out what to say to this guy that i like. cus when i am around him i just randomly laugh. but how do you lucid dream or make your self to that it sounds interesting... thanks so much

Lucid dreaming is when you can control your dreams. You can make yourself fly, fight off monsters .. whatever you want to do. Lucid dreaming wouldn't help you with what to say to the guy you like though. To make yourself do it, you'd need to relize that your dreaming when in dream mode. It can be hard but thinking about doing it during the day or before you go to bed can help.
heres a site if you have any questions- http://www.web-us.com/lucid/luciddreamingFAQ.htm

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Me and my 2 friends are all 13, and were going to the mall on saturday alone, like without a parent or nething. We all are probbly going 2 go into JC Penney's and get push-up bras lol so i was wondering if stores alow young people (like minors) to buy push up bras without an adult or older person there.

You're fine buying them, guys could even buy them if they really wanted to lol

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i have been friends with "sarah" since i was a little kid (we're both 15 now). recently sarah wanted to make a myspace. i practically made the whole thing for her since i am better with computers. i posted her first comment saying "heyy sarah whats up?". i looked at her myspace a couple days later it was gone. i assume she deleted it because sarah is really popular in school, and well im not. i think that she did not want to be associated with me because im a geek. i was really upset by this and havent talked to her in a while, and i dont if i want to. should i forgive her for being 2-faced? and if i should, should i tell her i know what she did?

She could have easily just made a mistake, I'd do what everyone has already said (Posting another one) and see what happens. But if she did do it because she thinks shes "popular" whynot give her a little bit of "nerd" revenge & screw around with her myspace? (nah that's not a good thing to do .. but if I was in that situation I would deffinatly do that lol) If she does say that, you should deffinatly talk to her about it & how if shes going to be two faced .. your not going to help her with anything on myspace & that she should get a life and stop being so full of it. - Meg

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alright, I"ve heard of tts, and if u sleep in a tampon you can get it. if you have it but dont know it, can it effect your chance of having children?
thanks!

Yes it can. My health teacher told us a horrible story about a girl who stuck 7, yes 7 tampons up there and is now incapable of having children. Though her situation was pretty bad, it can still happen. - Meg

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i want to get white etnies. would they look bad if i wore skirts and capris or no? thanks

I wear mine with everything except dresses .. that'd be sort of weird lol. They go with alot of stuff and as long as the skirt isn't dressy, it'll be fine. - Meg

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alright, i'm 15 and I"ve had my period for over 2 or 3 years, but i've never tried tampons. This morning I tried one, but its extreamly uncomfortable, getting up or sitting down, unless my legs are spread apart its almost painful. am I doing something wrong? is that normal?

PLZ, any advice you have, please post

Thank you!

Same thing happened to me, I found out I was doing it wrong. Instead of doing it on an angle, I was doing it strait up. It was painful to do anything if I had it in and it took me 6 months to figure out what was wrong haha. It could be that your doing what I was doing or that it isn't in far enough (like everyone else has been saying) Also, try using slim for extra cofort. Good luck, - Meg

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Me and my boyfriend lets call him Tom have been together for about a week. We really have a good connection. I have hugged him once. And he asked me if he could kiss me twice, but i didn't answer him. I really want to kiss him so badly, but im nervous. When my friend lets call her Megan kissed her boyfriend lets call him Dan she nearly missed. So i don't want to miss like she did. But however I'm more experienced. And she's only kissed twice.Should I kiss him??

haha this is kinda funny cause my name is Maeghan & I have missed while kissing my boyfriend. Missing really isn't a big deal, I mean it may seem akward but if you just laugh it off it's nothing to be embarased about. Don't worry about kissing now, it's only been a week. But if you feel like you really want to, whynot go ahead and be spontanious?

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if i started to shave my arms, would the hair grow darker and longer?

ps. my arm hairs are black

I shave my arms, yeap I'll admit it. It doesn't grow back very long, but it does become darker and sort of prickly. I shave my arms every 2-3 days and I think it was a good decision for me personally. Its up to you to decide if you want to do it though. - Meg

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the cure = love

amen sista (or brotha)

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